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My fear is that it might be too late now.
Too much time wasted already. Little achieved.

Too many fault lines now. More coming up daily.
Unity could some become just wishful thinking.
Any negative action in one part of Nigeria now could cause a serious negative reaction in other places quickly.

IPOB, Oduduwa, ND groups, Arewa Youth and more. We have never had so many groups itching for action at the same time in 9ja history.

And Boko is still menacing & regrouping. Herdsmen everywhere too.
Our leaders should wake up.
Parotting old tired lines just seem lame now,

pcguru1:
sometimes has to do with Economic power, if the guy is ugly but paid up obviously you know the rest, then when it comes to settling down security is a more stronger choice than looks.

True sometimes.
But I was answering a guy who doubted my write up. Asking if I was Brad Pitt.
In my case we both worked in same place. So I was not much economically better off than the girl.

In an environment where poverty is not so profound like a Western country, as in my case, economic power is not as big a factor as it might be in 9ja for example.

Nutase:
What's red beards name?
Did he use blood to dye his beards?

The guy na "original barbarosa".

You know African genetics has such a wide variation.
The variation among Africans is wider than what genetically separate Africans in general from Europeans.
Hard to believe but very established now.

OCA2 gene mutation renders a black person to albino. So skin colour gene is fairly small. Far smaller that HLA gene of immune system, the one that enable us accept or reject an organ transplant. You'll not see on the surface the work or the large HLA gene, but skin colour caused by a relatively small melanin gene has resulted in how we have divided mankind into races and the consequences such as racism, slavery, etc.

fumiswtpusy:
Common shut up.you can liar ehn,the most curvy girl we could see.abeg I no want life.
Who u be self.brad Pitt or who

Lol. Surprisingly, not the most handsome guys always marry the prettiest girls. If not look around you. Even if you are average looking, you can date a very pretty girl if you both see daily, such as in workplace. She gets to know you.

Baba Onikeke's wife might just look "prettier" than a banker's wife. I have seen many.

Guess what? The pretty girl has most likely "tasted" the very handsome guys. If you are solid, genuine and confident in your worldview, the babe who has "seen" those handsome guys could see things in you that she has not seen in those guys. Especially when she begins thinking about settling down.
In diaspora that I had my experience, some Senegalese guys that are so dark you think they rubbed charcoal on their skin are married to pretty oyinbo doctors, lawyers, etc. And those African brothers can barely even read.

iluvdonjazzy:
this is my problem with APC government, are they now saying he is innocent, well, at this jucture, i want to invite Dieziani Alisson Madueke and the rest thieves to join the APC they will become innocent over night.

That was always her mistake: not joining APC.
If even Orubebe who was ready to cause agro during 2015 election results collation can beome APC's angel (new creation), why can't Diezani just join the broom-wielding Harry Potters?

Funlordjnr:
Over decoration featuring tackiness! Go and hire an interior decorator man...after all you hold bar!

We're totally awful in 9ja with interior design.
How can you clutter a house like that? It is simply choking. No space. Furniture everywhere. Gees!

misscrystals:
spirit wives... :Dspirit wives...

Spirit wives ko, masquerade/egungun wives ni.

It is not at all unusual to feel such hate.

In fact it is one of the reasons some guys womanize a lot. Thinking they have now definitely found the girl they love. But same happens after sex.

Once you have "conquered" her, your hunter instinct is to get a "fresh" one.

Fact is that you have not really fallen in love with a girl. Not even the latest you are "planning future reference with", whatever that means.

I feared same feeling so much that I turned down two/three girls who were all over me. One as a teenager, and another was a work colleague years later. I confided in a female friend about the work colleague. That she was really pretty and most guys at work toast her but she refused them.
That as shapely & pretty as she was, I had no feelings for her. Though because we were so close, everyone called us bf & gf. But we were NOT.
The female friend advised me not to date her or be intimate with her. That she'd could trap me with a pregnancy.

I called her one day and told her the truth. That I had no feelings for her. She'd not even speak to me after that. She looked sick for a few weeks.
The second work colleague seemed like "donatus" in that she had two other guys, gleaned from talking to her. Maybe even more. She liked me but was not in love with me.

She had the most curvy shape you could find. And tall. ALL work colleagues toasted her. ALL. And she told me so. And asked why I never toasted her. Really, people yearn for something seemingly out of reach. It took the Grace of God not to bang her one day. Very close. Before I regained my composure. She was gagging for it and her disappointment was obvious on her face.

A few months later, I left the job. Thank God. Working with her had become very difficult.

@OP,
In essence, you can feel "dirty" after sleeping with a girl you should not have slept with. The hate you suddenly feel may be partly due to your own guilt. We all have conscience, no matter how hard we try to suppress it.

Work harder at resisting the temptation of random sex. If there's a girl you really liked initially and started disliking her after sex, consider if you now suddenly hate those things you previously liked about her. If not, then it is the sexual act that you really feel bad about. Maybe somewhere within you have a deep religious or moral side. Perhaps subconsciously. You might be hating what you see as the "seductress" in her. But remember it takes two to tango.

VargasVee:
SATE:
I have always wondered, since we quench our thirst, what do we use for hunger? SATE is the perfect word for you. It refers to the act of satisfying one's apetite.


AGELAST:
We all have that friend that never laughs. They're called agelasts.


SCHADENFREUDE:
Growing up, I always thought a Sadist is one who takes pleasure from another person's failure, till I came across SCHADENFREUDE. This is actually someone who derives joy from another person's misfortune.


TACENDA:
These are things that are kept private and not to be made public, like family secrets that are better left unsaid.


PHILTRUM
This is a vertical groove in the middle area of the upper lip
https://dentagama.com/img/181014043602Philtrum.png


HANDEDNESS:
This Is a genetic factor as some people tend to use either their left hand/right hand more naturally. This is known as handedness.


NIBLING:
Just like cousin, nibling is a gender-neutral name for either your Niece or Nephew.


UNKINDESS OF RAVENS/ MURDER OF CROWS :
As strange as the above sounds, it actually refers to a group of the mentioned. RAVENS/OWLS.


LABROSE:
As Africans, one of our characteristics is being gifted with thick lips.

https://oka-cdn.okayplayer.com/wp-content/uploads/smiling-folks.png


Lalasticlala, have you seen them?

Better say things people without knowledge of classics, philology & anatomy do not know.

Those words are Greec-Roman or Germanic and therefore not unknown to many. Out of use like tacenda is not really a biggie is unknown to some.

Bridget95:
this kind of statement is the reason someone sees this cesspit as a zoo where human life is worthless.
someone's dad was killed in cold blood by a member of the world's third terrorist organization and all you could say is that trash?

Leave them. Their mumu never do.

Until Herdsmen overtake all other terrorist groups and wipe out their own family. Then they will know.

lomprico:
In as much as I condemn n hate these mad fulani killings and attacks, a thief was just killed, no hard feelings.

Any evidence he wanted to steal a cow? All alone?

There are video clips on you-tube about herdsmen atrocities on Ologbo. A diaspora based farmer there has them about killings and destruction of his farm. He has called on the govt to no avail.

How feasible is it to kill a cow & sell to the Fulanis who themselves own cows?

How many non-Northern Muslims live in Ologbo area?

tosyne2much:
Should we call this "hips"?

More like hippos.

Coca Cola

Gillette

Samsung
Guinness

Uncle Ben's

So a qualified Nigerian with ambition to be president is automatically on collision cause with Buhari. Wow!
Therefore we have no democracy. It seems he"s afraid Bubu would remove all the business privileges govt after govt since the 1980s gave him.

TonyeBarcanista:
What na? You mean they should allow rape of democracy to allow stability? How can there be political stability without justice?

If Kenyans want Odinga then so be it man... Heaven will not fall

So it is not rape of democracy when politicians use every opportunity to cause instability if the lose election?
Would you have preferred monkey and baboon soaked in blood in 9ja post election 2017? Jonathan wisely thought no.

malware:
You guys should be thinking with your brains na.... Occasionally, Government, in its magnanimity releases prisoners whose offences are not weighty and it is obtainable anywhere in the world.

Why do you like exposing your illiteracy huh?

But this has not being made. What are the exact criteria? In other countries, strict rules apply. But here killers are having their sentences reduced & some prisoners are let loose altogether probably with nobody having an idea where they are going to live next, let alone monitor them.

Who recommended them for release based on assessment of good behavior? Pardons by politicians follow strict criteria. Even when President Clinton pardoned some prisoners just before leaving office, it was still very controversial. Obama made just over 200 pardons in 8 years. Most others were just commuted. Even in a place records are kept properly and released prisoners can be monitored. Most State governors in America rarely grant pardons. 100 per years is seen as very high.

HarunaWest:
Illiteracy aint the problem mwhn, its greed. NIGERIANS are just too greedy, we prefer collecting rather than creating or giving thats why the People in government take us for a ride.. The same person that will insult PDP Today will still go ahead and collect money in convention.. We have a fundamental greed problem. GOD SAVE US

But do not forget many are just very poor. Many just getting by, suffering and still trying to package & smile.

Yes those who have are still greedy but only a small proportion really have much.
No social safety net from the state. Nothing.

In a system that shows no concern for the needy, the masses will take any token they can get. With thanks even. It has become s system designed to make the oppressed worship their oppressors for their occasional benevolence.

Which serious country allocates huge monies to parliamentarians for constituency projects?

Who (independent body) scrutinizes how they use those allocations?

Projects are done by local council/local govt/county, State/regional or national/federal tiers of govt.

Parliamentarians make laws & oversee/scrinize various aspects of governance to ensure compliance.

SmallSimba:
They are ignorant, and there won't be violence. If Uhuru loses, theire won't be violence. That's why there is no violence. If it had been Raila who had lost, a few of his supporters would probably be dead now. However, come the November 1st, Uhuru will win and Raila supporters will cry foul about another rigging. A few will be shot dead if they chose to be violent, but it won't last more than 5 days.

Kenya is the economic and political giant of East Africa. Political crisis there is bad for regional stability. With problems in South Sudan and Somalia.'
We can now begin to realise the crisis Jonathan saved us by not clinging on to power or even going to court.

Raila Odinga who has already been prime minister still does not want to shelve his ambition to be president. Gentlemen are few and far between in African politics. Perhaps that's why when we see one once in a blue moon we find it strange and chose to insult them. Like a prophet in his own land.

Because they do not conform to a very warped expectation that persists.

Gerrard59:
Good day Areafada,

Can I PM you on an issue (different from the previous one)?

Sure.

quiverfull:
I understand what the court is trying to achieve, but there will be more bloodshed in Kenya with this. At times, you allow illegalities to stand for a greater good.

Still waiting for the greater good from kids votes in Kano that brought Bubu to power.

Oh, yes our president can receive oyinbo medical treatment while pensioners of his age cannot even get regular pension pay in 9ja.
That must be the greater good.

We need better packaging.

Great innovations. Safety tech save loads of people yearly. ABS great too.
Injection engines and turbo very much changed how energy used and fuel economy.

Very appropriate.
A clown foreign minister visiting a clown Kwantree.
Still the clown managed to tell us that the only reason they assist us with security is to allow oil flow (important) to UK via the gulf of Guinea.

Beeni. Wehdon sa.

Franco93:
Hi everyone in this forum. Please, I need advice pertaining the health condition of my uncle.
Hear my story in a nutshell.

I have an uncle who's fond of going to the Berber's shop with his private clipper but one day, he went without his own clipper. From that day onwards, he started experiencing scratches at the back of his head. He thought it was minor issue, it then developed into small boils. He started going to different chemist and pharmacist, but it increased the more.

At a point, I personally advised him to rob Authentic herbal cream, and Kubam, yet both didn't work.

After about a month the boils grew larger and larger, and began to ache his head. He has been to more than 10 hospitals, and they keep charging outrageously in thousands, yet no solution. This sickness has lasted for more than 8 months but we haven't gotten any solution.

If there's anyone here who have a better remedy, please refer me using the comment box.
We have tried all our best.
Thanks

Please see a dermatologist.

Your uncle appears to have kerion. If it is kerion, the immune system is just reacting to the fungal infection. Although fungal folliculitis can appear a bit similar too.

But please clarify: how old is your uncle?

Kerion mostly affects children, teenagers/young adults. But rarely older people.

The skin doctor will take a sample of scalp skin/hair for the lab to find out (KOH test/culture) the actual fungus/dermatophyte causing the issue (ringworm).

Ringworm is still not treated properly in some places. Scalp ringworm (Tinea capitis) does not respond well to topical antifungal cream only. Oral medication does. Whereas ringworm in other parts of the body (Tinea corporis) usually does.

If confirmed your uncle will require around 8 weeks of oral medication. Possibly with an appropriate anti fungal shampoo. Sometimes the culture might also indicate bacterial infection, needing antibiotics treatment too.

Your hospital doctors are trying to treat it properly. No short cut. Herbal medicine will not do it. Follow the right medical approach.

Can you write the medication & dose prescribed by the hospitals? What was the diagnosis?

tosyne2much:
It's pathetic to think that every guy wants to sleep with any lady her refers to her "female friend". It's even degrading to think that every guy's life revolves around pussy and boobs

Most ladies who comment on this thread really need to grow up. I mean where do they all meet these guys who claim to be their friends but are only nursing the idea of getting them laid ?

Their hypothesis about friendship is shallow and delusional in my own opinion

I wonder.

A couple my female friends met their hubbies through me. My buddies that the girls knew through me. These are very fine girls too. But I never for once considered any romance with them. Do not ruin a beautiful innocent friendship with love matter that fundamentally changes the equation & chemistry.

If you have a long enduring good friendship with a girl, do not bring romance in ever. Unless you were always "codedly" in love with her and were only bidding your time.

Remember that your dear female friend might have one or two aspects that you do not find attractive in a "woman". It can be her attitude towards money, lack of punctuality, etc. But does not diminish your "agape love" for her. Perhaps because she has many other endearing aspects or you just simply like her.

Not every "fine" girl is automatically romantically attractive. I found this out as a student when one had female student friends from across the world. Different attitudes, colours, shapes & sizes. You learn to crystallize what really matter to you in a woman.

I know many women with mostly male friends. For many reasons. Many claim that male friendship has far less drama, envy,bitching, hypocrisy but more honesty, genuine assistance & support, etc.

Growing up, I also had roughly more female friends than male friends. Until most got married. Knowing that most men would consider their their wives being close to a guy as unpalatable, I gradually kept my distance from those married female friends.

Which led to some of those female friends questioning whether I was unhappy that they are now married. I just try to explain that I do not want to cause any unnecessary issues in their homes just by being too available.

muller101:
I wonder how people still believe In love.

Love does exists. Though to various degrees.
But what some people call love sometimes is not it. Infatuation, obsession, etc.

But even true love does expire. Change is the only constant.

vizkiz:
It is absurd to say "Most endowed girls" that is just absurd

I condemn prostitution just like the guy.

But he's outrageously absurd.
Europe is a big continent. A higher number in Italy, Spain, some in France, some in Holland, some in Russia, very few in Germany, and some other places do it.

Yes, even those are too much already.
BUT not "most" as he puts it.

Begin playing your own positive part by discouraging your sisters, nieces, cousins and friends back in 9ja from falling into the trap. I do that to random social media friends who intend travelling abroad.

Help financially if you can too. Just 10 to 20k to enable a young girl sign agreement to learn hairdressing, tailoring, party service and so on can make all the difference.

Lamentation is easy.

doctokwus:
All I see is crappy journalism from Sun newspaper.as usual.
-The company called John's sister to inform her of the death of her brother,and not the police.
-Meanwhile in the same breathe,Sun made us know the sister started calling all her brothers,they all assembled,when to John's residence,met his corpse still intact,informed neighbours,who informed the Baale who then gave the order for Police to be informed!
-The journalistic abracadabra didn't stop there:The intact burnt corpse of John was then taken to the morgue!!Blessing who was sed to have escaped with burnt scars was meanwhile no where to be found and only John AMD Blessings bodies was affected in the fire!!!
The story tyre me,but Sun's poor journalism is not a surprise.

You know 99% of things in 9ja is done through "who you know", not on merit. So always square pegs in round holes. Sun Newspaper is no different.

Poverty is very bad. A lot of female promiscuity is due to economic problems. And to obtain favours.

Though some do it to afford to live above their means.

Most married women do not cheat just for fun.

The extortion everywhere and at all levels in 9ja is very bad.

But in theory the immigration officer was right about overstaying.

Though she had two months visa, upon entering the immigration officer who stamped her visa would have written her latest date of exit in ink on the passport.

It would be 30 days. But the officers endorsing the passport on entry NEVER explain what the date (a month away) actually means. So most visitors never know.
So it has become a money making thing for them. They then look out for any possibility you have overstayed. Even by just a few hours.

mansakhalifa:
@AreaFada2 Q: What happens if this shop of yours burns to the ground Typical Answer: God Forbids! That's the typical Nigerian mindset.

Lol. Yes!

Yet it happens everywhere daily. Does it men God does not love those people whose properties born down everytime?

9ja for you.

mansakhalifa:
Insurance still remains a totally untouched portion of the financial sector in Nigeria. Most Nigerians still don't see the point of having an insurance and most still don't even know how it works. If these foreign players like Allianz here,with their high level of expertise can get more people to see why they should buy into insurance,then they are most welcome to do business here.

Superstition/religion prevent us from planning well. Also need for short cut every time.
Tell someone to do life insurance and they will ask if you are planning to kill them.
But I do not know anybody with kids/family walking around in Europe without one.

Very shocked to see $35m mentioned.

We should be talking of hundreds of millions of dollars.

A very untapped market indeed.

Sorry I have no idea of any NGO that can do it.

Did you manage to get any help?
Thought about sourcing funds from local councillor, LGA chairman, SHoA member, HoR member or senator of the area?
And people from the area but based in the cities?