₦airaland Forum

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May your days be long on earth
This eKIti state royal mad woman who doesnt even have a boyfriend let alone MAN at age 32 IS On nairaland looking for 6pack

cheii this life don spoil finish
smh

chaircover: Ok dear I respect your decision.
Babe and sisi Please & please call a truce, move on and change the topic to something more uplifting . . . .such as Christmas

maclatunji: Babe! Haba! It has not reached this level now. You are not doing anybody including yourself any favour with these vulgar words. Please stop.

maclatunji: This is harsh, cool it please. Sisi might be unduly naive on this thread but no one deserves that comment especially not her.

coogar: you had me in stitches - jeeeeez

i mean, how idiotic can some people be?
whoever said going to hotel is bad? damn - seun should start measuring IQs before giving people NL membership. i would gladly drop my wife off at any hotel if she's meeting other women......going for a social event in a hotel.....attending a friend's birthday/wedding or blah blah blah....

but let her go to a hotel where she's meeting a crooked uncle?

Baby mama: Rule of thumb
Check any woman telling you how she is all that and does not need any man blah blah blah,I am a superwoman blah
Most of the time they don't have a man

No be today persin begin see aboki with bow and arrow
That is just the cold na.ked truth
This subject has absolutely nothing to do with caging women
Any woman that has a man knows to run such a suggestion by her man and any man that loves that woman knows it is an inappropriate suggestion because he is thinking like a man and knows exactly what that other man is capable of doing
Safety from molestation entails being one step ahead of your possible attacker and that also involves preventing being found in vulnerable situations
The incidence of rape in Nigeria is now 84% according to a recent study and people are arguing about a woman taking precautions
I would rather err on the side of over reaction than being naive,you can't unbreak an egg.
It is a better place to be
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Baby mama: Ok it is in a hotel but can the wife go with her husband to pickup the check?
If the answer is no,then forget it.
Thanks Coogar,babe and chaircover for being reasonable in this conversation

maclatunji: Hehehehe... thank you, you have been terrific on this thread! Freedom ko Freetown ni. #Nonsense

Ujujoan: Goodluck caging your wife!

Kobojunkie: Oh blimey!!! I asked you of the attack cases that happened in the hotels. There are stories of women getting attacked, but not ra_ped, in hotels. Do we just assume that BECAUSE @BABE on Nairaland thinks it, then it should be true that chances of rape is higher in hotels?? Come on!! Common sense says to INVESTIGATE to find truth before you continue naw . . .
How do you know the odds are higher? Again, we have an example of a woman who got attacked twice in an office. But so far you have not produced even a single evidence that rapers are higher in hotels yet you continue to spout this, why?
The last statement is illogical, and does not even go along with any of what YOU have been saying, or what I have been saying all this while.

dayokanu: If you have made the decision of going or not going then its already decided. No one is in a better situation to make the decision except you. You know the uncle better, you know the kind of person he is, You know the relationship between you guys. So who would be in a better situation to judge other than you.

If the uncle is a flirt and a drunk, Can you Husband tell you to go in such circumstance? What if the uncle is Pastor Adeboye?

if a woman decides to go or not to go, and I know she is a reasonable person why should I question her judgment

Kobojunkie: WTFrell . . .. how did you know this? Did you talk to her Office attackers to find this out for a fact or are you again JUMPING to conclusions

So, what about the reports of women being attacked(not rap_ed) in hotel rooms? Where would those have had to go to get ra_ped instead??

dayokanu: BABE can you make this judgment and decision yourself on whether to go to a mans hotel room or you need another man to make the judgment for you?

Kobojunkie: But she was attacked her in her own office, and almost rap_ed. She said she was molested in another office.

dayokanu: Why should the husband be the one to allow or "disaalow" the wife ?Cant she use her own sense?

If she assess the situation and see it as risky then she shouldnt go, otherwise let her go.

If you as the husband say she shouldnt go to the hotel because someone might fffucck her, Do you know there are a million other venues she can be fuccked including her office, her car, even your matrimonial bed if she wants to.

We are talking about a grown up woman here not a toddler who doesn't know left from right.

If I have an underaged daughter then I would probably stop her from meeting at that place for that purpose but not a grown ass woman

Kobojunkie: How did you come to this conclusion that offices are safer? By simply thinking it She told you here that she was attacked in an office, but you just want to ignore than because of your pre-conceived ideas of hotels.

What is with the crab-level reasoning here??

Kobojunkie: I can conclude at this point that you don't see even see how warped your own logic has been to this point.

Someone came in here to tell you that she almost got rap_ed in her own office. She also told you she did get molested in an office though, but the @OP never told you anything of the sort happening to the woman in the story, in the hotel. But you adamantly continue to harp on a hotel room being worse? Really? Talk of crab thinking men . . . ]

Kobojunkie: That is an invalid conclusion given we have also established that one can get raped in an office as well, and we have not here established that this meeting will happen in a hotel room.

I don't have a "world is safe" mentality . . .so please stop jumping to stupid assumptions.

Kobojunkie: Here is a newsflash for you. Everyday business deals, meets-ups happen across Nigerian in hotels. If you want to bar yourself from going to hotels because you are afraid you might get ra_ped then that is your lot in life but know this, as we speak, billions of Nigeria's money exchange hands between reputable partners even, in hotels across Nigeria, and no, they do not all happen in hotel rooms. Many hotels have conference rooms, meetings rooms, lobby areas were many of these deals take place.

Now for your Cynthia reference, how many of those cases have you read of in just 2012 alone? Now when you consider the number, divide it by the number of women in Nigeria( say 50 million) what do you get? What does that tell you of the probably of what happened to Cynthia happening to women in general in that country?

I am not the one focusing on being married here. Many of you have put that forth as reason for why she should not go, and all I have done is try to get you all to think how stupid that line of reasoning really is.

When you talk of safety, we have so far established that a woman can be ra_ped even in her own office. I mean we have someone here who did not go to a hotel but to see a client in an office and got molested. So if safety is the issue here, should we then ban women from going out entirely? Heck, we cannot say for sure that if the uncle shows up to her house instead that he would not ra_pe her there if that was his intention. So we could say that for safety reasons, women should be barred from seeing any man that she is not married to, abi?

Essentially the chances of something bad happening to a Nigerian woman anywhere is almost same. She could get raped in a hotel(according to most of you), we know from the experience of the one there that the office is not safe, and bringing the rap_ist home instead would probably not be safer. So, what is the conclusion? That women should not see anyone because Nigeria is unsafe?