proxillin: She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.
I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.
3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.
We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.
My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).
We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad. She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.
This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.
That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.
But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.
In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.
Na to cry for you not advice you.
First of your sister encouraged you initially and later wanted to slap you?.. The part that hit me she wanted to ap you? Are you a man?
She came back because her option A wasn't available.. Your probably option C.. She's getting old and wants to settle down.
A girl wo can disrespect you in front of your sister.. Who your sister warned that your spoileing her relationship with her friend hmmm. Girls grow faster than boys and sort of stop growing mentally.. 24 that has no sense, your looking for trouble..
Sex has hooked you? Hmm are you sure she hasn't used Jaruma jazz on you?
How old are you? You think marriage is about sex?
Leave that girl she's doesn't love you,.. You will only manage each other when you marry.. No love.. Your lust...
She's even the one proposing marriage? My guy get closer to God make God fit help you.. Your in an entanglement with Satan
chii8: Don't let the devil push you out of your settlement stage(celebration), endure a little more, ignore your sisters in law and keep on greeting your brother's wife.Infact in some occasion, buy the ladies little gifts or snacks and patiently wait for your final settlement day.(the more gifts you get them, the more you win your brother's heart).
Bros please don't take this very very foolish advice..
Yes it's a very very foolish one.. I've been In this guy's shoes before... This is the very foolish type of advice I was given... It doesn't work.
Look a devil is a devil.. You want to bribe a devil with gifts? Don't be fooolish... It takes a small thing for people to be killers.. For them to dump his mattress inside rain is wickedness.. Their only a few years to the murderous stage.. All it takes is a thought from the devil.. And their hate is in control.. They won't hesitate poisoning him.
Op, I see you have a good heart.. Your brother isn't God. If he denies you will you die?
Report to elders in the village first.. Learnt he business as time goes.. And set up your business.
Your brother blackmailing you emotionally to keep suffering... All this elder is awlays right is the fooolish Ness of Africans and why we are backwards
ValCon888: When two elephants enter a boxing ring to fight, it is the grass that suffers. China and the US are simply using Honk Kong as a pawn to settle a matter that does not concern Hong Kong in the first place.
People must type Sha..
What rubbish are you talking about?
How can you say it doesn't concern Hong Kong.. Omo I Wan explain,.. I no get una power. Make una try educate yourself on things abeg.. Even UK is looking to jab China because of honkong , you de here de type opata
sarrki: Such has been the trend from time immemorial.
They went into alliance with the north against Awo to spite Yoruba in ‘79 and ‘83.
We can still remember ABN, ONE-MILLION-MAN MARCH, the accord with Jimi Agbaje et al.
Remember how they attempted to frustrate Peter Rufai out of Super Eagles until their own failed to measure up. They ganged up against Rashidi Yekini to scheme him out of the team simply because he achieved an unprecedented and irreplaceable record of scoring Nigeria’s first World Cup goal.
It was so pathetic that Aminike, Amokachie and others nearest to him turned away before Uche came from behind to hug him in the net.
They deliberately refused to give Odegbami deserved support after Okala because he was not one of theirs.
As far as they are concerned, Soyinka’s Nobel Prize is worthless because it wasn’t Achebe.
Their “heroes” among us are those who are anti- Yoruba values and ideals - FFK, Dino and the ilks.
Always in senseless rivalry with us in every facet of national life.
“Ori buruku o jẹ k'aguntan o hu iwo. Inu buruku i jẹ ki oṣonu r'ọmọ bi".
see this olori burku worm
the thing is painting you, and its what will bury you
so you carry all this mater for head...igbos have dealt with you ooo and will continue too. may the afflictions of the igbos on your head,never end in your life, since yu have refused to have sense
Judeerons32: They still will link Asiwaju to any news. Sometimes I wonder those who shout bullion vans if they are not mischievous or just plain stupid. If u take Asiwaju to court. Did u see the contents of the vans? Do you know how much were in the vans assuming it was money? Is there a law against banks transporting 5million in bullion vans? Assuming he says that's what it was. Really how the bullion van and Asiwaju is tied to Magu travail just bests my imagination everytime I read it. Some people just don't get tired.
Dont worry Your messiah would soon be jailed, the you would cry blood.
When will your type get sense? Defending people that thrive of your suffering? Because he's your so called brother?.. What brother? The man will sell you if need be for only 150 naira.
Isn't is the same tinubu, that said the content is HIS MONEY.. So what nonsense are you defending again?
Boss13: @OP ignore this new breed of marriage counselors that know nothing about marriage but keep repeating talking points created by Hollywood, American Advert Companies, and Fantasy writers.
These people have sold a deception and got a lot of people confused about marriage.
Marriage has nothing to do with love.
See this one.. You seemed to be making sense only to end up in NON sense..
Anyways when we have 15 and 16 year Olds on here dishing out advice.. . Take any advice here at your peril
cray91: if just 20years it's okay then. not to much. i know some people here would wanna quote me but Bleep that.
Considering the charges against him really i was expecting for more years like between 40-50years but if its 20years. he should be glad oo cuz thats like years of more enjoyment cuz prison life in US is more like still living In Dubai cuz its far better than lives in State Capital of Naija(abuja) its sef
Sincerely 20 years is small.. Hes lucky.. American justice system has a face sometimes
He may get it shortend for good behavior..
Also note that 20 years is not 20 calender years..
seanwilliam: I love your choice of words. I thought you would say in all cases
Credit to DuBLINGreenb, the original poster Won't happen but las las hush done chop money, flex life, lived lavish, flown choppers, flown private, had the most exotic cars, mingled with celebs obtained connections, became a known international brand.
No jail can take that away from him, if he comes out of prison he will be better than most poor Nigerians because he has a platform, he has connections, he has experience, he is known and so on. He won't be starting from square 1
He can write a bestseller book, be a TV host, sing music people will buy, sell his story to American media companies, work for security organisations abroad etc
Most Nigerians live in houses worst than American prisons me typing this have not seen electricity in 42 hours straight, I paid aboki 50 bucks to charge my phone, American prisons have 24/7 electricity, gym, free TV, free laundry services, free phone calls and free food that is why black Americans even the celebs see jail as an achievement as street cred status bringer
how many haven't been to jail? you tell me as we speak many US celebs are in jail including Steven Spielberg's daughter, R Kelly, Da baby etc Even Robert Downey Jr, Lil Kim, tommy Lee, Mark Wahlberg have all been to U.S prison Their prison is not like our own many come out of jail looking better than they did before they went in.
Those quoting me will chose 10 - 15 years in American prison and a lifetime of living lavish for themselves and their family without thinking twice over being a poor Nigerian from birth to death.
Ask yourself what odds hushpuppi had of being as rich as he was without doing what he did? We all know majority of Nigerians will be born into poverty and will die in poverty but we all want to delude ourselves by thinking "I will be the one to make it" niggger that's what the other 100,000,000 dead Nigerians before you thought, you think every poor Nigerian chose to be poor? or they don't know your God or another one is "if he didn't do crime he would be enjoying by now!" Nigguh enjoying what exactly
Simple question please how many Nigerian lawyers do you know richer than or even half as rich as Hushpuppi? Even the celebs how many of them where as rich as hush? Only the very top 1%
Another quick question? Ask them how many years and how much suffering, and how much connections etc it took them to get that degree and then that position and if the pay for those without connection is adequate, do the same for every other profession except clergy and politicians
And decide for yourself what chance the vast majority of Nigerians have of becoming millionaires or even hundred thousandnaires ?
I'm not encouraging crime please don't do crime but let us be realistic in our thoughts and speech,
I thought if you go to school you must be rich until I was in a slum and a woman told me she did her youth service in taraba, I was surprised I was like wtf excuse me, she said yes she served in.... She didn't know I was thinking shocked thinking to myself "how did you go to school for 17+ years only to end up in this slum in this poverty" I assumed everyone in slums where uneducated never do wells, miscreants etc.
Imagine if she, like most young girls were compelled to sleep with lecturers for grades, or sorted to pass and all that thinking riches were ahead of them upon graduation only to end up in a slum without husband and children hey this isn't fiction this lady was quarrelling with another non educated woman the other day I recorded what the women were using to insult her. Her lack of husband and children she kept saying she sacrificed all that for school and her future but you decide if this is a future worth losing sleep for, worth losing meaningful relationships for
kayuseful: End of career! I think this will be a bad move, joining a defensive team
Really? You don't know nada
The same guys who dissected Liverpool?
No their not a defensive side.. Their a strong team, from defense to attacking their made of men with stubbornness with football skills and chukwueze is skillfull and strong
I.made a comment last week where I said Dino melaye was quiet and couldn't speak on the drama and chaos in APC because of the arrest of Hushpuppi and his involvement with him but some of your dead Brian dimwits attacked me....in this faceless forum just understand that there are people here who really know what some of you won't know even in the next 10 years...there's a reason my name is fact finder and you will get shocking revelations from this Hushpuppis arrest saga
Oga rest.. Even to the extent of beating your own drum..
This is how when some one alleges rape on social media you people will be jumping from one side to the other..
Calm your ass down, Dino malaye quite no mean anything
Maestro21: Oga, leave this your nonsense. I will literally spin you with my knowledge of scripture. Stop bringing irrelevant nonsense about what you have no inkling about. I was trying to be gentle since you spoke as a christian but you are almost speaking like you are siding in with critics now.
Be careful.
Lol I should be careful.. Your just an empty vessel
Maestro21: What is the relevance of this? Draw a correlation between this post and what we are talking about.
What again I ask is the relevance of this? How would you know that God told him what to say or not?
Many including Pastor Chris have had more than that feat. And BTW, alot of the acceptance Kenneth Hagin has received are post-humous, he was largely criticized and maligned pretty much like Pastor Chris is today.
Okay, relevance?
Are you just replying for the sake of replying? Relax brother. I did not say he does not KNOW any politician. I said he does not HOBNOB with them. There is a difference.
Maestro21: The only things the holy spirit reveals to you that you cannot say are the ones he tells you not to say.
I am correcting you in love because you mean well. If you know Pastor Chris, he will never come out to say something if he did not get the approval from God.
Pastor Chris has never cared for man's acceptance or politics. He refused to join PFN and CAN; he does not hobnob with politicians etc. That should tell you alot about him.
So don't look for what the world will say before you do anything. See how much they hate Jesus and disbelieve him? Jesus said it is okay for a servant to be like the master. It is the same hatred for the same grace.
Calm down..
Isn't it the will of God that all men be saved? Are all men saved? Has he forced Jesus on everybody?
Wasn't it the will of Jesus to heal everyone in Nazareth?
"he could there do no MIGHTY works because the people did not believe".. Only those whom believed received their healing..
Not any where did I say pastor Chris should seeks man's approval to speak up..
Quit acting like your God's PA and you know whom he gives approval to speak or not.. man is created like God and will be judged for what he di and what he didn't do..
Anyways we all know the place Kenneth haggin occupies in the present day.. christendom, Jesus has spoken to him on 3 occasions, not sure any living man has that feat.. A man even respected by pastor Chris..
Jesus himself told his disciples he can't tell them somethings because it was too large for their minds to accept as t that time..
Pastor Chris is friends with obj, orji uzor Kalu, was friends with Dora akinyulli.. Don't get me wrong I love and believe pastor Chris.
Learn to keep your faith in the written word not man.. No man is perfect. Our salvation is a gift, not by our acting or attitude of holiness
I was once a staunch member of Christ Embassy and passionate follower of Pastor Chris Oyakhilome. But his recent statements during this lockdown period have been increasingly erratic, irresponsible and downright dangerous. Pastor Chris has sadly gone astray from his calling to preach the Word of God and turned into a wild conspiracy theorist. For those close to Pastor Chris, please advise him. His rhetoric during this period is really exposing who he really is - and it's not a pretty picture to behold.
SHUT up you were never his student if you think this way... From the bottom of your heart you didn't like and this was your opportunity to bash him... Go ask God for forgiveness your heart isn't right with God.. Sell your soul for nairaland likes..
Something Kenneth hagin said.... "when the holy spirit reveals somethings to you.. It's not every thing you should tell people"..
Pastor Chris should learn this principle...
I love that man of God..and what he's saying might be right.. But he should also learn from kenneth haggin quote above.
For the things of God won't ever make sense to anybody
JOHNSONSOLAFUNMI: Nothing is wrong with this! they should quut being hypocrites, if you really care bout blacks, then tell your Queen to return stolen Artefacts, that belongs to Africa In London Museumscancel the transaction between UAC and the English government, selling Nigeria off in the 19th century
This is a good idea
But will be looted before it Reaches this shores.. I fact before it leaves London politicians will break it into pcs and share amongst their families
See comments above Just dey critize government No flag waving! No sense of patriotism, chauvinism, jingoism, nationalism and loyalism
And for those low budget asss Moda fuckkking noisy neighbors of ours called Ghana We are going to show you guys that we are the real niggarrrs of Africa
Macmilla: You changed the tire, it got better. Did it continue to lose air? If the tire fault indicator is on and you are sure your pressure is right, then check that the tire pressure sensor (which should be part of the valve on the wheel) is still intact. It may have been damaged in the crash. A bad valve might explain why the tire keeps going flat.
No this new one hasn't lost air.
But I bought the car 2018...the same side of that car has changed tyres like thrice.. Not sure I've changed any other side before.
Thanks for the other insights.. I'll check. I really appreciate this your time. Grateful
Macmilla: I'm really confused here and I would like to learn. What is the link between a tire that is loosing air and the beam of the car? If a tire is loosing air, does that not mean it's leaking? Are you not supposed to be looking for the point of leakage? Please enlighten me.
I thought, the position of the tire was bad, so a result of bad positioning.. Like a twist or friction would be the cause..
Each time I pumped after leakage, it would deflate all tooo soon.
One day it deflated while parked.. To it to the vulcanizer, he was shocked cos he only patched it a day earlier.. So he examined it, and showed me one side of the tire was swollen which I also saw... So he said no use working or pumping it because it's unusual for tires to be swollen like this lest, he pumps it and it blows him up(the tire and the back not owners corner tire)
When am turning.. It feels like it it pulling me back (when the turn is sharp).. After changing the tire, can't really feel it again..
The Tyre fault indicator has always been on since I bought it.. Seller said it was electric fault...
Ps:it's an accident car from Canada (its that Tyre place that was bashed..)
Romance › Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by bignero: 7:47pm On Jul 22, 2020
Buhari Is to be blamed
