Mrperfecto: I will just be brief without writing too much.
We are based we have 4 children, my first child is 13 from my previous relationship, she has become very terrible, she doesn't listen to me or my wife. She tells her that she is not her biological mother and she cannot control her. She had threatened to call the police on my wife telling her if she touch her she will fight her back and call the police. She goes to school and closes at 3.45 her school is 10 mins walk from home, but she is always late for home.
She comes home around 6 sometimes 7pm , as I am writing now every friday she closes at 12.30 but she is still hasn't come back home yet.
I am on my way to work. I start at 6.30pm till 2.30am so I rarely get to see her and she only misbehaving when I am not around. So far we have seized her phone because we had found so many inappropriate messages exchanges between her and boys. We had also removed the TV from her room and her behaviour has gotten worse. She is behaving like she's possessed.
My wife and I are fed up. Even her siblings are tired of her. We want to send her back to Nigeria maybe in a boarding school until she is 18 in order to protect her younger ones. If we keep her and she continues with her terrible behaviour I may beat her badly and we may end up loosing all 4 children to the authorities.
Please what advice will you give to me concerning this issue?
Have you sat her down and talked? You have to do that to see where the issue is coming from. Pr-teens have this common issue, especially girls. It is also possible she misses her mum. Counseling, guidance and showing her love is the issue. Your presence at how when she returns back from school will help douse the issue with her Stepmom.
A country that does not know economic security will learn the hard way like Nigeria is doing now.
Nigeria needs to reach out and learn from countries that have mastered the art of economic control and economic security.
In Nigeria anything goes.
Some even think it is their fundamental right to save up dollars inside Nigeria.
Left to me anyone who is not getting foreign remittances into their domiciliary account, should have any dollars they have stacked up till now, converted at a rate of $1 = N1.
If you have stacked up $20,000 within Nigeria, my government will convert it to N20,000 for you.
It is obvious you have more than enough to be contributing to the economic terrorism that is going on within the country, so we will help you with a conversion tax that will make you love your own Naira.
Na now the government begin wake up that you do not show mercy to wicked Nigerians.
EKPA
Politicians are the ones hoarding dollars. Your president have dollars in excess.
Besides me and my neighbour's two younger sons, the rest guys in the compound smoke all kinds of smokable. I heard they now smoke rat poo. I felt so disappointed in her when I heard her calling her sons smokers and the sons replied mother of smokers.
KingintheNorth: Hi Guys. I am posting for a friend who doesn't want to be named but he seriously needs your advice and possible suggestions on this matter.
He is the only son and has a sister , his father is also still alive .the problem is his mother, she keep borrowing money in hundreds of thousands and expecting the son to repay those loans. She wouldn't even inform him before taking loans, he only gets to know about it when the loan sharks come knocking. He has been paying back loans that have run into millions for the mother for the past 6 years. The painful part is when you ask her what she is using those monies for, she will always say she doesn't know or does not remember. Each time after promising not to take loans anymore ,before you know it she will take another one. The son usually pay her monthly upkeep money so she is not lacking anything.
Right now she is in serious brand new debt and she's running to the son for rescue and he is fed up. He can't abandon the mother and also can't keep paying back loans he doesn't know anything about.
He should not come through for his mother this time around. Let rain fall and sun shine, he should not shift ground.
Maks27: She’s a girl I love very much but our relationship hasn’t gone real far . She told me this of recent with evidence for me to know it’s real and true What do I do? She said I shouldn’t hurt her that things will go well for me I need advice from Matured Nairalanders on this matter
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You think say na tales by moonlight we dey for this hot afternoon?
Been there twice. Second one was a CS. My wife prefers normal delivery, like for my first son. Women body recover quickly than CS. The effect of the drugs taken after CS can last for months.
Nataliace: I'm married for twelve years now and my marriage is blessed with two kids all boys, 11 and 9 respectively. Our marriage was also blessed with peace until I discovered my husband dates girls.
The one that pains me most is dating a neighbor who has been my enemy since we relocated to that settlement. My husband has side chicks too numerous to mention and I tried to talk to him but he refused. I left him and went back to my parents house thinking that will make him change and to come and apologize, to my greatest surprise he didn't make a move of putting things in order.
The worst is that the girl in the neighborhood is now living with him sleeping in our Matrimonial bed doing all the house chores and taking my children to school.
I came back and apologized to my husband but he said it's over between us. I love my husband so much that I can't afford to lose him. What should I have done? I expressed my grief of being hurt but it bounced back negatively.
Please advise me on how to restore my marriage.
Your husband is a stupid man. Take your children with you. He will come back to you.
Persephone1: [i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands
I had to see your reply to the first person that commented and went back to reread the write up. I have discovered that the write up is unintelligent. If in your adult life, you have not seen your modelled type of marriage, then,you are the problem and not men.
Apus: There are even bruises allover her from the pics above, yet smiling. I'm sure she's a Christian. Their God of men would've kept advising her to remain in the physically abusive marriage quoting this and that yet can't stand their own cheating partners for a day.
A Christian should be allowed to leave any marriage that has become physically abusive. Stop pushing these young women to their early graves and leaving their children motherless.
The people who were asking her to leave the marriage aren't Christian,right?
IkpemhiTG: She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.
I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her. How's life in the UK with a single mum?
Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through
If I'm in your shoes,I will let her go alone. How can I get a job like that for myself or wife? To japa dey hungry me so much.
We masses,the masses, are so comfortable with suffered. We don't need to wait for any organised labour before hitting the streets in protests of bad governance. We are always at the worse receiving end because politicians never compromise.
donphilopus: In a unanimous decision, the seven panel of Justices of the Supreme Court affirmed Tinubu's election.
Yes, Atiku and Obi were defeated but the greatest things he's yet to defeat is our sorry state as a nation. He has made things worse. We will always bear the brunt of bad policies. We always compromise but people in government do not compromise.
xin5: As a 47yr old I still patronise prostitutes which I don't see a problem with. I have No kid, no serious relationship. The problem is my mother complaining here and there for me to get married if I don't see my age. My mother has complained to the extend she's embarrassed on my behalf even when I am well established. I know I can't help myself, it's just an addiction I can't stop. I find it so hard to chyke a girl, talk more calling every now and then.. having meaniless discussions and drama all the time.. pestering for sex something I can achieve with just a phone chat with my connect and they will send pictures of multiple variables I can pick from..30k shortime.
The longest relationship have ever had was in 2008 I think 7months. Ever since I was young I focused on pay as you go and this has been eating my finances on a steady which I normally don't see as anything because I am doing quite well for myself. But the pressure to have kids it's getting on me so bad that I wish I can just get a prostitute and impregnate her so that my mother can rest.
Stop the addiction before getting married. If not, your wife will suffer from your own addiction and your marriage will not last.
ISRAEL HAS SLAUGHTERED 4000 PALESTINIANS IN REVENGE. HOW MANY MORE SHOULD THEY SLAUGHTER TO SATISFY YOUR VAMPIRE HEAD, YOU DEMONIC ENTITY. IPOB CANNIBAL.
COLD HEARTED DEVIL.
YOU WILL ANSWER TO THE SUPREME BEING WHEN YOU LEAVE THIS WORLD FOR YOUR WICKEDNESS.
MAY HEAVEN REPAY YOU FOR REVELLING IN THE MASS MURDER OF INNOCENT KIDS.
DEMON.
ANIMAL IN HUMAN SKIN.
YOU ARE A DEVIL WORSHIPPER.
THAT IS WHY THE SIGHT OF INNOCENT CHILDREN BEING TORN TO SHREDS DOES NOTHING TO YOU.
YOU WILL ROT IN HELL FOR YOUR WICKEDNESS AND SUPPORT OF THE MASS MURDER OF INNOCENT CHILDREN.
Weeping up sentiment does nothing to me. The lies the media feed you has made you fat. You derive joy killing other people but when the same is done to you, you start crying. All the killings happening in Nigeria,how much have you cried? It's Gaza that is your problem Remove that log from your eyes.
God1000: Prophecy or not, Innocent Palestinians are dying every minute and it should be stopped.
I've seen a lot of insensitive, sadistic, degrading and dehumanizing comments towards the Palestinians, I don't know why anybody will rejoice and celebrate the death of another human being.
What Hamas did was bad but punishing the entire population is unacceptable
The entire population is shielding Hamas. The legal Palestinian govt is quiet about the illegal operations of Hamas in their territory. Do you how many rockets from Hamas Israel intercepted before the infiltration and killing of innocent Israelis? When you are aware you are a target of enemies surrounding you,you must inflict the maximum injury in time of crisis. That is what Israel is doing.
forgiveness: I actually agree. Naira had more value than won but Korean economy is bigger than Nigeria thus making them more wealthy and richer than Nigeria because they export more products.
But we don't have such products as Korea do. The product of our competitors are even better than ours. Where does that leave us?
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