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Irrespective of the country you leave for outside Nigeria, you must do a legal divorce before remarrying.

You can only get away with it if your husband decides to look away. You are still married to him under our law and all laws under planet Earth except for mars..

Why are you both not working things out? Irreconcilable differences is an ambiguous statement to cover up meaningless issues. You both can still make it work.

It is not a mere conversation. When opportunity presents itself, he is going to cheat if he is yet to.

Now, the question is, what are your plans? What can you do to stop him from plunging further into that abyss?

preciousan:
whats if its the other way round?

My statement applies to both gender.

He told you that because you put yourself in the position of "distrust".

The onus is on you to prove him wrong

Jetspeed:
Hello All, Please do I need to notorise my certificate before including it in my transcript for my school to send to vetassess?

Your school will be the one to notarize it. They only need to stamp it and write "photocopy of the original".

goofyone:
I tried my best already at trying to get my money back. I have threatened him yet though.
I really just can't get around this idea among Nigerians to not want to pay back. It's sickening. Just to get my money back o.

Police is my going to be my last resort. Cos they can't hold him legally for too long. He'll probably get away after a while and we'll be back to square one.

Police and "legally" are not best of friends and the two cannot be written in the same sentence.

They will get your money for you by all means especially with the promise of a good commission.

What is your budget?

Must only be in GRA?

For this type of work, Nigeria Police is your best friend. Trust me, you will not be disappointed...

cococandy:
Not only that. They were indirectly teaching those kids that striping someone unclad is a good way of punishment.

No wonder adults of our generation like to strip criminals as punishment . That's how they were raised. any small thing that happens 1 2 3 strip and start molesting the person or taking pictures of the offender.

This is how it starts.

Most adults in this part of our world do think and believe that children are slow learner or don't know anything.

Contrary to that believe, they are very very fast learner especially from actions.

They hardly forget what they see. I still have fotographic memory(ies) of some things I saw at age 6.

It is very sad that schools that should know better are worse than some parents.

bugativeron:
I agree with you to certain extent. Like I said I told the founder to apply stick but I guess we differ on how many.
But I tried to talk with my daughter and my son with their mom later in the day. We told him sorry but that we also dont like the fact we get those reports about him. Then he was hugged and by everybody, though he promised not to be that naughty anymore. Then my daughter insisted he gets to watch any channel of his choice for the nite even ahainst my standing rule of no tv during the week except weekend. This I allowed him. So it is carrot and stick not stick alone

I like the part you both apologized to him. Very commendable.

Please don't let him be humiliated in public in school again. If possible, change his school.

The attitude of the school shows that they have no corrective and formative skills for children without violence or extreme punishment.

The punishment meted out to him is like killing an ant with a sledge hammer.

May the boy live long to be an agent of positive change in his generation. Amen

6yr old Stripped naked and beaten?


As stubborn and rude as I was at that age, I was not stripped naked. Not even when I nearly blinded a classmate with blow.

Bro, in an ideal setting, the parent that sanctioned it and the school that took such a crazy decision would be answering questions at welfare center if not doing some time in jail.

I am not against disciplining an errant child but going overboard is not it. The boy is too young for such humiliation. What you may not understand is that you are unconsciously hardening the boy instead of softening him. Discipline is for reformation and not deformation.

Please, what is the name of the school and where is it located so I wouldn't make any mistake in enrolling my son there?

Seriously, the punishment is too grievous for the of fence committed and for his age.

MizMyColi:
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Are you (m) or (f)?

You are about the only person who doesn't know I am a certified and complete MALE...

And quite candidly, I'm putting myself in the shoes of the average nigerian girl.
Maybe trying to garner some pity excuse for her.

I understand you because it is what most ladies are good at doing. They do fail to do a critical assessment of issues to understand their fault so as to correct it to prevent re-occurrence. No, they wouldn't do it but find an excuse why they are the victim.

You come off as a tad bit insensitive.
I take it you're (m).
At the emboldened, what saying you now Who nuh go nuh know..............

The truth and reality most times sound insensitive. I am sensitive to their plight but the truth must be said. When the truth is not spoken, they will keep wallowing in misery.

My conclusion is this.

Babes be going thru some shiii in their relationships because they do not know better.
If they did, they won't last the next nanosecond in there.
Knowledge is power.
It pays to wise up

Most actually know better but are tied down because of "fringe benefits"...

UjSizzle:
@bellong
Is seeking love a vain ambition? I know everyone at some point in their life wants that.

You misunderstood my post.

Seeking love is not a vain ambition but the criteria used to achieve it are mostly vain.

crackhaus:
Lovely book.

I'm just in an odd mood for watching the Pirates of the Caribbean film series all over again, hence the pirate's song.

Lovely and crazy movie...

MizMyColi:
You make it out to be so easy on screen.
Leaving a toxic relationship requires will power and mental strength.

Not every lady out there understands ^^^ those concepts.

How in God's green Nairaland did they inflict such on themselves, how sir/ma

You meet a guy........
You thought you were loved.
You thought you understood love.
You didn't know better........

You summon virtually every fibre of your being to love him back, fiercely and sacrificially.
Even when it's against your values, you had sex.
You didn't know better

You'd committed your resources (time, treasure and talent) into making the relationship work.
Little did you realize you were being manipulated.
Little did you realize you were loosing yourself.

When you finally did.....
You were torn between___[i]"I've com too far to let go......what will people think, where do I go to from here......yepah! I am finished! [/i]
and "Now that I have realized, I can't continue........I'mma take a walk.
^^^ The average uninformed/unenlightened Nigerian lady would stick with the first option, except she has a back-up plan.


I beg to disagree on "has no control over"......

I have an exam tomorrow.
My books are right in front of me.
The course I'm reading for looks like Aramaic.
I'm feeling sleepy........

I have a choice.
To close the darn book and just scribble whatever tomorrow.
The worst that can happen is re-writting.

I have the power to make any choice that suits me....... (control)
Yet I'm going thru' with this anyway......

I'm really not left with much of a choice from the other party involved (examiner)
So, somehow.....I have to cover this book, anyhow......
^^^That's the way it is for some ladies too.

It is nobody's fault if a lady cannot do her due diligence before giving a player an opportunity. Most of these players use the vain ambition of these ladies to woo them.

You summon virtually every fibre of your being to love him back, fiercely and sacrificially.
Even when it's against your values, you had sex.

At least, the sex was mutual. The guy didn't put a gun to her head to do it. This shouldn't be a reason to complain.

Considering not to leave a relationship because of what others will say is a self inflicted damage. Probably she got into the relationship because of what others will say.

Summary of what I am saying is that everybody should take responsibility for his/her failure and not shift blame which most of these ladies do. They are never at fault but the guy.

MizMyColi:
Some ladies just don't deserve the blow they're cut in relationships.
More oft than not, it's because they don't know better sha.

Nobody who is innocent deserves blows in a relationship irrespective of gender. However, ladies cry wolf when they are mostly the architect of their own misfortune. Every lady has the right to quit a toxic relationship but they wouldn't and will keep complaining that their guys are not treating them right.

Whatever is self inflicted cannot be categorized as "going through". "going through" is something a person has no control over.

Ladies should learn to make good choices than being controlled by ephemeral things.

MizMyColi:
I won't rule out the possibility jarey
6 months on NL and I've seen/heard impossible things.

I already addressed that in my reply on her thread.
Me jus lyk erring on the side of caution tho' Lolz.

Y'see........
Babes are going thru' shiii o.
#Fact

I believe it's a message to every lady on here sha.

Explain the bolded...

crackhaus:
Hear hear!
Captain MizMyColi, you speech gets a resounding aye from the:
Fifteen men on a dead-man's chest,
Yo ho ho and a bottle of alomo...

From Treasure Island?

I couldn't get to finish reading that book. The owner collected it before I could complete reading it...

AfricanApple:
most of our naija men are fond of putting their siblings as their next of kin thereby leaving the wife to suffer if he dies before her, not even when she has been very submissive like most of you are obsessed with. they also forgets that they have children that the wife would now be left with the burden of taking care of them alone

why!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Honestly, I don't know

Evathyst:
No matter how long a log of wood stays in the water, it can never become a crocodile.

No matter how long an 'Okoroji or okorowhatever' stays in lagos, he can never become a lagosian. Gerrit?

She has not told anyone that matter to her life, how did you get to know?

thorpido:
if a man earns N80k per month and his wife earns N60k per month,is there anything wrong with having a baby if they are prudent?

The problem with most ladies and men is that they want to "belong". Raising a baby is not that expensive as taunted by many people. Aside the periodic diapers change, there is no other "high cost" expenses for the baby provided the parents are not concerned about other people's irrelevant opinions.

Medical science advise at least 6 month exclusive breastfeeding for a new born. One is exempted from buying formula, which may consume a better percentage of finance depending on how well the baby eats, for 6 months. After the 6 months gap, you can start giving the baby fruits and solid which are not expensive.

There are new baby clothes that are not over the top price. Go to Idumota in Lagos, if you live in Lagos. No need of buying expensive baby products for the baby if the resources are not available.

People do talk as if you need all the millions in the world to raise a kid and we are mostly unrealistic on this forum when it comes to finance as if it is everybody that luck smiles on.

Yes, 140k is enough to raise a baby for a prudent family.

Jetspeed:
Dear All, What Vetassess address will my school use when forwarding my transcript.

The address is on VETASSESS' website.

SAMBARRY:
[b] haaa you better dont let them ask you the breed ya fada is [/b]o


ill be right back to post my own

next

You asked her already

MrsBreezy:
Loool well yes. Its not too much to ask

Hmm lol really .

Check your mail

MrsBreezy:
Haha fine.

I think that's it. If you can find someone to handle all that. Plus I'm extremely stubborn.

And he has to wear a suit and have nice shoes.and really smart and funny and patient and hardworking and nice.

Ha.... all these things in a man... there is God ooooo..

Actually, what you have listed are not out of place... And yes, I have them that can fit in

emmymdk:
hello, please can anyone have any link of a Toyota Avalon 2007 or 2008 US used? you can contact me through 07032266983.

Are you looking for one already in Nigeria or pre-order?

MrsBreezy:
Sure.

I'm extremely picky. I want what I want to be exactly how I want it. Some might say high maintenance.

This is not picky but staying true to what you want. It means you can't compromise what you want.

Its not bad....

Next.

MrsBreezy:
Sigh. Okay let's do process of elimination.

Im not submissive. Ever.

Submission is a relative term. You may not be submissive in an area but completely submissive in others...

Next list?

MrsBreezy:
Haha its a very long list and very specific.

The more reason you should list them. Your expectations wouldn't be disappointed.

MrsBreezy:
Haha lol you've a lot of friends do you?

Well sure what packages do you have to offer

I have all packages in store. It is left to you tell me what you want.

MrsBreezy:
Haha well its true I'm not o. There's no he haha

Lol I don't like green. At all.

In that case, I must give you an he by fire by force.. What kind of package do you want?

MrsBreezy:
Haha. There's no 'he' to propose lol but in my dreams he does it with all. I Dont like emerald tho.

Don't tell me its true. You are a fine chic... There must be an "he" by fire by force...

Emerald is a nice gemstone. A variety of beryl. Maybe you don't like color green.