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justebuka:
You guys cool with this?

The question is change to what?
In d humanities, d viable & exclusive options are Law & accounting. And these have limited spaces and their job entry pay is mostly so low!!!
Jobs like banking, insurance, consulting(&big 4 acc), HR ,marketing, admin can be done by any graduate esp if u have d relevant certification.
Also, good paying skills can be acquired while doing d sociology. Skills like programming, data analytics, UIUX , animation, SEO, content devt, photography, graphics design etc.
So if u are already in sociology, just look for way forward as explained above !!

Even if it wasn't a trap, from risk management perspective, it was best not to have gone alone to a man's house and that at night!!
It makes perfect sense
She won't die cos of some egusi & eba - do u know what she prepared for herself at home?
Ingredients & nonsense
Ladies, better to be safe than sorry o!!!

Interestingly, he's correct. According to the police structure an instruction from the IG supercedes an instruction from a governor. Whether that should change is d only debatable matter. But as at now the IG posts CP to states to receive directives from d governors but he the IG can overrule those governors' directives

Are u a Christian sir?
Then you have to forgive and also pray to forget.
You see this is a well calculated attack of the devil on your marriage!! And d attack was right at your neck ..
God is depending on you to stand for Him and resist that attack.
It is not easy.. but u need to stand strong in & for God & overcome
PLS sir.. U should forgive her and overcome d enemy in your marriage

This is highly commendable. Apart from being impressive, you will see in years to come that it doesn't pay at all to cause others pain!!
Pls do not ever deviate from this your stand even with peer pressure in d uni.

Meanwhile, you can learn software engineering, UIUX, SEO or data analytics

Maks27:
No sir
Anything apart from defrauding others

Thank you

Well right now, there are much more opportunities in SE than in DA both locally & Internationally.
This could flip at anytime but I doubt it will soon.

Lasisieniola77:
Hello nairalands, i am so confuse right now. I just want to transistion into IT and i am confused between learning data science or becoming a software developer. I am so confuse. Help me to decide. I don't want to learn something that is not in demand. Which one is better

I think the entrpeneurial thing is in u.
But what I've seen is lack of thorough knowledge of d business u are entering- knowing if there is good demand for your product & also proper risk management !
And so I was wondering why u didn't try & go back to the very first business which u knew d in and out very well.
Then u need to ask where can things fail and find what to do to prevent that happening or minimise losses if it does.

Lastly, for now u seem to be in I.T., I'd advise u focus on that for now b4 u think of venturing into business again. That will serve as a cushion in case things don't work well (part of risk mgt)

No difference! I have problem with both! Instead of trying to push me into d mould of a political fanatic u should have juggled with d core msg I was passing.

seunmsg:
Is there a valid contract between Lagos state government and Alpha Beta? Is Alpha Beta fulfilling the terms of the contract by rendering services stated in the contract agreement? How much was Lagos state earning before the contract with Alpha Beta? Finally, instead of making unintelligent noise on social media, why not sue Lagos state to court and get a judgment to cancel the contract since you’re so sure there is something wrong with the contract.

Finally, what exactly is the difference between the Alpha Beta contract and Atiku’s intel contract that involves collection of revenue at the ports? If you have no problem with the Intel contract before it was cancelled, why are you making noise over Alpha Beta?

How is by taking 10% of all Lagos revenue through alphabeta

U see d fact that someone is quite intelligent, had achievements or even was an activist for Nigeria doesn't mean they won't be corrupt when they get to govt! And Tinubu is a gud example

seunmsg:
How’s he fraudster? He’s a well educated professional Accountant and got to a very enviable height in a multinational corporation like Exxon Mobil where he retired as Treasurer before joining politics.

As a politician, he was elected as senator before the military truncated the third republic. After the military intervention, he joined other Democrats to form NADECO in order to fight for the restoration of the democracy folks like you now enjoy. He was hounded by the Abacha regime until he went on exile.

When we won back democracy, he came back and hit elected as governor of Lagos state. So tell me, how is he a fraudster?

Someone with lots of insight found time to advise u, yet u open ur mouth with all ingratitude!
Were u not d one that said u dropped out cos school is not for u?
U talk about business bla, bla, u think it's just by desire? What do u know about business risk management, about accounting, about investment options, about economics?
We are saying at the very least get a basic degree of which u had just 1 or 2 yrs left! What stops u from having a BSc and going to Canada for a masters?
What stops u from finishing Bsc, learning programming very well during or after BSc b4 going abroad?
Nonsense & Ingredients from a naive son SMH

definitelyME:
saying all these without knowing the reason I dropped out of school speaks alot of you.....

Is this person ok? Is he living in Nigeria?
U mentioned someone on constable salary will be happy with himself? My Goodness!!
Police job that automatically turn u to a very corrupt person? SMH
What about d risks of d job? And d lack of constant promotion?
@OP U had better complete ur degree and acquire useful IT skills while in school.

Internet22:
Guy, I will advice you to take the job and forget about degree for now except you're studying a professional course that guarantee job after graduation. Getting job now is very difficult, having a degree is now equivalent to having an SSCE result.
Though the constable pay is not much, but you'll appreciate yourself later on in future when you see you fellow classmates

General indeed.
Kid, U had better tell ur helper you are not interested lest u end up in sambisa or a quick victim of bokoharam

Oh u made front page.. wow.. clap for ursef.. such an achievement at this tender age of yours.
Such childishness & naivety

Sho!!! This must be a big joke!! How could anyone have mistakenly called u a general with ur butty looks!!
Are u bored or something?

Young & so naive!!
If u find yourself in exactly this kind of situation, don't attempt to make the foolish mistake!

Johel:
Nothing good in Nigeria...I rather work as a waiter abroad than be a bank manager in Nigeria.

@OP u need to find out more about what Russia holds for u! How is d weather, d society, d racism, d culture- are u OK with them? Are u fine staying there for 3 years? Also bear in mind that functionally, N200k in Russia might have d same purchasing power as N70k-100k in Nigeria. U should also consider 3 years of experience u would be losing vs a Russian M.S. degree. Also consider if d degree can be completed online or another one started even, from perhaps, UK, US but online.

Apparently, strictness didn't work out for slawormir otherwise he wouldn't have turned out d way he is now. Or what went wrong, did he escape the strictness at an early age and peerpressure got him there?

I think it's quite important parents (esp mothers) agree when disciplining a child rather d mother shouting it's too much and giving d child some space in his brain to think perhaps d father is the problem rather than what he did wrong

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
That was then....men were tough

Not the men of this present era....pussies
Bunch of pussies everywhere...

Those days my daddy will be kicking my ass...my mum will be crying

And when my mum is kicking my asss ....my daddy will be happy

That niggar will force me to drink chloroquine when am sick...knowing fully well that the thing go scratch me die for body and the funny thing is when my body start to dey scratch me....the niggar will be sleeping while my mum will be awake petting me

Your husband also created a thread about the same issue today. I'd like to approach this from the standpoint of this is family-- not just family but your parents (forget they are parents-IN-LAW). Parents who went through a lot financially, psychologically & otherwise to raise you.. You should be willing to cut them some slack!!!
Yes you feel they should have just rented a house since you gave them the money, you feel they are taking over your sweat. But since they are parents , give them the leeway esp as you are not coming back to Nigeria. Your husband can build another house which has to be in both your names. Or he can choose to refund most of your contributions to this current one. Either way do not cast them in bad light before your husband at all!! Be d one to advise him to be cool, calm with them. Even if you don't get your share of the money back, you have your husband's solid respect and you are not homeless either. I believe you have nothing (of real worth) to lose by not rooting for them to leave.

Of course you said it yourself how are you sure when you get to the new bank, you won't be sent to the branch which you know is worse. And you should know in access bank, your stress levels is much higher than in other banks. The car incentive you are talking about is a liability trap.
In access bank, you can easily drop from TS due to various flimsy reasons. You would also need to look for millions worth of deposit before you have an offer.
Just know you don't want to go to access esp not to go and start over in a branch (sic) . STAY PUT in your UBA & look for opportunities to other banks at higher level or other departments. Common don't be foolish and be wicked to yourself.

harley88:
Hi guys,

Pls I need the advice of the public here.
I have been an ET with bank A for about 20 months now at the bank’s head office in a department I don’t like and that doesn’t have a career path. So I’d basically be doing the same thing for years to come. The pay is basically 200k which is quite comfortable monthly. I have tried changing departments within the bank all to no avail. I want to leave the Dept asap so I don’t get stuck there due to age. I’d be 25 later this year.

I started the Entry level recruitment for Bank B a month ago, maybe to start again as an ET probably in a better department with a better career outlook. Right now, I am almost into Bank B’s training school. Bank B pays lower than Bank A, but comes with better perks such as a car. But I’m worried about having to start again and lose 20 months of work experience. The issue is I’d have to be in Training school for some months and collect about 25% of my current salary monthly until TS is over. Also, I don’t know what Dept I’d be posted to assuming I take the Bank B job offer.

What advise can you give me pls?? Also note both banks are in the top four banks in the country.

Should i remain in Bank A and keep trying a change of department or a change of Bank as an experienced hire which is a very slim chance

Or

I take the ET job and start all over from Training school in bank B

The issue most people are having is correlating brilliance with integrity.
You can be very brilliant and be very corrupt.
Dizeani was actually a director in Shell for instance...
Another thing is you could have operated with integrity previously and then you get to govt and you become the complete opposite!! For example Tinubu as can be seen from this story above.
Infact you can also be a sincere freedom fighter today and tomorrow you are the biggest oppressor. Example: OBJ went to prison for talking against abacha and was going to die but then he became a tyrant to some people. Tinubu fought in NADECO against abacha and was exiled yet today he's the biggest beneficiary of corruption in Nigeria. He's also the backer of the oppressive agberos. Human nature is unpredictable

DO NOT LEAVE APART FROM YOUR WIFE AT THIS EARLY STAGE OF YOUR FAMILY!!! At best it should be temporary. So I suggest she either look for a place in Lagos that can give her something around that salary or you move to Abuja- I mean you also might be able to get an international NGO job there with time.

Pls and pls don't leave that marriage. If you are a christian this is where your leesons on forgiveness should be fully utilised.
Find every possible way to build back the marriage & d love in the marriage!! She has realised her lack of wisdom in that matter. Forgive & don't take it on her

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

Though based on the annual energy figure the power supplied is less than 100KW. How many boilers can that power?!!!

Solar alone can't be the future of industry- maybe residential but not industrial. It cant meet industrial demand

I THINK that apart from 1. loving ( being attracted/admire) each other, a couple also need to be able 2. to work with each other/share similar principles & outlook to life and also 3. respect, forbear and pay attention to each other. You both don't have 2 & 3 which are more important than no 1.
Of course at this stage u should move on.

Iamafinegirl:
He didn’t even wait for me to finish saying the prices of bulk 10 semo bags won’t change much from buying one or two, he started shouting “if you don’t want to contribute don’t contribute”, the next thing he stormed out, wore cloth etc drove off. I was saying be calming down. Life is not like that. Calm down. For where. Anger and the inability to calm down problem he has had stepped in. I can’t even talk. I was so hurt. I dumped d gift on the bed, prepared and went out.
I m not saying I am perfect I m sure I hv my own but u need calmness and ability to sit n sort issues or different opinions amicably for a relationship to work. The issue is I dare not have an opinion even when I need to contribute too.

Yes. Children should be beaten with cane. Foolishness is bound in d heart of a child but the ROD of correction drives it far!!
For all the caning we received as children- did it kill us, do we feel abused having grown up now?
Don't we just make stories of them now?
So I wonder what's all these caning being child abuse narrative came from.
Of course a child also needs to be shown lots of love not just discipline but discipline by caning is quite important

This is such a simple case: LEAVE!!!
There are so many eligible bachelors out there why do you have to be stuck with someone you are uncomfortable with?! NO, you ain't over reacting. I don't think it's too much to be sure that you and your spouse share similar principles & outlook to life. Otherwise this your Pentecostal cele thing will cause unnecessary friction in marriage.

Valenciabaddie:
Hi Guys ..
I need serious matured advice . I have been dating this guy for about a year now ,
When I met him he was jobless but living comfortable due to his parents wealth ,.
I'm 25 and he's 3 years older than me , my problem is that he's too spiritual , he always have bad dreams and because of this he is always going to a celestial church and this makes him bring fetish things home like candles and substances in white container ..

I go to a Pentecostal church but I still continue the relationship and also follow him to his church sometimes.. but lately he brought this black soap home which smells bad and to make matters worse he always wake up at a specific time at night .To have the bath ..

M feeling uncomfortable with him and im beginning to lose interest in him due to these because I don't believe in all this fetish things .What do u guys think ? I'm I overreacting?

@ OP it's such a dicey cultural issue. Its not much about her personality but about something taught her by society- u can see even ur own mum is supporting her on d matter against u her son. So u shouldn't take it on her. Just like somewhere u also would be uncomfortable being told that the chores in the house, market runs and caring for baby should be shared 50:50. - it's d society. If u are mostly ok with the rest of her personality & principles you could go ahead and marry her. U should just find a way to walk around that issue(like taking your eyes of her finances, begging her for support in d home if really needed)while both of u can make adjustments away from the culture.

When you say best to relocate to, why not draw up factors that make a country good for family relocation and probably put the factors in order of preference. And you need to do this for yourself because what matters to you might not matter to others. Like learning a new language might be an issue for you but it's not for some. Though you really can't know some factors until people point them out to you.

Some factors include: racism, ease of immigrants getting good jobs, purchasing power, security, culture, language, weather, natural disasters, ease of getting papers

The bullets go up and keep travelling till gravity reduces the speed to zero. They fall back at the same speed in the absence of air. But with air resistance which is mostly the case they fall back at a fraction of the initial speed which can still be injurious or even fatal.

I believe that's what happened at the Lekki Toll Gate. Shots were fired in the air and some of the bullets fell on legs, backs, thighs etc.

Exactly. Those kind of actions is what led to the police brutality in the first instance. Yes looting is bad- a crime but they are not supposed to be shot dead except they try to attack d police!!

Evaromantik:
Who kills a looter?.. Is looting as a crime, heavy enough to warrant extra judicial killing. They should be arrested and prosecuted.

I neither support looting nor killing a looter.

Shooting in the air will definitely lead to casualty even fatality atimes

BabaOwen:
How did people at the hospital have gunshots? And someone later died according to Sanwo olu... Where this people hanging in the air when the soldiers were shooting in the air?

Yes true. Teargas could have been deployed first.
But then shooting directly is miles different from shooting in the air. And it's on the belief of shooting directly that the arson that happened the next day took place

hargbolahan01:
why should military shoot live bullet on protesters even in air

if you watch the video...the soldiers guns were at 90 degree which it is possible for stray bullet to meet anyone.....

if you can't condemn the genocide then don't mind the dead and those that got injured

Pls try to post

samsononyilo:
I don't have data to post, but I hv a video..