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Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.

After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.

The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.

I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?

My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.

I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.

I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?

Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks

Adeyinka112:
$300 per session or semester?
Can someone with HND apply?

Dussy42:
Pls can someone tell me the average cost of living for a student in turkey who wants to save cost or live modest

DamZik:
So you people believe that flimsy reason of name mismatch is enough to take the school six (6) months to sort out. I can assure you, if VC's daughter has the same challenge, it won't take the school up to six (6) to sort it out. I love everything that has to do with Oyedepo but I don't like this issue of sluggishness from CU. In the timeline of events above, look at the wide gaps between the dates. Who does that in a sane country?

prince2ce:
resident permit cost around $250/350 max, but you must get a registered accommodation for you to put in for the resident permit,however to rent a single 1+1 apartment isn’t easy oooo in Istanbul, rent alone cost between $250/ $ 300 excluding the other bills.ie( gas, water , electricity, house cleaner bill, therefore if it’s your plan to come over to turkey, ah beg no hold $500 as bta and think you dey japa oooo, nah from frying pan to fire straight. Guys here no dey accommodate oooo. But whoever is coming from Lagos to Istanbul should let me know here between now and next week.

Latestikem:
As a student in Turkey, what are the job opportunities there ?

Akunna25:
please anyone that has recently migrated to turkey how much will it cost on average to get residence permit or if you know anyone there abeg help me ask i need to know

Akunna25:
please can you help me ask about the cost of getting changing tourist visa to residence permit over there..

ENG0701:
It is an internet plan, if you pay for 1000mbps, you get average of 800 throughout the month. And I did not say its mobile, sorry if I wasnt clear. It is home internet. Mobile is way lower, mine is like 3mbps.

ENG0701:
You can also go online to check, Roger's has highest of 1000mbps, Bell has highest of 150mbps.
I worked briefly with Bell, so I know

@benji93

ENG0701:
Categorically, yes. Rogers has speed of 1000mbps, not an exaggeration.

ENG0701:
I doubt the OP has been to Canada before.
Health is absolutely free, noone pays anything for healthcare except for drugs which are affordable because there is a body that regulates drugs prices.
Power in canada is way cheaper than Nigeria. You claimed you paid 80 CAD, that is 23,600. For 247 light. The max i have paid is 90 CAD. Despite central AC that gets to even the bathroom, electric cooker, and we bake and cook a lot in my house.
Data is cheaper than Nigeria also, I pay 45CAD for unlimited data with speed of 150mbps. I also pay 50cad for my phone but that is unlimited calls to US and all of Canada, how much do you think 8GB and unlimited calls in Nigeria will be per month.

Modo9:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_I9Y3PS42vo

RomanGreen:
No, you made it look like CU is a place where Oyedepo breeds saints destined to enter heaven

RomanGreen:
You that have a high moral compass should be bold enough to tell your daddy to dissociate himself with the rapist that attended Shiloh.... You lots reeks of hypocrisy....... Jesus said, let he that is without sin, cast the first stone.....

Memberclub:
Horton-Tucker is doing it against the reserve clipper team. So nothing special there

Gasol will be massive for the lakers

Nets to win the NBA championship.
No Bronsexual should reply me oo

samsard:
Do you think every law was spelt out in the Bible? Or that even the ones that were spelt out were rational? Slavery is expressly allowed and humans no longer think slavery is cool. No need for this argument sef as I'm irreligious and think religion is bullshit.

Chii59:
Matthew 19vs 8 showed that every other addition to God's plan for marriage was due to their HARDNESS OF HEART.
Mat 19:4 "God made them male and female"
Note the singular description. Male and female.
And in vs 5, "This explains why a MAN, leaves his father and mother and is joined to his WIFE, and the two are united into one"
Don't harden your heart. This is exactly how God wanted it to be... from the beginning.

DeeMain:
Toughest championship in terms of all the troubles, twists and turns and deaths and pains of 2020. Kobe, Corona, league shut down as Lakers peaked, many people die, you don't know if you are next, bubble proposed, key Lakers players opt out or threaten to (AVB and Dwight), Rondo injured, Dwight finally opts in, bubble starts, Lakers are playing shitty basketball, Lebron not in form at all, AD too, AVB sorely missed, Lakers 3s not falling, title hopes now shaky, Lakers no longer favorites, bubble progresses, Lakers begin to play better, Lebron and AD begin to find their form, Black Lives Matter boycott hits the bubble, players threaten to walk away from the bubble, days and days of uncertainty as negotiation continues, bubble resumes, Lakers progress to the finals, Lakers win the Championship.

A40, you need to understand the psychological toll these stories can take on the minds of athletes and why Lebron would say that. Of course, it's possible you are saying all these to score cheap points.

samsard:
Maybe you should send your mother and sisters to Sharia countries where they're treated as properties.
You say you're a 'born again' Christian yet you clearly just ridiculed a basic tenet of Christianity?

Chii59:
Title doesn't equal relationship.
Eden is the blueprint of the plan God had in mind for marriage. One man, one wife till death do them part.

Edopesin:
Lookman is so good

birdman:
Wait, let me ask you, is Lebron not 35? How easy is it to win finals MVP at 35? Compared to 4, 5 years ago

Like I told A40, at the start of the playoffs, Clippers were the favorite. Lakers had lost several games in a row, the guy who was supposed to defend Kawhi was not in camp, and Rondo looked slow coming off injury. Unknown Caruso carried the PG load early on. Even though they were #1 seed playing the #8 blazers, they were expected to lose because post-covid they were a 0.5 team with injuries. Yall forgot TNT crew not sure LAkers could beat blazers after game 1 playoffs? Chuck predicting a sweep? Haba, you guys fear God!

subcbouy:
But Some persons have funded their studies without government or whatsoever. You stated that research can only be funded. Do you think all research is intensive costly?

Etinosa12345:
Ado is in the dictionary and it doesn't mean settlement...

Settlement means ibugbe in Yoruba

When oba ado was born in Benin,... And his original name was Edo... Goan do ur research.. it was when he came to Lagos that he was called Ado

Coincidentally, these are the places Benin had more influence in

Since there is no known origin for the word Ado but there is for Edo... What impetus do u have that still makes u think that Yoruba gave the word Ado to Benin?

odizeey:
Team no play well you say na Pogba. Baba let's leave Pogbas ineptitude for now.

Is Pogba the coach?

odizeey:
It's the teams problem then.

eph12:
United needs the good luck more. Westham could have been at least 2 goals up if not for that slip. Our first half is currently on autopilot and inshalla and you're talking about winning? Winning what? Which competition?