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i don't like the idea of one person doing same thing all over. the hubby that cleans, i don't like it to be him alone doing it. we can both clean together. both cook together.
cooking is the hardest honestly so ogbemi prefers to clean ooo, o di egwu

we can as well eat out at some fancy health conscious resturant and not me quenching in the kitchen all the time.

i love home chores, love clean home and an expert in the kitchen but i will not kill myself doing it all. na wetin? a fine gal like me

give mommy cogar work to do jor. that obe you missed, it's time to eat it.
will make a timetable for mama: monday ikokore, tuesday, obe ila alasepo, wednesday, iyan ati obe apon, thursday, efo riro, friday, iresi pelu obe atarodo. sat and sunday, i will help mama

coogar:
if you work and your husband works, i see no reason why you cannot afford au pair.
i know rearing kids is a career on it's own in the west but then should naija women then degrade their men with these despicable chores?
when your mother-in-law is around, (after 1week, mama will be comfortable and proud of her pickin) is she comfortable with seeing your husband do the dishes and other feminine chores in the house?
men should help out but only with chores that are known to men - not washing undies!
yeah like fetching water from the river in Houston
i am from enugu!

so you have been "forming" good wife?

i really don't understand why you women think men are rabid dogs. is it even humanly possible for a man to wake up and start beating up his wife or maltreating her without any reason? majority of the stories we get to hear are half-truths. for a man to wake up and beat up his wife, trust me - that woman has done something very wrong! your husband will never maltreat you unless you sleep with his best man.

so primitive even cave man can solve that problem

coogar:
haha - elaborate please.
a wife sacrificed her career for her hubby and the hubby got a 2nd wife? are there still men in this our generation marrying 2 wives?

i know how it works in america/uk/netherlands or everywhere else in the world.

so because you work as a surgeon, you would gladly sit back and watch your husband do your dishes, clean the house, wash your undies?
over my rotten corpse! i would easily spend the rest of my life in jail rather than allow such!

nothing wrong doing all that common. husband and wife should help each other, afterall it is their home.

Ofc most of the women are grateful. I think when the men start behaving like bush men, beating, refusing to join in housework etc then there is trouble.

the stress of working 40hrs plus is not funny.

Yet, some guys on NL would call ladies against domestic violence 'female nazi'
and blame women who call the cops on their husband for pinching them bad girl wey copy oversea way of life.

I won't hestitate to call the cops on any son of adam. if my future husband dares, Jail will be his home.
May the woman rest in peace.

[quote author=c.fours link=topic=859170.msg10162813#msg10162813 date=1328841511]^ don't bother reading it.

it's a pointless, alarmist article.
it mostly talks about mail order brides (aka men going home to find cheap, subservient wives and then coming back to US to realize that nothing comes for cheap). na today? those kind of marriages have always and will continue to fail.[/quote]no be today o.
It's nice the women are learning

Let me read that article again.



ummm, interesting read.

Saga, i'm sure you are not one of those acting african in amerrikkah now. don't forget to take your lady out this valentine, get her 12 roses, nice wine, dine at a nice resturant (stop with that kitchen sufferhead of jollof ricing and co), scatter roses in the bathtub etc.
african man should do it oyinbo way jare.

na better man with head on his shoulder we dey pray for.

dayo and the rest are assimilating. job well done to them

ThiefOfHearts:
I find it hilarious that the church mice always whine about losing money after a divorce

sincev yall OBVIOUSLY cant afford to marry "gold diggers" I dont see what your issue is. abeg

Michael Jordan despite losing 1b to his wife is gettihg married again. yet peopl who wobnt see that ion their lifetime are "scared" of losing "money". LOL

You people are comedians

True, true  

in the country of the blind, one eyed man is king

wonder what they are earning as salary in real life   that we can't hear word again fa jare. real men don't complain  
to be a lady is not a day job.

laugh wan kill me here
i laugh in Bantu  at the inlaw eaing 4 super indomie

just remembering one lady's post (last year) where her inlaw ate pot of soup and pot of rice, wear her clothes etc, 
where is that thread sef

Blimey!! 140 pages and counting, phew  .

i can imagin Saga in old age: bald, half glass, pushing cart with only pet food inside  , holding dictionary of list of food with vitamin C.

Pray hard, the right woman will come. Prayer is the key 

@Sagamite:

"oh thou man of little faith"

"the just shall live by faith"


resurrect that faith and see the Lord rain down HIS blessing on you. You need to go to church and stop backsliding

the yab don make crayfish bend, abegi leave am. him boss for KFC just called him 

ronkebp:
Moremi, why now?? how much are you really worth i can keep secrets.

girl, you forget guys like moremi shop with pennies huh? go to walmart and see him there. na him dey hold the line as shoppers wait make him count him coin take pay  .

so wasted!! Pple should know how to plan for old age.

dating is a big distraction when you have to earn that good gpa. don't try dating until maybe final year.

work and school are enough work already. make friends but not dating. no be nigeria college you dey wey guys dey waste time for female hostel after 4pm.

the best of time for new student: fresh man year. everyone dotting on you as freshy from africa

i had a very low cut on for long time. Then I relaxed my hair myself.

I'm not crazy abt brazillian hair.

Serves him right!!

I'm sure canned tuna and white brodi are his dinner.

who dash moremi money, must be tough working at KFC/Popeye. who wan to marry $4.25cent per hour worker? no even reach minimum wage and he dey talk, please Moremi, go get a corporate day job

Don't waste your time trying to toast anyone. Study, study, study like no tomorrow.

don't forget to check the recruitment centers for military, one lovely career here.

SemperFI
God bless our troops.
Marine of One!!
Army of One!!!!

without good gpa, no oyinbo scholarship or grant for you. if i were to tell someone fresh from obodo something special, it would be focus on getting good gpa and forget working for now at least for the first and second semester or more.
it is hard combining working and getting that ''good gpa''. so focus on school. the good gpa will give you upper hand with internship too.

ummmm, David your 23 dollars for food not working for me at all. wheat bread alone   and i eat one with flax seed too  .

OP, work hard and keep your 3.8 or 4.0 gpa . . . you will get some scholarships maybe more than 1 sef each could get you some addition 300 (note that they spread it out for the semester).

just go to your ISO (International student office) of your school. they got much info for you about SSN and jobs.
you can't work outside school, unless intern/coop. Campus job not bad. look for tutoring job. it pays better.
my first job on campus was working at the college cafeteria making sandwich then another dept making pizza. the pizza one funny. imagine working from 7-10am then running to class at 10am   with pizza flour all over, looking back i laugh   and the pay sucks
my next job was tutoring. not bad pay  

David, where do you shop? Aldi? 23 dollars for shopping? I like that. I shop at wegmans that's where most international students shop at too. i went with one to Aldi once, not like what i saw. 23 bucks that's not even enough for my pot of stew for the week (fish/beef, tomatoes, hot pepper etc). share where you shop at discount abegi

food for $40? where david where?

rent outside? that's expensive. my idea is rent the school apt complex.

don't tempt me, i don't want to be 2nd wifey to any son of adam  

you that like your lady to plait her hair, hello!!!!, phew, gotta run

it's all so confusing. anyway, i will stand by soul brother.
Trump, smh.

hahaha, don't want anyone romancing my pix so i will leave it at that. it's mouth watering i tell ya.

coogar:
it would probably be her picture molesting some innocent iraqi citizens in basra.

i don't think she's afraid. . . .she's applying her cosmetics from avon.

SemperFI my friend

let me post my pix so David and Congar know there are real foine babes with class around. look well

davidylan:
I've only seen 1 cute naija girl here in 7 yrs. to be honest, there are far better looking nigerian girls in nigeria.

well, not surprised your uni not get foine gals not our fault huh

i like expensive Roses and expensive (real) black chocolate.

when you fit afford those, let me know

marriage is a game, we each play our part and accept the inevitable. i wouldn't say cuz i fear the nasty guys (like dayo, Saga and Harakiri) and then not marry. i tell you, if you find the right person, your song will be different. till then, keep spending your money on the pretty ones as they spend on you too, don't they? I'm sure they do  .

hope you are planning for Valentine. Don't stay lonesome on that day  

IRMO (In Reading Mode Only)
Grabbing my 2 slice of crayfish and ejadudu/norway Mackerel moin moin and enjoying the side show.

Saga, you really need good food. man wey chic give better food and chop belleful won't get mouth to talk.  
back to eating jare  

true, no try am o. the foreign ones won't take your bull@s@h@it.

You are in the wrong place. Move to Missisippi or Oklahoma and stop roaming around Broklyn.

moremi2008:
Spoken like a true golddigger!  

Unfortunately, most of the "successful" women around me aren't Nigerian. Marrying a foreigner is a no-go for me.

abi oo

chika98:
I wonder the same. It is almost always about my money, what I have to offer her etc. One would think we've got a bunch of millionaires here.[b][/b]

puzzle me too. i don't know where they got the impression that ladies are automatically milker. we can make our own money too.
even uneducated ladies in niger do trade and make money.

i won't sign any pre nuptial, no way.

a man with head on his shoulder is what we pray for abeg . one who can bring in huge bacon without crying of some pennies you took from his wallet  
Saga, cheers  

don't be scared. you just gotta meet a nice babe like moi and the rest is history.

only the bold walk the alter.
believe the Lord for all your need and HE will care for you.