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sweetcocoa:
I didn't insinuate that, did I?

I'm just saying, his story doesn't add up and you can't say the women are the problem, generally, men have been known to be the violent ones.

Well it scares me dat a woman who is naturally meant to kind and more gentle can have the heart to pour boilin water on anyone not to talk of their family member.

If it was from a man, I won't be surprised.

sweetcocoa:
And you believe this man is totally innocent from that writeup? A woman that's cheating poured water on him for starving her of sex? Please where's the reason in that?

U think the man poured hot water on his own back?

I don't understand it ooo

Bunch of jokers

Why are our women so crazy these days,

U cheat on them they kill u,

U don't sleep with them they burn u,


May God deliver our sons from these evil demons.

[quote author=timilinda post=43476597][/quote]assuming say i no know the difference between thumb and tomb,

why quote me if u wont correct me?

Happy married life sis,

But she need braces to pull her teeth back.

My niece had same issues, becos she sucked her thumb till her teen years.

But it's fixed now.

sorry bro,

but they did the right thing.

that ISI is a trigger, if i saw it i wud have done the same it.

there is no time for political correctness, the threat of ''isis'' is too real.

am sure they will apologise once they realise the mistake

HaneefahRN:
I like and respect ur points. But, I can bet it the woman isn't cheating but the drama dey too much. I just hope those two resolve issues soon, it's the children I pity

Well I don't know if she is or not.

I just hope there is a lesson for all here.

I keep wondering if I wanted to pull that stunt which man wud I use?

Who is the strange man, dat was comfortable enuf to sit in her house. What did she tell him.

For the sake of my sanity let's just assume he was hired for the job.

poik:
Not in any way to excuse what you did.
But there us something called forgiveness. You have apologised and you are repentant. Haba.
Assert your manliness. Which one be all ds one na?

While this woman is busy doing tutu gaga for 6months has she thought of how this man is satisfying his sexual urge?

Before u know it, another person with get pregnant for him. Then the whole of her family and man's family even the pregnant gils family will all beg her to forgive. Then she go forgive na,

I don't think she is the type dat will leave the man if she was she won't be there for 6mths still keeping malice.

edwife:
You know reading comments here made me shake my head.
*sighs*

We live in an unfair world but doesn't mean that we should behave like headless chickens just because someone hurt us.
How many women are held against their will in marriage? How many are forced to stay?

Women should start taking responsibility and stop the blame game.It's nauseating to say the least.
If a man cheats on you by all means LEAVE the marriage! Don't say i forgive him but i will show him.Like seriously?
I will debase myself and body because a man cheated on me?I will neglect and starve my kids because a man chose to be stu/pid?

Nobody forced your wife to come back,nobody! You pleaded,asked for forgiveness and she should forgive and move on!
Most of you saying if the wife cheated,what would have been the man's reaction? What stops you from acting like him? What stops you from leaving? How bringing a man home where your kids live or neglect your kids will make your husband faithful? This only happens when a woman rely and live for a man,otherwise she would have channel her energy on WORK and kids.

Most y'all sin everyday, and keep chanting Christians. Y'all only christian when it's time for God to do a favour and you can confess evn the sin you are yet to commit.Beg for forgiveness but forget easily to do same.How many of you turn to thieves when someone steal from you?
A well brought up woman will warn her husband sternly and let him know that the next mess up from him,she's gone.What she is doing is only torturing her,especially if she wasn't like this.Only weaklings change because of someone behaviour.

Adasun it's time to put that house of yours in order. You fu/cked up and that just that.You are remorseful,you repented and she agreed to come home without a gun on her head,tell her that the party is over! If she doesn't want the marriage,she can leave peacefully.

Women ask for equality but refused to take responsibility for their short comings.A strong woman of character will leave and if she decides to comeback and forgive,she needs to make the husband understand that she will leave next time he is caught in as much flirting with an opposite sex.She will concentrate on her kids and JOB while still be a good wife.Cheating is on the person who cheats and i don't see why i will cheat just because "my husband" cheated. The same society y'all trying to fight everyday is the same society you give power to.Who is fooling who?

Before you embark on a journey of revenge dig two graves

Aunty edwife welcome to the party

Babes dey vex oo, Revenge cheating

Me will let another man even give me a romantic hug not to talk of the other stuff becos my husband cheated?

Unless my husbands head is inside my thing we d guy thing fit burst then I might consider

And wen the issue is settled the bobo starts to feel used , getting rid of him becomes a problem. Just too messy.

obstead200:
My dear, u are in Africa. In this society, the men are superior. We did not form the rules. We just came into this world to meet it like that.
Cheating is bad. But our society, being polygamous by nature, will be more forgiving of a cheating man than a cheating woman. That is Africa for u.

To answer ur question. Of course I won't easily forgive my wife for cheating. That is why we are Africans. We expect our wives to respect us by remaining loyal in all circumstances. But we should all try not to use that fact as an excuse to make her unhappy.

And if she is smart, she go just jeje settle this issue now,

Becos watever she does now , she is bleeped.

If they divorce pple will ask Wat happened. D man will keep saying she brought a man to our home.

Next thing gossips will take over, and start saying, the man left her be cos he caught her naked in their matrimonial bed with another man.

Her side of the story will never be told correctly.

We all wan to act oyibo, if any of these ladies took their mums advice they won't saying all this.

egobetatoday:
madam, so because a 24 yr old is in her FORMER matrimonial house the divorced ladies life has ended? Even if she decides not to remarry to remain alone, i dont consider her not to be enjoying her life. people like u are the reason men think they can just dash u sorry after cheating because they know you cant DO ANYTHING. I dont see why a divorced lady /man should bother what is happening in the other person's house. well, different strokes for different folks.

My point remains we need to use wisdom as women so we don't make things worse.

How has this situation helped her, the husband or the kids.

Just like this guy, the man begged for over a year , same house separate bedrooms, no family time anymore, kids disorganised, no family holiday or outings. They were just there torturing each other. Over Wat,? The man see denied swore on his life, but some frdz were pumping her. I talked and talked. All I was saying is its getting too long, Wat kind of anger stays with someone for a whole year??

Wat if she has forgiven him, but take away some privileges , make him feel the pinch. By now all wud be a distant memory.

The effect of that divorce in those kids lives is yet to be seen.

egobetatoday:
The problem is that some women feel worthless. Cant imagine how are woman will say ' which day she start to dey fly'? After your husband has cheated on u? i just pith some ladies...no self worth at all.

No u have it all wrong.

Let me be clear.

Only two things will make me bring a man friend to my matrimonial home.

MENTAL ILLNESS OR WITCHCRAFT both of which I don't have.

All the other punishment the woman dished out excluding starving the kids, I will happily dish out too.

Omonigeriarere:
God please where is Your face? Please give me a peaceful and matured woman like this when the time comes ooooo.

Amen ooooo

But don't cheat oo,

Omonigeriarere:
God bless you: I think say na only me dey think am oooo

And to think some ladies think this is OK, scares me d most.

I am no foot mat for my husband. Am lucky to have such a gentle and peaceful man. But if he wasn't and was the randy type, shey me go becos of am go dey fool my self with another man?

How does she think this stranger in the living room views her. He might be acting all nice , saying I feel ur pain, if I was married to a beautiful woman like u I will never do such blah blahave blah.

But in his mind he is probably thinking Wat a useless woman, u bring me to ur matrimonial, to do Wat?

But he want's to be the knight in shining armour, so will he pretend.

Folks need a mind reset.

Joy1706:
If you like don't train them well. If u like teach them that a man that is not weak is one who cheats on his wife and she dares not complain. Their wives may not be like you who will sit down as a tenant in her husband's house and chop poo. Their wives may be worse than this one o. Better train them well. Don't just run ur mouth here

Good morning to u too,

How was ur night?

I am training them and they are learning a lot from their dad's behaviour too, children learn wit action and not just talk.

U seem to take me for someone who tolerates bull shit,
Am not ooo.
Am as hot as they come but am not stupid.

When I first started reading the post I was laughing and thinking u go girl, show him pepper. I didn't even want to comment.

But wen I saw man, in our house introduced me as cousin . I cudnt help My self. She over stepped the mark. Two wrongs will never make a right.

They shud apologise to him too.

lexiconkabir:
Aunty, thats not the point here, i support everything she is doing, where i have reservations with her is starving her kids and bringing a man into the house, haba! you on the otherhand supports everything she is doing, so i'm now asking you, can you starve your kids just for the reason of getting back at your husband?

Dats exactly Wat I said oo, and this joy1706 been acting constipated about it. Haba I fear some women oo

Joy1706:
For some reason I find u quite pitiful. Which one be nollywood here? Something that happens real life. I guess u have tons of experience on cheating husbands. Good 4 u. Not every woman will. Good night to u and ur low self esteem

Dis pikin u no go let me sleep?

Dis is nit my job ur mom shud teach, use style gist her this scenario and see Wat she says.

Just learn from this once u marry other men are out of bound. Simple. If u have issues there are other ways of handling not bringing another man in.

What do guys learn in church?

It this one point we are arguing about sotay, u Don curse me tire. NEVER BRING ANOTHER MAN TO YOUR MATRIMONIAL HOME. just agree it's a no no and Dis argument will be over.

Tolatutu:
oh please that you have low standards does not mean every woman has to. some of us have been married for long and we insist on our value in marriage because we are not doormats and our men know to treat us well. In life you get what you demand for and we wont accept less in the name of Mrs. by force .

I bet u didn't read the full story before jumping on the band wagon.

I repeat[b][/b] " on no account shud a married woman bring a strange man to her matrimonial home and introduce her husband as cousin "[b][/b]

If u are that type, my dear u are no wife.

Say all u want revenge cheating of any type is wrong.

Just to put ur mind at rest, I do not condone cheating in any way.

cheruv:
Sis,you definitely have a man at home
Pls take care of him...its not easy

Tnk u jare,

I sorry for young men of these days,

Have u seen Wat some young girls are saying here.

Shey here na India wey woman dey pay man bride price

And to think I have 3boys, so na did type dem go marry?

My poor babies

Joy1706:
Did he say he caught a man on top of her? On no grounds should a husband cheat, but he did, didn't he?
Why does a woman have to lose cos she's divorced. Sounds like these small NL boys have brainwashed u. Madam abeg I don't have energy this night to deliver u from low self esteem. Carry am dey go like that

for some reason I find ur post quiet funny.

Nollywood no be real life ooo,

U just dey talk theory, experience go teach u .

Oya me and my low self esteem gat to sleep now,.

Gud night.

Kaycee625:
she dey craze ni? To bring a man to your house, thats abomination, if i were you, i would give her a dirty slap in front of the so called man.
If she is tired of being married ahe should go back to her father's house. Rubbish

welcome to civilisation

ladies dont care about abomination any more.

and this op come over cool, a man in his house and he said nothing.

if he reacted dat day this issue would have been settled by now.

grap the man and threaten to kill him right there, the woman will start begging, she no want blood

on her hands na.

but she don weigh her oga know say nothing go happen dats why she did dat

Adasun:
three months keeelets calculate.

Da tym she discovered plus da tym she want away frm my hwz equals 2 months.

When she came back,i thought i have got my wife back bt bros dis month is making da six month.

Wait oo u neva ask me hw i da manage sex yet oo.dat shows dat cheating,had callibate me for six month.


Virgin husband.lols

ha aa

u are in trouble ooo,

u marry who pass u

so 6mths malice? under same roof.

this is exactly wat happened to the lady i wrote about.

for over ayear she and the man lived in the house like room mates.

we all beg and begged she no gree. then she moved out. now the home is broken.

husband went to naija to marry one smallie. she is on her own with 4kids.

anger is a terrible spirit, one shud always make a concious effort to tame it.

i think u shud call her parents and have a neeting, if she cant for then maybe its the end of the road.

so 6mths now u never touch woman?? hope u are not committing on top the on u committed before ooo

dat go too bad.

ok @op here is another suggestion.

tell her u want to marry another woman since she is no longer playng her role , afterall we are africans.

she will jump and start to fight u, shouting not in this house i will kill two of u, from there slot in ur begging tactics.

hug her tight and refuse to leave until she accepts ur apology, while at it remind her of the gud times.

something to melt her heart

Adasun:
who is after ur grammer?u just pass a message to me.


Have u ever being in a situation where it seems u are stranded.



Listen many of them are saying i have pride,i did not tried enough.am foolish and whatever


bt da truth is,i can beat my chest dat i have tried enough.i beg sooteeee i don tire.


What is more worse dan me da man of da hwz



behaving as if am da wife.doing hwz chores to pleas her.

Da fact is dat da more i tried to beg and pleas her da worse it becomes.


Once upon a tym ,i control my hwz bt now am like a puppet.i acepted it just to win my wife back.

Bt to no avail,it's even pissing me off whenever i flash back to c all i have done to make this marriage work.

Look i don't give a cheat anymore is time i get my mojo back.


Almost every sin can be forgiven,and she wouln't because of one sin turn me anyhow.am ready to stand now because i have suffered enough


she should stil knw am da man dis hwz not her. period!!!

nairaland don give bros back bone.

please how long has this issue been going on?

upto three months?

why did i find the roof alittle shocking , i saw it and myheart skipped.

seem unusually higher than am used too. lol

looks good though

VellyG:
Caro white Na hoy cake for akwaibom.. Both male and female the patronize the brand. Lol

In uk too . They hide it , u just whisper to the shop owner and they will go to the back of the shop to get it.

why den no put the name na,

market go kill caro white be dat ooo

Joy1706:
Madam it's not about being married for 20 years. Doesn't mean u have a good marriage. More like 20 years a slave. Hahahahahaha! See ur comment below

"Men of these days are so Weak, so my husband cheated, so I will bring a strange man to his living room?

Or go out and come back late or neglect his kids?

Which day I start to fly? Well with some men u can get away with many things."

You sound like ur in master - house girl relationship. Seems u have a husband who keeps u under control by beating u like a horse. You can take it but other women, I mean other normal women won't. His wife has every right to act out. She's angry and she's been hurt.
I know ur the type of woman whose husband will bring his girlfriends home and you'll serve them food and even excuse urself from ur matrimonial room. Lmao! I pity you o. That one no be marriage abeg.
And the fact that you keep saying HIS HOUSE, HIS LIVING ROOM shows the kind of master -servant marriage ur operating. I guess ur just a tenant. Choi! I pity for some women o. And this one will open her mouth and say she's married. Hahahahahaha! Say hi to your task master aka strong man when he gets back. Lmao! Glorified house geh

U can sun teeth all u want.

Pls define a gud marriage for me.

I won't argue with u. I Dont have a slave master relationship.

My point remains on no grounds should a married woman bring another mam in to her home. It's not done. It's a no no.

Instead of running ur mouth just learn, u don't know it all.

Curse him, fight him, starve him of food and sex, seize his fone BUT Pls Never bring another man to ur home.

Its Friends like u that advised her lady to the kids and leave her husband of 15yrs because he slept wit a girl while he was on holiday in Africa.

The man begged and begged for over a year the woman refused to come back home.

Next thing we know the man cuts divorce papers for the woman, went home and married a 24yr old.

Two months ago the 24yr old arrived and now lives in the ladies matrimonial home. We sometimes see her and the man kids running up and down in the park.
Who lose??

But those frds dat were advising her and feeding her information are still with their husband and we all know way they get upto but they keep a blind eye but can advise rubbish.

Infidelity is wrong on both sides, but revenge cheating is even worse.

Girl grow up and learn.

Joy1706:
Its obvious ur just a glorified maid who thinks herself to be a wife. Your husband must have really done a number on ur self esteem. Your comments disgust me

OK. Until u stay in ur husband house for 20yrs, don't bother to call me names.

And the day ur husband has an affair, u too go out and spread it wide. Na u sabi.

The fact that I don't run to the nearest dic-k makes me a glorified house maid. Try glorified wife, glorified mum, glorified land lady, glorified business woman.

gamaliel121:
I wonder wetin de "sweet" her!!!.......
Wey she dey vex like this...

Lol

Aboki d*ck of course,

Forgive me

Sarang:
She won't because she's a good woman.
Your type are the people that remain in an abusive relationship for marriage namesake.
If my husband cheats on me,heaven knows thats the end.
That woman she has a kind heart and this husband of hers is just poo.

Im surprise to see some women still thinks themselves as nothing in this century.

Me think my self as nothing ? Far from it .

I have a man who adores me and has been doing dat for 20yrs. Treats me the same he treated me wen i was 17. There will always be issues, but one needs widom to handle it.

she has taken it too far. She had my sympathy until she brought a stranger to her matrimonial home.

For me dats a No No. On no account shud dat happen. That type of anger can make her sleep with someone else just to punish her husband . She is very vulnerable at this stage and men love that they will happily take advantage of the situation.

OK, wen all this dies down wat does she tell the stranger?

U live and learn, u dat is acting like untouchable, the day u hear ur husband is cheating on u , divorce him, take the kids and marry another man. Wen dat one cheats divorce him too, add the new kids to old from previous fathers. Search for another. Let's see how far that will take you.