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this whole feminism and independent woman thing is ruining women at a rapid rate. who said you can't marry and pursue career at the same time? who said you have to give birth immediately. the reason girls r pressured to have kids is because age is not on their side when they get married.

30s don old oh. which man go marry una.

many girls don't realize this until they 26 especially the ones who get hit on all the time and they think its gonna last forever.

it will be hard for a man to settle with a girl in the 30s because there r younger better girls..... moreover any guy doing that has probably had his fair share of young girlfriends he has sampled before settling for u.

same experience here. the way they behave u will think they in one serious relationship or very married. anyway i date pan african and Haiti and i keep it that way!

beautiful women - there is always smone more beautiful, no "pretty" woman is worth wasting time over.. there r girls with better shapes, better manners, better behavior, well behaved etc.

marriage - who normally goes around begging for smone to marry them? truth is i realized men have their pick of women. look @ governor of edo state.

Its best to meet women incidentally not by going out of your way.

thoughts?

fart:
Spoken like a true brother

True but I don't sleep around oh because I'm a professing Christian. What I do is I have options of women for marriage. The more options I have the more power I have. It is men that select and marry women. I try one woman @ a time though.

I would like my woman to be tall and slim. Like a model. She does not need to be pretty facially but being tall and slim is mandatory. If u a woman reading this please say hello!

Luckygurl:
You're generalising also the Op is and that's so out of it.


Someone claims to have had 250+ girlfriends(you and I know this is a very cheap lie) just to bash the female folks, and you expect me to believe he's normal upstairs.

Like I said, he's case is critical

Most Nigerian men are religious and they start out good marriage seeking men. But field results aren't so good. So they start banging 50 girls a week. Can u blame them? U will see girls and propose marriage but they prefer to be ashewos. ... so we bang em like the ashewos they wanna be :-)

Luckygurl:
Ewwwwwww!!!!
Na person son, boyfriend be this......


Your case is a very critical one...

His assessment is accurate the modern day girls are easily swayed and r not as strongly commitment minded as the men.

marcondo13:
The OP has a point though. I can vividly recall my first year on campus and there was a lot of hot girls in my department and faculty. I always thought that they were already taken but as time went by and I became close to a couple of them,I was surprised that they were really lonely because a lot of guys could not muster courage to ask them for a relationship because they thought that they were seeing someone already!
So my take on this is simple,no guts,no glory! If you have the liver,you will get silver,but you have to be bold to get gold! That's the hustlers motto!
Happy Sunday.

But indexing women by pretty face is the wrong approach. Better to work from the heart and character out and the looks incidental. Many are the pretty whores etc. Be smart.

I find palm oil based foods generate mouth odor even with brushing three times.

Please what is the best way to get rid of the odor from palm oil the next day after eating e.g. egusi?

ymom07:
some ppl will post rubbish thinking tbat they've made a point... all of u idiots talking which one of u is still a virgin @18...i am presently on my IT training (road construction) and i was beside a sec skul one day and i heard small children who neva even know wetin life dey talk... dem dey arrange how to meet with demselves after school so as to do the thing... in dia word: "wen i come i will go to jerusalem and come back oo... and the girl said don't worry just buy MALT u will go anywhere u want to"...imagine with just malt d guy will have sex with her..
Now this 18 yrs old is getting married, idiots are complaining.... mofos...unreasonable pikins dem...
in this generation where u cannot find young boys and girls keeping themselves till dia wedding nite anymore...
u had better face ur businesses and let odaz do what is right cos most idiots saying trash here are not clean...
read one funny post someday wen som1 said: dear future wife i know u won't be a virgin, but BOREHOLE will nt be accepted...dats d kinda lyf we re living in now and wen few of us are trying to do the right thing... mofos will shout... mumus... ode...alainironu...

Don't mind them. Its actually better to be married than for those young girls to be sleeping around. ..

Most Africans don't have capacity for depth and original thinking. I would encourage my 18 YEAR old daughter to be married to a born again Christian.

lekjons:
well-composed BULLSHIT!!

but why should a 50+yrs old man crush on an 18yrs old girl


PAEDOPHILE!!

U r just jealous 18 year Olds aren't attracted to you.

She consented to it.

op u should be aware that while common now. bf/ gf is fornication.

u r young enough. find a husband. Why is it okay to have a bf at ur age but not a husband? You want sex? Get married!

Op seek a man to marry not boyfriend

It needs to be a proper landline I. E. Without a wireless antenna. Not starcomms.

Does nitel still provide a proper landline? What are the options.

even if OP calls off the weding. the first man no loose anything. the guy go simply go pursue new babe. its a mans world!

But for you OP, you are mid 20s; you dont have too much leverage in 5 years, it will be hard for you. u r borderline now.

mutter:
The hard truth is that you are lying and cheating on both men.
Do you know what it means for a man to ask your hand in marriage? That is a very honourable thing to do. Do you know how much love, time and money he has invested?
Then the second man you are talking to. You are lying to him by not telling him you are planning a marriage. From the look of things you have already gotten intimate with him.
What goes around comes around.
Even when you get married as a man or woman there would always be wonderful people left in the. World but decent married people stay off.

dont mind the idiot. When he could very easily keep a concubine of hotter younger girls.

To be clear, there are also men that prefer older girls.

It really is a mans world- men call the shots!

Gurgle:
Would you say your opinion is common across Nig?

Guys in their 30s often say they prefer women in their early 30s, because women in their 20s are annoying and underdeveloped. So what do you and our friends normally say

when you say youd prefer a 21 year old, do you really mean that? I mean can you keep up with a 21 year old girl

It is not my opinion that men are drawn to younger girls; its the consensus of research among evolutionary biologists and psychologists.
Yes if i were 35, I will prefer a 21 year old because:

i.) Can take care of me in old age. my age mate not good, we will be both old at the same time.
ii.) Lower chances of miscarriages.
iii.) Sexually appealing; fresh skin/ traits - no need to look outside.
iv.) Been around less - carries less spiritual pollution.
v.) Just starting a career - means household revenue will grow year on year.

and more!

preferably an MFM girl too :-)

kandiikane:
Successful 26 year olds are getting married all the time all over the world so I do not get your point. When a man reaches a certain age for marriage, he should be looking for some one of his own status or even higher. No offence but you sound quite young so i can slightly understand your reasoning. A young man who has worked his way up won't want to be with someone who is even yet to decide what they want in life. The men who you admire with beautiful younger wives are a very small minority and most of the men are rich divorced older men. By the time you are 35, you will most likely be married to someone closer to your age unless of course, you are divorced and rich or unmarried and rich. Unless you go find one girl for village like that because I know an average young naija girl won't be doing sufferhead with no old guy.

The 26 year old has been around guys and the guy is probably 35 and has also been aruond; both are polluted with the spirit of polygamy and harlotry - how do you think such a marriage will end up?

What I am advocating is girls waiting till they are 26 isnt sound advice and that mentality of being "successful" wont do them any good in he long run. Aside from the spiritual fact I have mentioned above, they also face stiffer competition from younger girls.

I am young at heart.

kandiikane:
As a hypocrite who has been dating a guy since I was 16 who is 7 years my senior, I would not want my child to be dating someone with that age gap at 16 or 17. As a 27 year old, you have probably experienced life as much as you could in your late teens and early 20s, probably still experiencing. That girl should have a chance to experience her own. Trust me, it takes a lot more to sustain such relationships, in the next 2 to 7years, that girl will be battling with a lot of demons in her in regards to the relationship. If una want continue, go on but do not try to be possessive and controlling, I know why I am saying this, with your age, you think you know more and better so you will try to impose your views on her which she will end up finding difficult within the next 2 to 7 years as she builds up on hers. Right now, she is most likely feeling all the flutters of wings in her stomach and going about without a care in the world. Reality will soon set so be ready. Oga op, I strongly recommend you to leave that girl to experience life without any strings dragging her back but it is up to you. There is a higher chance of her cheating on you(not everyone can have self control at that age) than someone closer to your age, she most likely won't be ready for marriage(if you dont marry her by 18/19) so be ready. Seriously, leave the girl be, a guy your age will be a distraction for her when it comes to her studies.

There is more supply and demand of young women than older women. Many girls are falling into the same fatal flaw - some say they want to have fun, experience life, build career but its the same flaw and error; they get past 22, past 24 and hit 26 and now want marriage at 26 but now, new gilrs are born everyday so a guy that really wants a 19 old will surely get its just a matter of trusting God and diligently searching. Guys will continue to seek out younger glrls - its biological. If I were 35, I will be looking for a 21 year old and I will surely get because there are many girls to pick up; God honors my intent because I seek out marriage.

Another area is that of marriage. Marriage is defined as an approved union in the eyes of your deity between you and your spouse, nothing more nothing less.

It is not a ceremony.

an expose on TB Joshua and clear evidence he is a devil worshipper.

https://www.nairaland.com/2373956/tb-joshua-servant-devil-exposed

some men really hv no interest in women and just want to focus on themselves. but when conji hooks them, they go looking for wives, prostitutes, pole dancers, etc to cure it. after it is cured, they return to their senses. conji is also responsible for lots of marriage breakages etc.

for men who just want to be celibate catholic priests, what is the cure for conji?

this is wat happens wen men omit song of solomon from their preaching and ignore "rejoice in the wife of ur youth" as commanded in the book of proverbs.

men r attracted to young things MOG or no MOG. all females hv an attraction expiry date (around 23). men & pastors included want the youngest girls legally possible.

Not condoning the pastors behavior but he shoulda probably married someone 19 if he knows hes into young thangs.

this is wat happens wen men omit song of solomon from their preaching and ignore "rejoice in the wife of ur youth" as recommended in proverbs.

men r attracted to young things MOG or no MOG. all females hv an attraction expiry date (around 23). men & pastors included want the youngest girls legally possible.

Not condoning the pastors behavior but he shoulda probably married someone 19 if he knows hes into young thangs.

Let me put it this way. my view on NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE: In the olden days, girls had value for marriage, it was the culture. Today, society is turned upside down. Ithen girls married between 18 and 22, now many wait till 35 after they v slept around they become born again and start praying for husband. Guys wait till 35 on average. conji go de hook boys boys go de suffer all in the name of religion.

then na after the boyfriends don knack the babes finish when they young and vital men go come de rejoice say you don marry some girl.Waiting until marriage ceremony (note i differentiate btw marriage prayer/ ceremony) robs men of carnal benefits of marriage while overloading them with the responsibilities of raising children etc. this makes the christian life very frustrating for adherents who truly want to follow biblical injunctions. many even take it very far and take anything sexual to be evil.

in my humble opinion, the best thing to do is get a partner of choice even if you are not ready to officially marry (eg due to lacking $$$)... commit to each other and pray to ur deity in your living room/ wherever to bless your union. thats it. go bleeping like no tomorrow!!!

It is better to do this than to be a 19 year old prostitute or a 21 year old harlot all in the name of waiting for marriage before sex. most guys dont hv money to marry young; it is better to do this than to marry old and be sleeping with prostitutes in the mean time.

to me marriage is a prayer not a ceremony.

then wen you ready for the official bit, do it.


As I said, please no hypocrites who dont mean their words. I need a frank discussion about this.

No Benny Hinn is a true servant of the Most High. To grade them as the same would be blasphemy.

- They believe their chykers were sent by devil or are temptation.
- They believe God is their father & everybody else is inferior.
- Be ready for a very long wait for even a coffee or shop rite date.
- No kissing/ handholding/ show of affection as its "immoral"
- Welcome to zombie dating with no feelings

Can you think of any other reasons? What of reasons why you should.

females are overhyped...
all a woman has to offer a man is her body and this is in the final analysis.
there is nothing like love, only attraction.

In places like north america, there r erotic massage spas to cater for ur needs...

so i dont chase girls again or look for "love"

With girls its a game of numbers.

marriage worked in ancient times but not today.

approach 10 girls with marriage intent then approach another 10 with flirty friendly intent, show off a bit. Judge the results.

Only that ppl r too relligious. religion & fear of eternal burning clouds rational judgement.

I am thankful im now free from the mental slavery of the marriage "institution" and religion in general.

My point is that men should not have too much hopes in marriages in the context of today, but should seek their own internal happiness first; because the road of present day marriage is marred with too much uncertainty.

More specifically, men should not wait until marriage to have sex, but they should pick and commit to a partner and then have sex with only that one partner as long as they are committed to each other and are married in their minds or in a court. This is because most men dont have money for marriage. Its better to do this than to be sleeping around or with ashawo.

And y only christainity? Is christainity the only religion that frowns at fornication?,islam,judaism even african tradition frowns at it,please u ppl shud leave christainity alone,wetin dey work una now?

You sound like one of those indoctrinated ones. You have automatically assumed fornication. everything is fornication. Yet na una go still first go carry ashawo.

this is something Ive seen over and over again. a 17 year old that has had guys chasing her since she was 12 said it was Satan. I had to explain to this girl that she should restrain but when she reaches 18 she should start entertaining the interest that its not satan, its nature telling her its time to pick a mate (from 18 and above) because after her 20s the interest will wane. Many born again type girls say sexual interest form guys is satan. How many ppl are indoctrinated into believeing sexual interest is temptation, get old and eventually find it hard finding a mate then blame the spirits?

the nigerian church teaches handholding, pecking, french kissing etc is all sins. this causes people lots of tension who legitimately try to obey the word of God. even by the time chistian couples get married, they are too scared from these restrictions to even enjoy their marital home. I submit to you that having a good time is not only reserved for the unbeliever but also for the believer. Christians should have their pick of women and be very good with women.
It is not possible that God created very pretty and well behaved women and reserved them for unbelievers. So any christian getting with someone attactive is going to hell? Is the goal of christianity to make one asexual. are christians not entitled to a very good routine fuk? many loser guys also hide under the cloak of christainity to justify their loser status.

Then we have have the present day mockery of God ordained marriages; we have the modern day cycle. young and eligible girls are either being overzealous for the faith, or having boyfriends or pursuing career. then on the other side, we have the good christian men who are abstaining for years on years. the girls on the other hand, after they have finished playing with their boyfriends etc and are past due, "repent" and now start seeking the good christian men who get the "gift" of a wife. men too play around, have side chicks etc then "repent".

Catch the drift?

I submit to you that in the context of modern day christianity, marriage has no place because the mentality of both the men and women have drifted apart. discuss.

So many women on this forum have been complaining their guy wants sex like everyday.

It is a common marital problem. many marriages even go for counselling over the matter.

So my question is what is the solution to this issue? Should the man get another side woman to share the load?

Please share your useful input.