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Nacoss25:
I bring greetings to you all. I want to make this brief as possible.

I and my wife are married for a year now and since incception of the marriage it looks like the person I married is not the person I dated for two years, now due to series of issues that shows clearly that we are not compatible for marriage, and I have decided to end the marriage.

While the marriage was going on I set up a shop for her and I want to retrieve it from her but my problem is. She is with the shop receipt which I gave her after paying for it.

My name is Mike osundu and my wife name is Theresa though not real name. On the receipt it was written Theresa Mike Osundu.
I want to ask is it possible for my wife to lay claim on the shop.

No insult pls, only matured responds. Thanks

Why must you collect the shop back? Let her have something doing even if you can't reconcile with her. No need to act out of bitterness.

Dazall:
There is this 20yrs old girl dat always flaunt her boyfriend on her status,I told her you see this relationship with this boy, he nor go reach 1 year, she talked and talked that it's a lie,, behold she and the boy dor turn life enemy,

She asked me how did I knew, simple, I was speaking from experience,
(1) red flag, she and the boy were level mate

(2) she is just 20yrs, she never see anything, outside school you see that reason you like your partner, you will see people that has it x5

(3) She and the boy dey wear Supra and long socks, 17-25years old girls are the most confused set of persons on Earth,you don't take them serious because they don't knw what they want

The most important question I asked her then, that made me tell her, your relationship with this 21yr old boy won't work is

Does he know your phone password?? She said they both have understanding, that their phone are their privacy,
Me:: But una Dey Bleep abi?? Una private parts are not private??

When I told her she said am Been negative,

20yrs old girl in school, wey never see anything or enjoyment for life Dey talk about serious relationship

What confuses a 20-25yrs old girl is Options

They are in their prime, breast stand, everything intact, different men they talk to her, everywhere, so she will always have this mindset of, they are many, if you can't stay go, after all, options many, that's the problem, anyhow shall, what do I know,?? Nothing

You nor Dey take 20-25yrs old girl serious, mostly if she is in school, she belong to all of us, But you can choose to be one carrying the problems, but remember, she belong to all of us


Imagine now, as I Dey now, I go come get one serious girlfriend for school, let me laugh at me in advance,. Dey will shook shook her anyhow, na reminant I go collect.

If she is above 25years there is slight tendency she dor Dey get sense, but the school factor go still worry her, but if she Dey below 25years and she is a student, and you are in another state, you are following OUR WIFE.

If you doubt me, tell her in short notice you are coming to visit her in her school, when you get there, tell her you want to see her phone, she won't see it coming, Happy Breakfast in advance

I have said it before and I will say it again, Even if i do blood covenant with you, even if you take bullet for me, No phone password, no relationship, It's as simple as this, Some people will say it doesn't matter I hear you, but you see this generation, unless the person get another phone somewhere else, everything happens in the phone, they will delete messages, we know, they will delete call logs we know, but still, no phone password, No relationship, e get why

All those jobless Delsu, Uniport and Eziobodo Futo boys that have nothing doing, With Michail and two eggs, they will use cutleries while eating OUR WIFE


A friend of mine was making that mistake then, dating below 25 years student in another state university, we made sure he end that joke of a relationship.

What do you think, drop your reactions below

Please just stay single if you cannot bring yourself to trust your partner. Relationship is not by force. You have no business going through another person's phone for any reason whatsoever. If you can't trust them then just go.

MadamVanessa:




When it comes to matured politics, I give it to Anambra state. No beef at all. See all the past governors grace the occasion.

Idiotic uselesssss APC party wanted to take their politics of hate to Anambra, but God shame them. Useless party.

God bless Ndi Anambra

God bless the new governor, Prof. Soludo.

No beef at all. Na im Obiano wife and Bianca Ojukwu dey disgrace themselves with slaps in public ba?

house10s2:
How Do You Respond To These!!! From A Woman You Intend Marrying?

When she says

Your money is our money
my money is my money.


What is your response?

Just run for your life abeg. That is the definition of immaturity and selfishness.

Brytexbaby:
Good morning everyone.

I've been dating this guy for a while now. He's been into tramadol and smoking for a very long time. Over 15years.

We've been friends before now, until late last year when we started dating. I've been making conscious efforts on helping him stop all these acts.

He has improved on quitting smoking, as he only smokes once in a day or twice.

My issues is the tramadol. He takes about 5 tab everyday. He's physically fit and one could barely tell he has that addiction. He can't do anything like reading, writing an exam if he doesn't take this thing. I've tried to help him the best way I can. Yea, I love him, but I cant afford to raise kids in such environment. I might have to take a bow if this persists, but I really wish and want to help him go through this.

What are the side effects of this drug?

How can I help him with this addiction?

Please help!
Thank you

He can't break a tramadol addiction without rehab and medical help. He has probably developed a physical dependence by now. Pls advise him to see a psychiatrist. And if you choose to marry him with this addiction then just know what you're getting yourself into.

People cannot eat three square meals and this one is complaining about clearing his Lamborghini. Lambo gini !!!

Privatepart00:
Good for her brainwashed stupidity

Who is the brainwashed stupid person here? Ignoramus.

Ogbeni2000:
There's a certain argument that you shouldn't marry unless you're financially ready.

When exactly is a man financially ready? Lots of people lose whom they love chasing when they're financially ready.

Please I need matured contribution on this.

When he can afford food, clothing, housing and education for the children that he is planning to have.

SmartPolician:
Western education is evil.

Why not a scholarship in Afghanistan so that Taliban will teach him how to throw bombs?

You are a very ignorant bigot.

Why haven't they all gone on strike?! Yahaya Bello is a thief.

MrBrownJay1:
thats what bombs do... thats what they were intended for.

They're intended for a maternity and children's hospital in your own world abi? Definitely not in the real world.

fortunez1:
Please which country in Europe or Asia can I go for my masters with a budget of #3.5m.

Poland is a good option but you will have to hustle quite a bit to make extra money once you get there.

OluwakemiRN:
I believe anger is part of our daily life either directly or indirectly. At times we get angry at unpleasant situations just to ensure such does not repeat itself.

Here is my experience few days ago.

A client has been on my neck for help but I kept telling him I was busy and so could not just help him. Ideally, there is someone in charge of what he needed help for but the person was not forthcoming but because he felt I could help, he kept disturbing me.

I finally agreed to help, so after I had stressed myself to get what he wanted , I discovered he didn't even have the complete requirements to make the whole thing work out. I immediately expressed my dissappointment angrily and left to look for an alternative so that my effort won't be in vain. After doing a lot of searching, I finally got an alternative..

He actually felt bad and almost fainted that I even became sacred and had to apologise oo.

It was a scary thing to behold....


I don't know if you have ever experienced such, what was your reaction?

Feel free to share.


Just imagine someone disturbing you for job opportunities, and when you finally secured one , you discovered he didn't have the necessary requirements..

Always control your temper, not only at work but everywhere you find yourself. When you're so angry it only takes one second to say or do something negative that you will regret for life.

Drsnives:
Good morning nairaladers, pls pardon my errors.

I met this girl late last year, she's nice, godly and has most of the qualities i want in a wife. i love her, though her dad is late and her mum should be in her late thirties.

Yesterday we were chatting and she was like her dad didn't do the necessary rites on her mum and hence according to tradition i will have to pay her mum's bride price to her family before i will be allowed to start her own (my babe) marriage rites. I just weak cos have never heard of such. Where i won see the money for double bride price?

Pls nairaladers, have any of you come across such ridiculous tradition or she's making it up herself cos i feel like quiting the whole thing.
I just tire. Your opinions are welcomed

Modified: she's from obiaruku in ukuwani local government area of Delta State.

OP if you have the money pls pay it. If you don't have tell the family so. What they're basically asking you to do is to make a honest woman of the girl's mother and help cover her shame. It's a strange tradition but na so e dey be some times.

BKayy:
Looking at this conflict and the previous world wars and colonialism, I am beginning to see sense in why Communist countries used to declare themselves officially atheists

It is quite interesting that Ukrainians are now scared of going to Russia and Belarus that they share history with after making people alien to their history as President and Prime minister.

It will be quite shameful that after Ukraine gave refuge to the Jews in the 2nd World War, their descendants who now occupy the position of President and Prime Minister of Ukraine will not just severe the relationship Ukrainians have with their Russian and Belarusian kinsmen but also spark another World War.

So this conflict is the fault of Ukrainian Jews now abi? Not the fault of the man in Moscow who ordered an attack on a neighboring country which has never attacked his own.

OlodoGraduate:
Hello, bosses.
Just this evening, I received an alert of #120,000 from an unknown person.
It says union transfer.
I really don't know what condition the person would be right now.
Am I to go to my bank to complain or to Union Bank?
Pls, I need helpful replies.

You should have an account manager who you can call or email. Log into you bank app on your phone and see if you can find info for your account manager then contact that person.

FavourWrites:
Please help me Nairalander! Do I have a medical problem? Why do I forget things a lot?

Here’s the thing, I am someone who forgets things a lot. This may not sound like a big deal to you, but this problem is ruining the relationship I have with people.

There’ll be times when my friends would call telling me to do stuff for them, and the next day when we meet and they ask for the feedback, I’ll be there looking stupid because I didn’t remember them calling me at all. This is a problem because most times they think I faking the fact that I failed to remember.

I’ll be nineteen in a few months but I’m seriously worried for myself. I’m the kind of person who buys about three PEN every single day because I always forget where I dropped the last ones.

Don’t get me wrong, I do well in school, I currently have a 4.8 CGPA. The things I’m taught in school always seem to stick in my head, but every other thing doesn’t.

I have lost a lot of valuable friends because of this. Yes! It’s that bad.

There was a time I had a huge quarrel with a toxic friend, we ended up breaking up our friendship. But when the next semester began, I started wondering why she wasn’t talking to me. I tried approaching her but she ignored me.

I didn’t understand her behavior until the day I was flipping through my diary where I read that I had quarreled with her.

Please, I need help! My mum complains a lot about my behavior! Do I have a medical condition?

This problem is so bad that I had to buy a bracelet that connects my phone to my hand because I have lost count of how many times my phone slipped out of my hands.
If not for the sound that my phone makes when it hits the floor, I never would have known that it slipped off my hands.

I can’t write all of the experiences I’ve had, but please I need help! I’m tired of carrying a book Jotter/planner around, and I’m tired of setting an alarm for something small like “TAKE THE CUP BACK TO THE KITCHEN".

HELP ME!

You need to make an appointment to see a psychiatrist as soon as possible. At the very young age of 19 this is no joking matter.

What they're using style to say is that it's not us they're looking for. Nigerians would be more of a liability than a help. If na battle ready American mercenaries now Ukraine go pay them plenty money.

L1TTLE:
I've been dating her for over three months now, first day I saw her I didn't like her or anything, I just did some biz with her, had a short Convo and left, so along the line we got familiar and we exchanged contacts, went on a casual date, then she painted herself as a God fearing girl, who don't want anything with guys, then I asked her how come her relationship status isn't single on fb, she said she put that to deter guys, I was wondering what she's doing with me since I'm also a guy then she gave me a shocker, that immediately she saw me she knew God want us to be a thing.

Honestly I'm not a God guy, I'm not religious at all, but I have good morals, I have been single for long so I decided to give it a go and we started dating.

not long after that she came to my place, and one thing led to the other and we had sex, it was a very foolish mistake I made because we agreed not to indulge, at least for like three months, and barely two weeks into the relationship we had sex, then I started noticing changes, first she became possessive, like she always wants to know what I am doing, who I am with, where I am at, and I hate that, I don't like feeling like someone owns me but she would always throw a tantrum when I point that out.

Things started going bad for me, financially I was failing here and there, it was a clusterfvck, bad luck everywhere, but I didn't think she was the cause because like I said, I'm not religious, I just believed it's just trying times they come and go, but it started shortly after the sex, I'm just stating it because it's significant.

Second, she calls herself a goddess, at first I thought it was this self appraisal thing girls do, I discovered it's not self appraisal at all, her birth name is some kind of deity where she's from, at this point I started wondering what I got myself into like she's all over me, I can't breathe, I sat her down and tried to talk to her that maybe we should breakup, she started crying and guilt tripped me into having sex with her, and since then whenever she comes around it's always sex, like I'm tired of it now, I will resist and she'll do things, touch me in places and I'll be aroused in seconds, for someone who claimed she's not into sex, she's a vixen on bed, I feel like I don't even know her anymore, lastly I have terrible nightmares now, and it's always sexual, that wasn't the case before I met her, right now I can't think of a way to free myself from her shackles, I just want to undo everything, make everybody dey him dey.

You say you're not religious but this is the time to seek God sincerely bro. Cos only God can help you with this mess that you've gotten into.

loosingfaith519:
If I knew, he was a Gambler, the first day I met him and we exchange numbers, I would have blocked him.

My dear sister most people have no clue who they're marrying until several years after marriage. You are even lucky you found out within four months. But the thing is this, marriage is the greatest commitment a person can ever make in this life especially when an innocent child is involved.
It would have been wonderful to know on time before entering the marriage, but now you have entered it you cannot just rush out of it. You must make every possible effort to find a solution first and I pray that God will help you in Jesus name Amen. Pls talk to your parents and ask them for advice.

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

It's only been four months. Move out back to your parent's house first and see if a family intervention can help to sort out this mess.
Worst case scenario you know you can't rely on him for money and never ever put any of your own money into his hands.
You must love some other things about him right? After all you agreed to get married to him.

Bufalatilu:
Ukraine please follow peace with all men

I think you meant to address Russia. Ukrainians were sitting at home Russia came to attack them.

Emmayorejoice:
I needed to withdraw 35k this morning in order to attend to some urgent cash needs and since I didn't want only N1000 notes I decided to enter the banking hall. To avoid issues I arrived before 8 am and was one of the first to be attended to. The cashier paid me with N20k bundle and counted 15k with the counting machine twice and gave me my bundle. I didnt bother to do another count as I saw her use the machine twice. Only for me to get back home and realise I had an extra N32k. I counted and recounted but it was an excess.

Truth be told times could be much better Covid and Buhari did not help matters but as a Christian I know not to keep what is not mine. God knows it could have solved a lot of problems but its best to wait for what is mine so i had to go back to the bank and wait to see the Teller. Looking at her interact with her colleagues one could tell she was not happy.
When it was my turn she asked what kind of transaction I wanted and I just handed her the N32k. The relief and joy on her face could not be hidden. She had already told her colleague beside her that she was short so they both joined in telling me thank you.

As usual some may say I was foolish for returning the money but either a young lady could have lost her job in these terrible times or at least the money would be removed from her salary which is still bad enough.
My only prayer is God should consider this and remember me for good.

God will definitely bless you for your honesty.

Dollywood:
We know they are not winning shit. It's only a matter of time before the whole Kiev will be surrounded by armour tanks and forced to surrender.

It sounds like you're rooting for Putin the new Napoleon Bonaparte. Don't worry his own Waterloo is coming.

Mossadd:
Putin na real niggar he get effective cure for western madness

The only madness here na Putin own. Nobody can fight against the whole world. Im eye go soon clear now.

From what I see in the story the mother was never on admission so she wasn't the responsibility of the hospital. How can you leave a patient with dementia alone even to go and buy drugs? Someone should have been with her at all times.

Freedom2022:
I quite agree bro but let me shock you. In 2019, i was fed up of all this and i visited MFM on Lagos Ibadan express way. I was there for 3 days for the end of the year deliverance program. It was powerful and i believe that i will be free after the program, I was very optimistic and i was really thanking God because i felt something. Do you believe that when i got home after the 3 days prayer, my brother sent me some money (i think about 30k).m In my mind i was like yes this is it, a new life. Not up to 1 hour that i got home, i begin to cough again. Before i could blink i deposited my money into my Forex account and within 1 hour all the money is gone. Then the cycle continued so i begin to wonder in my mind "is it that the deliverance wasnt complete?"

My brother you are definitely operating under a curse. Like you said most likely it's a generational curse that targets people in your family. The Bible says in Proverbs 26:2 that, the curse causeless shall not come. Meaning a curse must have a cause or a reason for it to work in somebody's life. The reason basically is sin. So your deliverance cannot begin until you honestly and sincerely repent of all your sins before God and you confess that Jesus Christ the one who died on the cross for your sins and rose again on the third day that He is now your Lord and Saviour. You can go for deliverance anywhere you choose but until you do these things God will not fight your battle for you. Please take this very seriously cos once you repent and accept Jesus into your life you may not even need to go anywhere again for any prayers. May God be with you.

DoggoneDogg:
Bomb the viking infidels, Mr. Putin!!

China needs to move into Taiwan and Hong Kong.
North Korea needs to move into South Korea.
Iran and Syria need to bomb Israel ASAP.


Since US/NATO wants to be mad

What did NATO do o? Sovereign countries have the right to determine what they want to do.

Mooh247:




The foolish president wants to use his own people as human shield.... I pity Ukrainian



..

The only foolish president here is Putin and he will definitely meet his Waterloo very soon.

engrsyer:
No shaking. Russia has done all his risk analysis before embarking on this war. He knows NATO allies has nukes as well and he has warned them of immediate reprisal if any country misbahaves. Sanctions has no power. Russia also has allies even if it is not up to NATO/West. So Paris should keep quiet and watch the movie. By sunday Zelensky would surrender.

And you think that will be good for you and your family? This move by Putin to invade Ukraine has completely destabilized the world and it will not end there. China will be next and war after war will begin to break out from here. Mark my words Putin has made you and your family less safe as from now.

engrrichie92:
I'm a tech bro, I currently do 1.5M Monthly in Nigeria and I just got a job offer last month in the UK for 4K pounds monthly(after tax)

My guys there be complaining about bills and how hard it is to save and all over there

So, If you were me, which would you pick and why?

Modified: will also like to hear from those in the UK; what do you think guys?...Now that you know how it is over there, what would you advice?

@lalasticlala...please help push to front page for more engagements

Honestly I don't know what you're still waiting for if this your story is true. 4000 pounds a month is a lot of money in the UK. You will live very comfortably on that even after taxes. You should accept it and move immediately.

Trajan:
Hello Nlers,

So, my 7 year old child recently had his British passport mailed to him in Nigeria. He now has a flight to UK coming up.

My question is, will he be allowed to board as he doesn't possess a Nigerian passport? Please, note that I paid the airline for chaperone service.
I would really appreciate answers from immigration guys or frequent travellers.

Thanks all.

He will be allowed to board as long as it's a direct flight to the UK. Coming back to Nigeria is what would require him to either have a Nigerian passport or a valid Nigerian visa in his UK passport.