olanajim:

@poster,

I understand how it is for a woman with 3 kids to face such a situation. When you look at it from the outside, especially if you are not married, your thought impulse would go with majority that blame her. For marrying him, for staying with and all sorts. I perceived that lady to be a responsible lady who had committed a costly mistake of marrying an uncaring man. We must never add to her pains as she's probably reading this. We must not condemn her anyhow until we understand the complex nature of the problem.

The story goes like this: a man was once madly in love with a lady. Both of them love one another and they had shared secrets together. After many years of wild courtship. The man's parents began urging him to marry. And then, he marry his lover. He know the imperfection of his would be wife, but was hoping that it would be jettisoned in marriage. Then come the big blow. The wife may not be able to conceive again having blocked her womb. The man couldn't swallow the bitter pill. And the love started losing steam. Then, the woman began extra marrital flings again. Caught, argument ensued and it eventually lead to break up. Divorce. Both agreed to part way but to remain friends!

The man met another woman, who is homely and highly domesticated. He know what she wanted. He know her failing. In the name of love, he brainwashed her. Impregnated her and marry her. The joy of finally having a kid overshadowed every other things & they lives together without looking at the signs on the wall.

Raising kids can sometimes make a women blind to other thing. Meanwhile, the man goes out early and come home late. Picks up strange calls that he would not want his wife to know. Their love is not as it used to be. Then the bubble burst. Caught, the man later confessed about his ex. And from there, the woman started observing him and noticed how much she had been neglected.

Sad, pained, she tried to win him back. But it seen the man is past caring, Now she's here

Phock only those who want to phock you and leave the others to be phocked by others-----------you cannot have them all even if you are married to them---------Haba!!!!----------For this short life

mekoyo:

We never pass that stage man. Divorce is now a something we do any how. It occurs especially amongst the american artists. We just have to stop all these mess. Marriage is a sacred thing and so it has to be respected.


@babeelove
What's your advice for her anyway?

moondust:

[b]yeeeeepaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!![/b]GRAND CANYON?!!!!!!
I will need to upgrade to a nuclear warhead then. . . baby you to much o!!!!

Love you Jack Bauer

mekoyo:

Lets get this straight. For me he is not the right man for the lady. He was married then why did he divorce? And they are still communicating?


My dear lady that is not your man please step out of that relationship, he is married already, he's just using you as a partner, whenhe still has feelings for his ex.

Divorce is a sin and it's not for children of God, so therefore that is not your husband.[/b]Just go to God in prayer and let him lead and direct you.

Take care

Who cares if he is married or not---we are past that phase---children are in the picture---should have thought abourrrit before rolling in the haystack---fulfill your earthly obligations before you bring in heavenly ones!   Abeg we no wan hearrrrrrrrrrrrrram!!! [b]Just do it like Nike says!!!

luvlawyer:

@original poster,

where are they based?, erhmmm yes ooo, has alot to do with it.
if in naija its harder to say, but i will say it because it would happen sooner or later
close your eyes, pack your load, find your way this would be considered a no-no with three kids!

(think about all the baggage that would go with that move) inlaws, where do i sart? what about food and work etc, naija economy!

if away, much easier (depending on circumstances)

kai! with 4month old baby

for the time being the baby needs to be strong first and mother needs all the strength and grace she can get.




lol babeelove way to go!!!

linapeace:

: it is very painful is not that women still have tears to shed for guys but he is her man and the father of her kids.not that she can't come out of the marriage but all for the sake of her kids, she doen#t want them to experience a broken home. so don#t just talk like that only married women will understand.

THIS IS BUSINESS-----

moondust:

my size? ever heard of BIG-BEN?

Raincoat no mean say u no go wet your face and your legs o!

moondust:

I swear I no go do am again. . . It musta been dark, because when i stuck it in, i relized it wasnt a hole but a bulge
I still dey throw up for hia

olanajim:

Babeelove,
if you want to know my opinion, I think you have enough pool to draw from.

My sentiment is the tendency to generalise. I don't subscribe to it.

It is not everytime something go wrong in a relationship that a man is at fault. Women know better how to prevent pregnancies.

For instance, only a woman know the time she can conceive. Her ovulation period is exclusively within her knowledge. And it doesn't happen everyday. A man will never know when a woman is ovulating unless the woman tell him.

If she willingly sleep with a man and get pregnant without the man's knowledge, problem arises. The man start thinking of taking responsibility. What can he do?

There is also cases of women getting pregnant delibrately for a man to trap him in marriage.


All these are not to make an excuse for irresponsible men but a clear testimony to the fact that most women are to blame in event of unwanted belle.

By the way Olanajim---have you ever heard of a "condom"?  I prefer---Ribbed "maximum" strength---not that you asked oh! Most Naija dickies no dey survive am so no show!!!!

moondust:

I play safe sista.
I don't skinny dip in murky waters, only in clear springs
hey! I wasnt refering to the other poster because I don't do bone
and of cpourse, whatever flava u want . . .u're my guest

yeah yeah mr wise cracker. . my Bad! but I've got the post modified

I said---------cherry!!!! Now what's your size?-----------reaching for my vanity case

Siena:

And "assumption" is the mother of all cock-ups. If you'd observed the little blue 'm' on my profile, it means "male".
Unless you swing both ways? Time to shake the sh1t out of your peepers, or go for an eye test / reality check.

moondust:

can u blame us sister, that's what them arses was designed for, "mooning". and hey, some people even moon internationally!

hey, lady. let's be realistic here. u can't just dismiss the fact that u can also shag those u do not love. just 4 d fun of it.
You're welcome to fling wit me. _{that is if u fine o}

I actually prefer--------cherry!!!!--its the flavor of the week---------unless you are talking to the "other" poster ---------- !!!

lawyer:

I have a female friend whose in a dilema now. She is engaged but not yet sure she wants to marry her fiancee. She says, he's the best thing to have happened to her in 4 years. She says he's cute, well built, a fox in bed, treats her like a queen and is not obsessive one bit about her mingling with boys or all those nightly male calls. In short, he is her own tom cruise come to life, but he has one vice that pisses her off**** He's a chain smoker*** and her parents and pastor has cautioned her about marrying a smoker. She's really worried because she loves him to death and wants to spend her life with him but the smoking thing is a major turn off for her and he's not ready to quit for no body. What can she do? Nairalanders please help because this jamb question don de tire me for office o!

Other desparate women are waiting to grab the guy oh!  So let the chick make up her mind sharp sharp!!!

Siena:

Hardly a little fling, if the woman gets pregnant!

That's rather flippant of you, "little fling" indeed! What happened to condoms??

I hear it all the time - "I only slept with her once". Remember, once is all it takes.

Siena:

Lol! You ARE back!

moondust:

MBA O!!!!1
Have a little fling and pay 4 it wit the rest of my life
MBA O!!!!!

olanajim:

Rubbish. You have nothing to say. A wiseman don't eat words like kolanut. They speaks their mind without mincing words. Only a person with devillish intent hide is motive from others.

Until you could proof you are clean, people would not take you serious.

Your hutuba is unnecesary. The guy is real and unlike some in the house hiding under annonymity. Check it out. You would not have to insinuate anything.

Abi you think say a no get man for house---I just dey play here oh!!!!  Infact ma hubby na newly initiated naiaraland member for real if you do not know---we just dey take una turn each other on--- he likes it when a talk shit-------not a boring cow like most!!!!! Sick! isn't it?   A say una go tire!!!! he he he he he he he he!!  God bless anonymity---------and God Bless America!!!!

olanajim:

Babelove,
there is no point in acting ignorant. You are intelligent enough to read the line. The frivolity is actually on Mili-Babe you adopted.

Talking about being careless to sleep with a knukle head, the sermon is unnecesary. You need it more than anyone in the forum. Have you ever heard, or caught me romancing? I am real Mili-Babe! Please stop acting.

Uche2nna:

Somebody needs to wake u up from that your dream

lawyer:

God punish the girl and hin wedding! She wan use me catch trips twice abi?

1. Dump me

2. Come follow me chop rice and see the person who i de knack 4 your back before i free you

WAKA ! SHEGE! E no go better for HER MAMA!

debosky:

close to impossible? why?

we just need to behave like adults, not randy little kids and think with the brains in our heads.

That is my policy anyways, you sleep with someone, you bear the consequences, no copping out.

Siena:

I think folk on here are confusing "choice" with "patriotism". They are 2 very different things. If you'd rather be born again as a different race / nationality, it's got absolutely nothing to do with you being proud of what nationality you are now.

As for myself, no. I wouldn't want to be born again as a Nigerian.

acidrop:

hahahaha, lol. hmmmmmmmmmm as 4 me i don't think i will do well as any other race shaooooo

9ja4eva:

I would want to be born again as a Nigerian because God did not bring me to the world as a Nigerian by mistake.

Nigeria for life

chiegemba:

@ toyin tomato; how u dey take monitor person pic sef?

@babee; this kin hurricane nl sef ? i hope say everybody still dey intact nobody miss

doyin13:

Babeelove

You don come back after u quick run comot


I don dey watch the montage of photos wey you dey show us

for a while now.

IMPRESSIVE na the word

chiegemba:

Eya! i b dey feel u well well. so how u come dey now? besides una answer my question though na who begin scatter house as soon as i b turn my back?

chiegemba:

Na wetin dey happen here sef ? _{i leave home comot go church i return now meet house wey don scatter scatter finish?} Na who start this 1 now make una all begin talk now ooooo before . . . . . . . .