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Sing him this song from Whitney Houston

I Will Always Love You

If I should stay I would only be in your way
so I'll go
but I know I'll think of you every step of the way
And I will always love you will always love you
You my darling you bitter sweet memories
That is all I am taking with me so
Good-bye
please don't cry we both know
I'm not what you you need

And I will always love you will always love you
I hope life treats you kind and
I hope you have all you dreamed of
And I wish you joy and happiness but above all of this
I wish you love and I will always love you
Will always love you I will always love you

If you/your wife have not been to Ghana before i bet you will be happy going there for your honeymoon. If you have that much to spare i dont see why you should have d hm anywhere in Nigeria. I've been on a week holiday in Ghana and i can assure you with that amount you both will have swell time there. Happy married life in advance.

idupaul:
is there really that much sense in what u have written here.

I didnt see any.

JustGood:
Definitely not from nairaland

WHY?

Thanks pilgrim for being your brother's keeper, please let us remember them in our prayers

Any mugu now or then?

DeepZone:
When we were growing up we promised that we were going to get married to one woman.

Do you think it is possible to share the same wife?

Yes it would have been possible because we got a lot of girls, who agreed to do that, but their parents didn’t agree and our mother objected to it.

Jesus Christ of Nazareth! lots of girls agreed to be married to two men? Is this a joke?

Christians Burnt Alive in India; A Crucifixion Parade
Swami Laxmananda  Saraswat was a senior leader in the VHP, a movement  organized in 1964 to organize and preserve the Hindu world from Communism, Islam and Christianity.  In 1992 they demolished the Babri Mosque.  Muslim mobs rioted and over 900 people were killed across the country.  In 2002 there were more riots and some 2000 were killed in what came to be called the  Gujarat violence.  Mobs attacked Christians in December 2007, burning shops and churches forcing 700 Indian Christians to flee.

On August 23, the Swami and four associates were found murdered in their monastery.  The police suspected the Communists Maoists who later took responsibility for the murder.

In a horrifying display of week-long violence in Orissa,  believing the Christians were to blame mobs went on a horrifying rampage of murder and arson, a "religious cleansing" as it were.

26 people killed in week-long violence in Orissa although the real death toll may be as close to 100 as more butchered bodies are found. Some 4000 Christian homes, churches and convents were burned by Hindu fanatics.    One twenty-year old Christian girl Rajini escaped from the flames only to be tied up and thrown back in the fire.



One pregnant woman who refused to denounce her faith in Christ was cut into pieces before her husband and other Christians.

A Catholic nun was burnt alive and another nun was gang-raped by Hindu fundamentalists.

One priest who escaped describes his ordeal
They had poured kerosene on my head, and one held a matchbox in his hands to light the fire. But thanks to divine providence, in the end, they did not do that. Otherwise, I would not have been there to tell this horror,"
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"They vandalized everything and set it on fire. It has been reduced to ashes," he added.
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"They began our crucifixion parade," said Father Chellen. The gang of about 50 armed Hindus "beat us up and led us like culprits along the road" to the burned pastoral center.

"There they tore my shirt and started pulling off the clothes of the nun. When I protested, they beat me hard with iron rods. Later, they took the sister inside (and) raped her while they went on kicking and teasing me, forcing (me) to say vulgar words," said the priest who has cuts, bruises and swollen tissue all over his body and stitches on his face.

"Later both of us, half-naked, were taken to the street, and they ordered me to have sex with the nun in public, saying nuns and priests do it. As I refused, they went on beating me and dragged us to the nearby government office. Sadly, a dozen policemen were watching all this," he said.

Angry at his plea to the police for help, the mob beat the bleeding priest again.

Today, there is an almost complete collapse of the police force and the Orissa violence forces  60,000 Christians to take refuge in the forests.


The blog Orissa Burning is keeping witness to the ongoing torture and murder of Christians in Orissa and doing a fine job of keeping us informed.

What is at the bottom of all this outrage against Christians? An Indian archbishop says the Christians' offense is fighting against slavery -
the work that Christians in Orissa are carrying out on behalf of the tribals and the Dalits, at the very bottom of the caste system:

"Before, they were like slaves. Now, some of them study in our schools, start businesses in the villages, demand their rights. And those who – even in the India of the economic boom – want to keep intact the old division into castes are afraid that they will gain too much power. Orissa today is a laboratory. What is at stake is the future of millions of Dalits and tribals living all over the country."

http://www.estatevaults.com/lm/archives/2008/09/

[quote ]In analyzing situation and events, I always try to be as objective as possible. This is not just about the news that was aired, but rather on several confidential stories that Channels TV had aired in past times. This very unfortunate and it shows the level of civilization in the country called Nigeria.
This is definitely not the first time a media house will be shut by the so called SSS (state suppressing service). A magazine company was invaded last month by SSS just because a story was published about Yar a dua’s wife, Turaya (abi wetin den they call am?) and the staffs of the company were beaten seriously. Are we still in the military era where we cannot speak freely?
Although, I feel channels TV should have confirmed the news, but from who? The information was gotten from a supposed reliable source, so why do they have to confirm?
If channels could be sanctioned for airing false news, then what is the [b]information minister still doing in the cabinet if he could lie to the whole world that your president went for lesser Hajj in the hospital?[/b]Nigeria is a crap and very annoying.
[quote][/quote]sank you bery much

rotflmao

Simple. Go to Nigerian embassy in Germany, pick up an application form for Nigerian visa, submit it with all the documents required (these are stated in d application form), submit it with the visa fee. Simple as that.

In the country where i live it is not a waste of money, you simply have to have everything insured, its compulsory. Like you cant get a mortgage without having an insurance company to insure you and if your car is not insured and you are caught you will be punished for it. Has all the advantages you can think of but how it works in African countries i do not know. My friend's car was stolen and she was given a car to drive for 10 days the next day and within the 10 days his cheque was ready, the cost of the car. On the other hand my neigbour back home had his car stolen at gun point in January and the claim was still being processed as at the last time i spoke to him a month ago, so it depends.

@ poster why do u bother yourself with what you consider another person's problem? Has anyone complained to you or what exactly is d pain in yr a*s over dis?

JustGood:
simibrasil, I suspect this is one of the reasons you're unlikely to ever be successful in marriage. You're have that attitude that is not conpatible with a successful marriage. This is fine as long as you're willing to stay single and enjoy your life that way. But stop desperately seeking Nigeria men to turn to mumu because if they are mumu for a period, they'll open their eyes at one point and that's the end of your relationship

Shinatu, I raise my kids to have respect for ladies but not to become fools for women in this age when women do what they like and get away with it

My wife accepts me as the head of the family and I love her as my wife, friend, companion and mother of my children and she knows that I wont let her control me. That's why we have been married all these years and it was a quality I saw in her when I decided I would like to marry her.

Its all about women, it doesnt matter when men 'do what they like and get away with it'

JustGood:
If you have never seen where a man is blamed for a failed marriage before, that's quite suprising.

In most cases women are blamed my friend, no one begs a man to stay married to his wife because of the children when the woman is becoming unbearable but everyone begs a frustrated woman to stay put in marriage because of the children. When there is no children in marriage everyone thinks the woman is responsible. How many men do you see going from one revival to the other, from one church to the other because of 'fruit of the womb? check out the number of women during special prayers for those looking for children.
The truth which might be bitter to accept is an African woman will have to at one time or the other take shit to make the marriage work anyone who is not ready to do that at times is not ready for a marriage.
Think of how you will feel if you meet a married woman in an hotel with another man and think of what you will feel if you meet a married man in an hotel with another woman, the woman is to be beheaded straight away while the man is expected to come up with reasons and the wife is expected to forgive and embrace him and also to thank God that at least he came back home, she is also expected to make sure she does everything to make sure the husband does not look outside.

JustGood:
Does it explain why many women here are unmarried, divorced, or single mothers

I am married and happily for that matter but the fact is there are lots of differences in our culture and those of these guys and our culture, even the bible, gives men more liberty. There is no need denying some facts about our culture's influence on some aspects of our lives, just as their own cultures have impact in their lives as well. Our own culture of submitting to our husbands and taking some 'shits' has helped us in lots of ways while their own cultures has also helped them in lots of ways eg high number of

Shinatu:
I really do not know what all this denial is about.
I may not know what happens in Brazil and other parts of the world, but I know what is obtainable in Nigeria.
Do you know what women are presently going through in Nigeria to keep their marriages?
You will not believe the society still does not believe a wife should deny her husband sex for any reason at all, and if the man should just open his mouth and mention he is being denied, everyone condemns the wife
and tells her she is the one 'pushing' her man outside.

I know this does not happen in all homes but when is covers a great percentage would it not be right to generalise?

Who would you tell in Nigeria that since you work and contribute to the upkeep of the home that you expect your husband to help/support cook, clean up, bath the children, the next thing you would hear is that you want to take over the home and turn your husband to a houseboy because you have money.

Please do not tell me this is an Islamic thing, your Church Pastor or Cell leader would probably be the first to make that statement and the sermon on submission begins! and God help you if you leave the marriage.

I am yet to see a situation where a man is blamed for a failed marriage in Nigeria,everyone tells the wife she should have been a little bit more patient!

Sounds more like it.

My age mate well maybe but younger (even 4 a day) NO way

I think its better u put yr contact details here. What if i leave my email addy here and some idiots hyjack it and pretend to be you?. Will be on holiday in Dubai this December pls let me have yr contact so we can get in touch regarding this.

What a loss! a dear wife! Sorry about the loss. Be strong and take solace in the Lord, give your kids all the attention they need now as i suppose they are young kids. I dont know what to say you re only 37 OMG! May God give you strenght to carry on. Please pray to God to give u directions and also speak with marriage counselors, this could be very hard. May God be with you and take care of the kids.

www.justice.ie should be able to answer your questions.

Landis, let me tell you exactly what happened one day when one of my babies was sick at midnight, that was in another man's country where i live (actually not yet allowed to stay then still waiting to be allowed). My baby did not sleep all night and his breathing was somehow not normal, i was new in this country then i didnt know exactly how it works but i knew i could call an ambulance. Early in the morning i called and ambulance and explained his situation, within few minutes an ambulance arrived and we were taken to the hospital. While inside the ambulance my baby was being attended to and when we got to the hospital two nurses were at the enterance of the hospital, they both took them from me (my kids are twins, only one was sick). They treated me like 'sorry u've not slept all night'. I was looking in amazement wondering how come they were so kind when they dont even know me. They asked me to explain what his situation was and i did, one of the nurses was playing with the other twin who was not sick and the doctor was attending to sick one, before you could say jack i placed my head on a table and slept off.

I woke up about an hour later and saw my kid (the one that was not sick) with a nurse playing with him, i noticed his cloth has been changed to a new one and asked what happened the nurse told me with a smile on his face that my baby got sick (threw up) on his cloth so they had to change him and that the sick one 'is over there' on the bed responding to treatment, another male nurse came and said 'mum will you like some toast and tea', i was wondering if i heard him right and he repeated it then i said yes and before i knew it he appeared with a tray that has 4 slices of toast and a cup of tea. I was actually wondering if i was going to wake up to find that i was dreaming, but then it wasnt a dream it was real. We were later discharged and a taxi was called to take us home, a nurse accompnied us because i had two little babies!.

Now i am not a citizen of this country (though ny kids are but the treatment wont be different even if they are not). Now this is a government hospital, Now the governent pays the bill because i was not working then. Now read these two instances and compare and see how great Nigeria is. Who says i should not be a patriotic Nigerian?

Nigeria is a county of the rich by the rich and for the rich. You would have enough story if you spend one day visiting these 'govamenti' hospitals, you will be tempted to pack your things out of that country. Death is nothing to those nurses at all, i think they are happy when people die hence they try as much as possible to make it happen. Sad indeed. but what can the poor do?

I wonder why some people remain married and leave miserable lives all in the name of 'for the sake of the kids'. Its good to have it working but if despite all effort it doesnt work why cant people amicably stay on their own and take care of the children irrespective of who they stay with?
I witnessed a display of madness recently and cant stop wondering why ppl cant think with their heads and do away with this african rubbish that says for the sake of the kids stay married at all cost. I was ashamed to be present when a dispute was being settled for this couple when the husband was threatening to beat the hell out of his wife calling her 'ome ale' (bastard) and all that. This is a quiet and responsible lady, certified chattered accountant with good job and yet every little dispute the man pounces on her and then because of the kids and because her parents will frown at such she will never consider separation. Good luck to those who stay put despite the absence of love but think with your head, when you die of HB pressure life continues.

All u need supermart

Shop n smile supermart

May the Lord God of heaven heal her in Jesus' name.

E ku irole o gbogbo eyin omo kaaro o jiire

thendo:
there is nothing you can do my darling, just be yourself and hope he won't stray, but if he loves you he won't.

I normally hear women blaming themselves when their men stray. The truth is that no amount of beauty or loyalty on your part will prevent your man from looking somewhere else. The thing is men are different from women. Most women would cheat because their partners are not there emotioanlly and all, but Most men will cheat even if you are miss world, great in bed care for them and all but they will steal cheat not because they don't love you, but because they can't help it. Lets just hope your man does not fall in that category.

before you attack me this is just my opinion

The truth and nothing but the TRUTH. U got it right.