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Maybe she wants you to give up for health reasons.

I also want DH to give up drinking as well because we have infertility problems, as i'm typing this i can hear him opening a bottle of henessey downstairs. Really i've given up on him now cos he is the reason for our infertility if he doesn't give up, i don't know what to do. We're in our sixth year of marriage. I've tried everything and if anyone has any idea what to do pls advice me!!

@ Poster.

You've listed some problems that are can cause rift between a couple

Not having a job in this present economy is depressing as things are very expensive and having to depend on someone else for your livelihood can be very difficult for someone with a phd holder/ post graduate. What was her background in naija before coming over to UK? Did she have a job? Think about that

Infertility is a very big problem in marriages as well and you've clearly said it is a female problem you've got, when you're married if you're sufferring from infertility the problem becomes your problem not hers. You're actually rejoicing that you don't have a child ( should you be doing so) I don't think so. Take it from me, I've been married 5 years and don't have any kids yet and the problem isn't mine to start with but It's our problem. I've been depressed, my work has suffered and my relationship with people has suffered too. maybe if I send you a link you'll read abt my history. I've been up and I've been down. Sometimes I don't even want to talk to anyone and just want to be by myself. You guys need to sit down and talk through your problems. Sometimes frustration can cause a lot of problems in a marriage.

i hope this helps

Hi Dr H,

I'm not sure but I think I have occult PCOD

First ICSI, i produced 13 eggs, second ICSI 15 eggs, third 14 eggs and the last one 27 eggs.

Does Metformin help in treating PCO?

Many thanks in advance.

So Dr, are you stating that NK cell and TNF are overrated, I've seen cases where Aspirin or Intralipids/Humira/LIT combination all made a difference to achieving a BFP.

What drugs do you use for downregulating and stimulaton?

Udoka, Your friend needs to go for Hysteroscopy to remove all the scarring

Ketubah,

I beg to differ UCH doesn't do ESET, it's the NHS side that does that. Most Fertility clinic in UK puts back 2 apart from NHS that puts back 1.


Hope everyone is doing good!

@ abby4life, you need to tell him that the GP wants him to get checked as well. it doesn't matter if you've had surgery, you need to be clear and be sure so you know what your next steps will be. It could set you back a few months/years if you both have issues and you're focusing on just one person as opposed to the two of you. If you've been actively trying for 3 months and you're crying your eyes, what should I do in my case? go mad cos I've been trying for nearly 6 years. You've got to learn to develop a thick skin love. People will want to windd you up because they know what's eating you and you let them win if you show them your feelings. if your SIL is posting stuff to wind you up delete her from FB, no crime in deleting her.

I guess you're in UK, get Pregnacare as opposed to Folic acid alone. Hope yhis helps sweetie!

@ Abby4life, don't stress yourself babes. Women normally have 2 ovaries and now you have 1, just searched online and although the two ovaries takes turn in releasing eggs month, one ovary is equally has good as two. What of your hubby 2 b, has he got himself checked as well?

Sorry to crash your thread peeps.

@ Bukielove, you need to get off that Fertilaid ASAP, it lengthens cycle, I doubt if you read the review in their website, a lot of women complained of longer cycles as a result of taking fertilaid. Get on Pregnacare. I know fertilaid is an American supplement which has wheat grass and many more stuff in it.

Flak flak, you’re so lucky. I wish DH could tell me to stop working, I’ll jump at it like a dog that hasn’t eaten for years.

You need to work on communication in your marriage and I’m sure having kids back to back might have affected that.

You said he has a razor mouth, God gave you a gift cos you’re a WOMAN. Like CC said men are big babies and you can make them putty in your hands and the key to winning some not all battles is by using your womanly skills. You need to be one step ahead all the time. If he is being verbally abusive you need to ignore him don’t even say a word until he has calmed down.

I’ve been married 5 years and my DH has the same background as yours i.e. takes care of his family and it can be very difficult when you’re the breadwinner of the family and also if you have your own life to live as well. He has said many times that who else can he take his anger on if not his wife.

Re punctured kidney I don’t buy that, did you see a specialist who confirmed that beating can cause that problem. I pray the Lord gives you strength to overcome all your marital problems.

Have a weekend away from the kids and spend time with one another, it’s a wakeup call.

Wishing everyone Happy New Year, I pray it will be prosperous year for all of us. May we all find divine favour in the sight of God, May he bless our homes with children. (Amin)

Arlington, Congrats girl, How r u doing? Hope u're good.

Beetle

I'm sorry but I think your mum went a bit too far as to walk your fiancee out of your house when you weren't there. If she is the girl you are planning to marry, it might cause a bit of a strain in mother - daughter in law relationship in the future. What your mum could have done was to sit the two of you together and voice her fears/feelings then your lady would understand and you guys would laugh it off later.  that way your girl won't feel she's walking on egg shells when next she sees your mum and relationship between them will still remain intact.


What she did wasn't wrong, it's just the way she went about it that is wrong.

Stimming is the process where a medication is given to suppress the LH surge and ovulation until the developing eggs are ready.

But before that you down regulate, this is when you shut down your system.

since you've been given a pill from day 2, after that you'll start down regulating either with injection or a nasal spray.

All the best babes!!!

Just make sure you're taking pre natal!

be ready to have scans every other day, you will have PMS, or even still be close to menopause when you're downregulating. When you're stimming, you might look preggie, it can be very stressful.

When stimming, you need to up your protein intake. will add more info later.

Is the fight for equality ruining marriages?

I swear I don't have the answer to that cos what I care about at the end of the day is my marriage not the next person's marriage.

My moto is  let a man be a man and a woman be a woman. A lot of problems arises when we're all trying to switch roles but sometimes it can't be helped. I won't try to go out of my way to start operating electrical gadgets, leave that to DH and I won't expect hubby to cook unless he feels like it, besides I get home before he does. You can switch roles as you deem fit but it all depends on the relationship between the two parties. My DH is 10 years older than me and there is mutual love and respect between the two of us and I let him take charge because 1. he is the man not because of the age gap. I know when I have to apologise and especially when to let go of things and I don't believe in winning all arguments, there are many times I wished I'd listened to him and many times he wished he'd listen to me but more on my part than on his.

People come on this board running their mouths,yarning rubish (sp), wait until you're married and it'll be a very different story. Don't look at your neigbour's marital life and expect yours to be the same, look at the positives in everyone's life and try to emulate it. Not everyone's marital life will be blissful, reason because we're all different.

@ chaircover, you always impress me with your intellect and I pray your marriage will always be a successful 1, i think I learn more and more from you all the time and you so deserve the award.

@ Seyibrown, pls don't go into marriage with that mind set, when one person go the extra mile for the other person in the relationship, they do so because of love and many other things, if the other person choose to take advantage by marrying another person, it means they weren't worth it and just shows greediness on their part. Your mum chose to do what she did for her marriage and kids and your dad didn't stray because they had THE relationship.  What exactly am I rambling about now? lol Anywayz my twopence worth.

Pls y'll don't crucify me, besides a lot of marriages have been broken up because of the husband/wife moving to another country to make money for the family. It beats me when I hear of such stories especially when the other party doesn't know what it is going on in the other person's life.

Hi Ladies,

Ejadamen, Massive Congrats to you and DH. It's really good you started this month with good news. Wishing you two all the best.

Not much to report on my side, don't even know what day I'm on.

Have a nice day!!!!!!!!!! everyone.

Buying Condoms, well I did so first time ever abt a month ago so could use with DH for a change. The aisle they stock it is just opposite the men's shaving stuff (marketing stunts). Before I'd left home I'd googled as usual and got to the aisle and started peering like mad looking for the one that got the most hit on Amazon, got there the price was different. Why now?? it was £4 on amazon, how come it's more expensive. Had to bend down cos I'm really tall and was getting stares cos I was in everyone's way, finally got to the till, guess what it wasn't 2 for £10 anymore, it was £6. I'm a bonafide Ijebu girl told her to take one off kiakia.   And the last bit, DH said I'm not using it and refused point-blank. All that for nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!!! now lying in my bedside cabinet. can't return cos of the embarrassment.

@ Labella, wellman conception is better, it's got all the ingredients to aid conception

Hi Ladies and Gent,

Arlington: I'm rooting for a girl for you. Not that my predictions always come true tho.

I'm keeping everything hush hush for now anyways. I had hysteroscopy and my womb is all clear although my endometrium was thick and the Dr had to scrape some parts from it to make it thin and baby friendly. I haven't been doing anything, just been taking my vitamins religiously and DH has point blanked refused to take any. Anyways no update from me apart from my little op.

Beetle

I do tell DH what I want so I don't end up going to the shops and swapping it for something else. Funny thing is he knows exactly what to get me but I'm an indecisive chicken that doesn't know what she wants, so for valentine I told him what I wanted and he got it. I've started drumming it into his ears what I want for my birthday and waiting in anticipation for the d day.

I concur to telling DH what you want tolutara jo and I pray DH gets me my LV bag and make me the happiest lady on planet earth. Your friend needs to grow up ' if hubby doesn't know what you want isn't the end of the road and shouldn't mean the relationship is heading for the rocks'. Besides what works in one relationship might not work in yours. My two pence.

Arlington,

Hey babes, I'm chuffed for you. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy. Congrats to you and DH.

hvs- High vaginal swab, this checks for ureaplasma, mycoplasma as this infection affects infertility.

@ luvly, massive congrats to u and DH. I wish you a stress free 38 weeks, just enjoy and relax. No liver pls but up your vitamins intake or still just take pregnacare. I love good news, pray we’ll all be sharing good news soon (IA)

@ Arlington, did you check out the Chicago tests?

I haven’t been posting lately on the thread as i’ve been on some antibiotics which make me so so sick and yippee it’s my last day today. Now looking forward to shedding that excess weight from eating sweet stuff which is not good for me.

A new month start tomorrow and I wish you all a happy month filled with happiness, joy and pray it’ll be a turning point in our lives. (Amin)

TTC-1

CD- not sure what day it's now

DPO-10(not keeping tag of this

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN TRYING- Nearly 5 years.

AGES -ME 29 DH 40

What HAVE YOU TRIED SO FAR? ICSI, LIT, Humira, Intralipids, Ivig, Prednisolone, Baby aspirin, Preeseed. I don’ t remember but if I do will keep you all updated. This week will be having LIT , I pray it helps my immune. Below is what LIT is all about, anything to help us get that BFP heh.

LIT is an injection of washed white cells which is normally placed just under the skin on the inner arm in a series of pinprick jabs. The white cells usually come from blood freshly donated by your husband. The aim of LIT is to stimulate your body to produce anti-paternal blocking antibodies (antibodies to cells from your husband) as measured on the LAD test (see above). Several studies found that women who had multiple miscarriages tended to have lower levels of anti-paternal blocking antibodies than women who had successfully carried a baby to term. This lead to the theory that antibodies to the father’s DNA were necessary to help the mother’s body recognise their embryo’s cells to give a protective response rather than an aggressive response.

Ladies,

where is everyone?

Any BFP ?

Arlington, go to the website: haveababy.com and click on the forum.

Dr Sher and all top doctors post there, you can post a question on there and a doctor will reply you.

I hope it helps, a friend just had a successful cycle with Dr Sher tho she's way older than me.

Beetle

Arlington, the funniest thing is all our bloods get sent to Chicago, it's called Nk assay. NHS does pay but only if you've been trying for three years and it's a post code lottery, some people can be so lucky but it literally depends on where you live.

If you can get your blood drawn up, their details is as follwos:

Clinic Immunology Lab CLIA ID #14D0646416
3333 Green Bay Road
North Chicago, IL 60064
(847) 578- 3444
email: clinlab@rosalindfranklin.edu

Are you unexplained? is that the reason you're doing IUI.

if you read the book ' Is Your Body Baby-Friendly?: Unexplained Infertility, Miscarriage and IVF Failure, Explained, it explains alot.

@ Arlington, I reside in UK. I’ll just share my history.

I’ve had 3 ICSI and a FET( frozen egg transfer), been having tx for the past 3 years.

1st ICSI: Retrieved 12 eggs and only 3 fertilised, was very gutted, didn’t really try much cos I was over confident, doctors gave 70% cos of my age, I don’t know why I put all my hopes in them not that they are God, I guess I was so naive.

2nd ICSI: Retrieved 15 eggs and only 5 fertilised, upped my protein intake took sprirulina, protein, had boiled egg every day, they even did Assisted Hatching on the embryos but no success there.

After this cos I post on fertility friends uk, heard good reviews about one egyptian doc, dragged DH there where we had Immune testing and we found out I had very high number of killer cells, no wonder I hardly ever get ill, my killer cells kill every cell it comes across including DH’s sperm, I took IVig, LIT, prednisolone all this to suppress my killer cells, everything was going fine until my birthday, guess what some of the follicles started ovulating, He gave me pregnyl so we could retrieve the remaining eggs, we cld only get 4 out of the 15 we saw during scans, my DH was very upset and we had spent a fortune on this treatment, all credit cards maxxed up. We froze it all and the next month had a FET but it never implanted.
So for my 4th ICSI, IA will be happening later this year.

Spinach is what the Nigerians in UK eat to replace efo, it's a leafy vegetable.

Broccoli is a plant that can be eaten raw or steamed.

@ luvly, at what period of your cycle do you feel the pain, could be implantation pain, some people get that and some people don't.

Hi Girls,

I haven't posted for a while and I hope you lots are doing fine and any1 got pregnant since the last time I posted??

I'm getting prepared for my 4th ICSI sometime this year and looking for regime of vitamins to use but will get there eventually IA.

When you say it's dirty, do you mean it's brown, apparently according to Dr Toth from USA (he's a popular doc on the web) it cld be a sign of infection. Have you ever done a swab to test for ureaplasma, mycloplasma
Beetle

Whoopie,

One question you need to ask yourself is, why do I need to learn FOREX?Are you doing it as a hobby or to supplement your income or for rainy days. When you are quite sure why, then I guess you can sit hubby down and talk to him.

DH actually does FOREX as well, he is always conferencing with different people (both members of the opposite sex) but I trust him and also support him because he needs that to get on. Would I let my jealous streak get in his way? Hell no. I wouldn't but what I wouldn't support is he putting all his money into it and besides It's more common for men to be in the trading business than women hence why you can't hardly find a woman teacher

Some men are just plain jealous and my dad is so I feel your pain. Communication, communication is all you need to get by.

If you're in UK, I can recommend where he learned the ropes but not on this thread and omo it's very expensive but it's still 95% men, How would he take it even if you go to a school to learn the ropes?