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Skyview01:
"Marriage is not women's preferred relationship type"

How did you come to such conclusion? what are the premises and your researches that will support above conclusion.

I am interested in thought process, care to elaborate?

Examine/observe the data and happenings around you.

Anny69:
I know this isn't the right section for this...

Seun when would you fix Nairaland and give us a block button?

My posts are the ones provoking you right? Tell me the truth!

Kipaji:
I believe that society should understand that not all women are to become wives, and that is OK.

Some women are better suited as side chick's, others as non-serious girlfriends, others as friends with benefits, others as jump-offs, others as flings, others are even asexual. This is life.

I am not a Chrisitian, but I believe that when the Bible said : "he who finds a goof wife, finds a good thing", it didn't mean that the man who marries find a good thing. It meant that the man who finds one of the few women that are meant to be wives, has found something valuable.

The problem is that men want to marry women who are not meant to be wives. The moment I started to understand all women are just not meant for marriage, I had less stress over women matters.

Even the so called wife when she is found will probably be 26+ so it's same issue....she's old before settling down and isn't settling down in her prime years...

So if you want to chop girls in their prime forget wife and focus on girlfriends....or have your older wife then have younger side chicks...

Kipaji @kipaji

Kipaji:
I believe that society should understand that not all women are to become wives, and that is OK.

Some women are better suited as side chick's, others as non-serious girlfriends, others as friends with benefits, others as jump-offs, others as flings, others are even asexual. This is life.

I am not a Chrisitian, but I believe that when the Bible said : "he who finds a goof wife, finds a good thing", it didn't mean that the man who marries find a good thing. It meant that the man who finds one of the few women that are meant to be wives, has found something valuable.

The problem is that men want to marry women who are not meant to be wives. The moment I started to understand all women are just not meant for marriage, I had less stress over women matters.

What is the function of a wife?? What does a wife do for you that you cant do yourself or hire someone to do for you?

Anny69:
We have trolls here. They just disturb your peace and some accounts their comments are just so annoying to see.

The comments triggers you because it tells you the truth that hurts?? Live with it....

Kipaji:
And what will this society become as men and women are moving away from marriage?

And what about the kids? Marriage is probably the best environment for kids to grow up in, ceteris paribus. A lot of kids growing up in unstable household is damaging for the society.

I don't think ppl who grow up without both parents damages them...that's tantamount to saying a child whose father or mother dies will be damaged cos of that....

1. Marriage is not women's preferred relationship type....if it was, they would have been rushing into it at younger ages..the fact most delay it significantly shows its not their preferred relationship type....know this and know peace....

2. Marriage is a religious institution...

Kipaji:
I have touched on this in my post where I debunked the "make money and women will come" scam.

https://www.nairaland.com/7465815/make-money-women-come

Also from deductive and empirical reasoning, marriage is not women's preferred type of relationship....if it were, they will be rushing it at younger ages....which is why I said marriage is a religious construct and I would even argue it has outlived its usefulness in its traditional form....some young girls I've met as early as 19 hv questioned the point of marriage and for rational reasons....when a woman has moni that becomes another strong reason for them not to get married.

Kipaji:
I have touched on this in my post where I debunked the "make money and women will come" scam.

https://www.nairaland.com/7465815/make-money-women-come

Il read and comment but here's a quick summary of some points I want you to know based on my experience speaking to soooo many babes:

1. Not every woman even likes the idea of marriage.
2. Husband is largely a religious construct that has outlived its usefulness....Today most women at a young age have no regard for their future Husband because there's no real need for a Husband except maybe money....everyother thing can be gotten from a boyfriend....
3. Many women look at how much demand/interest they are getting from guys, and then from that postpone the age at which they want to get married.....I met a girl at 20 who was getting lots of interest...based on the level of interest she was getting she said she would get married around 26....when she starts to decline....in between obviously she would hv flings....
4. Many young 18-24 girls receive so much overwhelming attention....if it was you will you settle down even when you are receiving so much attention... be honest....
5. Some girls noticing how in demand they are start dating multiple guys to maximize the sexual pleasure....

Hence a man desirous of a younger female should be comfortable with the idea of flings.

aisha1314:
This opinion is just nonsense and shitty. Yet another man with misogynistic opinion about women and women's sexuality.

A woman is free to sleep around if that's what she wants.....but she can't later expect a man (husband) to bear her financial expenses for a lifetime and shouldnt expect the husband to focus on only her....that's all I'm saying.....

aisha1314:
Just like your mama😂

Anyway for your information, this boyfriend I mentioned is the only guy I've been with so I technically have a body count of 1. I don't know any 'harlots' who've only slept with a single person. Not that it's really bad to be a harlot, but I'm definitely not one

My dear I completely agree with you. Marriage is just a ceremony. I feel if someone has a serious boyfriend they should go ahead and have sex and then when they are ready they can hv children....I feel it's the heart that matters....we must evolve with the times....

aisha1314:
This opinion is just nonsense and shitty. Yet another man with misogynistic opinion about women and women's sexuality.

Lol at your allegations.

All I'm saying is these days it's better to have both girlfriends and wives....girls express their sexuality in both scenarios...

Merry100:
Because they get to have it for a lifetime.

But it's a significantly depreciated asset. Im better off just having a series of girlfriends....

Never made sense to me....Why do husbands pay full price, bride price, expensive introductions, travelling hundreds of kilometers to see parents....for someone that was never truly theirs?? That boyfriends had for free without any of those processes?

I think marriages should just be mostly a celebration of God....

Nahunger:
Over used kpekus for that matter.

This world is not my home

This is the truth...what boyfriends got for free, fools called husbands are paying for

Chucks13:
Leave black man out of this and stop being pathetic like someone that lost his wife.

Obi is a bastard motherfucker who want to eat where he didn't sowed and we bursted his testicles and grilled it with hot chilli to serve him a hot chilli dose of it today.

Oga I think say una talk say I dey lie when I told una untrained kids obi will fail in the election, he will fal in Tribunal and he will never rule Nigeria in his lifetime.

By now obi body for don dey tell am. However, Mr man we are still waiting for that revolution you promised if obi failed at Tribunal abi una dey fear or what? We already dares you all to make the mistake to enter street na? So why talking like witch rain beat in the coven?......

See thought pattern. You (the black man) have a very long way to go....

Adjovi:
What a joke of a country....I was not expecting their decision to favour us in the first place. But joking apart, these people killed our Constitution today and it's ripple effect when it starts. Hmm let me not say much

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EvangelistChuks:
Hope the judges can sleep comfortably after today’s judgement with their conscience clear.

Do the black monkeys have conscience??

Atlantis585:
Is it safe to say that INEC is not mandated to conduct any elections in Nigeria since all their other responsibilities have now been thrown out by the so-called Judges?

What a caricature called courts. A nation of crooks and fraudsters condemned to never do well.

Spits!

The black man is a monkey....there's a reason God gave the color BLACK

LesbianBoy:
Nigeria will never work let's stop deceiving ourselves.

Listening to how they are just dismissing everything and saying it's a pretty election matter bla bla bla.

Anyways I am patiently waiting to see how they will dismiss the compulsory 25% that is in our constitution which tinubu didn't meet

they said it was white man holding them back.... now they holding themselves back...

Persephone1:
And some people got mad when I wrote i can't marry a Nigerian man? Just look at this! Very insensitive! All he's concern is the money he spent, taming and respect!

Patiently waiting for the "get a second wife" crew

No one spends money smiling.... He has every right to lament....

Please on what Startimes (dish) channel can a person watch this?

Yugoslavia247:
Women are merciless and ruthless if they want to act.

That is why when their are broken.

I care less.

They don't even care.

The sweet marriage go clear for her eyes after some years.

When a woman wants to leave you she doesn't care the millions you may have spent on the wedding....all she cares is she's leaving. They don't care.

Yugoslavia247:
Women are merciless and ruthless if they want to act.

That is why when their are broken.

I care less.

They don't even care.

The sweet marriage go clear for her eyes after some years.

I don't understand 2nd sentence. 4th sentence are you talking of the situation in this thread or all situations?

Max24:
You are the one that should use your brain. So, nah Niger's uranium France dey depend on to finance their budget? Clap for yourself. Maybe other countries like US are also after their Uranium. Maybe for you now, UK depend is surviving on Nigeria's oil. And US too are stealing Nigeria's oil to survive, abi ? Instead of calling a spade a spade. Violent take-over of democratic governments will no longer be tolerated in Africa except by monkeys. No amount of blackmail will make the West leave Niger until the junta return power to civilians. I will hold same position if it happens in Nigeria.

The western European savages are the monkeys....

Lifeomann:
Most marriages with expensive weddings don't last.

Why do you say that? And where's your evidence?

Nazgul:
Aside from competition and show off which girls love and cherish so much, I don't see the need for an expensive wedding. Cos after few weeks everyone has forgotten about the event as their minds are occupied with more important things.

Besides, with the current state of the economy, any sensible man should know that spending unnecessarily for wedding isn't wise. Cos your spending only benefits the woman. While she's littering all her social media handles with colourful pictures of the event you're looking for how to pay back the debits you accumulated as a result of the wedding.

So what's the point?

What most men don't realize is that the day she decides to leave you, she is not going to care how much you spent on the wedding....she would just leave....they don't care!

I admit this is a wierd question. But something I've honesty wondered....In this day and age, I think not all marriages should be massively celebrated..
.only those marriages where the woman is employable and makes money and is close to a virgin should be celebrated....

I see no need to the big white wedding with wedding reception, another traditional wedding with ashoebi etc...what's all the celebration for? What exactly are we celebrating?? Maybe I'm wierd or something is wrong with me for thinking this way? Serious contributions only no trolls....

Beverlyjean:
Thieves...Africa don de wise up... Africa supplies the world about 30% of the mineral resources the world uses ...yet its the poorest continent... western Europe produces nothing...yet its the richest continent....

Reason they forced democracy on us to scam us ... reason they hate military junta ... leaders of African countries that produce mineral resources were installed by the European in the form of rigged elections , so they can control them like puppets

The European can do nothing in Africa without the consent of the Africans themselves. The person that facilitated the killing of sankara was African.

Exponental:
are u a learner?
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A musician (saint janet) said if u want to have a wife/babe who can give good sex, marry a cele, c&s or christ embassy. She happened to come from c&s n married a cele or vice versa. She spoke from experience. So.......if u want good sexy wife, marry one. As for me, I'm indifferent. I will marry d woman I love.

When did she say that? Was it in a music video? Which one?

ElSudani:
If Wagner ever comes to Niger the same people will be on the streets asking for Federal government to protect them.
These Africans are like pawns in a global chess game and they are oblivious to it.
It makes you wonder what Africans were doing when Europeans decided in Berlin to carve them up and share them like a piece of cake.

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WAECMATHEMATICS:
It's about 18 months (1 and half years) now that Mr Chigozie Okongwu James refused to vacate our apartment despite the agreement reached at the Lagos Arbitration and Mediation Centre.

Since February 2019. Today is 27th of August, 2020.

It's seems he has been bribing some of the officials there.

Has he left now? If so, when did he eventually leave?