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Just love your wife as a man. Don't shout at her or quarrel with her in their presence, children tends to be more close to the weaker parent in the family, and see the other as been too harsh.

Children are happy when there is love between their parents and they will grow and become proud of them.
I know some of my fellow men will not agree with me, but if you try this, you will not regret it.

Well, i think children tends to help the weaker parent. If the mother is weaker than the father financially, especially if the father doesn't love the mother well or doesn't care about her.

Nebes:
I remember buying gifts for my mother when I was in SS2. I remember how she cried but I don’t remember anything else she said. I think she prayed for me. I’m not sure. She died same year.

Now I remember the day I dashed my father 1K. He took it and asked me to kneel down. He told me that God will lead me and break down every barrier in this life for me. My father also died before I became stable financially. Today any time I break through any barrier I remember my father. I always succeed even where others fail. Rules are always bent for me to ensure I get anything I want. That was the only thing I remember giving him. I wish I gave him more.

I don’t care how much you give your mother but one blessing from your father will speak for you more than a thousand from your mother. Remember that without him you won’t even have anybody to call mother. Give to your father please. Provoke his emotional side and hear him bless you.

You are just giving us a preferential testimony. Inside you, i know you don't know which of the blessing is opening your way for you. It might even be that your father and your mother blessing is upon you making things easy for you.

Okay, what about those that their father died when they are kids, and their mother raised them and blessed them?

I just like it when ladies appear natural! All this artificial stuff doesn't move me.

Kai, see i don try make i ask God why, e come be like say i dey waste my time!
Na this kind thing dey make me vex!

Please our religious leaders, i have been saying it and i want to repeat it again. They should start writing "SAFETY FIRST"on marriage certificate, to sensitize people that their life is more important than the marriage they are into.

Am just imagining how i will beat to dead, the person I used my mouth and confess to how much I loved her because of unreasonable provocation.

We men! Must we beat our wives to prove our position in the family.
At times, overlooking some certain things, will not make us half a man. Because if you act when you are angry, you will make the best mistake you will ever live to regret. It's an act of foolishness to think beating a grown up adult, will make her obey and respect you. Instead, it will her hate you more and become more stubborn.

Go and get aboniki balm. Com back and thank me later.

Iyaebe:
It is the reason I avoid all these tech guys and bitcoin people and any guy involved with online making money rubbish. If you ain't into oil and gas, real estates or an international footballer, please find your square root.

If you have this kind of taste, then it's your type that falls the victim of what the OP is talking about.

Infact your own greed is worst than those who follow Yahoo boys.

OldNairalander:
Someone should please recommend a drug that will specifically kill the X sperm cell.
I don't wanna birth a bitch

I can teach you how to give birth to only make child. Is possible.

Exodora:
This people will not learn. Was at a salon on 1st when some four guys came looking for a particular girl that came to the salon to make her hair, could you imagine that the idiot didn't even know the person that she has been chatting with through Facebook, ishe has to login to know the exact person when the salon manager asked her who among them is the one.
The idiot told her that she does not know that she will have to login to find out not only that she stupidly went out with them that evening and this is around 6:30 pm.

Just imagine!

nedekid:
Chisos, see beautiful lady this nigga killed.
The other day I saw a gory video of young boys using girls for ritual, stabbing one while another was cutting her neck
It seems as if young girls should stop dating and ignore boys.
They should rather date we matured, married men that will take care of them, fund them, not abuse them, not impregnate them (we don born finish) , not use them for rituals etc.
When the girls are ready for marriage they can then meet their mates.

And their mates are who?

Still the same boys that is doing this evil so that any girl they proposed to, will quickly agree because he has money.


I don't think that your suggestions will solve anything. The best thing is to study who they are following as boyfriend and know the kind of people he associates with, and stop following him to any where untill she married to him as wife.

Not someone whom you don't know his intention towards you, you will be following him to any where all time, even to where you know that no body will come to your rescue if anything goes wrong.


Girls should avoid hangout with a guy they are not yet married, to avoid all this evil act against them.

When you're married, you can hangout with your husband and everybody will know that you are in someone's hand, that if anything happens to you, he will be the first person your parents ask your whereabout.

At times, when i see news like this, i say to myself, how i wish I can marry all girls and save them from this kind of wickedness.


But my advice to the remaining girls in our society today, is to fear him that spend on you anyhow without being married to him. Cos you don't know who is who and what motive he has that made him to spend on you without looking back. It might be a strategy to get to you.

This is why I do pity girls of this days, cos they don't know who they will jam tomorrow that will be a dead trap for them.


It's not their fault, because no human on Earth, that would see what seems to be good, and wouldn't want to try it. And no body will see where his or her death is and still put head.

May God protect all girls out there from this evil men.

Dead on arrival!

seanwilliam:
Just shut up !. Why would you be happy in something as heartbreaking as this ?

Even though I hate lazy girls with entitlement mentality , I will never wish death on any girl using her own Body to get what she needs. Na by force for girl to gree for u?? Upgrade your life and watch dem die for u..






@ the topic, I don’t think her boyfriend can do that to her.. I mean her known boyfriend..

Though it's not certain if her boyfriend was the person that did this, but do not doubt what human being is capable of doing. Some humans are just a misfortune in disguise.

Who knows what he has done to those behind his death years back.

IrepChrist:
For those that will seek him genuinely it is very significant. You are seeking God in the early morning of a new year.

Scriptures says
"They that seek me early shall find me"

No be that kind early, the scripture dey talk about OOO.

The same way Buhari did not realize that Goodluck nwa Jonathan, is a blessing to Nigeria, and he bent on dethroning him until he leaves office.

MisterGrace:
How can you be thinking in this manner in this age and time?

Where did you grow up?

Putting yourself under unnecessary pressure in the name of having children.

Don't push this young couple into poverty and pressure.

My question is, why did the man marry when he knew he is not ready to train children in the next 5 years?

Beblessedbaba:
I so much like your husband. A very sensible man; you want to bring children into the world without proper planning on how to cater for them.

He has asked for patience for you guys to sort things out first. Madam better be calming down. By the way, you married a very focused and responsible man.

I do not understand what you mean that age is not on your side at 32. Please don't plunge this young man into 3rd level generational poverty (his parents got nada & his grandparents were peasant) rather divorce him quickly and either marry a man who is ready to be popping children year in year out. Pity his ancestors as this young man out of the millions that we have has taken a better route instead of ritualism called Yahoo or scam that will still end of messing his later years up or cut down his life in it's prime or mortgage his children fortune.

NB: Do we even wonder why the Babalawo or Dibia that does juju or fetish rituals for Yahoo boys does not do likewise for his own children or himself. The answer is flowing in the wind.

Then why did the man, rushed and get married. Why not Wait and finish his professionalism and have the money down before have a wife. Don't you know that man and woman are not the same.
So you want her to reach menopause before having children, maybe by then, the lady will look old and the man will start looking for a fresh and succulent young girls.
As a guy, i don't support this at all. Instead i will wait and make the money i think will be enough to take care of my wife and my children, before thinking of getting married.
At least consider her emotions, due to what she thinks that people will be saying at back about her.

nwekeugochukwu:
Precious Chikwendu: 'I Am Grateful For Being Single; Femi Fani-Kayode Is A Narcissist'

Femi Fani-Kayode's ex-wife, Precious Chikwendu has advised single ladies not rush into a relationship to avoid making the wrong choice, IgbereTV reports.

Chikwendu referred to her ex-husband, Femi Fani-Kayode as a narcissist and stated that it is better to be single than to be with such a man.

Her Instagram post reads;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CYE2c6us8dA/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

https://igberetvnews.com/1410703/precious-chikwendu-grateful-single-femi-fani-kayode-narcissist/

Is so obvious that his wealth and fame, beclouded your logical sense of reasoning and thinking, when you are dating him. Reason why you did not noticed that he is a "narcissist"

Shebi some girls want a man who has money and is not stingy, to be their husbands? They forget that inside gain, there is loss.
Am quite sure that during the time of she was dating him, there is also another guy whose character captured her heart, but because he is not financially and famously equal to the ex minister, she chose to follow him that is only using his money to buy what is appetizing him. Now that she realized that this life, is not what we want it to be, she is now considering last what she supposed to investigate first.

Girls, when it comes to marriage, stop saying that this person has nothing to offer you or he has but he is stingy and can't spend on you. Find out if that person love is not in disguise, because he knows that he can control your mind with what he has. If you find out that someone loves you and has respect for your own opinion and is ready to treat you like a fellow human being and you loves him or her because the character, stick with him or her even if the person does not have enough.
Bring out your own potential and influence him or her and with the understanding that is already in place, two of you will reach a great potential and live in happiness.

dre11:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/12/dog-eats-drunk-herbalists-private-parts-in-calabar/


Pic: The late herbalist’s house.

Tell a drunkard that alcohol kills slowly, and he will ignorantly reply "And who is in quick"

derecho:
Why should women be expected to be like that?
As much as I don't expect a man to beat his wife,I expect a wife(groomed woman) not to be a trouble maker.
Like I usually say, Never marry a foolish woman.
The first Letter in "Woman" should stand for Wisdom.
There are women married to agberos/jagudas(urchins/ruffians) but don't get beaten.Is it because the agbero is cultured?Nah
Those women know how to manage those men.
A wise woman builds her home but the foolish plucks it down with her hands.

A verse in Proverbs 31 says
She'll do him no harm all the days of his life.

Summary,
Marriage is a serious responsibility.
Husband Love,Wife Submit.

How do you know foolish woman, when love have blinded your eyes.
Marrying a foolish woman is not a reason for you to kill her. Why not take her back to her parents and demand for whatsoever you have spent on her head.

post=108857034:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2021/12/zambian-man-commits-suicide-after-beating-his-wife-to-death-on-christmas-day.html

I have said it before and i will keep on saying it.
They should start writing "SAFETY FIRST" on marriage certificate.

Do you know that knowing what will kill you and still wait for it to kill you, is also suicide! And God will judge you for not helping your own life. Because he said "he whom he helps, should also help him or herself.
And for the murderer, why beat the person you chose to be the love of your life to extent of collapsing. If she had done same thing that made you to beat her when you are still begging her to be your wife, will you beat her?

At times, I do ask myself where the spirit of i love you, no one will take your place in my heart, do always go after marriage?

In conclusion, speak or act when you are angry and make the best comment or take the best action you will ever live to regret!

Iyaebe:
A well deserved slap,she should claim damages afterwards. Most of these young men are very disrespectful

People will only respect you, if only you respected your own self or body.

If you bring out your property and shade it the way sellers shade their goods, buyers, must surely price it!
I don't see any reason why she should slap a customer that mistakes her to a seller for displaying what seems to be a product in the eyes of buyers.

Abeg collect the 5 Mili Joor, forget about the job. If use it well, you will become your own boss. A word is enough for the wise.

Mariangeles:
Honestly, the only way you can handle such a person is by becoming successful.
When they see that they no longer have power over you, them go humble.
For that kind of a person, dependency is their power, and they prefer to keep you dependent on them for as long as possible.

Why do you think he was against your brother getting a job?
He even hated the fact that someone other than him was dropping something. It made him mad.
Forget that excuse of him hating anything betting.
Why did he stop your mum from cultivating her cassava?

Is your mum afraid of your dad? I’d say she should try to ignore him, and be away from him as much as possible.
Some women would rather be in the village alone with their peace of mind, than be with this type of husband.

What you said about dependency is true but my own dad will not send you, even if you're the one feeding him, as long as he is seeing you, he must find something to blame you of. I don't usually want anything that will make me spend more than three days with my dad, if not he must find something or say something that will get me annoyed.

Supreme145:
Good day Nairalanders, there have been a lingering cold war in my family between my parents and it has created a tension in my family that as the first son I'm running out of options on how to dunce this tension. My parents have been married for almost 30 years and just like another has been full of ups and downs.

I will try not to sound biased but my dad's authoritarian nature has caused a serious crack in my our family and made my mom a very unhappy woman that is just enduring the marriage for the sake of her children. Instead of the children to find solace in our home we all prefer to be far away due to the continuous rift between our parents. My dad has never laid his hands on our mom but constantly talks down on her even in front of the kids, and knowing my father you would rather prefer to be mended with 2x2 plank rather than my father letting his tongue lose on you. His mouth is filled with venom.

A while ago one of my siblings got a job as a cashier in a bet shop without my father's knowledge, we kept it away from him because we knew very well he would object because he hated anything bet. My mom on the other hand knowing fully well that the boy has been idle for a while gave her consent reluctantly. My dad got to know after he observed that the boy was dropping money at home frequently and when he inquired about the source of the money and learnt that he was working in bet shop all hell was let loose.

He called me on phone in school, which he rarely does just to confirm if I was aware which I replied in the affirmative. He said all manner of derogatory things to me, because he felt his position as the head of the home was threatened, he felt we the children was siding my mom to override his authority in the home. My siblings would later call me the following day to complain about how he spoke to my mom, the poor woman cried for days. They said my dad would never see a dime of their money if they get rich even though I know it was childish talk but that's how serious thing are.

Almost all my siblings have grown to hate my dad though they conceal it very well. His tyrannical rule is not helping matters at all, my dad is the kinda father that if you spoil an appliance in the house, it would be in your best interest to repair it before he becomes aware because the funny part is he won't say much to you rather all the aggression would be transfered to my mom. If we use the generator we would have to replace the quantity of fuel that we used. I was sleeping in lecture hall in school, my pop man insisted there was no money and even advised I withdrew from school if I can't cope only to get home to meet the news that he just bought a land lol.

While I don't expect much from him cos I'm of age, I don't like how he keeps alienating himself from my other siblings due to his nonchalant attitude to their warfare. Those kids would spend weeks at home due to non payment of school fees but he would spend hundreds of thousands fixing his car if it breaks down.

My mom called me today in tears, p man just left the house without dropping anything for Xmas, and even a cube of maggi is not at home, and its not as if he doesn't have money, I'm away of the big contracts he's working on at the moment whereas he's been spending on his car putting it in shape for travelling him.
And he was the one that told momsi not to process her cassava and sell because she envisaged that something like this would happen.

Now my siblings have been bombarding me with complaints and this is why I preferred to stay back in school instead of traveling home.
How should I approach this issue? I can't call a man and tell him how to use his money, I've been struggling to make mine so that I can offset some of the expenses from his shoulder.

I love my dad and I understand his struggles, i know what people without a father figure goes through but how can I stop the hate that is brewing towards him from my siblings?
I want our home to be peaceful.9
Please I need your advice.

Bro am inside this boat you are in also! Infact as a first son in the family, my plan now is to leave the house and spend more than 10 years to see if I can focus on my future. I just want to forget about my parents before it's too late for me.

Am 30yrs now but ever since my childhood, i have never seen my dad and my mom being in good mood up till now.
My sister came back from town to take care of my mom who went for major operation, my father rejected the bread she bought. His first daughter who is married, just put to birth and came to greet him but my dad pushed her away, infact i don't know where to start explaining all things my dad has been doing to his family.
Each time i decide turn back from my parents, i always remember my mom and I will be weak. Honestly am tired of him.

newswires:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8y5slMOJTGE

Nigerian Police officer gifts passengers in a tricycle cash to celebrate Christmas in Asaba, Delta state.

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CX2sQ2bB-Ze/?utm_medium=copy_link

Purely staged by the police, just to get commendation from gullible Nigerians. Las las, he will go back and collect his money back times 100,from other motorists.

Selfmotivated:
That's good but $100 is #41,100

Even if it's $100 is ₦1000, do you know the gap between thousand and hundred? Is quite a big shame to a country like Nigeria.

Nigeria currency is as worthless as the country, take it or leave it.

Efulefu:
True talk, is hard for me to eat meat, or fish, or drink any thing....just to save every kobo

May God bless anything that's not of evil you further put that your sweat into in 100 folds. May the eyes of evil ones never see you. Those who wait to reap from where they did not sow.

As I am now, i don't know if i should just take my own life. Cos am totally depressed because of what a human being like me did to me last year November. Infact I begin to ask myself, if actually God exist. If yes, then he wouldn't have watched me suffer for a whole four years and lose everything i had saved to scammers. As I am now, tears has finished from eyes, it's now bleeding. I ask my God is bad that i chose to save from the little amount i saved earning below 25k as a sales boy? I feel like exiting this wicked world.

Vinnie2000:
Truth is ALL ladies can actually ask a Man out! They have natural Boldness in dem!

It's Broke or Semi-brokes guys dey do dat Greenlight Sh*t to!
When they see a Yusuf Buhari or Davido Kind of Dude, Ladies woo him straight!

Una neva know our Naija Babes o!

And it is our Nigeria boys is making them have that natural boldness that a man must ask them out or toast them. Because the boys had make it look like it's a priority to toast a girl.
If guys show less concerned on the things of girls, then girls will start opening up to them.

SurvivorM:
Lol I actually asked a guy out before, I like going for what i like but some men mentality is that if you ask them out they have the upper hand in some kind of twisted way and try to use you.
Well long sorry short I dump his ass before he could say jack.
I love myself so much to tolerate bullshit.
In other new somebody should bless me this Christmas

That's the right thing to do. And now did you noticed that it help you to realize that he not the kind of person you expect him to be, if not he would have given a listening ear.

There is nothing much there, if you like a guy, you walk up to him and tell him you love him. If he try to use you play, you walk away immediately.
The way i love and respect girls that walk up to me and tell me how she loved me, is quite different with the way i love those that i toast myself and after doing shakara to me, later come back me. But girls think that all boy are the same. But the thing is if want to do it, do it with someone that has matured mind, not all this small boys that focus all their mind on how to have sex with a girl and shift to the next girl.

Hintona:
Come and force us na

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Nairaland men are so intimidated by my comment. They are even threatening me with Shiloh

Make I laugh small abeg

Very funny gender. Is it by force to ask a man out?

Why is it so hard to admit the truth?
Post your picture let's compare it her own and who is more beautiful.

If you love someone, you walk up to him and tell him like him, it does no crime.

You girls think it's easy toast you people still you girls will look down on us and even insult us if it happened that the guy is not your taste. Is it a sin to tell someone that you don't want him in a matured way and with a good manner?