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All these kind of questions sef -- so what is your alternative? Will they die as they are flogged like that? Do u not realise it's better to deal with things earlier than later? U want to instruct a baby, a child? That must be a joke!!!

Prism:
Hello nairaland family

Before I begin let's define toddlerhood;

Toddler: 1-3 years. Preschooler: 3-5 years. School-aged: 5-12 years. Teenager: 13-18 years.

Is it necessary to start flogging toddlers?? I married a yoruba man And I noticed his sisters like flogging their kids including their toddlers. I'm not used to seeing little children being flogged not to talk of toddlers and I get this cringe feeling when I see it. Is it a cultural thing? Is that how the whole tribe Is like? Does flogging a child actually make him or her better Or is it not just child abuse
I do feel somehow seeing people flogging 2yr old, 3yr old kids. I feel somehow. What do you guys think

Well the good thing is you have come to d realization that you are dumb, slow & useless..lol. it means u can begin to look for solution.
So I don't see why d case is depressing, simply try and work on d identified points of weakness.
B more confident- this will involve being able to start and sustain conversations, being strt Wise, these things u can just watch others closely. You are responsible for yourself now, not your parents.
And it's not a business idea u need now. Its a Digital skill like programming, data analytics or UIUX, animation.
If you can get a responsible friend's place to stay after nysc, stay there.

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

I think you were the one that was born yesterday.. GEJ wọn SW,SS,SE & NC and also got up to 25,30% in d core North. So yes if u win every other zone u don't need d core North

misano:
1. So are you saying, we in the SS are waiting for Wike's approval before knowing what we want? What kind of insult is this?

2. Stop making North & SW feel special. Goodluck in 2011 didn't win states in SW or even NE and NW before becoming president. Were you born yesterday?

First of all economics is a social SCIENCE that tries to study & predict human behaviour.
Give EVERYONE 5M, why would ANYONE want to work? Sọ goods & services will actually reduce... and then d demand would have increased because of extra money in circulation and here comes inflation..
Now inflation generally is unwanted but in some cases it can lead to higher productivity in the economy which is the actually objective of any macro economist.
So let's go back to giving people money- if you give the poorest people or those who are least or un productive money, more demand is created, inflation, but then higher productive people catch on the demand to be able to make more money. Unlike if you gave everybody

PNomsule:
I am really just curious as to "why can't we just print more money and solve the poverty problem in the country?"

Terms like "inflation" and the "devaluing of the naira" are the usual buzz answers to that question. Also, people give the example that if we were to print more money and just give everyone N5,000,000 for example, then everyone would go out and buy things, thus making "THINGS" more scarce and in short supply and hence driving up the prices of things (simple demand/supply economics). But herein lies the catch for me... With TRUE unemployment rate somewhere around 33% in the country, if DEMAND for "THINGS" rose, then I would think that companies would WANT to hire more people and build more processing plants to keep up with demand and raise their profits. So, the influx of cash (printed money) would seem to solve the unemployment problem.

Again, we have agencies that regulates pricing in the economy: PPPRA, Price Control Board (Ministry of Commerce) etc, with those, can't the likely over pricing of commodities (THINGS) be controlled and gazetted to avoid the story of "too much money chasing fewer goods"?

In the final analysis, a robust and health competitive economy would have been created and underemployment issues largely solved.

Economists and Analysts lets discuss?

Ok.. so tell us who is a better solution amidst d 3 that have a chance

HighTableVoice:
Any CON-fidedent man will tell you Obi is a salesman. He is not Nigeria's Solution. He is not fit to lead Nigeria in some important aspect. He is not respected enough or even that much respectable. He complains, complains and complains infecting the system with tribal and religious divisions. He is not a man of solution, he has no plan for presidency as he has said himself, and to me he is just campaigning and hoping for the best.

People will just start saying all manner of things... So who will take over buhari bloc votes? BAT? D Hausa man will leave his own and vote for another tribe? Are u joking?
Or Kwankwaso? D North is not divided . They will all agree to take a position and all.support one person .. and of course it will be atiku over Kwankwaso. Atiku seems to have this one

Michelle70:
Dont fall for anything.

APC will still win NW and SW, though not bloc votes this time.
Atiku will share his votes in SE and then share SS votes with LP and APC.
North central will always divide votes.

Tinubu will win 2023 elections

The north is not familiar with Atiku, he only shows up during elections and disappear after elections unlike Tinubu that is always with the SW and Obi that is always with the SE.

Atiku is to the north as Amaechi is to the south.

I won't claim I know much but I would say if you really enjoy his friendship & u see that u have the same ideals, principles about life ie u can work with him and he also respects u, I think u should do d do. The friendship u enjoy will be your attraction.
Truth is, what blocks ur attraction is just the height & stature.. in marriage attraction based on body qualities usually wane fast esp if u can't work together or respect each other.
PS: But ain't u married already & living abroad?

Juliusdaughter:
I met a man through my long term friend and he has made his intentions about marriage known from the start. He loves me, is attracted to me and loves to do PDA when we are out together.

Did you marry who you weren't really attracted to but you're happy now in the marriage? How will I deal with public perception of us especially when it's comes to flaunting him as my husband?
I have entered my late 20s and I don't wanna waste time, I don't wanna waste my time in vain waiting for the guy I'll feel all these for, what if he isn't worth it?

Yes.. indeed he was part of those that agitated for democracy and actual went on exile at some point..
But does that mean:
He isn't corrupt ?
He isn't physically unfit?
He hasnt destroyed things when desperate?
He doesn't rún APC Lagos very undemocratically?

Is he fit for President today?

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
Na wa o
Wetin come they zup for the world na..
Oestrogen, progesterone and oxytocin don dey replace testosterone for men body

Abi this whole thing na arrangee? Probably Format

Exactly my thoughts...arrangee
Anyway way...what do I know afterall am just a weed smoker, pussy banger, a drunkard and a keyboard warrior....

In other words , you are saying you are a completely uselesss human?

Will u keep kwiet?!! See we mostly prefer Obi of course- he is d much lesser evil.
But u(Obi)need to be real and then perhaps u can find a strategy to tackle d weak points.
Hw can u say atiku won't win his unit, his town, his state? Who then will win? BAT , Obi? Which Hausa man will vote for him when a prominent Atiku is in d race? On what basis? A Hausa man who is always loyal to his brother?
Be calming down ó!!

phemmyutd:
Keep on masturbating on self delusions, day go soon break. Atiku thta can't even win his polling unit you dey hype like suya

Because the other candidate won all d other four zones! So if Obi were to have d entire south and NC, then u can count on him to win.. but now u already have Tinubu in SW and part of NC.
So, the only real chance Obi has is to try and capture d SW from Tinubu b4 elections(that would be a miracle) because d core North is a no go area for him right now.

Goodnigga:
I wonder how many Nigerians reason. So Elections winning in Nigeria depends just on NE & NW alone? If so, why did Buhari "Olule" for 3 times despite cult-like followers in the North that he has to partner with the South to win the fourth time. Every aspirant needs at least 25% in every state.

U were born after 1999 abi... was Rimi candidate of any party?

muykem:
Abubarka Rimi lost north to Obasanjo in 1999. Ahmed Lawan lost northern deligates votes to Tinubu. What transpired in this two scenario can still repeat itself.

On what basis will he get 40% in d core North esp NW? Just think about it. Dont forget Buhari won't support him.
As for comparing Obi's south win with Atiku's North win, don't forget NW alone can almost swallow both SE & SS- go check the numbers

mrvitalis:
Everyone one knows atiku has core north ...I'm just praying tinubu is strong enough to water down the margin ...and with no more manual accreditation the gap won't be too much

Atiku takes north east n north west ...

Obi takes south south and south east ....

Peter obi and atiku who ever performs well in south west and north central the most wins it for me


Honestly I don't see where tinubu would get the numbers ... honestly I don't ...let him at least sha get 40% in the core north to water it down

U ds penguin2 Bird u get sense gan ó!!! Everything u wrote is absolutely true.. if at all , he us working for Tinubu, it will be hidden perhaps by splitting Atiku Northern votes.

Penguin2:
Now, a lot of rhetorics has been flying around of the possibility of Kwankwaso working for Tinubu but I want to debunk that speculation and state why it’s practically impossible for Kwankwaso to work for Tinubu.

Before I say anything further, I want to state that anything is possible and I’m giving room for eventualities. However, the submission(s) in this piece is purely from empirical, sociological and political point of view as informed by the dictates of the Nigerian society of today.

With the above position stated, now let’s continue . Happy Sunday anyways.

The reason Kwankwaso cannot work for Tinubu is simply because it will be the end of his political career.

Let’s put it this way, imagine Peter Obi stepping down for Atiku under whatever guise or calculation. Nobody, and I mean nobody, will ever take him serious again, ever. He will never have this kind of momentum around him again. You know why? Because people will say, “who knows who he will step down for this time?”

That’s the position Kwankwaso finds himself in the north.

The southern media may not be reporting it but Kwankwaso is making big inroads in the north. And those supporting him are doing so because they believe in what he did in the past and that he can replicate it if he becomes president. This is amongst other reasons they support him.

Now, imagine him stepping down for Tinubu… do you think his supporters will ever take him serious? Oh! You want to remind northerners are different and may not see it the way Peter Obi supporters would see it? Why? Because they have no minds of their own? Die that talk.

If Kwankwaso would ever step down from the race, it would be for Atiku. And the justification would be for northern interest just like Tambuwal argued. I’m sure his supporters would relate to that more than they would if he was to step down for Tinubu.

So, in my estimation, even though on personal level, Kwankwaso might wanna help Tinubu win the election, but for the sake of pride and for his political future in the north and amongst his supporters, I envisage Kwankwaso being on the ballot till the end of the elections.

Penguin is a bird of reason!

Mynd44

If u love her and are ok to marry her... I think u should.. U could agree with her though on delaying birth for those 3 years & she not complaining if finances are not so buoyant in those years... if u have the agreement, I think u should go ahead.. There isn't an 100% assurance u will get ur finances to d level u want in 3 years. Hw old are u ursef?

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

I think there should be more orientation for d very young ones about the damages & plenty damages of drugs.. those of you who have much younger ones in sec sch should start advising them against it from now.
@antimarriage: drugs which ever one that u and ur brother are taking is damaging u already.. Just accept and try to stop it for ur own sake & parents ' sake. If u don't tale drugs , u don't miss one thing- I lie? PLS help ursef

Just look at yourself !!
At ur age.. smh

Franzinni:
She collided with them? .. hope she is ok sha. The people that collided like this last week ehn. 3 kpai two are in hospital and the Honda and korope destroy totally. Kai.

I use to tell drivers to stop driving rough it can lead to collision.

Seun:
There's a large number of accounts that was set up to like posts that favour a particular party.

The question now is how will u discipline your Super mods for not doing something about it or bringing it to your attention(as u claim)?

Truth is it is the natural tendency for women except if a God fearing woman decides personally to still respect her husband despite her new circumstance.

Penguin2:
That’s how Tinubu and his urchins won.

But we move onto the election proper.

Nigeria must be rescued

U this Penguin2 bird, u havent learnt that Tinubu is a political (evil) genius. You are still consoling ursef with 20 miscounted votes.
Instead of u to logically analyse Tinubu chances at d primaries despite ur hate for him, u were just overtly emotional

Buhari has no real interest in a primaries that will throw up a southerner!!
A man that backed a fulani for a UN job in 1985 over his own country national cannot be committed to any southern candidate esp a Christian one.
The honest truth is his heart belongs to Atiku over any southern APC candidate.
U can bet he won't do a serious campaign for Tinubu who will eventually emerge as APC candidate.

solochris:
So its only vice president slot that the SE is good of abi? Come to think of it, in the whole of SE, it's Ihedioha that you guys saw. Una never ready atall

Oya suggesst someone reasonable from d SE

U have 3M in savings which keeps increasing .
What do u use it for out of ur listed wants?

I think u should rule out car & uber for now. Car without uber is a liability( u will keep.spending on it). Uber is energy & time consuming - it might affect ur other paroles. - Is it even in ogun state u want to be doing uber- offside nìyẹn

Complete d house- use fine roof, gud. And rent it out. This is my advice for d 3m +++

Finish schooling too- u dont need too much money for that one.

Travel out-- my advise- u can go on vacation once a while later.
But to just relocate- to go and do what?
If u don't go by schooling there, with IT skills or health sector skills, it won't be easy over there.

Black or yellow sniper insecticide works well.
But ensure u buy original

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