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All I hope is that these ones no be Invictus Obi for backend. You don't even know who to trust or believe anymore

Make everybody dey their dey

luluman:
You can use your data to read on manners Instead of wasting it.

I swear..
What an insensitive stupid talk. See her typing ' the dead one with her leprous fingers as if she has control of life and death. And coundnt remove the offensive statement after modifying the post.

Riele:
Which Son ? .

The dead one ? . I thought his son was dead .

Didn't know he had another child .
Modified

I didn't know his wife took in again . To those quoting me . How do you read my words ? .

Pls edit your silly post and remove the dead one. What an insensitive human being. Even after modifibg it. REMOVE THAT REFERENCE. ITS SICK

Blu03:
you're naive. It's kinda adorable.

Shey... So naive it's comical.
In other words, he's saying someone came to the party late and wants to leave early..... , nahhhh... Ur curiosity gets you and one next...you hop to the next party to see if it's as interesting as the one you got in late to.
Nothing is guaranteed... He'll never understand

[quote author=Ineedtoheal post=87208362]Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship
1) He will be 40 this November while I am 27.
2. He has always had numerous girlfriends that when he's with them, he doesn't pick my calls though he always apologizes and he's trying his best this year.

3. He always send pictures of other women to his friends to let them know they are the people he wish to marry but never has he sent mine. Though he claims he's not doing it again.

4. From the look of things he's still searching while he wants to have me all to himself. Maybe a second option since the others are not accepting him and I love him foolishly.

5. The relationship is 50 -50 .We spend on each other. He believes it's the woman's duty to do all the house chores but not the man's duty to take care of the woman.

6. On his Fathers burial last year, 3 of his girlfriends came (me inclusive) and we all wore the burial uniform. Together, we served his guests even when we realized we are dating same man. His neighbors were giggling and gossiping but we all decided to be matured and work together.

7. When my sister that raised me died, he didn't come for the burial. his reason was he had supervision that day in school,same person that calls his colleague to cover for him during exam supervision so he could do other things. He also didn't send me any money but he questioned me for not giving him any money for his Father's burial. Even when I paid him excess for the burial uniform. I know why I did that. Mind you, he has asked me before if he can give one of his ex 10k during her Father's burial which I agreed and he sent her the money.

8. I have rejected some suitors who were willing to marry me coz of him. Though he has never encouraged me to accept any of them. In fact he gets angry hearing that another man is coming close to me.

9. He doesn't call often, I do more of the calling though he always return my calls. He can stay for days without calling unless I call. I know I have been the one holding the relationship coz I thought he will change.

10. Sine 2017 till last year, all I did was forgive him coz I love him. He keeps bringing new / different ladies into the picture. I have gone through a lot of emotional stress. He keeps asking me to stay that he loves me but he's confused.

His good side: He's understanding, motivates me to do my best, he doesn't hit me, he is gentle.

Me on the other hand is sometimes stubborn though very faithful coz I love him to a fault. I easily get angry but forgives easily. When I'm angry I talk so much but I don't abuse him. He is simply the cause of all my anger. He always say I am very understanding, a good girl, drama free but yet he doesn't want to marry me and won't let me go too. I have never involved a third party in our relationship except my late sister who said she wish I will walk away from the relationship because I love the guy more, that it won't end well. All my friends thinks I have a perfect relationship because I don't discuss him with them.

Back to last night, I told him I won't call him again coz he said I am pressurizing him to marry me. The truth is I have seen the hand writing on the wall, not today but two years ago but I keep going back. Please I need advice on how not to go back again. The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.[/quot mle]

You are a fool!!!

sureboykris:
Our country sha . Superstition and religion no dey help us at all.
What's the big deal over a placenta . Ideally ,every hospital or health centre should have a placenta pit where placenta is discarded . Placenta is not useful to anyone . Let's liberate our minds .
Now they've gone ahead to publish this doctor's name and paste a picture of the hospital without confirming.
Kwantinu

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Thanks

James289:
I ain't got time for this shit.... U get a side chick, I get a sidecock.... Case closed!

This is a woman who values her peace. Your drink on me pls

naptu2:
I bet many won't actually watch the video.

He was standing outside, at a distance of more than 2 metres when he was talking to the patient. He wasn't under any risk. Furthermore, the patient is no longer coughing and sneezing.

Those who go into the room to interact with the patient wear protective gear, but he was not in the room at the time that he was talking to the patient.

God bless you
Shows you how many people don't read and just type foolishly
His explanation was clear

12inchess:
You sound very dumb. Ned Nwoko with his pot belly and wrinkled face still bagged one of the youngest nollywood ladies.Most men want hot and pretty partner and most women want "caring" man. Caring is another word women use for a man who provides security which is same as money. So if your man continues to be "caring", you sef should continue to be hot.

And you sound very stupid, immature and senseless. Get your vocabulary together before you spew thrash from your germ infested nails, environmental destroying fingers and puterific decaying brain

Trojan8:
This one is hard sha. Look at the wife, look at the side chick

What is the difference in them.. spend 5 years with the side chick and see if she can be a wife. You people keep saying no more wives but y'all looking for ho*s in widely places. That why married women cheat. Because you can't see gold if it was dropped inside your eyes.

Olalan:
Hmm as much as it was wrong for her to confront the side chick she seems very bitter at the seeming lose of her husband to the side chick. You can criticise her as per her shape, or looks but you should ask if the husband didn't was blind when he married her and even made her a mother for His kids.
BTW how we degerated this low morally baffles me......where the society sees no wrong in a man cheating on his wife with the excuse that the wife isn't sexy enough. And to the ladies who know fully well that their lovers are married they should remember the law of karma

You have spoken the truth.
How many men are still flat chested and flat bellied after years of marriage.. but they don't complain about them letting themselves go. Try working and raising kids and cooking and being sexy. It's doable but not easy. A sexy looking lady outside should not be an excuse to cheat. Same woman think is ugly will most definitely be appreciated for her other virtues by other men apart from being slim. The most obvious fact is that these anal giving girls don't stick to one man because they are never satisfied. Why do you think married women cheat.. because their husband relegates them to sex and food provider... Ignoring the other beautiful parts for some outside public ho*

Infected with corona but may die of malaria... It is well

Mzflexydeeva:
Over the weekend I had the privilege to attend a couple’s wedding anniversary. It was over 40 years of marriage. While the couple and kids danced and had merry I kept an observant eye trying to figure out within me how 2 strangers managed to live that long together looking all happy and equally having their kids all around them looking like this one big family.

Then something happened. This in itself helped me conclude that indeed for a marriage to be successful a woman had 99% of the hard work to do and this is also guiding my conclusion in this write up.

It was time for dance, dance, dance and lots of people came out to spray the couple just to appreciate them. Since I was close to the family, I was part of the money picking committee. In fact I was the coordinator. At the end of it all I counted the total money realized and was about to hand over to the daughter of the celebrant when she whispered.

“Who do I hand over the money to? My mum or my dad”?

I quickly answered your mum of course. The men don’t know how to manage money more so women are better at financial matters. She laughed and looked at me saying “I would have given my mum but I know she will give it to my dad who may just keep it all to himself so I have decided to share it into 2 half and give them both their share. I was amazed at such wisdom as I walked away to my seat thinking how fair that decision their daughter had made was. Later that day I called my friend to congratulate her again and praise her for being so wise but to my surprise she had something else to say.

Just as I finished praising her she said, I did as I thought was just for my parents but to my greatest surprise as I handed over the money to my mum and explained to her she rejected it. I heard myself shout “what” over the phone. Just then my friend said, my mum refused half the money and asked me to hand everything over to my dad at this point my voice could be heard by others around me. See me see wahala, what’s my own? Na me get money?

Then my friend continued, my mum said she wasn’t going to be a part if that sharing. Give it to your dad she said, what ever he gives me I would take and if he gives me nothing so be it. He is my husband after all. On hearing this I told my girl I would call her back as I need to check on somethings.

This really got me thinking... what is happening to marriages today?

Now I am summarizing some of the things destroying our marriages inspired by the woman in this encounter.

Love is not enough to take that life decision called marriage. Marriage should be a decision carefully thought out. Not something rushed into out of peer pressure or social intimidation. Not a decision made by friends or family but one for which one has carefully sat down to weigh the cons and pros. Having said that, it is still scary to see the level of broken homes arising each day.
Divorce is not a solution to marital problems but in itself can cause more harm than good. Although I am not a fan of divorce but when sanity and safety is at stake I fully Stan.

1. Finance: most times the issues caused by finances in a home is out of greed, social validation and peer pressure. A woman should understand her husband’s financial capability and live within such. Do not be tempted to live like your mates are living resulting in unhealthy pressure of your spouse. Men should be hard working and proactive. Do not be the type that believes I own my wife and all she owns. The easiest way to loose a woman’s respect is to misuse her finances.

2. Patience: This is by far the life one of marriages. Patience from either man or woman. Patience is what will keep you when she is nagging, what will keep you when he starts keeping late nights

3. Understanding: To be able to live together,there has to be a certain level of understanding of which once the understanding is compromised the marriage can as well be over.

4. Love: what exactly is Ione? Love isn’t what keeps 2 people together. Love is what brings them together

5. Forgiveness: once you have the spirit of forgiveness,your marriage is bound to sail with less friction. Forgiveness is so important in marriage that if partners can’t forgive each other they can not be cohabiting. Infidelity, disrespect,lack of control and all what may become irrelevant once the spirit of forgiveness visits you.

6. Interpersonal relationships : this involves the level of friendship. Once you consider your partner a friend you will never feel cheated rather you will see you both as equals not also neglecting the place of each one.

7. Sensitivity to the feelings of your partner: the ability to tell what your partner is feeling is a special gift. A gift that allows you to leave in harmony with everyone. The feelings of your partner should never be taken for granted. Women like it when you can tell at every point how emotionally stable they are. Men love to be seen and treated like babies. Do it and when it’s time to be happy, your home will know no bounds for love and happiness.

Let’s help save marriages and teach people to remain married unless in cases of domestic violence by either party.

Sakamanje

johnmartus:
Probably they are going to cutoff her mouth or boobs

Lol, a shame they don't even view who lives with them as part of them. Those people wey dey travel go there dey waste their time...plus z location doesn't make somewhere holy.

Inside life proposal

Phosphorus666:
It's just about the pain. Apart from circumcised girls, some other girls also feel pain when you sex them. There are several reasons for this: they aren't very sexually active, your penis is larger than what they are used to hence their vagina would need some time to adjust, you didn't initiate enough pre-intimacy before you went digging, etc.

All this digging, digging wey people dey type so... Na foundation?

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Too bad

Lollll. U dey gbadun your comments

Brainiac12:
Fake lives
Shey na sky shim take the plane pinshure abi

Wow. Details

NwaAmaikpe:




SMH.

So one fool suffering from Acute Shame Deficiency had the nerves to marry a girl who was not only shagged on Live TV but was also dumped on social media.

Well, I don't blame him, I blame his family members and their uncultured elders who were useless enough to accompany him to wife an extremely dull wanton lass.

If every family in the world had the same amount of morality, decency and decorum in me, this girl would have died a spinster.

But God is not man and this is her miracle.

For someone who has confessed to shag countless married women including nuns, your morality is 'enviable'

Renforce:
Nawa o! Is it just me or does it feel like this is the first val Naija has ever celebrated?

Lol, na so e dey be every year.
The traffic jam due to cars parked at eateries on Val's day is always unprecedented
E go be like say love wan finish on the 14th.
.. but it's all good memories
Love is the universal language

SenecaTheYonger:
LMFAO

The nyas*h don dey fall. Notice they only showed it from a distance.

Antoeni:
Olamide is Just Struggling to Remain Relevant But Zlatan & Naira Marley have Taken Over
I Wish him Success in his Remaining Career

Lol@ remaining career. Hope he get enough real estate for retirement. He has had his day. Even tuface no reign forever talk less of a fortunate thrash singer like him

Dominiondominio:
I’m a 26 years old woman married to a 37 years old man. We have been married for almost 3 years.

We don’t have kids yet and 6 months ago I ended up in hospital with sepsis. The doctors originally thought it was caused by a kidney infection but later found that it was caused by Pelvic Inflammatory disease.

They repeatedly asked about my sexual history but I have only slept with one person in the past 3 years - my husband. I ended up having to have emergency surgery as the infection would not respond to the IV antibiotics they were giving me. I was in hospital for 10 days and have potential long- term damage which will affect my ability to have children.

I recently found out that my husband has cheated on me a number of times throughout our marriage and that the Pelvic inflammation was caused by untreated Gonorrhoea.

When I was discharged from hospital, he admitted that he has been cheating on me with a single mother of 4 (unprotected sex ) And he got the gonorrhea! How irresponsible! I am completely devastated and don't want to believe that the love of my life could be so callous. I very nearly died and if it were not for the brilliant doctors who quickly recognised my symptoms.

Of course the woman my husband got the gonorrhea from denied everything and I bet she won’t go get treated and will continue to spread this nasty and dangerous disease! She is done with having kids so why would she care, right?

Well, I do want to have kids and I won’t let my fertility and health taken away! the emotional damage caused by the infidelity itself is horrible. I feel angry, dirty, and ugly. All I want to do is cry all day. I can’t talk to anyone about it because I feel so ashamed. The person I trust the most is my mother but i don't want to break her heart. I know that to her my happiness matters the most and I think she would be angry at me the rest of her life if I told her that I still love my husband.

My husband feels remorseful and said he would never cheat on me again. He said he would choose me over any lifestyle and that he would give up everything for me. I have a very hard time trusting him again and I still don't know what I want from this whole thing. I just can't understand why my husband would have sex with a disgusting, nasty woman and betray me on so many levels. My pride got hurt so badly. I feel so ugly and worthless. My libido is absolutely gone. I feel empty inside. Then all the sudden I feel horrible, horrible anger and I want to break everything in sight. On some nights I can't sleep and sometimes I want to sleep all day. Most days I'm not even hungry and I have to force myself to eat something.

I feel like I will never be happy again. I used to be a happy, confident, bubbly person, now my zest for life is gone. Is this normal? Will these feelings ever go away?

My angels comfort you, love you, wrap their arms around you and let you remember once again how much the love of God has held you before your birth. A love no man can taint. May you feel worthy again. You are loved.

donstan18:
Traditionally, a man is the chief sponsor of any wedding ceremony while the woman supports in a way she can. Reason, it's expected a man goes into marriage when financially stable and ready.

Allocating 50% to her passed a message that you'll be a type of husband who will be after the statistics of the wife's earning and spending. You sure wouldn't have done what you did if you hadn't any knowledge of her earning, you acted because you know her earning and that's a red flag for Nigerian ladies, because they don't like dragging and equal responsibilities in a home.

You don't go direct when you want a woman to contribute financially to something. You go Tactically[Not imposing, but asking how and where she can take care of, she'll choose, no matter the percentage of her choice, you lock up, keep the planning going, pretend like you are cool and then sketch out a personal plan of how to act worried and restless before her, she'll wanna know the problem, act like you wanna hide it from her, she'll be worried and pissed that you are hiding things from her, then you'll come up with a story and open up that you are facing financial crisis and don't know how to sort some things out concerning the wedding, she'll willingly help with pity without seeing you as a stingy or mean person]

No be everything dem dey form mancho, you go dey use your head.

You've spent on traditional wedding and for that not to be a total waste, kindly go and meet her, reason with her and go tactical, not directly with authority.

Happy married life in advance!

A wise man

Lee84:
Politicians fear them. This one the find president ooh.

I tell you. If he likes, he should increase it to 1 mill.
The bigoted midget will never be president.
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pocohantas:
Na true na. Look around you, na drugs for manhood full everywhere. Lots of young men suffering various ailments. After they have destroyed their internal organs from drinking, smoking, unsafe sex. They will now be looking for wife that will be cooking vegetable soup/wheat and reminding them to take their drugs.

The broke actresses are just broke. The men will be broke and SICK! What do they do differently? Lifestyle!

This comment got me. If I say I no go laugh
Esp. the cooking wheat part. May God save women
But U said d truth. Very simple deep truth

thorpido:
This one pass inside life.

Na between life

lilybonny:
All I see is _Love norin more... Case closed

Yes, they look adorably in love. It's actually refreshing. She should keep her home and marriage from evil friends and the public.

They look so in love. May God keep their home. The actress is naturally beautiful...

This is an epidemic in its infancy stage.

We need to either harness the value of such mammoth crowd or separate this country as fast as possible.

Harnessing would be the most logical...but it will be a herculean feat.

God have mercy

Ohh no, not again. Another mine gathering venture. What's next, miss fashionable,miss trendy, miss influencer

richPHAROAH:
just invite thieves and arm robbers to come and rob the compound weekly. them go leave by force

This one make me laugh
Also sprinkle chicken blood on the entrance of the door with coloured egg and leave the severed chicken head there