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With the labeling society we now live in, so you want her to go around with that stigma of being an "after one?"

Abortion as they say is not advisable, but if that's gonna save you from embarrassment and unhappiness, then do the best thing for yourself.

The guy is dead, they weren't married and lots of suitors out-there, big decision isn't it? Depending on your level of faith and relationship with God, you might find solace after the abortion. I'm not a fan of abortion, but again, who am i to judge.

Afterall, I've seen lots of "after-one's" getting married to a single guy, but then, not everyone is that lucky.

justwise: She is not 19, this picture proves that even more

You are what age you tell anybody to be. Have you seen a British or American 19 yr old of late? You'd be amazed of their size. Stop drinking panadol for someone else's headache. The age or dob on your passport is your age, who cares if you are less or more?

talina: You are judging ALL parents and children abroad by saying this. Abroad means MANY different countries and MANY different parenting styles. I personally have seen well brought up children and not so well brought up children(abroad). It depends on the parents.

The topic is about naughty kids, so let's talk about the rationale behind their naughtiness.

talina: This is a ridiculous generalization.

Yes it is. The amount of overly protection these kids (abroad) receives is ridiculous and totally bonkers. Eating chicken and chips all day rather than family meal has taken away that family values away from them.

Aside from the political reasons (stigmatization and racism) behind these kids behaviors, the parents themselves aren't any better. Single parenting accounts for most of these behaviors. A family with no fatherly figure always finds it difficult to raise a responsible kid.

From personal experience and lots of research, kids living abroad are not only spoilt but also generally rude.

Nigerian kids (especially those that stays with grandparent) are spoilt brat. However, kids living abroad have negative personality that sees them assume that overbearing and non chalant attitude and behaviour towards their senior or family members.

Kids abroad lack moral upbringing and values. Although they later in life succeed, atttribute goes to the educational system available to them.

Kids abroad gets easily brainwashed and make to believe everything they see or read in the dailies and tv. They disrespect their parents and even call the police on them when punished or dealt with.

justwise: Really? Nothing wrong with calling the poster mothersuckers, ignorant and unintelligent just because the poster narrated his observations?

No No no, you got it all wrong, the word "Mothersuckers" is actually a joke taken from a comedian (Michael Blackson). People on this forum have sense of humor, hence, they did not complain about it. And regarding "ignorant and unintelligent", how does these two words offend you as a person..not minding what the @poster say? And @paris never called @poster Mothersuckers, he was referring to everyone on the forum. There's an s at the end of that word. The word was a complimentary word.

One way or the other, we're all ignorant at some point. What you don't know, you're ignorant of. @paris is right to say that the @poster's comment is unintelligent. @poster made a remark about Nigerians. When someone say "Most Nigerians", automatically, that's an unintelligent statement.

For once I'd like you to admit your wrong and reinstate @paris10 post. You're not being fair if you don't.

paris10: @Mod, where the hell did you put my post? If you have some personal grudge against me, then meet me somewhere and lets settle this once and for all.

What gave you the effrontery, the audacity, the boldness and semi-colon to delete my post. The post wasn't derogatory nor was it offensive. It was educational and eye-opening. I see each time I mention white people, you're quick to defend them or delete the post. Are you ota-aje, do you need a petition to vote you out?

Don't spoil this forum with your poisoned opinion, we know all about BBC and it's agenda.

I read your post, and nothing was wrong with it. I don't see why it should be hidden or removed. The @mod need to sort out his personal thought about you, seems you guys have been fighting for like forever.

dayokanu: Every misfortune must be a spiritual attack.

Thats the mentality of some people

Every misfortune ain't spiritual attack but every misfortune is spiritual; there's always the destiny part to it. What will happen will and everything has been preordained.

I am not a religious person, but I believe in God. I also believe in personality and being independent. When I told my MIL that our decision was a spiritual one, I was just trying not to make it sound too remote. I just needed something to make her reason. It was just a decision we made and which we think was best for us. And to be honest, I never and will never regret that decision.

bettymafy: If my daughter did to me what your wife did to her mum, I will cut her off for a very long time (if not forever). I can only imagin how hurt that woman feels. This is just plain wickedness!!!


Why exactly do u want her to come around now na? Or do u think she can no longer "kill" the baby? She can ooooo, so keep her far away
from your home. Oooohhhh, how can I forget dat even d "kill" chip can be transfered through the wireless medium and can still get ur baby killed . . .I've a better solution. . .why don't u just kill d woman. That way, she won't hurt u and ur family. Father of the year!

How can one's daughter get pregnant for her husband (not boyfriend oooo) and her mum doesn't know till about 7months? The mum that gave birth to her? Ok, what did u think she would have done if u told her earlier? Eat d baby? Cause another miscarriage? Or even kuku kill her own daughter?

What happened to families standing by us in hard times and rejoicing with us in good times? What happened to families lifting each other up and providing support while needed? Do human beings always have to see poeple in a bad light?

Do u think if she really wanted to harm the baby, u or your wife, she wouldn't have done that before now? It is even pardonable wen u say u didn't tell ur own parents, who are ur wife's parents in-law. But to keep that from her own mum is just evil!!!

And the poor woman would have been there crying, begging God and even sowing seed for her daughter to get pregnant. And this is the way she gets treated? What sane woman doesn't want her daughter to have a child in her matrimonial home? Mstcheeeewww! And some pathetic poeple are here talking trash!

I even hate it when friends get all secretive about something as "mundane" as pregnancy, talk more my daughter.

There are somany things I can forgive oooo, but this. . . I might just go to the grave with it. Arrant nonsense!

CC, may God continue to bless and keep u and ur family! U will never lack in the wisdom department.

May our daughters never do this to us, AMEN!

You was too quickly to summarize you opinion. Did you even know this family in question? Have you met the mum or even know what she's capable of doing? There's nowhere in my post where I attributed my wife miscarriage to spiritual attack. We were even told at the hospital that there are higher percentage of first time pregnant women with miscarriage. This is just normal. I said we decide to not tell our parents for spiritual reason. This reason is borne out of the fact that it's always better to surprise people with good things.

We never said our parents or my wife's mum is witch or whatever, but we have to consider the relationship between this daughter and her mum. So you know, my wife is so much loved by her dad and her mum hate this sight. my MIL has driven my wife out of her house more than four times. She hate her sight and wouldn't stand all her achievements in life. My MIL has preference in her children and my wife ain't the fav. My wife succeeded without the help and knowledge of her mum, and this fuel the animosity between them. My wife love being independent and wouldn't allow anyone to glory from her success except God and her husband. My MIL didn't like it either. My MIL i'm sorry ain't the best MIL in the world. Hope you dint meet one.

If you really want to know why my wife supported the decision not to tell her mum about the pregnancy, then this forum ain't the best place to discuss it. You'd be flabbergasted, agape, marooned, and in total shock if you hear the real gist.

Some say it is somewhat impossible for a mum to hate her children, then you've just met one.

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This is a white man thing. Pls don't start again. This is how Gays and Lesbians started. We are Nigerians and africans and totally reject this evil and immoral act.

Go back to England, you slowpoke!

overdrive: Keep ur fingers crossed and always pray to God.I don't trust that woman even upon ur wife(her daughter)'s safe delivery she is yet to forgive.keep ur distance bt give her deserved respect. Thank ur stars u don't depend on her or else

You spoke my mind.

She said it's a family thing, and that her children are bound and must tell her everything that's happening in their marriage. My mother-in-law is very inquisitive and always want to know about her children's (all married)daily activity. I find this absurd and totally preposterous. My mother-in-law do contribute and most times finance her children's husbands (except me ofcourse, I'm set up already) and has the say in whatever that's going on in those homes.

All of her children's husbands had one time or other lived in her house. They (husbands) must report to her and tell her anything she wants to know. My wife is against this trend and I also kicked against it.

My wife lost her first pregnancy last year. We then decided that next time she becomes pregnant, we telling no one including both our parents until she's about 7 months pregnant.

I never told my parent and neither did my wife. But few days to become 7 months, my aunt saw my wife and told my parents about the pregnancy. Mum was so happy and called me and we told them it's our decision and they should accept it. My mum then prayed for my wife and showered her with gifts (like a real mother would do). And about the same time, my wife's mum was also intimated about the pregnancy, she became furious and discontinued her relationship with my wife. We explained why we did it and apologized. Mother-in-law wasn't having non of that. We told her it's a spiritual thing and that she accept our decision.

My wife gave birth 5 days ago. We told my parents and hours later, they met us at the hospital. We told my mother-in-law, till today we haven't set our eyes on her. She said my wife disrespected her for not telling her early about the pregnancy. I told her it was my decision and that her daughter only acted upon the instruction i gave to her, she became more angrier than ever.

We all know when you lost something, you'd be more careful next time. Not that we calling our parents witch or wizards, but we know the things of the spirit is sometimes foolish to those who know less. And as the husband, I believe my mother-in-law is egocentric and a bit disrespectful to my manhood. I give to her and not the other way round.

Are we then at fault for not telling our parents?

I seldom drink water, don't know why. Lucazade all day.

I guess the term " if its not white it ain't right" still echoes in the minds of the rest of the world.

paris10: Answer: Everything. Women are miserable. Give them so much money, they'll still complain you're not always there, citing " na money we go chop".

Give them the attention they so much crave for; they'll still complain " why are you all over me" would be their response. Some of them would even tell you to go out and do something more constructive.

Tell them the truth everytime, you'd become mugu and your nickname would become " bobo is nice".

Give them sexx all the time, they'll call you names and even abuse your mother " is this how your papa they service your mother every minute, I guess that's why you can't break, olosi, you wan kill me ni".

Give them all that money can buy, avail yourself, show them love, be the nicest man on earth, you cannot just satisfy or win these bunch of creature we call women. If they love you, they love you ( even without all the material things). But if they don't love you, even with all your money, time, energy and all, you cannot do shhit, they will find themselves another guy.

You really know women dude. Very good observation.

justwise: More Nigerian than you are.

Ok. But note, the Britons do not openly criticize their govt regardless of what is happening in their country or how bad and corrupt their govt is. They support their own and are very patriotic. You seem to be British than Nigerian.

justwise: [/b]

I think the money issue applies to short term stay..tourist and business visiting visa holders and the money will be paid back when you leave the UK

I have for a very long time been observing your comments. You seem to agree with anything the UK govt is doing; their policies, aggression,bias, discrimination to name a few. I have nothing against you, but you don't just support anything without critically weighing the matter. You said you have no clue about a post a guy posted, quick question, are you even a Nigerian? ..No disrespect.

jackbauersballs: I personally am siding with Britain on this one...

It is a relatively small country and immigration is a big problem...go to places like Ealing or Southall in southwest London and you would be forgiven for thinking you took a wrong train and ended up in Bombay!

Recent census statistics show that for the first time, Ethnic Britons are a minority in London. Imagine having more Ghanians living in Abuja than actual Nigerians...

Anybody that lives in Britain knows that immigration is a serious problem that is affecting everybody...including us immigrants.

Do you know the populations of Indians and Pakistanis in the UK? Compare that to that of Africans. UK is deriving a lot from India and have laxed their immigration rules concerning this country. Percentage of Africans granted visa is infinitesimal to that of India and other non-African countries. Though Indians are in the billions, the ratio of granting visa to them outweigh the rest.

UK is bias towards Africa, Nja in particular.

justwise: Not aware that Nigeria does the same.

That was sarcasm.

As much as I want all Nigerians to stay in Nigeria and salvage it together, I also want the UK and their supporters to return all stolen goods and money to Nigeria. This will certainly help us to stay.

Imagine PM David Cameron and the rest of his families (UK) getting paid for lost slaves during the abolition of slave trade. Yes, David Cameron's family was rewarded £4,101, equal to more than £3M of today to compensate them for the 202 slaves that were forfeited on the Grange Sugar Estate in Jamaica. This is sad. The country acquire the name "great" through the sweat of others. Africans have not received a dime for compensation.

Only God will judge!

a lot of sense in your post. Nigerian Christians needs deliverance

I bet you think you're older?

GBAM!!!!!

5. Plant slant. Eat mostly plant-based foods, and small portions of meat no more than twice a week.


This is Hollywood shhit. Before you know you'll become anorexic. What you need to have longevity,especially in Nigeria is to have a good health care system in place.

People are living longer outside the shore of Nigeria because of their good health care system. Eat anything you like and work-out, pray to God for long life and be cautious with life.

k2039: A criminal is somebody who has committed a crime.
A crime can only be committed when a law is broken.

So anyone who commits at least one of your offence is a criminal

Interesting... I'll get back to you

Are you a criminal? This relates to stealing in any form but without getting caught. Whether corporate stealing or otherwise. Might be short-changing customers. Smoking weed, cocaine etc at the comfort of your home, or even picking up unattended bag with valuables in it on the train, bus, taxi etc. Taking your spouse's, parents, gf/bf money without their knowledge.

Please be objective with your responses. Give reasons for your answers. Think before cursing out the op. Critique any argument and reference them.

Thanks.

I wished I had an ex I'd tell to go to hell, but no, I don't have one. I parted ways with all my ex's in good faith. Infact, we're all still friends and do communicate occasionally.

Animals

Kaazaa- Chicken
Dinyaa- Goose
Agwaagwa- Duck
Tsuntsuu- Bird
Gaggafaa- Eagle
Shaahoo- Hawk
Unguluu- Vulture
Jeemaagee- Bat
Aku- Parrot
Kurciyaa- Dove
Muujiyaa- Owl
Karee- Dog
Zomoo- Rabbit
Zakii- Lion
Giiwaa- Elephant
Raakumi- Camel
KUnaamaa- Scorpion
Kyankyasoo- Cockroach
Yaanyawaa- Fox
Birii- Monkey
Bareewaa- Deer
Kadaa- Crocodile
Kadangaree- Lizard
Kwado-- Frog

and lots more

Chokali (Tsokali) --Spoon
Duuniya- World
Kasaa- The Land (Soil)
Kuraa-- Dust
Tsaunii- Mountain
Duutse- Hill (Stone)
Kwarii (Rafii)- The valley
Baakin ruwa- The shore
Ruwaa- Water
Ruwan Samaa- The rain
Kankaraa- Snow or Ice
Namiji- Male
Tamace- Female
Yaaro- Boy
Yaarinyaa-- Girl
Budurwa- Young girl
Mataashii- Young boy
Jariirii- The baby
Miji- Husband
Maataa- Wife
Daa-- Son
Yaa-- Daughter

chindi: Aboki means friend?! Whereas, i've been referring 2 annoying peeps as aboki thinking it'ws an hausa word 4 "mumu".
Pls someone shud confirm d meaning oo : : Aboki and Mallam, what do dey mean?

Aboki is friend. However, ignorant Nigerians use this to label the Hausas.

lekkie073: ka...you(male)
ki...you(female)
ku...you(plural)
si...him
ya na zoa....he is coming
ta na zoa....she is coming
su....they
mu.....we

Ya' na zuwa
Ta' na Zuwa

Simple, because the silly mum tends to separate them by choosing side. Statistically, siblings who lived together until their mid-teens tends to grow in love as the years rolls by, while those separated from tender age becomes less friendly.

In all, mums plays a very vital role in relation to their childrens' friendliness. Divorced parents are likely to undergo this trend, where each party share equal responsibility and brings up the children separately.