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na man with better head for his shoulder we dey pray for, isseee.

contribute 60% from a salary of 20k, the guy 60% from a salary of 400k?
na wah for ya calculation. she should use that 20k buy make up to look good for you now. why do you want her widow mite again?

Nig man sef

my take it everyone goes into one account. from there you pay bills and buy stuff. then each take some money for self.
[quote author=Missy_B]If you're married to a partner with a good head on his shoulders, you should have no fear/problems managing funds together, it makes both parties economically conscious with proper spending. If things eventually go sour, every gain and loss are split into 2 equal parts.

However, women without any form of safeguard should endeavor to be percuniarily wise. Unfortunately, most home-based Naija women fall under this category, so who can blame them for wanting to save for a rainy day.[/quote]

@ taryour

hahahahahaa,
lady, are you joking
so you and hubby use kpesu solve matter?
oh well.
why i go dey act all nice and cool if hubby is the cause of the hassle?
ummm
he better apologize with 12 Roses must be white. Or red Lilies.

Sauer, Ronke and fellow posters help with this:

- Give an example real-life example or application of either the binomial or Poisson distribution.

- Specify how the conditions for that distribution are met.

- Suggest reasonable values for n and p (binomial) or mu (poisson) for your example.

- Calculate the mean and standard deviation of the distribution for your example.

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for me all money will go into one account.
partnership is real business. if you love the person you are with
then no need to be selfish with money. it is OUR money.
i will be in control of kitchen, bank accounts and

OP, are you trying to say he should have made sure that everything abt your trip is secure (financially such that you visit him 2ice a year) right?
well, the economy is bad. whatever you do, don't use CC (credit card) to buy ticket.

my problem is the one roasting meat with buring tyre

what? tyre for roasting meat? Holy Pharaoh king of Egypt

man up and don't complain but Pay the Bride Price.

how does it smells? fruity or stewy?

OP, please help with idea so i take note. We need to curb this xteristic at the bud stage.

how does talking back to him equate to him hitting you?

why can't a woman and her husband argue without the man beating her?

why can't a woman have her own opinion without the man saying you tok back to me and here is a golden slap that makes you see star?

I tire.

OP, he doesn't love/cherish you. a man who love/cherish/respect you will not do that.

forget abt the bag of rice and stuff he bought (he is the head of the house shebi?)
one fine day, make him a good meal. after food, tell him, baby we got to tok. tell him you are not happy with the way he treats you.
go from there and speak your heart.


Aren't there anger management classes in Nigeria in 2012

no vex my brother. try to solve the problem in the bedroom.
she must be really tired lol. run her a bath, put lotta candles in the bathroom and let her rest her aching feet.
don't forget to make her a nice dinner too. after you both done eating, you both can catch up what went on there.

solve problem with Romance not War

not right acting anyhow when you visit your inlaws house. it is their home and not yours.
how long will it take for nigerians to change this mentality?

act as a guest and don't feel too layback.
going into the kitchen to take meat and soup with madam there, not so cool.

hey autie, can i have some food please, simple. how hard is that?

ku na buga dongo turenchi.
da godiya.

@Babe

Thank you jare. Let dayo continue to fight his imaginary inlaw haterz.

the courtesy thing is very important. stay around chat, joke, help etc. when food is ready, you could hear her even say serve yourself or wait to be told.
simple thing. but we all know the nig mentality ''na my bros house''


Ewure ba fo ju wo eyin, apete gbeleke
agutan ba fo ju wo eyin, apete gbeleke
ma fo oju e wo....
ma fo oju e wo....

There is always a way to solve a problem. It is so sad that your husband resorted to violence. the day any son of Adam pinches me, that day he will be sleeping in jail. na better man with head for him shoulder person dey pray for iseeee
If i visit someone's home, without their permission, i don't touch anything. i visit family members, i don't do anyhow. enter their kitchen, i ask. touch their food etc, i ask. God! why are many nigerian soooooooooooooooooooooooo stone aged with culture?

he has to apologize to you.

@ Davidylan nwan mama, bless you.
your lady findest a real man may the woman in the book of proverb be your portion, iseee

Ronke, haha so funny. By the way, i saw ya spark last week. Kai! i was like wetin ya oga allow you drink
wey come catch you like that
dem don lock that fire on the mountain thread sha

i wanted to say copy the discussion and let him read it but the guys here don spoil show by supporting him already
to add:
Rokiatu, by the way, with all the economic problems springing up everywhere, he should focus on his finishing school. This is important for a good job in today's economy.
both you need to talk.
goodluck trying to convince him.

lol, oh Lord!
I would need oshuka on my head turned backward then and upward
well, i can still see some America shrink @ fort Marshall to certify me now eh?
planning to drop my application letter to Madam superior (so funny).
or maybe do some craze yaba left style for some nairaland bobo
you know a topic like "i told my oyinbo hubby to be i can't cook or s.hag after cooking because I'm tired, like i care sef " could bring NL down

Jinx, yaya?

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Hauwa are you yaba left certified??!![/quote]

i was missing that moremi ajasoro omo oriki then suddenly Suzan!
welcome back and hope your guys don't catch you. where is Saga sef.
i like the way you fight wifey beaters keep it up pal.

[s]but come to think of it, he might have been using another moniker[/s]


where do one sign up to join the cabal
who do i consult, jenny, ronkelus, BB or tani now?
you all doing a great job moving millenial women forward

lol, coldfeet. So sad.

another part of me may just pack and leave. we settle and share the property in court and move on.

my thought too. do i need to consult my parents for something of such, no. cuz i know nig parents will always say 'stay'
i will make my decision before telling them

stress also has a hand in infertility. oga no care but to go water his third leg eh with store keeper.

looks like OP has accepted her fate. life is good. for me o, that house won't contain 3 of us and any other emmissary/envoy from the village.

Outstrip: It is not even that. I guess my frustrations at the things we do in the name of culture and traditions just annoy the heck out of me. It starts from the top and trickles down. That is why Nigeria is so f.u.cked up. Nobody takes responsibility for anything. Nothing moves forward in that country. You see people defending excuses in grown adults that you teach children not to do. Then they wonder why that country is useless. The corruption did not stand when people got into office. It started in the home where these men were never held accountable for anything. They go into office and the same thing keeps happening and they are experts at it because even their mothers and family members trained then to never take responsibility. With this attitude they have r4ped a whole generation of Nigerian children of their futures and they will not quit because even the fcuhing culture tolerates the behavior. If people respected themselves (poster) included, who will sit in her living room and tell her that they brought a wife? Culture allows this stuff. Now a womans life is ruined because of culture. Listen to her tone. She is even blaming herself. Her parents have sent her back to go and be housegirl for new wife and "husband". All in the name of culture. SMH. Useless country.

what did you take with you when you were going? gift for her, the kids etc? did you call to let him and the wife know you coming?
did you bring your own stuff with you? overnight bag with soap, cream, paste, brush, sponge?
you are a visitor, did you act like one?

CC gave you a good idea. Next time always call first. we are in 2012.

now call them to thank them for the last visit. talk to the wifey and thank her for her hospitality the last time you were there
and that you enjoyed your stay.

eyah, you still love him kwa i feel you lady, i feel you.
we are blinded by love. I hope he still loves you too so that he will consider your pains and do good as he plan the future.

it is all about you and the decision is yours.
not sure if you plan to do the iyale and iyawo thingy.
hopefully you don't become 2nd class in the house you sweat to build.
stay well and lots of hugs to you.

stay put in that house? i wouldn't. we will settle in court and you take your part and I take mine and move on. And If i can afford a good lawyer, you will get nada!
i wouldn't want to be part of the marriage.
did he stop to think that stress might have had a way for your inability to get pregnant? instead of reducing your workload
to make you rest and do less, he was busy servicing your store keeper.

mazaje, do you think the husband will be interested in ivf at this stage? I think IVF in the next marriage definitely not in this one.
OP, I hope you really know how to deal with that man. give him a bitter pill to swallow.

Hauwa da abichin fa

didn't they say the way to a man's heart is through his throat

how are you, longest of time dear BB.
Don't take Lastpage too serious

lol Oprah is the last person you want to use here she went through a lot at some point in the early years of her career . . . fought to break the glass ceiling (built by men ). Read her story from when she was a news archor

she said it that if Stedman can go into the kitchen to make his own sandwich, then he could as well starve. She added Stedman got hands
she cooks, but only when she feels like it.
so she is doing her own long thing at home too

that was real ewwwww ewww maybe doing it to irritate you lol

PrettyCindy: He had a very irritating habit of sticking his finger into his anus just like that. When i beg him to go wash his hands, he will say its his body and use the bedsheet to wipe the finger. Anyway marriage lasted for just 7 months.
I seriously doubt any sane man will have such habit cos its not only dirty, its unhealthy.

OP,you try
drawing us back into stone age...do it gently sha.

Gaggi, who told you women can't produce S.emen or urinate straight/standing? which world are you in ?
All human beings are born equal. stop making a lady 'subhuman'

Gaggi: Equal with whom? A cat ? A dog ? Abi whom? See all this oyibo women o. Even the Caucasian woman won't utter such rubbish. U are a helper. Until u start paying groom price, producing se.m.en or urinating straight then we will talk.

Nneka nwanem, focus on your self and children. the heartache is not worth it. your children need you.
upgrade your wardrobe and look good for you )
i mean focus on yourself o.
stay strong and be happy.

only 4th baby and you are here talking . don't forget to use protection after the 4th baby so the greys stop coming plus less workload.
more babies, more work for you. meaning no time to really enjoy life and the money you are working for.
4 eh kwa, you try gan ni o sha.

3 and 1 on the way you don dey already open thread

freshmoney: Thanks my dear sisters. I will keep to your advice. I guess I am lacking some here. But, sometimes, I got to think about it, are we men meant to be serving you women? Just wondering cuz women demands are never enough; especially when they are pregnant. Now she's pregnant with the 4th baby. I don't know when I am going to retire from all these menial jobs, may be 60 something,whew I just noticed some little grey here on my head, and I am just over 30

Tayo D,
I'm not one to be driven by some cheap frenzy.
Let the court tell him he is not guilty and should go instead of the police.

you should be a republican strategist