beekind: I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl. I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself. I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.
Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect. I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.
This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time. My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.
My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?
Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.
Thanks.
There's nothing wrong doing the tests. We do a lot of tests here in Nigeria before most churches allows you to wed in their church. The churches send you to hospitals they choose.
Beautiful Lady Used For Joy Soap Advert In The 80s, Aging Gracefully In those days, people had crush on the joy girl in the video because of her unflinching beauty and this is how she looks now. The pretty young lady that was used for the advert then, has now turned to an healthy looking old woman.
Real Beauty Never Fades.
Watching the video again brought back the 80s feeling. Oh, my country! what happened to you has left a sour taste in our mouth.
officialwdhtv: American returnee in tears after she saw the "2Storey" building her brother built for her after 40years of living in the USA and sending money to him
It happened to me. Cousin sent me some cash and I wanted to do a business with it, make some profit and bank his money again before he needs the cash but I was duped. He sent a car and I was going to pick his girlfriend he asked me to, I get accident for road. Na so motor take get fault. We quarrel tire and today we done settle but things no dey always be d same.
Those without blue tick contribute more than half of his earnings. Let's say they all refused to renew their blue tick fee and continue like everyone else, who go tire?
FreeStuffsNG: They stay but no blue tick. Blue tick will now come with special benefits unlike before. LeBron James and co want it free but at the expense of Musk who got a bank loan to buy and run twitter. That is what is not reasonable and fair.
Did Elon Musk buy twitter because of blue tick? I want to believe the bulk of the people without the tick gives him more money.
I've read so many comments but I want to point out this. Right from the onset, Hakimi is very clear how white women behave in divorce cases. He hates that part of their culture and doesn't want that to erode his African and Muslim values.
Las las, he go still beg him mama to give his ex-wife small thing.
Abi she follow Hakimi get all those many injuries wey she wan take half of the man wealth?
I'm eager to know if its wrong to confront a pastor, because all my life I hate going pastors for anything, something happened on Monday, I didn't know who else to talk to ....so I went to the alter to pray and met with my pastor, I explained what happened between my husband and I and he settled the matter sweetly . I was so happy to have peace and joy back in my marriage till yesterday (Saturday) pastor called me out of that plenty congregation and told d church everything including what my husband has been hiding for years, he even added more things that didn't even happen to the story😂. I was just quiet and respectful since I wasn't expecting him to behave like that.
He prayed for me and I just left, he started getting angry that I can't even praise for my healing me or dancing round, I was just shocked at everything happening I left to the backyard and later went in again.
Immediately I got home I told my husband how he's image has been tarnished in church for what he didn't do, we had a misunderstanding and pastor said he flogged me (that didn't happen)
Is it wrong to confront him.... Coz I will act like I'm going to testify and correct that wrong impression he said about my husband
Just one time experience with pastor is killing me like this
Yes,.act like you want to give testimony and correct the misconceptions.
I’m happy the world is seeing who and what Tinubu and his hordes of BATstards are.
I know Tinubu Morons will say that it’s not Europe that will tell Nigeria how to govern herself but I want to see how Tinubu’s government will relate with the rest of the world after they have clearly stated that the election that brought him is a sham.
That a car snatcher is able to successfully snatch a car and resell it and eat the proceeds does not remove the fact that he’s a thief.
If Tinubu gets sworn in, he would be so illegitimate that he would always be ashamed to come out.
essentialone: When school fees are not paid, who should be punished?
Student?
Or the Parents?
The idea of punishment students for delayed payment in school fees is wrong. I was beaten severally for this reason. You can only send the student home and not use cane on them as if it's a crime.
Let's vote out APC and PDP to set as a warning to elected government politicians. If we can achieve this, they will start working and respecting the electorates and populace. LP Bleep up, we vote them out. Nigeria will start getting better. This is the only way to put these politicians were they belong, our servants.
azraeljaheel: this country dey on a free fall. feels like nothing is working.
please why is nobody saying about opay.. for like days now you cant do anything with The account. money sent to you wont drop and even if you try sending out The Person wont recieve it..
this thing is really tiring i swaer.. hunger Don nearly kill me
I've been sending with my OPay account and receiving.
Isabi4lov: That's why I love the Muslim thread . You can't write any how comment, they sanitize their posts unlike we Christians accepting all kinds of rubbish from people.
They are not Christians. It will be wonderful for the righteous and terrible for the unrighteous before the White Throne of Judgement. Let them say whatever they like and live as they please, that day there shall be no escape and neither will social media protect anyone.
mariahAngel: I've known this fruit since my childhood, but up till now, I'm still not sure of what the exact name is. Some call it apple, others call it something different, but I want to know its particular name. Even if it's its local name.
Is there a local name for it, or has it no name? Have you ever tasted this fruit?
Tiwaz2: This is APC territory, If You No Wan Vote For APC Go Your House - Thugs threatens voters at a polling unit in Fehintola Giwa Street Aguda, Surulere, Lagos state.
Britishcoins: Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly. I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones... Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem. I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now
Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA. Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then. I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable. The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me.. Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well.. Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.
Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government. She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying... She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years. She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it.. She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working.. I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.
Pls I don't know how to write more.. Which one should I marry?
You have no feelings for the 2nd one. That's all you need to go for the first one. Marry the first one even though she's still in school.
After 8 yrs of hardship of APC govt some youths still support APC. It beats my imagination. Indeed, the number of votes APC gets will show the number of mad people in Nigeria.
Urheadmaster: When Governor, Nyesom Wike is begging for the unity of Nigeria. He automatically means Nigeria can never be united under the control of urchins the Muslims groups of terrorist .
Vote wisely.
Vote for Obi .
Yes o. I will be going to Warri before Saturday to vote Obi. I didn't move my vote because of unscrupulous attitudes of Agbor PDP and APChit.
sync: Dear Nairalanders, I’m in a dilemma and need your advice There’s this friend of mine who out of the blue contacted me last year October asking for a favor to come stay at my place a couple of days since she had an interview in Abuja. I allowed in her without hesitation since I thought it was just going to be a few days. Fortunately, she got the job.
When she got the job in October, she asked me to pls allow her stay for two months before getting her place. My people, it’s been five months already and she’s still not making any moves to get her own place.
The problem really is I am currently jobless. She doesn’t contribute anything to the house. I am responsible for our feeding, gas, electricity, everything! And I do not have money. The little money I have is from my generous elder sister who has been my helper since I lost my job. Weekends she sleeps all through while I clean the house. I also do all the cooking. She doesn’t cook.
I am a light sleeper so I get up at any slight movement. This lady gets up between 3 to 4 times every night to use the restroom thus keeping me awake all through the night. This really has a toll on me. During the day she goes to the restroom between 14 to 16 times. She doesn’t contribute to buy foodstuff but she eats 4 times a day
What have I gotten myself into. Please how do I politely ask her to leave without hurting her feelings and savaging the relationship I use to have with her. I am tired, depressed and jobless!
Make the list, show it to her. Tell her how much she will contribute. If she refuses, tell to pack out. It's simple. She will be assigned house chores. You don't need to look for words that don't offend. You are being offended here.
El-Rufai is talking too much. Whatever Emefiele is doing is as directed by his brother, Buhari. They are leaving Buhari and blaming the messenger. Yeye northern leaders.
Zupay: My cousin's son has been a source of disturbance to me for the past 2 weeks.
The background story.
My cousin got pregnant with him when she was 19 but the father who then in his mid 20s denied the pregnancy in the presence of both families and went on to claim the reason he gave her money to procure an abortion was because he was only one of the guys sleeping with my cousin at the time (which was a blatant lie) and it was his own contribution.
My Uncle and Aunt (my cousin's parents) had to accept the guy's denial and solely took care of my cousin's pregnancy. Her son was born in 2007 and bears my Uncle's name, he was taken care of by his grandparents, uncles and aunts as his mother went back to school and graduated. My cousin got a better paying job in 2015 and moved out of their family house with her son, who is presently in S.S.2.
The biological father resurfaced sometime last year in May, starting to make claims and all. He went directly to the boy's school to introduce himself and starting meeting the boy, buying him things without my cousin's knowledge until the man showed up at my uncle's house with some of his relatives but my uncle didn't receive them.
The boy was becoming rude to his mother, talking back at her, telling her he would push for a change in his surname to that of his biological father, became cold to his grandparents etc To cut long story, he moved to his father's house in August of last year and resumed school from there. My cousin (his mother) was seriously sick in October of last year, this boy never bothered to call on his mother despite knowing of her illness and he has a phone he uses freely.
My cousin (his mother) relocated to the UK early this January, on a skilled worker visa as she works in a children' home and have made up her mind to refocus on getting married and having other kids. Her son has been calling her, which she has never picked also sending her long stories of how his father's wife have been maltreating him even in the presence of his father and the father would say nothing. Pleading with the mother to bring him over to the UK to live with her (her visa allows her to bring her son to the UK easily since he is under 18) but my cousin have not been replying him and this boy has been disturbing me to talk his mother on his behalf as I am very close to my cousin.
I have spoken to my cousin severally and she insisted she has washed off her hands where her son is concerned, that she doesn't want him around her as she needs to live singly and have a relationship that would lead to marriage, that she really wants to settle down.
I have told the boy to concentrate on finishing secondary school but he seems obsessed with wanting to relocate to the UK though my other cousin (his mother's younger brother) has confirmed that the boy is having it rough living with the father, his wife and other children.
I believe his mother has a right to have a new lease of life.
This boy is always messaging me asking for updates, I don't know what else to tell him!
First, the boy has to apologize to the Uncle that raised him. He should go back to them and live. Maybe later in life, he can work his way to UK.
Please I will want you all to read this. though I am not a good writer. I rented an apartment somewhere on the Lagos island. We are just 4 in the compound. When I parked into my apartment my wife came with a pregnancy but we lost the baby when she gave birth to the boy. The following year she got pregnant again, The baby also died the day she gave birth. I am not a religious person but my wife is closer to God. She has been telling me about this compound but I just don't have any reason to think or suspect anything.
Lemme tell you in my compound if one of us is working the others will lose there job. I have no reason to be suspecting anything untill I heard that one of the tenants is owning our landlord 2 years rent and our landlord didn't raise voice. In this Lagos that I know landlord don't joke with house rent. Our landlord don't bother us for rent. Sometimes I will be the one sending the house rent to him without him even asking.
I also heard that was the same thing that happened to previous occupants. They lived there without paying for many years and the landlord didnt disturb them.
I won't say our live is better in this house. We are just struggling to survive. Currently I am the only one working while others don't have a job. I am beginning to doubt if our landlord is truly a generous man as we do called him, since he don't bother us for rent.
My wife have lost two pregnancy in this house. I have been jobless many times in this house. I honestly need people opinion on this matter.
Is this house diabolic or the landlord is just a generous man
Moderators please help me move this to front page
Are you alright? What are you still doing in that compound? The lost of two babies is enough to change environment. Remain there until water pass garri.
Family / Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Bananapill: 7:06pm On May 04, 2023 
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