₦airaland Forum

nwando:
I'll choose a loving,well loaded HND Akure polytechnic man anyday before looking at a broke,slippers wearing phD holder,jumping molue
suffer is not my middle name

Well said! Exactly what is expected from a typical Igbo babe

thanks brymore and jummai for educating those morons peddling fables about ABU and Nigerian degrees. See as their mouth gum as una come expose their dirty lies.

I don't blame them at all. Any mugu wey manage escape naija and dey attend 4th rate community college in the deepest swamp of Alabama and Lousiana go dey pose, dey talk nonsense of ABU, Ibadan and UNN.

Yeye dey boom!

4him,,

Can you pls tell us how many Nigerians you know that came in legit from day one versus how many you know that came in kuru kere and regularized themselves?

There is an adage quoted by Achebe in 'Things Fall Apart' that goes - those who are privileged to have benevolent spirits crack their palm kernels for them should learn to be humble.

That you are privileged to reside abroad legit from when you arrived and did not have to engage in all the wayo that immigrants are forced into to regularize is not a reason to start looking down on others. I know guys today working on Wall Street or in the City, medical doctors and even lawyers who came in through kurukere [e.g. overstayed visitig visa etc] and had to do all sorts to regularize. Today, they are top professionals in the countries where they reside. Does that mean that they were natural born law breakers? Sometimes, you gotta do what you gotta do. New immigrants often have to bend the law to settle down and fit in. Personally, I draw the line at 419, drugs, welfare fraud, housing fraud, insurance fraud etc

Your anger is better directed at the rogues who drove otherwise honest people to leave their country and do all sorts to survive and not Ayo and her friend.


But then, they are cheap and easy targets for you.

Folks,

I'm looking for 3.5mm audio adaptor for Sony Ericsson K850i. Here is what it looks like.


http://www.amazon.co.uk/U-Bop-Ericsson-Retractable-Earphones-Headphones/dp/B00104HY90/ref=pd_sbs_ce_title_25

Does any one know where I can find it in Lagos and how much? Thanks!

hammers:
Old flame----------Ladies especially--------------------Only God can Help

One no the most common excuses for cheating.

Beware of ladies that talk about their old flames with passion

Indeed! This is why Okafor's Law was formulated. I've heard too many horror stories along this theme!

My homie unknowingly married a babe on the rebound. Her ex travelled out without telling her. Not too long after she joined my homie in jand, she somehow reconnected with her ex and they were soon shagging their brains out. Until the mumu girl got carried away by the sweet shag. She abandoned their baby with my guy and eloped only for the ex to dump her ass yet again once he was done with her. Some women never learn.

stillwater:
I don't think it is embarassing, they are already family. Asking money from your husband does not mean you are not educated. Is it not for the family to eat? From the story the man was responsible for the feeding money, (and I guess everyone agreed to it) the only problem was that the woman had to always remind him of feeding money, something he is supposed to be used to by now, after how many years of marriage.

Gbam!!!

how would you know? you're a man, right?

FemiATL:
Please for others who want to jump in, the issue is ONLINE PURCHASES! From there we can narrow it to Non-Shippable and Shippable Purchases to give it some sense of direction.

Please let’s list “real” sites that we shopped in “Online”, so that others who want to perform legitimate transactions can go there too.

Nigeria We Hail Thee!

Great idea!

Any one here is not an employee of Zenith,Intercontinental and GTB, please raise your hand

d1tha1:
@isuomo,

I think many of the poster here generally agree that the cards are accepted ON LOCATION (e.g. Tesco, Macys according to your post), on SOME INTERNET SITES, particularly for SERVICES (e.g. Amazon, etc), and at ATMs ABROAD

The problem is with purhcasing pyhsical goods that require "SHIPPING" to Nigeria . This is where the main complaint has been so it would help if u can tell us which sites you HAVE used your card to purchase PHYSICAL GOODS AND HAD THEM SUCCESFULLY SHIP YOUR PURCHASE TO NIGERIA. SImple

abeg, educate him well, well. guy just jumped in with inflammatory comments without even reading the thread properly.

oyb:
one of the things most people fail to realise about infidelity is that at some level, the spouse is aware of what is happening.

it is often preferable not to know, because knowing means you will have to do something about it. it also means you have to confront all the reasons why it may have come about.
(contrary to popular nigerian opinion , women don't mess around solely because they are loose/devilish/demonic or whatever other adjective . its often because of neglect( at least according to the literature i've come across). when the hubby is out on biz 90% of thye time, and when at home, is always working or tired. . .)

i guess though, that in these days of AIDs maybe there is a case for letting the spouse know.

neglect as a cause of female infidelity will apply primarily to women who ordinarily would have been faithful to their spouses. Ditto physical or emotional cruelty, revenge for hubby cheating etc

but you have to take into account the harsh economy in Nigeria which sometimes drives women into transactional sex especially in the workplace.

again, women who used to be into aristo while in school or had sugar daddies as single girls often find it hard to adjust to their husband's modest income if they're unlucky not to land a rich husband. such women often cheat without qualms


finally, lets face it - women are just as prone to adultery as men nowadays. google 'paternity fraud' and you'll come away pretty shaken

ayo,

long distance marriage creates a lot of stress on the relationship. issues which can be easily resolved between the couple become magnified because of the distance.

if you are able to visit naija and return to your base without immigration problems, i'd suggest you try and visit - if you can spare the cash for the trip. you may find that the matter can be resolved face to face. personally, i suspect your hubby's ego is pretty low at the moment due to job and visa difficulties hence his demanding that you return to naija for good. when you visit, you can make him see reason that you need to be abroad for now but that you will visit regularly etc. he may subconsciously resent your being the breadwinner - no decent man likes to feel like a kept man - hence the sudden demand that you come home since he could not get a visa. once you understand where he is coming from, you can handle him better

also, i suspect good sex for a few days will make him see the world a little differently

oyb,

i agree entirely with your analysis of the situation that it makes no sense for ayo to return to financial uncertainty but your language is rather disturbing. since you were able to cotton on immediately that ayo was actually describing her own situation, do you honestly believe that this your brash, in-your-face hyper-adrenaline responses are the most appropriate or effective communication to a woman who is deeply hurt by her husband's actions and and trying to make a tough decision?

how will calling her husband a loser make her feel any better? yes, his position is wrong and his demands are not reasonable but do you have to bruise Ayo's feeling in the course of advising her? keep in mind that we are talking about her husband and not her boyfriend! would you take kindly to third parties using such language about your wife no matter how she may have offended you?

consider also that this type of harsh response may discourage others with serious emotional problems from seeking help if they feel that they will simply be mocked on account of their opening up their personal problems to nairaland

i don't expect any better from the small pikin eaglets wey never see life but i expected better from you

oyb,

take it easy on the lady. she is in a very dicey situation wherein she is being forced to make impossible choices. what may seem simple, straightforward and plain common sense to you as a man may not appear that way to a woman. thats why she came here to solicit advice



@ Ayo, does your friend have her papers? Can she visit Nigeria and return without immigration wahala? pls respond and then I'll make a suggestion

With all the heat, dust and area boys? No parking space sef.

Please does any one have idea of the price of memory card for SE K850i at Computer Village? Thanks.

Any significant differences between terms of Zenith and GTB Mastercard offers?

I seem to recall that it was ECOBANK which introduced these Mastercard to the Nigerian market - how come they seem to have been overshadowed?

abhosts:
But for now, Nigeria Issued cards are fairly accepted for low-priced virtual products and services, where no physical shipping is required.

this makes the most sense to me

bababuff:
I did my transactions from my office in Lagos. (See feedback below)

This is NOT A BILL OR A NEW CHARGE, it is just a reminder about your purchase of the product(s) below on 05 Oct 2007

As you know, Plimus is under contract with Last Day of Work to process orders and collect payments, so your credit card statement will show PLIMUS.COM ONLINE STORE for the charge below.

If you have any content-related or technical questions about the product, only the manufacturer of the product can provide proper support, please contact
Name: Last Day of Work
Email: support@ldw.com If you contact the manufacturer, please be patient and allow them 2 business days to respond.

Thanks very much. You are actually the FIRST person I've seen [kind of ] who successfully completed an online purchase with a Nigerian issued Mastercard from within Nigeria. Congrats!!!

bababuff:
@pennywise,

my online transactions with the Mastercard are mainly for software downloads and membership subscriptions.
You get directed to a site for card verifications, and within minutes, I get my registration code in may mail box.

The VISA card, is for Point of Purchase transactions in Dubai, and I can also withdraw money from their ATMs.

Bababuff,

Were you in Nigeria at the time you made the online transactions with the Mastercard i.e. did you make the online transactions with the Mastercards from a computer in Nigeria? Thanks.

how exactly did you carry out the research?

did you obtain consent from the research subjects?

bababuff:
The Credit cards are working.

I have a MasterCard from GTB which I use for internet shopping, and a VISA debit card from Standard Chartered Bank that I use for shopping in Dubai.

@bababuff, pls i hope you don't mind sharing some details. When you make these online purchases with the GTB Mastercard, are you in Nigeria physically at the time of purchase?
Do the seller agree to ship the goods to you in Nigeria?

from what i gather, cards issued by Nigerian banks are not accepted for online commerce abroad b/c of 419.

also, even if you use a US or UK issued card, many companies won't complete purchase transactions that involve shipping goods to an address in Nigeria



funny, they will accept cards issued in Russia and ship goods to Russia despite Russia being the international headquarters of cyber-crime

Look who's talking - Mr. 'Igbo girls don't use toilet paper to wipe"

@ yemivictor

kindly STFU!

Shebi the thread is dead and buried? Then leave it at that.

, wondering where some peeps get these weird ideas about other people



@ nwando - now i see where you are coming from.

thanks guys!!! i'll think carefully about it b/c my house and office are full of so many multilinks and starcomms deskphone, mobiles, data card etc, etc which i purchased over the years and had to dump when the service got too lousy.

my experience with SWIFT so far is that the browsing/download speed is discernibly better at night and on weekends. It gets real slow and disconnects often during business hours on weekdays. I'm not too far from a SWIFT mast at Ilupeju and there are not too many tall buildings near me. Mostly duplexes or 2 storey apartment blocks.

lynx, the SWIFT product similar to yours [6pm-6am] goes for N6k/mth. Its not too bad. The 24/7 package goes for N15k/mth while the office hours package [8am-6pm] goes for N10k/mth

sigh,

nwando, please re-read the following -

"Very rampant among omata types back in the day"

"OMATAs are male and female and come from all corners of Igboland; its not just the Main market or Ochanja traders but the entire mindset and subculture associated with them."

"And yes, this sort of misbehavour is common among omatas especially when the son-in-law is one of those money-miss-road that made quick money from 419, wash-wash, blood rituals or 'afia ntu' and so they feel they can do and undo with absolute impunity. "


I trust no further clarifications will be necessary.





Again I ask of you -

Since you inform us with much glee that "I didn't grow up amongst 'omatas' and that "I'm unable to comment on events that perhaps happened prior to my conception", what then is the empirical basis of your claim that such incidents are no more than "Isolated cases at best"?

How would you know since you "didn't grow up amongst 'omatas"? Wink

How are you able to make such definitive statements about "events that perhaps happened prior to my conception"? Tongue

Why not defer to the wisdom of those of us who grew up among OMATAS and were adults in the 1970s? Grin

I'd really love to hear from you on the above.

nwando,

Take am easy. This is not an Igbo bashing or witch hunting exercise. I never said it was 'traditional' among OMATAs to sleep with MIL. Are afia ntu, cocaine trafficking, 419 or money rituals 'traditional' to Igboland? Its the combination of urbanization and a sense of impunity imbued by quick money that buys police and political protection that drives these guys to do funny stunts like this. Nothing at all to do with traditional Igbo culture.

Since you inform us with much glee that "I didn't grow up amongst 'omatas' and that "I'm unable to comment on events that perhaps happened prior to my conception", what then is the empirical basis of your claim that such incidents are no more than "Isolated cases at best"?

How would you know since you "didn't grow up amongst 'omatas"?

How are you able to make such definitive statements about "events that perhaps happened prior to my conception"?

Why not defer to the wisdom of those of us who grew up among OMATAS and were adults in the 1970s?



Don't worry, if anyone is so rash as to launch "a thread on Igbos and their mother inlaws", i will mobilize all the Biafran warriors on nairaland and beyond to educate them vigorously