₦airaland Forum

sistawoman:
bumping back to the top. I really am interested in the answers to this thread.

By The Way I have asked this before and never really recieved any answers to this.

I knew of one that happened in Nigeria some years back, the guy and his wife could barely afford the basic neccesities of lif, hardship was their second name and then somehow somehow the guy found his way to Germany. On getting there he realised its not that easy and could face deportation if caught so he married a German.
After a while he informed the Nigerian wife he was coming home and sent a jeep and enough money for her to get a decent accomodation, furnish it, put the kids in private school and do one or two things, he then went home and explained exactly the situation to his wife and apologised.
He asked the wife 2 questions and promised to do whateveer she says, she asked if she would take it in good faith, accept the marriage to the German and keep it away form the German wife and they will forever never lack anything money can buy or should he leave the German and stay back and they can continue the poverty where they stopped. The poor woman felt bad but accepted to have him married to the German (probably thinking of her new 'rich' status as against hawking goods before the guy travelled)
The guy brought the German wife later and the wife pretended to be his sister all through their stay.

Unfurtunately no we don't. Its great and quite healthy for the body and soul but then Nigerians we dont take enough and that's for those that take at all, a lot dont even do it at all, lots of my friends cant boast of taking a holiday at anytime except they travel to Nigeria which is not same as taking holiday.

jacq:
So good idea ! but i doubt anyone will be willing to host a nigerian
even here when i see a fellow naija they look at you as if you want to steal their ,

That's not true. I just returned from a holiday where my host was a friend i met online, the hospitality i received was second to none, i could not believe it.

landis:
Good idea but what would be more appropriate is 'meet-up'

There could be selected dates for each month of the year.

Nigerians can 'meet-up' for a weekend in such cities.

So you want to draw-up a time-table for 2009?

Not really what i meant.

Of course yes!

Why cant he when i can wash his?

Ujujoan:
I broke up with my ex because the love we had for each oda expired

lmao

I broke with some because they could not withstand love without sex for more than a few months. I broke up with one because of our religious differences, broke up with one (my first, real, pure, undiluted love) because his mum said we were too young to be in relationship and she doesnt want anyone to disturb his son's education with pregnancy (even though we were not doing that*).
Most importantly i broke up with all my ex because they were not meant to be my husband.

Abojupupa:
@ ayomiful; it looks like people just want to show off with the language, not that they cannot speak only yoruba. Or can we all try and 'speak' yoruba on this thread?

Its not about showing off its about the fact that we were not taught in school with our mother tongue, its absolutely difficult if not impossible to speak plain yoruba without mixing it with english.
For example would it be easier for you to say

ANYTIME TI MO BA DELE LATI OFFICE MAA MAKE SURE PE MO WO BED IMMEDIATELY

or

IGBAKUGBA TI MO BA DELE LATI ILE ISE MAA RI DAJU WIPE MO WO ORI IBUSUN NI OJUESE.

You see what i mean? You can see that anyone will find it easier mixing that statement with english than going straight on yoruba, its not our fault anyway, we've been learning english from our mama's tummy, would have not been the case if we were taught in school in our own language.

To all our muslim brothers and sisters:

Takabal-minna wa minkum, wa-ghafara 'lahu lana walakun. EI'D_MUBARAK.

Exstar:
@ayomifull,
How many of these have you practiced?

Why do i have to tell you that and why the question?

beecrofty:
Ay
Must it be outside naija

Yes because i live outside Naija and besides i don't need a host in Nigeria its my country.

beecrofty:
because i bet you no Nigerian out here is willing to have Fellow Nigerian visit him or her direct from naija, i tell you, been there done that!!!

I am not in Naija.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=178312.msg2884138#msg2884138 date=1222965457]What countries do you intend to visit?[/quote]US and other European countries excluding Ireland and UK.

omega25red:
Surprising you actually put a face behind this story

and surprisingly that pic 4 a Jehova witness

Just wondering if we can have a group of sincere and hospitable Nigerians living outside Nigeria who are willing to exchange visits with one another for holidays. As much as i love taking holidays in countries i have not been to, the fear of having no one there to spend time with, go out with, show one around town and keep one's company keeps me pilling up my holidays. I would love to visit as much countries as i can if i can have sincere people who can host me who can inturn spend their holidays with me as well. Anyone out here?

oti iwo ko ni mo nba soro eniti o wa ni egbe mi nibi ni, se o gbo oun ti mo so fun ni?

Its actually quite hard to speak yoruba without mixing it with english however little.

Sholeyb:
May I suggest that we all start to do something no matter how small. I appreciate the way people feel about the whole situation, but let's be honest no matter how much and how often we complain it cannot change the situation.

Things to consider

Training young children in your area for free
Donating your used clothing, books, shoes etc to local children
Donating raw food stuff to families you know are suffering
Investing money in local traders biz, e.g pepper seller, meat seller etc. I can hear people saying NO WAY, who can I trust. We have to start somewhere
Visiting hospitals and donating baby clothes, paying off a new mother's bill.
Digging a well in our village
Opening a library in our old school
Teaching people to draft a CV and how to conduct themselves at an interview for free.
paying for a child's education that you may not really know but their plight has come to your knowledge
Visit homes where we know that there are disbaled or sick people there just to help them clean, wash clothes etc. Even just visiting and cahtting to them may be all they need.
Donating beds, duvets, story books, body creams( u know that cream you bought that did not suit you and u want to throw away), to shelters for drug addicts. prostitutes, orphaned childern etc
Volunteering to go to the market for a vulnerable adult that lives next to you
Raising money in your office for people who need surgery but cannot afford it.

This christmas is a good one, buy a very nice and useful hamper for that woman that stands in front of your office selling boli or soemone else, it would make their christmas.

So many other things I cannot think of right now.

Imagine a scenario where a driver hits someone because the brakes are bad, if we knew about it before hand and could afford to sort it out and did nothing we are as gulty as the driver. I am not saying encouraging people to be irresponsible, but people we know are genuinley trying but can't make ends meet.

How many of us volunteer our time to our churches, mosques etc.Think about it
I hope this makes sense

Now this makes sense. Brilliant food for thought!

Nigeria go better, abi what else can one say? Happy independence anniversary to all

[quote author=Black_Revo link=topic=176816.msg2876746#msg2876746 date=1222856458]yeah we should celebrate because
1)we are not at war like some other African countries
2)our economy is not in shambles like Zimbabwe
3)There is a general gradual but progressive change(telecoms,investment,banking,entertainment and many more)
4) there is an increase in awareness that we need a change and got to move forward.[/quote]Good one there.

server33:
1 love y'all. Happy Independence day. Am taking 48 bottles of heineken for Nigeria 2day.

For Nigeria abi for yourself?

Is money everything?

No.

Money makes life interesting and makes things go smooth. Money gets you undeserved respect, undeserved love, undeserved prominence and all. Money opens doors.

If you have a poor father its your destiny; if you have a poor father-inlaw its your choice/stupidity

My dear getting married to someone for any reason other than love will put you in a situation worst than living in hell in future. I am not against a non graduate but then with the way you put it you are going to one day find this guy irritating and that will be someting you dont ever want to experience. Stand your ground girl no one is going to be in that marriage with you, follow your heart, marry a man you love and have feeling for irrespective of the tribe or colour. Dont you ever make that mistake of marrying anyone because of pressure, the result is always disastrous. Marry for love pls.

mikesleek:
Western civilisation which is as dangerous as anything has crept in. Permit me to say that lady folks now dress in ways that will always put a man into distress. the other day i was driving around ojuelegba when this lady crossed the front of my car, i really wondered if she borrowed her younger sister trouser. the stuff was to her buttoks and she tied it with a transparent scarf. i could see the whole ass, any man that gets close to such a lady does not want her for keep, it for the content of her pot.

Yes o even 'men of God' they feel am o


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnNl-KkXpYM

Gamine:
I don't have a past.

Just a BRILLIANT future!!

I love that

Fisayo introduced you to Tunde and advised you to date him also told you all his good qualities and gave you reasons why you should date him, now the same guy wants to date you? I hope Tunde has not slept with you if not then you can try it out but if he has i bet this must be a set up. Some guys can do crazy things so think about it very well before you do anything, love alone is not enough.

Because of 'olaju'

dyabman:
the guy go slap am straight.

opuro:
TELL HIM SAY YOU
TESTED POSITIVE OF HIV

no be only goodby na bye bye he go do!

lmao

You are madly in love with each other.

You both find it hard to say bye.

He is 10 years older than you and so irrespective of the love you both share you ended it simply because of 10 years and you are in your late 20s

Is this not funny? Ok o go and look for 29 years old young man but dont come back here to say 'my boyfriend cant buy me sweets and chocolate o' lol

nance:
I love him so much but am not sure of him because of the lies he has been telling me.My boyfriend and i have been 2gether for the past 3years,he already has a child and wit that i still love him. Am not angry that he goes to see the mother of his baby,but the way he took it looks as if he is playing me,he promise 2 have me as his wife,but whenever he goes to see her,he deletes my number from his phone and change her name to my heart,then he will divert his calls,when i confront him,he will tell me that it was the girl who did such,he still sends her love text although he said he will not marry her because she is 8-9 years older than him. Am not against his going to see her but why for heaven sake should he hide things from me?is it that he does not want me again or what? Each time i confront him on this issue, he would tell me not to do anything stupid that he knows what he is doing. for now i don't know what to do because the way he does things to her seems he still loves her.and besides he is my first love and i have never cheat on him ever since i became his lover and he is the only one i have ever had sex with. I still love him but don't trust his words anymore. My dear nairaland please what do u think i should do?should i let him go or continue with the sad relationship?please i need ur advise

why should you be sad in a relationship and continue? Life is too short to leave it in misery my dear. I dont see any respect for you from this guy at all. She is still his heart? Girl think with your head. You dont want to go because he disvirgined you eh? so what?