Family › Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Asour: 5:01pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
ibechris: I totally disagree with u.
Don't use your situation to think others are passing through the same [/b]thing u are going through. In fact, [b]the problem with most Nigerians is that,during courtships,most intending couples don't discuss matters that are of concern to their future.
They often don't prepare for the future and that is why,many are in dire need of financial and moral uplifting in their marriage.
In China,an average Chinese don't ever talk about marriage except they are able to acquire an apartment where he and his wife would live,but here in Nigeria,immediately a guy makes 5million naira he runs to marry and spend virtually all that he had acquired just to impress everyone.
That is why u see most marriage crashing on a daily basis.
Another reason is,most men marry liabilities and come back to regret ever making that mistake. I am not perfect,but I remembered asking my wife her financial role if we get married and what we would be investing our money into as time goes on. I also remembered,she once told me,that she would like me to take charge of whatever investment we shall be putting our money in since I was more versed in investment than her.
We discuss a lot that i can't say here.
Many intended couples invest so much time in preparing for wedding than preparing for marriage and the future ahead.
Lastly, before u prepare for marriage,sit down with ur wife to be,discuss money matters with her,don't marry a man or a woman who has no job,no hand work or education. If he or her parents are not rich,pls be careful. Some may be lucky while others may not be.
Note: many homes are enjoying their marriages and I am one of them,with this,i think I have made my points
Good luck. You criticized his comments for generalization but went on to make your own generalizations. And who says the Average Chinese gets an Apartment before he marries. The many Chinese who don't even see their children from urban factory jobs in cities or have troubles paying their mortgages yet are married are from what Nation? |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 2:24pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: oh I see you are one of those peter obi type weirdos who after getting defeated and pulverised and smashed you still will never accept defeat. Move on with your life bro. Don't mention me again on this issue. Yes daddy ass niggaz lol You're making a tangent. I'm NOT a Peter Obi supporter. Didn't even vote for him. Again, you're projecting. Stay on point. Show me a Nigerian today who walked into the US (like a Mexican) without a VISA got admission into a US university and studied & I'll believe you. |
Politics › Re: Osun Airport: Gov Adeleke Assures Of Speedy Completion, meets Aregbesola(Pics) by Asour: 2:18pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Princessstee: I'm really proud of them, despite their differences, they are still good friends and working together for their Poeple . Aregbesola is APC and a Muslim while Adeleke is PDP and a Christian & muslim 
Oyetola's mistake was that he refused to work with Aregbe, Osun people want who will work for them and make them happy, not a party. They are definitely not friends. Friendliness isn't only practiced amongst friends. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 2:15pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: illegal is illegal and my best friend in college then was a hispanic kid called juan Diaz and he was a straight up wAlk through the border illegal with no papers whatsoever but we were classmates Undocumented is NOT the same as an overstayed VISA who IS a documented fellow. Your desire to lump all as one without nuance shows why you alway use the Mexicans as examples. Mexico & other border countries can walk into America undocumented. A Nigerian student from 6000 miles who is a postgraduate student who has stayed less than 6 months would not typically be undocumented. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 1:52pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: you know why I can have this conversation boldly with you ? Because I did it. Went to visit my brother in Chicago and I loved it so much at the time and overstayed my visa and became illegal. While illegal I got my degree in Chicago and graduated. Of course I rectified my status later but the point is I was illegal and got a degree from the USA . So this is experience talking. There's a difference between one with an expired VISA (but who came documented) which you said you are & an undocumented immigrant, which the Mexicans usually are. In your case the Institution failed to run a check through the US immigration on your stay legality — even though you were not undocumented. And that's a gap. However YOU GOT a VISA to the US First. |
Christianity Etc › Re: Leaked Audio: I Will Not Campaign For Anybody Till I Go To Heaven - Oyedepo by Asour: 1:49pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Babatunjo: Peter Obi really messed up big time. He wants to "Yes daddy" his way into power. I regret supporting him right now. With that his upper Iweka accent, there's nothing presidential about the religious and tribal bigot sef.
I am a Yoruba Christian, I voted for Peter Obi but I now fully support the constitutionally elected President and his Vice, Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu and Kashim Shettima.
My only prayer for Asiwaju Tinubu now is for God to grant him good health. Trust me, he'll perform beyond most people's expectations. We should trust you who claimed to have voted PO but now regrets based on a concocted Audio. And who's NOW SO SURE about BAT (a candidate you didn't vote for 2 months ago). Lol. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 1:41pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: SOME peoples visa got denied. hence the illegality And the school still held them in as bonafide students? The point then is the CULPABLE schools NOT just the illegal immigrant. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 1:39pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: may is different from CANT So why was the statement included? If legal limitations don't apply to an immigrant, isn't it LITERALLY implied that such an immigrant is assumed legal? |
Education › Re: Anambra To Host Bossladylaw Business Challenge For Secondary Schools by Asour: 1:38pm On Apr 02, 2023*. Modified: 2:16pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Fighter2029: When they beging to excel in business 10 years from now,some tribes will increase their level of jealousy But Business people can't succeed in multitudes if the society they operate in (including other ethnicities) aren't buoyant enough to patronize them. Isn't it by patronage (from able customers) that wealth is made? |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 1:34pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
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Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 1:30pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: obviously[b] you thought[/b] it impossible hence your bolded question. NEXT  Thanks for confirming that was your opinion of my thoughts. However, I never said it's Impossible. I asked a question. Nevermind that it's in the millions as you've claimed. Again my point is that why the hassle for illegality when the an admission Almost guarantees a VISA. Why take the window when being a bonafide student opens the door for you. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 1:22pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: you said its impossible to be in university in the usa and be illegal. dont shift the goalpost . accept your defeat like a man Quote me where I said that. I'm waiting. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 1:14pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: you are assuming that everyone trying to enter the USA has education in mind. these mexicans troop in through the border illegally to do manual labor. it is after many years of dead end manual labor they decide maybe college is a better option. so they move to a sanctuary state and enrol in college The bane of this thread is a Post graduate STUDENT migrant in a US university FROM NIGERIA NOT Mexico. Your comparison with Mexico farm hand migrants is OFF. Since I'm referring to a Nigerian bonafide STUDENT! |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 1:04pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: google SANCTUARY STATES. in those states no one is allowed to ask about your immigration status. you soundd like someone who has not been on a plane Saying there are Millions of Illegal migrants in US is different from saying their are Millions of Illegal migrant STUDENTS registered as bonafide student in US Universities. And you know the one I mean. An admission to a US school more than likely GUARANTEES a Visa so why the illegality when you're already paying tuition. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 12:56pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: bro millions of mexicans walk in through the border illegally and many attend universities without papers Now you're exaggerating. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 11:53am On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: your funny. try comedy. bro its all about the dollars. if you like show up from mars without papers but you have the 40 thousand dollars a year tuition , they will enrol you sharp sharp This isn't correct. A US institution's Admission letter is almost always more than enough to GUARANTEE a VISA so a school need not be fraudulent to secure paperwork for prospective students. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 11:23am On Apr 02, 2023 |
sukkot: Happens all the time. mexicans Then the US institution is culpable here. Not just the illegal immigrant. A basic background check with the US immigration office prevents this easily. |
Celebrities › Re: Real Warri Pikin & Husband Set For Their Dream Wedding 10 Yrs After 1st Wedding by Asour: 11:18am On Apr 02, 2023 |
DRPAIT123: This is a lot better than wasting needed resources when they were not financially buoyant to impress outsiders. They can now do everything they've always wanted to do easily. I like the concept. True. And it's their business but it's redundant. It like celebrating your 16th birthday at 30 again because you couldn't use Five Alive & Eva wine. The core is the Successful marriage which they have already! |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 11:13am On Apr 02, 2023 |
BigCowHornn: In the USA when you see a person doing his all to try to avoid going to the police he is likely an illegal
The fact that he didn't want to report the case was suspicious
Any US citizen will call the cops on you if you as much as shout in your own house That's US culture. In Nigeria (this fellow just came from Nigeria) people AVOID having to involve the police as much as possible in any matter. It would take time to get used to the US way. Also the paper issue should be dispelled by him being a student. Do you reckon a bonafide US graduate student is an illegal immigrant? Is that possible? |
Politics › Re: Tinubu Should Bring The Likes Of Owen Omogiafo Into His Government - Ikirodah by Asour: 11:02am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Ndimkpurummiri: If Owen Omogiafo is from that side We Agbados no go gree You can not work with Innoson that is producing fake vehicles and expect to collect salary from Dangote Refinery IF? You don't even know Nigeria's diversity enough to reasonably project where a person is from by name? She's Deltan. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 8:21am On Apr 02, 2023 |
BigCowHornn: I know. But there was the chance you were not a student at all The OP said he just moved to New Jersey for graduate school. That's the third line of his story! |
Politics › Re: Obiajulu Uja Arrested At Abuja Airport Mentally Challenged – Lawyer by Asour: 7:51pm On Apr 01, 2023 |
N3TRAL: Mental incapacity does not absolve a treasonable felon, neither does it prevent him from spending days at the dungeon of the Department of State Services or the ground zero of police brutality at Awkuzu Sars station.
Mental incapacity is not a defence against trial. It is a defence that is used during trial to show reasons why the accused/defendant should be committed to a mental health facility instead of a maximum prison.
The law is designed to make society safe for APC , PDP and Labour Party members. A mentally unstable defendant who is set free without going through rehabilitation at a psychiatric ward poses more danger to his community than a lion that has gone astray.
From the foregoing and in the spirit of the law, I encourage the State to ensure that the Anambra man (who was arrested for a similar activity that makes America mourn 9/11) faces the law so that the learned Justices may decide to commit him to mental care or the prison where he ought to be .
The suspect in question has left the league of Kanu and Ekpa. He's in the class of Osama Bin Laden and Abdulmutallab. True. But funnily, Weeks to the elections, FFK (a top media person in APC) said A candidate is meeting with military chiefs to hatch a plan against the elections yet he is free as we speak after a day's questioning. BTW, Mutallab was found with a bomb. Your comparison is wild. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 6:26pm On Apr 01, 2023 |
BigCowHornn: This is why Nigeria doesn't wok
Perhaps your papers are not right No bonafide student of a US university doesn't have his/her papers. |
Travel › Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by Asour: 6:21pm On Apr 01, 2023 |
lereinter: From NL you want job connect in NJ
Is this showboating or just naivety This is a travel thread. Many foreign based Nigerians lurk around. He may not be connected but there's no harm in asking. |
Family › Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Asour: 11:33pm On Mar 31, 2023*. Modified: 2:37pm On Apr 01, 2023 |
LikeAking: Naso life be..
Many of our parents will suffer.
The world don woke, every body don Sabi him rights.
It's not the right of children to Carter for their parents...
Awon woke generation... It's not wokeness. Nigeria is a largely poor country. But the weight on children in some families can be crushing. Often before one even starts to find feet in life. |
Politics › Re: Benue: Fr. Alia Presents Certificate Of Return To Tor Tiv And Ochi’idoma by Asour: 6:30pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
God1000: he has never served in any public office before, so yes his hands are clean to some extent, at least for now Your hands are either clean or they are not. Not 'to an extent'. How many days drops of urine can you permit in your pot of soup given that 1 or 2 drops can never kill you in the soup. |
Sports › Re: Video Of Neymar Jr Reaction After Losing 1million Euro To Gambling by Asour: 6:27pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
shadrach77: The guy isn't wise at all. He should ask Celestine Babayaro and Ronaldinho. If he isn't careful he may be broke by the time his career is over. Nothing lasts forever  R10 is definitely not broke. |
Education › Re: My First Semester University Result by Asour: 4:04pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat: Yes that's because brain boxed people go for more challenging courses. Law is just a theoritcal course with some big big grammatical terms and how to apply them, nothing challenging. Theoretical physics is also Theoretical. Maths is also Theoretical. This doesn't make them easy. |
Politics › Re: None Of Our Officials Was Hurt During Imo Attack - MTN. by Asour: 3:34pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
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Foreign Affairs › Re: Ajaypal Singh Banga Is Sole Nominee For World Bank Presidency by Asour: 6:39pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
spy24: My opinion though
I feel. That people that are from regions of the world with cultures that encourage discipline and values are taking over the world.
The middle east, India, infact Asia as a whole are beginning to dominate the world..
Before you quote me saying the west is far more developed than this people... Remember that the people that built the current west. Were their fathers of the 70 and 80s that had discipline and actions.
Let's wait to see the kind of US and Europe this current generation of gender benders and waving flag people will bring to their nation.. America no know wetin Dem do themselves
It will serve as a lesson to every nation in history.
As for Africa we are conflicted we don't know whether to stick to our values or claim woke... Ajay banga is FAR from a typical Indian. He's Americanized. India itself has very FLAWED politicians! |
Celebrities › Re: Davido Visits Tony Elumelu’s House For His Daughter’s 21st Birthday by Asour: 1:49pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
Zico5: Who is Tony Elumelu that minister is bigger than him. If okonjo Iweala can be a minister, how big is Elumelu. It may surprise u that he will accept any position in government if given the opportunity. You guys can hype urself die. Truely successful Businessmen would rarely take appointed position. Note that I said TRUELY successful. Because they are DECISION heads, Executive/elected positions are better suited to them. |
Politics › Re: Lagos Election: GRV Gets Court Order To Inspect BVAS, Electoral Materials (Pix) by Asour: 9:52pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Rahmat1: GRV is a lesson for why we should always be careful of our utterances. I watched his interview on Arise tv, he's a very brilliant guy with modern ideas, but what spoilt his chances are those posts be made online. Well, I wish him better luck next time, such a sound mind should not go to waste. Those are crutches. Something would always be found in a man who's going to be deemed unworthy. Here's The President elect. BAT, saying he doesn't believe in one Nigeria. The Nigeria he now sets to lead. His interview/opinions didn't 'disqualify' him to his supporters. Lol. A reason would always be found for a 'cause' to be justified. Lagos APC changed a man (Ambode) who performed no less than Sanwolu yet they're telling others that Sanwolu 'deserves' a second due to his Performance! Lol.
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