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Godsonkemz:
Many of them are still single because they neglected suitors that indicated interest when they were younger simply because they had high standards and unimaginable expectations while the others have bad character.

Not necessarily...Many felt a better man would come.....

Ladies postpone marriage based on the amount if interest they are getting from guys....marriage is not their preferred form of relationship...

kernniejay:
The truth is that many of them are only looking for either poverty alleviation program or someone to rescue them from shame or family pressure.

Most of them sef

officialwdhtv:
Senator Ned Nwoko and his beautiful 4th wife Laila at an event recently

#wetindeyhappentv

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CyLryF5p-D8/?igshid=NjIwNzIyMDk2Mg==


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aF9nH1kc-K0

Real Nigger....I too like this man....

Zayn00:
So na only man dey kill abi… woman no dey kill is that your point? Smh 🤦‍♂️ You disappoint me sha… so chidinma ataga abi wetin be her name na resurrect she resurrect the man abi or for that canada wey u talk the women wey dey kill their children just to be with someone else na wetin? Abi woman wey dey divorce man for there collect everything wey the man worked for all his life na wetin… just look at what they did Emmanuel Eboue … isn’t that killing the man? Nawa oooo

It's about the rate of occurrence.... for every 100 male murders, there's only about 5 or 7 female murders....men believe they must resort to murder in the first instance and that it makes them manly.....women don't.. ..

@Jennyclay Jennyclay
I agree with you that the male gender are largely murderers and savages.....

The truth is no one in this world talks about the male deficiency i.e. they are mostly murderers....only in feminist countries like Canada is this uncomfortable truth discussed.

dododawa1:
Regretting WHITE people are more INTELLIGENT than BLACK people

Blacks are superior to the western European savages....they said Africans are monkeys but hold on to the art work of the monkeys....take a clue from that...it wasn't only art they stole, they also stole technology and renamed it....Einstein wasn't the originator of relativity theory, it was discovered centuries earlier by non europeans

SirLakes:
No wonder they are still pointing guns at you to mine resources in zamfara and several other parts of Nigeria and Africa.

You are superior Indeed!

Chinese isn't white na....the western European is a savage in need of native American and African civilization

SirLakes:
Black innovators living in white man's land


No cap 🧢 You inherited your stupidity

Don't you know Britain wanted to invade large parts of Africa even post independence.... the black man is superior to white folks bro....whites are savages

Tayorshd87:
Yes that one sure na 😊
Is just that am not really financially bouyant that's why I haven't started yet but I have been cheating on her normally sha 😂😆

How old was she when you married her?

Tayorshd87:
Sorry bro u are not left alone I also made such mistake but after all as long as she can give birth 😜

Just manage am as am managing mine now too 🙁

I no dey manage anything oooo....I must hv side chicks and plenty girlfriends outside while she remains the "wife" (in title only)....

dontrulee:
If you did the above, you'll have more regrets Sir.
I once treaded this path you mentioned verbatim, I had fun but I also had regrets. I wished I sticked to one woman

You only hv regrets if you actually fuk around but if you just date in moderation (focus on forreplay and not fukkin with everyone), you will be happier

UncleKoboko:
YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE SETTLED FOR LESS.
If you grew up not being wayward, you should never settle for a NON-VIRGIN girl. Never.

A NON-VIRGIN girl will pretend to love you, pretend to be understanding and supportive but after some times, their true colours will awaken.
They are mostly USELESS, EVIL, careless and selfish Bastards.

Now I have plenty side girlfriends to make up for my errorneous past....

Waiting until marriage to date and get a romantic partner instead of maximizing my mating opportunites (and I dont mean sleeping around - just talking to different girls trying to toast them kissing if the opportunity presents, having multiple relationships but only sleeping with those that love me back and i could get serious with )... i dont do use and dump...

I never had a girlfriend cos I was doing holy holy and marriage was to evening newspaper....was very disappointing.....

Makenz25:
Your case is 90% similar to mine. Just take heart you come out of your depression stronger just the way I came out stronger now.
I always advise young guys, before you talk of starting a business for your wife make she don born like one or two children for you, e get why. Marriage favours women more in this generation. See now she have moved on with the business u set up for her without even a child for you, nah u loose las las.
In my case I told her to choose between her work and the marriage, she chosed her, immediately I seized everything from her shop. No child oh.
Like I said my story is just the same with urs the difference is that I seized the business from her and she left empty handed.

When shall we realize that marriage is outdated? Thats why she chose her business instead of the marriage....That's the truth....think about it.....

wrongnumber:
Nigeria has no value for human life.

GOD bless the United Kingdom.

Don't quote me wrongly... Nah me know wettin I dey talk. You need to live my experience to understand my point.

I agree with you 100%....after seeing the difference between both countries, it's hard not to become a racist...

InvertedHammer:
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Cram and pass education in Nigeria is a waste of school fees. You will see professors and quasi-intellectuals sit around to watch this kind of rubbish persist in this 21st Century. They will make noise, sweep it under the proverbial carpet until another person becomes a victim. Living in Nigeria should be included in the 1000 ways to die.

Why not a law that mandates the hospitals to treat but must notify the local police before such patient's discharge from the hospital? Let me hear anyone try to convince me that it is God in heaven that created the brains of Nigerians. Impossible!

Out of 250million people in Nigeria, there are probably 1million homo sapiens. The rest are just homo erectus.

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That stuff is rooted in laziness....they know what to do....they just use police report as a tool of work avoidance.

jaxxy:
Some hospitals use police report as excuse to reject patients they cannot handle.

Do these unprofessionals and quacks even understand the meaning if an emergency? and the protocols involved?

The underlying cause of requesting police report is laziness....

NaMe4:
Never heard of a government hospital asking for police report before attending to an emergency. A good number of private institutions don't do this.


So if it was a hit and run, they would have also ignored the patient until a police report was shown to them?

The underlying cause of requesting police report is laziness.

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

Pls first and foremost, confirm that this story is real....and not made up....then il advice you cos o don't want to waste my time typing long texts for nothing....

Alexxx2000:
Intellectuals and the good people of nairaland. I just experienced one of the biggest shocks of my life.

As a student of the federal university, I saw a publication for the post of a front desk at a big cyber cafe close to the north wing of our school gate. I applied and followed the recruitment exercise which took 3 weeks of test and interview.

Out of 15 of us that applied for the job of 25k per month, I was picked. I loved it because it only start from 4pm till 9pm. Normally our lectures is from 7am till 1pm. I was happy because it will help me save for my school fees and I hoped to liaison with the students there to learn graphic designing. A skill I love but finance is a burden to enrol and to get a PC.

I was told to resume on Monday. I went there in the evening and the owner came and say my services are no longer needed. I was shocked. I asked him what I did? He didn't answer me. It was the other staff, the manager that told me he will communicate it to me. From Monday till now, I didn't hear from them.

Please, what should I do? I am confused. For those who had similar experience what was your cause. I am so so sad with this. My hope is dashed.

Maybe he changed his mind and decided to do the job himself....has nothing to do with you....

morikee:
Anything marriage count me out 🙌

I hate marriage....

onumadu:
@BigBashiru

First of all I tend to struggle with the notion that someone can convert from Islam to Christianity.
Being a Christian is a DELIBERATE (as in "I have decided to follow Jesus" ) kind of choice.
Once you make that decision genuinely (with all your heart), there is no going back.
I don't want to waste time on this point...

As for your observation about sex, you have a point there, and I have argued this point too.

Sex is a human thing created by God, and if you observe it's operation (from beginning to the end) you would notice that God designed it to almost force man to do it. I tend to connect it with God's command to man to "Be fruitful and multiply... fill the earth, ".

It is my humble opinion that God really wants man to have sex, and that is why he made it the sweetest and most compulsive thing.

If God wanted man to not have sex, but reproduce through another non-pleasurable (or non-sexual) way, he could have made it that when you shake hands or kiss a person, the person gets pregnant. EOD.

Then man won't need to struggle about it, because it would not be pleasurable at all. In fact I often argue that humans would have since been extinct from this planet, because very few people would want to reproduce. Anybody who doesn't know that kids reduce the sex drives of couples having dealt with marriage and kids before.

I tend to think that the only physical control God actually put on sex is that, he gave control of that "gate" to the woman.
Why do I say so?
Carefully observe the location of a woman's "private part", and you would see that only she can allow sex to happen, unless raped.
The location is TOTALLY INACCESSIBLE to a man, unless a woman allows it. PERIOD. In other words, the location makes it IMPOSSIBLE for a man to access "it", without a woman's FULL cooperation.
In a way that is why some men go crazy at the thought of their women having sex with other men. The thought of her consenting to "open that gate"... drives men crazy... but let me not digress too much. ..

As for the word "marriage", it is merely an English word. End of story.
Other cultures may have other words for "similar" HUMAN institution. Other cultures, even from antiquity, have UNIQUE practices in that human institution. The one we practice today only became universal because the Europeans colonized much of the world and imposed their culture of it. Again let me not waste time digressing there ...

God only cares about things we present to him as important. "Whatever you bind on earth is bound Heaven" (whatever you call important on earth is called important in Heaven).

So, your wife or husband can be a "Help meet"; it doesn't matter.
What matters is that Heaven took note of what you presented to it, and will hold you accountable (judge you) for either upholding or violating it.
"Heaven" (read God) is like the Code of Conduct Bureau". You declare your "assets" before taking office, and they will come to access you when you leave "office".
Bible never said that sex is a sin. HUMANS DID... in order to control other humans.

I hate all this "God really wants us to hv sex"....I hate hearing that....its just sex it's not a big deal....Christian animals....

Bossdave:
1. A woman was declared an help meet before the fall. After the fall, both men and women got the satanic nature. Everyone became selfish. As a result, they could no longer fulfil Devine purpose.

Ecclesiastes 7:29
Lo, this only have I found, that God hath made man upright; but they have sought out many inventions."

2. The person who created man and woman is the person who initiated the concept of being joined together and cohabitating. Which tradition or culture preceeds human creation? Marriage and creation are intertwined. That's why it is said the marriage is God's institution, or how would marriage be possible if there are no males and females?

3. The Bible never said that human sexuality is sin. Quote the verse that says so. What the Bible condemns is sexual immorality. Sex within the bonds of marriage is what the Bible upholds. And who told you that you can't have sex anymore with your wife because kids are now in your marriage? It seems you prefer to be morally bankrupt.

In conclusion, you're probably not a Christian. No Christian would say the Bible lied. If you're truly asking questions, then you would present yourself as a learner. You're actually as mischievous as the illogical criticisms you raised.

Don't spoil your nice write up with personal attacks.

The Bible lied does not mean its God lied....they are two different things......many things the apostles did or wrote are ancient practices and are outdated so they hv become lies by virtue of being outdated...it doesn't mean God lied. It simply means outdated portions of the Bible inadvertently turned to lies....

spiSeyi:
Thomas Sankara's script replaying itself soon, and some insiders will work for France in Niger, Mali, Guinea and Burkina Faso to overthrow the woke military guys. Africans have been selling out their own since the beginning of time and so shall it be till the end of time. The best thing for the juntas is to hand over to the civilian government in no time else they will all be deleted. Black man & greed

The black African members of the Presidential Election Petition Tribunal subverted the will of the Nigerian people probably for money and greed....that's the black man for you....perhaps there's a reason why God made them black

This thread is not a christian bashing thread. "Come now let us reason together saith the LORD" - Isaiah says. It is okay to ask questions and its okay to feel deceived. I was born muslim and grew up as a muslim before converting to christianity. So here are the lies I was told by the Bible. Silly christians who dont know the answer to questions or dont want to lose confidence in their religion resort to bullshit such as "His ways are not our ways"

1. Bible lie: A woman is a helpmeet.
The truth: women are self serving creatures just like their male counterpart. Many women are looking for rich men to depend on in which case the rich man is the helpmeet of the woman not the other way round. Many women refuse to bring money at home and are looking for financial security from men....

2. Bible lie: marriage is Gods institution.
The truth: marriage is a societal contract from ancient times. Today the vast majority of women see marriage as a cage which is why the vast majority postpone it for as long as possibe until when they no longer have much to lose. Its not Gods institution. The truth is today both men and women prefer relationships to marriage and marriage is primarily done for kids....

3. Bible lie: human sexuality is a sin
The truth: human beings just like all mammals love sex and have sex with who they find attractive. Christian men who wait till marriage will not have the best sex cos kids soon come in, the "wife" has already had her fun with some body count before getting married etc. So christianity is a religion of sexual frustration - thats the truth! Everything sexual and pleasurable is a sin in christianity and christians are encouraged to "mortify the desires of the flesh", "subject their members to Holy Spirit etc" - so most christians arent even comfortable with sex.... Please note that there is no woman in heaven or hell and there is no sexual pleasure in heaven or hell.....so if you a man, you only hv this earth to indulge in woman matters...

RALPHOW:
PLEASE FAMILY ARE SUFFERING ON LEKKI AJAH AXIS,!!
CHILDREN GETTING HOME 9PM IS NOT GOOD PLEASE
Sanwolu should come and fix Jakande, Osapa London and Chevron to make life easier for people living in Lekki Ajah axis please.
We are tired of getting home 1am just because of few portholes which can be fixed with 5MILLION

Keep waiting for governor to come and fix for you what you can fix yourself.....

nlfpmod:
https://nairametrics.com/2023/09/22/nigeria-secures-13-billion-oil-and-gas-investment-commitment-from-shell-exxonmobil-others-olu-verheijen/

Why do Nigerians rejoice over FDI? It's not free...the investor owns whatever they are investing in

Fountainofyouth:
What stopped African men from chasing them away before they had any footing in Africa? Instead African allowed them brainwash us with their religion, and sold their fellow Africans as slaves to them in exchange for stupid things, so who are the foolish savages between African men and them?

My dear the fact the PEPT subverted the will of the Nigerian ppl shows that indeed the black man sold themselves as slaves to Europeans. .

They did try to chase then away but the colonial hungry savages were desperate....a thief will always be more prepared and desperate than the owner

Fountainofyouth:
Then tell us the real truth.

It will be too long....just read ur history books...or Africa history blogs

Hints
There were libraries in Timbuktu mali before the savages tried to steal it.
They say Africans are monkeys but refused to return the art works ccof the monkeys in their museums haha
There hv been European attempts to erase glorious African history e.g. mansa musa and replace it with a colonial history that aims to depict Africans as uncivilized. They did it to native peoplles in Canada and USA.
The colonization of Africa did not stop it was only interrupted.
Africa is better than Europe that's why they came here ij thr first placd

CHoccolaTE:
Oh suddenly race doesnt matter because you want to lump all men together as superior to women?
Race matters
Even up till today black men and countries led by black men are bottom of the barrrel

The same way you claim men are 1000% more intelligent than women because of inventions, white men can also claim they are 1000% more intelligent than you

Race matters

White men taught you how to make the roads you build and how to use the weapons you fight your wars with.

Do you think the average white man sees your black ass as equal to him? You better accept the fact that you are inferior to white men since you want to claim superiority based on inventions.

Women are just as intelligent if not more intelligent than men. Look at universities today many best graduating students and first class students are females, this year alone more women did better in STEM courses than men.

The only thing you men have better than women is physical strength, nothing more.
You mentioned Marie Curie as a female inventor, you mentioned women who won nobel prices and broke boundaries and at the same time claim women are inferior mentally, why the contradiction?
You men are the ones that used brute force to keep women down for millenia, concocting oppressive religious and socetal laws to keep power to yourselves because of your innate criminal and sociopathic natures, don't come here and pretend you dont know how little emphasis was placed on female education until some years ago. For heavens sake, in the early nineties women had to fight for the right to vote, men made laws banning them from participating in politics until the feminist movement fought against it. But thank goodness all that is changing, just as women recently stated breaking boundaries and becoming more outspoken and pursuing their ambitions, you will see more of them breaking grounds in scientific areas and society in general.

Men don't fight wars to protect women they fight to protect society, both males and females and the wars are mostly caused by the same men so you have to get your asses out and fight those battles.

The western European savages are at the bottom of the barrel....you don't know the real truth about Africa

Kennedyiheme:
all this problems for women but they are the ones always rushing men for marriage

Women do not rush men for marriage...they only do so at older ages....its not their preferred relationship type

2016easy2017:
Very good and intelligent.

Soon many African countries would join. Throw it open. With the conditions that a member nation would have nothing to do with the west.
Create international trades among member nations.
Make rapid approach to adopt BRICS as national currency.
Forbid other nations from transactions with member nations if affiliated to the west

Excellent post....