₦airaland Forum

Massiveglory:
See how bold he is towards unconstitutionality.
He has no regards to the fabrics that holds the nation. Yet he wants to govern the nation.

We just love to ridicule ourselves. People have suddenly turned blind and dumb to simple english.

Constitutionallly Nigeria has no president elect, but since english language is not our first language and translating the constitutional requirement for the FCT abuja has become a challenge, Let those in charge set up a committee that will consult the UK judiciary to explain what the word "AND" means.

The problem is Nigerians think everything is a joke or meme....

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
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Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

Cook for urself na...must she cook for you?

OGHENAOGIE:
one thing with nairaland is too much negativity or jokes cos it's mostly anonymous... Pple should share stories but na go here go there we just de read... The person quoting china forget in China govt handle or run mostly everything unlike Nigeria besides 5m as someone said is big money... Again it's a myopic woman that ll be thinking of just marriage celebration without how the marriage ll look like...

Too much jokes is what gets to me.....

chloedogie:
Hmmmmm. Until most citizens divert their attentions away from Abuja and start holding their councilors, local government chairmen, lga house of assembly members, House of representatives members senators, commissioners and governors responsible and to account for the funds disbursed to them, Nigeria will never change. I can remember between 1999 and 2007, councilors were executing road projects in my town. But today, na the president everybody dey shout.

They are too lazy to think beyond the president.

Dexy4yah:
When the head is rotten the whole body will get infected....the problem is no one rather than BUHARI

The citizens are just as much the problem as Buhari.

olisefom:
Nigerians blame leaders for everything sha

Exactly....but in truth, a significant portion of the blame should go to the citizens.

Dreamhighnow:
I don’t care the sentiment you use. But don’t blame citizens. What Nigeria needs is a good and visionary leader.

Nigeria politicians bastardised the system. Steal your money and still blame the citizen

Stop blaming the citizen. If only we get few good leaders in places… it will flow down

The citizens are just as bad as the leaders unless you are denying the blatant truth.

Reminderz:
a man who thinks a woman doesn't keep her options open is a dead man walking... a woman is always single until married, and even if married, she's planning her possible escape routes in case the man doesn't perform. give a woman your 100% heart at your own peril.

Words on marble....

These are very true words.....

Very true and wise words....

Also even after marriage, they are still constantly evaluating the guy to figure out if they made the best decision....

How did you come to realize these truths??

flokii:
You're not alone.. vacation abroad is cool and fine with moi but permanent relocation? mba.

Go and read stories of how accident victims die in Nigeria after being "rejected" by several hospitals and how doctors are always making mistakes leading to the death of patients....if you are staying in Nigeria how do you manage the health Aspect

HellVictorinho6:
u have come with ur vomit again

Blacks are so lazy...they are their own problem.

ayandee:
That's life. One can't have it all. Yes, the cold can be very brutal and you have to dress yourself and the kids in layers. But I will rather pick the cold. It's bearable.
Insecurity, economic instability, weak institutions, poor system of education, epileptic power supply and a very weak passport are very unbearable. It takes extra strength to live in Nigeria. An elderly friend once said "Alagbara lo n gbe ni Nigeria ".

Weak institutions = black man laziness

ednut1:
english is not that hard. I said looks like its nearing collapse, I didn’t say is nearing collapse. You guys wish that we should be doing McDonald job’s abroad ba. But sorry to burst your burble na office job most of us dey do earning cool money. In uncertain times some will still make money, some will japa, its human nature.

My mum went for a burial in our state yesterday , a relative that had kidney failure, he was to travel to india next month but his dialysis was messed up by the hospital. Same yesterday there was news of kidnap on lagos ibadan i sharply had to call to be sure she no dey among. These are some of the issues wey dey make people japa o

You are correct....very correct....even the dialysis they are supposed to do well they didn't do well....that's the problem of the lazy blacks....no one ever does their job properly....same thing when accident victims are passed from hospital to hospital with silly excuses until they give up the ghost....

naijaboy99:
America and Canada are already collapsed system with everyone on depression. America and Canada are hell on earth

In Canada cocaine drugs are all legal, its an anti social country very boring....America and Canada are hell on earth....

atutupoyoyo2211:
I also know a Shell Contract staff who was making 400k in Nigeria, now making $20k cad a month. He works as a manager with AWS.

You are lying no IT Job in Canada pays CAD20000 monthly except he is a contractor.....but if he is a contractor that cad20000 will be hit by corporate income tax and after that, personal income tax....corporate 12.5% personal marginal rate about 40%

ariesbull:
which effect...the ones that migrated in 80s and 90s what effect ?how many of them own businesses here in Nigeria or there ...

many of them come home been depressed and lonely cos their kids don't and wouldn't come home


How many of them own big businesses here in Nigeria or even in abroad ...they still do that hourly wage of a thing till they are 60s...

is that one life and maybe still paying mortgage and credit card debts I don't want to add student loans

And that hourly wage amounts to nothing after taxes and rent and living expenses.....

EmirGold:
https://www.pulse.ng/news/politics/tinubu-urges-christians-to-recommit-to-patriotic-pursuits-in-easter-message/j4h2q2l

All the way from France

Dozie32:
Nigeria as a nation has failed her citizens.

The citizens failed themselves. Lazy black monkeys....

raskymonojendor:
Nigeria.
Lack of maintenance.

Lack of maintenance means laziness....

Fighter2029:
I thought south Sudan is in East Africa,and Nigeria is in West Africa?

They are not good liars....

BloomingDale:
Nigerian men. The devil the Bible speaks of. Going to and fro the earth looking for whom to destroy. Oloriburuku specie.

The faster women practice selective breeding, the faster we can come out of this hell we are living in with these men, where your safety is not guaranteed, and your life can be snuffed out at any time just for no reason. Please practice selective breeding. Let’s breed out this wicked, devilish specie.

What is selective breeding?

A friend observed a trend and after narrating his ordeal to me, I said let me share it here to solicit advice for him.
A caretaker manages lets say 12 flats...every year or every two years he gives tenants Notice to Quit for no reason. The landlord does not want to be involved in running the flat and even after the landlord was written by the tenant, the landlord did not say anything. Hence the caretaker has unlimited power. What can he do in this situation where after 2 years of renting he was given notice to quit. He also appealed to the caretaker for more time to move out but the caretaker refused saying he only has the statutory six months....

What is at stake is that the caretaker stands to collect 10% legal, 10% agreement free and about N100,000 for caution fee which is all the money he will chop.

What advice can you give my friend?

UyaiIncomparabl:
I believe in gender roles, baby.

Good luck with that

UyaiIncomparabl:
Lol. When it comes to outlining men's responsibilities, you go bunkers. It's a man's responsibility to provide. And providing isn't suffering.

Your own responsibility is to sit at home and stress a man financially and watch him die before his time....

UyaiIncomparabl:
Lol. When it comes to outlining men's responsibilities, you go bunkers. It's a man's responsibility to provide. And providing isn't suffering.

It's a woman's responsibility to provide for herself....

Wake up....

Dbestbrest:
Marriage is for the minds ready to settle down. It is not for the fainthearted. It is between 2 opposite sex that loves each other. Marriage is not between 2 people that are infatuated to each other. They are between those that loved themselves from day one and had made up their minds to live together for the rest of their lives. Marriages are full of ups and downs likewise our daily lives. The 2 couples knew they were coming from different backgrounds and must able to tolerate their shortcomings. No marriage is perfect but successful couples worked together to make their union work. They eliminate third parties from their union and they don't stop loving each other despite the fact that they do quarrel once in a while. They don't listen to side talks, they don't share their secrets with their neighbours. They don't also allow pastors to dabble into their relationship. They pray together and they do things together. The man of the house doesn't burden his wife with responsibilities that are naturally theirs. Wives help when their husbands are down financially. They don't hide their income from one another and above all, they acknowledge God as the head of the home. I married 26 years ago and I still love my wife as if we met yesterday

Una go just sit down dey type nonsense....so it's the man that came into the world to suffer....

RawBitterTruth:
This selected drug lord old thief doesn't even give a flying x#ck about the citizen or to even his blinded followers.

His followers are blinded by broom witchcraft.

History555:
Fake. Who recorded the telephone conversation

Dss wiretapping??

Reinaldo:
APC organized everything. APC will be pushing out a lot of propaganda. Always remember that they're liars and their party is filled with hardened criminals.

God bless you. And APC are so desperate they are willing to do anything to remain in power....maybe CJN hasn't given Tinubu assurance he will rule in his favor?

ogododo:
•LP: We’re not part of insurrection plans

•Such plan’ll be major setback –Agbakoba



https://sunnewsonline.com/interim-govt-plot-allegation-ploy-to-arrest-opposition-atiku/

Blacks are more wicked than international average..

Tareq1105:
And what's the big deal about your US Visa? Is US your country? Do you know the number of countries I've been to for official assignment? Can you do what you like in US? Third class citizen talking rubbish.

The negro with their confrontational lifestyle. I'm not comparing with you. Bye

HilcomTech:
U no know book
Power belongs to the people and we have given Tinubu our mandate.

Only 5% mandate robbers who could only win 1 governorship election in Nigeria will complain

Lets do the maths correctly

200,000,000 multiply by 5% = 10,000,000
We now divide 10,000,000 by 37 (since Abuja is considered as a state) gives 270,270
IPOB won 1 state out of 6 SE state, which means we further divide 270,270 by 6 gives 45,045
Take away the elderly, children and all the females, that like 45,000 divide by 5 gives 9,000

Imagine 9,000 untrained, unarmed but ph00leesh IPOB against 100,000 well trained and armed Nigerian Army.

That is a suicide move

Good luck with you and Tinubu... you should move in with him

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

No offence but is the story real? If the story is real then maybe she thinks she missed out on having fun and now wants to explore....