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Her husband is being ungrateful. They should be working it out together and not leaving the woman in the loop.

infogenius:
I am back to talk objectively on the main scene in this post.

Quite frankly the op made a mistake. She made it for love as stated in the post.
Did your husband ask you to open your legs for touts? You willingly allowed those riff raffs have their way without ur husband's consent.

Not every man at that scene will understand the sacrifice you made because there was no mutual agreement between you two on what happened. You decided too.

The job of your husband amongst other things is to protect his family. He never gave you that mandate even at the cost of his life. How dare you open your legs without your husband's telling you to?

What makes you think that your husband is not even thinking that you just wanted to have fun?

The husband is mandated to protect his family which includes making the right decisions even at the cost of his life to achieve this.

There was a similar incidence in my area in Festac when I was growing up. According to the report, the woman was even moaning to the jerks of the touts.

That event ended her 6 yrs old marriage as her relationship with her husband broke until they finally divorced.

I will not open my eyes and watch touts ride my wife without telling her to do so. I will rather die.

I have an obligation to protect my wife even at the cost of life.

I am not perturbed by what anyone says about the man been unfair after the wife was raped because of him.

The man had the Final say even at gun point and since the woman gave in ignorantly, she has a lot job to do to win her man back

So in essence, sex is the tool you use to get your man to join you in the house chore ??
So if you want him to help with 10 out of the 30 something weekly home work, you sex him 10 times ? and he too 30 something times sex for wanting you to do those things?
Let me laugh this steak meals off my system

That's the point, your own free will to do such cosmetic surgery. Knife slicing through you due to hubby's demand...i shudder at the thought.

shaybebaby:
If it is a choice she makes without undue influence, and decided herself that it is what she wants, I'd advise her against it. But that's all it is, advise which she can discard or heed. Her body, her life, her choice.
The issue here is that it is wrong for her husband to demand such. It shows that he is not considering her feelings, her life, health or the health of the baby. If he cared, he would not put her in such a position for reasons which are wholly selfish in this instance.
If SHE felt it was necessary, it's okay because she bears any negative consequences herself and has decided she is okay with the worst case scenario.
It's like drug lords who get mules to traffic drugs, you do it successfully you get paid. If it fails, YOU get jailed or die. They get all of the rewards and none of the risk.
And if you die, they find another replacement for you.
Anyone's making such a decision because someone else demands it needs to evaluate their self worth.
I have a large nose and I have always wanted a nose job(which is an elective surgery) since I was 6. My partner threatens to leave me if I go ahead because he feels the risk of it going wrong is not worth result and that he loves it just as it is. That shows he loves the person and not the package.
However despite my desire, the day my man suggests that I have a surgery because he wanna something about me changed or preserved is the day I know relationship is over. You simply should not ask of others you say you care about, something which may be of detriment to them to satisfy your selfish needs.

Well done.

Waking her up every hour to go pee like some one said is not possible. She is a working lady by the way. So she should not sleep ??

OP, please you guys should send the girl back to her family with monthly allowance for her education. Don't make any one force you to do what's not in your heart.

thank you pal.

babbs45:
Armofone, your mom coming straight with a green card, was the first scenario I gave before you said someone told you about her coming with a visiting visa then filing for her being quicker. Which I explained to you how you can go about that.

Doctors here in the US do not encourage CS due to complications...they tell you natural is the best.
Now you opting for it by demanding they do it just to keep your v tight. Are you planning to go through the knife for every pregnancy? If i were you, that husband of mine will go through questioning, test and examination to see if he really loves me or my labias.

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Babbs, I came here on full undergraduate scholarship some years ago. I want her to have her green card and be able to visit whenever. I can't wait to have my mother around. I have not started the process cuz I'm weighing to see the best options eg.
How about if I file for green card for her to come here straight...is that still a good option?

babbs45:
If I may ask, how did you immigrate to the US? Your mom coming through with B1/B2 visa and then you filing for her is much quicker but it is little tricky. She'll be given a duration of six months to stay in US ( POE ), but the question is, if you file for her during that period, will she be interviewed before her six month elapses?

If you decide to take this route, then NVC will be eliminated out of the process. You'll have to file an I-130 form with I-485 which is the adjustment of status form with USCIS.

Not sure which state you live in but in Washington state where I used to live, it's very possible your mom would've been interviewed within that six month period cos, there are not too many cases compare to states like Maryland and New York.

Even though some people just wait it out, in violation of their B1/B2 visa, I wouldn't advice that. So this is what you can do, your mom comes in with a tourist visa, you file for her, if her interview date does come within that six months, let her come to naija and she can always come back when her interview is scheduled.

Very simple.

Thanks you for your time babbs, highly appreciated. Someone said it is best to invite her over with visit visa then file for her here. Which do you think is quicker for her to get her green card?

babbs45:
Yes, it's the same. Your mom falls under the Immediate Relative (IR5). So, you look under that category on the visa bulletin.

Just checked the immigrant visa processing fee is $325 and the affidavit of support fee is $120. She'll be doing Medicals, police report etc.

Thank you Babbs45. IR5, is this the same thing as filing for green card?
Can you walk me through the process, I mean step by step please

babbs45:
I think you should file for her ( IR5 ). Did same for my mom. The process took almost a year.

maybe that's why madam is emptying the coffer so side chics doesn't get anything...just maybe.

sweetcocoa:
Hmm

OP are you sure you are not one of those men that spend more on outsiders than his own family?

I know why I'm asking o.

Forumites,
Which is best to bring one's mom over, green card for her or a visiting visa?
How long does each process takes?

Why is it that for every Trump speech it is either his wife, daughter, son and daughter in law that are standing by him? Why are republicans not standing by his side during speech? Is it a must to have your whole family during speeches? I would love to see MT going out and campaigning like MO did in 2008 and 2012.
Looks like Trump is playing his own game and not many top republicans like him. Maybe they will come around ?

CFCman:
The Washington, DC Democratic primary holds today. 20 pledged delegates are at stake today.

Thank you sir.

dickoflife:
Just check the website the centres are listed there ma.

Preach brother, preach. Just look at Lagos Ibadan road smh. The hefty belly of their politicians alone...phew selfish and greedy spiders.

Leopardd:
A typical black african who still lives with mentality of "primitive accumulation" of wealth can never achieve this, and zoo Nigeria is the epitome of everything bad about black Africa.
Need I remind u that if the sun did not rise from the east, that chinco sun.....hoohaa

Thanks....please give me the state and city where the fed sch of statictics is.
Can it be done in Ibadan or Lagos ?

dickoflife:
Federal school of statictics Is the venue. That's where I did mine. Toefl is real easy I got a 100/120 with little or no practise, just log on to the ETS website and register after linking ur account to paypal. Gre is a different kettle of fish which I can't explain. Ask others.

answer the questions accordingly.

Christian129:
GRE and SAT? U wan run UG and PG at the same time?

Hello forumites,

Any idea where one can apply and do TOEFL, GRE and SAT in Nigeria?

What are the cost of the examinations ?

If I live in Ibadan, where can I get prep materials for the exams?

Thanks.

Good morning lolawilliams and Brigadier7 & All,

Any idea where one can apply and do TOEFL and SAT in Nigeria?

What are the cost of both examinations ?

If I live in Ibadan, where can I get prep materials for the exams?

Thanks.

You can use sugar and yaji to eat massa.
Yakwa soup is preferable though.

ireneony:
What ethnic food is this?
Why didn't you use bitter leaf in place of spinach.
Groundnut is too sweet..which sometimes purge. ..
The masa can someone eat it with any other sauce apart from groundnut soup?

Tuwo rice as in sticky whitish rice right?
Ummm, i thought massa pot is a clay pot...in other words, I can use clay pot ko?

scarletpearl:
You can't use uncle Ben rice, tuwo rice is everywhere in Nigerian market, u can only use Massa pot. That's for dropping a comment.

Nice one...a fan of massa here

Op, can I use uncle Ben rice or white rice/jasmine rice ?

Also, can I use clay pot in place of massa pot ?

I love massa de yaji, sugar or sour miyan (yakwa)

Why won't he when it is Donald, me, myself, and I
Pelosi is pushing for a female Vp...not a good idea. This is not the time for Charles Angel or Amazonia conquest ma'am.

CFCman:
Donald Trump has won the California, New Jersey and North Dakota primaries

Stay strong Ronald. The incessant demand can be stressful and mentally draining.

ronald4lif:
I have many friends that their incessant demands of money anytime I try to keep in touch has made me withdrawn and kinda living in seclusion. Each time I chat them up is always about one monetary demands or another. I just find it really sad that I can't relate with my old time buddies like we used to without having to experience money pleas all the time.

Our world is getting perfect now as we are marrying each other. We will surely get there....i mean an utopia world where the righteous man marries another righteous man

TV01:
It's not so much that God punishes bad men by giving them bad wives, it's more that He intervenes to save good men from taking bad wives. I stand to testify .

Ecclesiastes 7:26 - And I find more bitter than death The woman whose heart is snares and nets, Whose hands are fetters. He who pleases God shall escape from her, But the sinner shall be trapped by her.

Be righteouss to avoid a wife-induced early grave


TV

A family member is coming to visit and the "head of house" didn't tell his wife ahead when mama is coming and for how long? Such display of superiority should not exist in marriage what happened to teamwork and partnership in marriage? What about complete communication? Who will get the home ready for her visit, who will cook the food mom will eat...etc
Simple thing as, Baby mi mom is coming next month for a 3 weeks stay. Or you both plan the trip based on availability of both of your working schedules or other plans.
Op, make sure you get a job...you know why

Did you see this one

https://www.nairaland.com/2375695/what-spiritualist-wont-tell-fruits

just imagine something created to sustain us

SAMBARRY:
superstitious bool sheet and fanatism is killing Africans iq faster than aids

true talk...maybe he doesn't want duplicates or pay double. Wifey must be cheaper now

That command was an expensive one...he didn't even say it lovingly

6 witches doing hair such cauldron !!

MadCow1:
Its his type of Nigga that would be fhucking one skank on the side who has longass fake & cheap Brazilian weaves and extensions, dresses in tights and tubes, wears pumps with 6 inch heels and is made-up to look like a 1 dollar hoe.

Mindfulness,
Just wanted to say you are an incredible person.
Happy Sunday.
Yorubawoman, stay strong. One step at a time.
Happy Sunday to you.

Wait make i tie Jorge or Holland wrapper with shoulder off blouse and better wedge then una go say fat na money

Chillisauce:
That ain't me Mehn. ..that's naijababe

I'm the one with the small eba. Doing the monitoring ...trying to make naijababe cut down on her intake
But efe you no good oh. ...where did edwife see these pictures. I'm sure they are imo state babes

N'a dia way. They too like food.
See amyofone and Ifyalways ...
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.
Laugh don make fart comot from my yansh

Girl, this one you come dey do so, be like say na you dey Komplain say you no feel the thing inside. Have you talked about dick augmentation with him so?

If he gives you a star studded slap, no call me o

Unless you truly have the amount Ewuro4 listed such as 3k dollars, please leave your hole alone. You truly wanna let nig doc tailor your hole? Girl you try.