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slimyem: this is quite long but it makes a lot of sense.
please read!!
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If you’re not ready to delay gratification when your are angry. To hold your tongue, lower your voice and sometimes wait till the appropriate time, day or even month before you can deal with an issue thoroughly…. don’t get married. Immaturity is the inability to delay gratification. Marriage is for the mature.

If you’re not ready to leave center stage and allow someone else to become your focus, your study, your muses… don’t get married. Selfish people make very bad spouses. In marriage you don’t lose yourself but your heart has to be big enough to gain someone else. And soon, with God’s blessing: little, crying, diaper soiling, demanding little ones are coming!

If you are not ready, to stand up and calmly deal with meddling in laws as a united front: The opinionated sister, the insensitive uncle, the domineering father, the manner less brother, the nosy aunt….. don’t get married. Boundaries do not exist automatically, they must be created. A good spouse is committed to respectfully stand up for and protect their marriage from meddling relatives. Don’t abandon your spouse to your relatives. It’s betrayal.

If you are not ready to pay bills…. don’t get married. Love does not pay bills. Kenya power will not give a waiver because your love is O so strong and your gazes at each other, O so romantic.

If you are not ready to let go of your opposite sex “best friends” and invest that into your spouse. To like, to laugh, to play, to be silly and to enjoy life with them, above anyone else… don’t get married. Affairs happen because people did not marry their best friends. Someone else holds their heart. Someone else gets them better. Someone else inspires them more. Marry your best friend and cultivate your friendship so that you remain best friends.

If you are not ready to stop competing with the Joneses…. don’t get married. Let the Joneses buy their yatch when you are still walking, and enjoy the walk. Your journeys are different. They may have to cross the oceans but you may be going through the road route. A boat might not do you any good on your journey. You must be ready to pace yourselves: stop competing, stop spending your future before you get there, stop the debt, stop trying to impress people. You must be able to be content. To enjoy your journey without deciding your happiness simply by measuring your progress against other people.

If you are not ready to be an open book. To tell the whole story of your past, deal with the memories, expose the failures and risk rejection…. don’t get married. It is fraud to have someone sign off their life to you without the full details. The past is a touchy and demanding friend. It always shows up in the marriage. It doesn’t enjoy being ignored and the more you snob, the bolder it becomes and the more tantrums it throws. It will mess up the “neat” and “all together lovely” image that you are struggling to maintain.

If you are not ready to let go of your philandering and wild oats farming…. don’t get married. Don’t take somebody’s son or daughter and subject them to your germs, your indiscretions and your chips fungaz. It never ends well. It’s romanticized in the movies, it’s being fronted as the only “realistic” way to stay married and keep the fire burning. But truth be told, the only thing that the fire will burn will be you, your spouse and your children. That family will burn for generations in bitterness, disease, fear, failure, hatred, broken hearts, broken dreams and conniving.

Finally, if you are not ready to let go of the adrenalin rush ofa risque life and to settle down…. don’t get married. The great Colombus [who we were told "discovered" America, Have you ever wondered if the Native Indians who were in it, knew that it existed :-) ] had a diary that was long sought for. People wanted to read about the wild journeys, the sea tempest, the reckless pirates they fought, the death and the danger they must have encountered. When it was found, there was great disappointment. Majority of the pages simply had 5 words: “This day, we sailed on.”.
I pray this helps someone. Remember singles, YOU HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF CHOICE. Never let anyone pressure you into marriage. You are either ready or you’re not: You decide!. But please don’t marry somebody and then punish them to live with your childish ways for the rest of their lives :-) . A childish baby is cute but a childish adult is extremely frustrating.

Marriage is for the mature and in many ways, we the married, are still being confronted with the demand to grow up day by day. If you are not ready for that demand, don’t get married!!!!

Barikiweni.- Author Judy Karanja

What about sex? If you are not ready to have regular sex dont get married too

Una be fool: Wife for sure nah because you will need to maintain her children as well. You maintain girlfriends at your own will. In most cases, nah the babe go de maintain you sef daz for the kind hearted once and not the once expecting golden pants as her birthday gift

I agree. Wives are the costliest to maintain but they have the best ROI (Return on Investment). The kids growing up to provide a legacy in itself is worth triple the investment alone.

onila: guys can u date a girl that cant cook

Can she cook the basics? Does she know about food nutrition? If no to both questions the there migt be problems with bringing up kids. She would need help or training to be capable to handle that aspect of things. Other than that yes I can.

[quote author=caezar]I completely agree. However, I would add, that the omnipotency can never really be appropriately defined within the context of our universe. Any definition would be inadequate if it presupposes notions based on physical laws defined within our universe.

Furthermore, I posit that the conceptual black box, modelled after Schroedinger's, in which God operates, is even murkier and more sophisticated than Schroedinger's. This box has the ability to breakdown the state of our reality at its will as opposed to Schroedinger's which exists in a fixed, though unmeasurable, state. In Schroedinger's box, there is a fixed reality, but our observation of that reality is inconclusive and so we are forced to make two equally possible but contradictory conclusions until the box is opened and our observation conclusive. In God's black box however, the black box behaves with a will of its own able to alter reality itself and without the strictures of the physical laws of our universe. Who knows..? Perhaps, in this murkier, more sophisticated box, the two states may in fact coexist... [/qu

So to summarise

1. Omnipotency is beyond our comprehension but without drawing difficult to prove theorems, the paradoxes against true omnipotency make it limited
2. The theorem of dual existence of paradoxes as in Schrodingers cat theorem are still based on limits and do not really express an unlimited system.
3. Of course even if it was possible to have a method for God to bypass the paradoxes listed as limits to omnipotency that would only lead to another set of paradoxes.
4. We can define omnipotency in context of our universe as we know more about our universe than we do about God. It would be easier to draw conclusions as to the possibility of an omnipotent entity in our universe than the reverse (finding ways to prove omnipotence and bypass paradoxes without any real evidence etc. Until we have more knowledge on multiverses etc we cannot make assumptions.

Benito69: Let me give you a logical answer;
Using the rules of logic,
It is possible for the Almighty to create a rock He can't move, this is seen in the immutability of His word in the scriptures that can't be changed.
However it is not that He can't do it, but wherein lies the logic of performing such an action?.
Omnipotence is not debunked dear friends, but the Logical Nature of God is thus proved.
In the fact that He will not act, in an illogical manner. (this also applies to His word which He can't change, He thus acts logically in accordance to the word He has spoken).
You have failed to debunk the Omnipotence of God, but have succeeded in showing that God acts in a logical manner.

Really? Thats your answer? Ok. So can God destroy himself. Also, bear in mind the understanding that intent is irrelevant in such an argument. Can you really speak for God in such matters?

Benito69: He is not the same, the God of the Jews and Christians (He is Jehovah) is different from Allah. I give an example from the Bible; Jesus Christ makes mention that He is the way, the truth and the life, no one comes to the Father except through him...that approach alone shows the major difference.
*All religions don't lead to God, just like not all roads lead to your house.

The Jews dont believe in Christ. Does that mean they are worshipping a different god.

TrueSeeker: I think this is a recycle of Old Topic. Old Nairalanders will know that we have discuss this in the past. In nutshell Allah is not the same with Jehovah. Jehovah is the Most High God the creator of heavens and earth, known by Hebrews, Jews and Christians in the Bible. Jehovah was never mentioned once in the Muslim Quran even though the Hebrews, Jews and Christians have all existed and know Jehovah/Yahweh before the advent of Quran. History has it that [b]Allah was a moon tribal god [/b]in Arab, and Muhammed propagate him and made Allah to overthrow all others Arab gods and became the only god for all Muslims community.

Dont muslims refer to Allah as the God of Jesus amd Abraham? Who else can they be referring too.

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I was about to mention Schrodingers cat myself. Schrodingers cat allows for the belief ina system whereby two dependent factors can coexist hypothetically as long as we are unable to identify the states of both.

The summary of Schrodingers cat is that although it is believed that either the cat or vial of cyanide exist, both can exist only when you do not know the contents of the box. Once the box is opened it is clear that only one can exist. It is also clear that there sre limits to the belief of the dual existence of both: any noise within the box is an indication that the cat is alive, a vial smashing noise is an indication of the vial being broken etc.

The better we can monitor the box the better knowledge we have of the state of the contents. This is true with the omnipotency of God. The omnipotency is not a true omnipotency but a perceoved omnipotency with limits we have not yetndefined. The paradoxes guide us to a better understanding that the two states within the paradox can never coexist.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]You still left. . .
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The idea is to leave but get closure first and also ensure there are no mix ups. Also, a chance to come clean might allow her the opportunity to spill all her dirty deeds.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Did you leave afterwards?
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One was genuine (she was cheating), the other wasn't. I left after I got confirmation of the cheating and the whole picture/extent.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Do you really trust yourself to remain calm under such circumstances and public embarassment, to the extent of demanding and giving ear to an explanation right there and then?
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Yes I do. I have been in that situation before.... Or something similar

sexkillz: [color=#000030]In the end, we leave. But the the difference is that while i will leave immediately, you will still waste some precious time demanding an explanation you obviously do not need, after which you still leave. . .

I am allergic to bullshit!
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True. But I always believe in giving people a chance to explain themselves. A few minutes wasted is no big deal.

BINGBAGBO1: and if it is real, just what is wrong is it?
how is it satanic?
do money ritualists die early?
and how do atheists reconcile ritual money with their belief of freethinking??

please help me.

Give me an example of ritual money.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]I'll quietly get up and leave. . .
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Quietly

I would ask her quietly to level with me. I would hive her a chance to come out with the truth, then leave.

lola.luv:
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Relationships shouldn't be all about humping, y'know.

They shouldn't, but it is highly recommended .

Why start down that path if you are only going to turn around and abandon it midway? Also, the dude has a valid right to request adequate information as to why she made this decision. I know why she made the decision.

freecocoa: Oboy na wa o,is this how much 5ex now matters to people who are not even married?only two people on this thread has commended the girl for wanting a new life,so its now wrong to want to be morally upright?hmm odikwa risky.

Why didn't she just end it with the guy and then become morally upright. And when did not having sex become morally upright? Also, don't you think it is somewhat sinister the way she just changed her sexual interest? She cannot even provide a valid reason for it.

lola.luv:
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Does it mean she has to continue collecting the D, just because she ain't a V no more?
Abegi!

Coco IMHO, she has the right lock down the P till further notice. It is hers to do as she wishes as long as she is not married to him.

@Idowu
hum! You don comot from 'that' section??y

So why wouldn't she want the D? Also, if she doesn't want the D then shouldn't she stop dating him and look for someone else who can give her the D the way she likes it.... Or who is ready to wait.

E_monkey: Matthew 6v 19-23
A rich man shall hardly enter into the kingdom of heaven.
1 Timothy 6:10
The love of money is the root of all evil
Luke 12v15
Be on your guard against all kinds of greed. A man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.
And so on and so forth, from the Bible. Not one verse in the Bible states that Christians need more money and possessions should be valued. It teaches instead to be content with what you have. It's your Bible afterall.
How can this prosperity Gospel thing still be so confusing to Christians?

Wealth is also a social construct so how can Godmbless people with wealth

Omo Alata: If you work at the pepe
You eat at the pepe

Not sure what you mean?

slimyem: Lol
you can't have a relationship with sex as an important ingredient and then make a sudden selfish decision to break the transmission just like that...
Only a few men would agree to such terms....
She has to pick the choice that's most important to her in this case..
Her innerman or her physical man?
Chances that she'd have both are slim!

What does innerman mean?

Idowuogbo: Na cocoa get thread? Impossicant!
Wetin d gal chop? Who does dat? She has no say. U don't go yanshing and decide to put a stop to it all of a sudden expecting d other party to accept ur stance jus like dat! Abegii... Get real jare. If na u nko? U and ur guy dey run collabo steady, all of a sudden d koboko press pause for no good reason.wetin u go think? It's eida he ain't filling u anymore or bros don turn GAY. Get real!

Exactly. So under what circumstances can a woman withdraw sex from her man and to what end?

Is she expecting him to look or elsewhere or become celibate?

The OP: Even as humans there are some things we can do but will not do.

I can kill myself but will not.

Boko Haram suicide bombers is a clear indication that humans can kill themselves.

If i kidnapped you, your siblings, your wife and kids and all dear to you, informed you that i would kill you and all you love but would spare all you love if you killed yourself. There is a high possibility that you would kill yourself.

However God cannot destroy Himself. Even if He wanted to... Or it would mean that God is not Eternal, Immortal and Omnipotent.

thehomer: What do you expect? Jesus was said to have commandeered some animal for his triumphant entry. Maybe these days, due to regulations and proper checking, it isn't so easy to commandeer transports so the pastors have to buy theirs which must be the most expensive unused one available.

Christ did not live in wealthy splendour. These men of God truly take wealth to extemes. Was it not Christ that quoted that it would ne easier for a camels head to pass through the eye of a needle than for a wealthy person to make the kingdom of heaven. The wealth of these pastors puts the scripture or gospel to shame.

The OP: Perhaps God can do all you have said but will NOT.

If God can do it.. How?

How can God create a greater being than himself? Or destroy himself?

The OP: In fact i suggest its time For christians to comeout and disown the God of the old testament.

You see there are a lot more similarity between Allah of the muslims and Yahwah of the Old testament than Btw jesus and Jehovah.

So which of the Abrahamic faiths is the right way to worship God?

E_monkey: I still don't understand how, but don't worry about it.

Neither do I. There can only be one way to worship God. So which of the 3 Abrahamic faiths are correct

Nope. It is not nigh

They are not devoid of sense. Religion is a powerful drug that allows people to believe and acknowledge anything as long as they tie it in to their religious beliefs. I have seen some of the most ridiculous arguments to support the worst things highligted in most religions.

eyenCalabar: @the bolded part especially: where do you based such assertion from? Haven't heard that before! And if that's true, do they come wearing the same face and in the same environment? If no, how do they then pay these debts to the one the indebted to?

And how can they pay a debt they know nothing about.

E_monkey: I am not sure I get what you mean Atheist. I don't see how Christians would think Muhammed is not from God but would think Muslims worship God. Muhammed was the one that officially introduced and taught Islam to the Muslims, its practises and anything regarding the worship involved in Islam.

It is possible. Not every Christian believes in Catholicism but all Christians believe in Christ. The same way all 3 Abrahamic faiths believe in God but worship and believe in different prophets etc. To clarify the Muslims also believe Jesus is the messiah... So omly the Jews reject the Christ doctrine.