₦airaland Forum

Dottore:
We are watching. I'm tired of all these pocket economic theories. Though the source of this particular article is a reputable one but the truth remains that the complexity in Nigeria's economic realities have timelessly contradicted all conventional academic economic tales hence the CBN Governor and his crew have resorted to trial and error economics.

Academic tales are not meant to be static. New experiences and percularties begets lacunas that begs for research to either prove existing ones right or wrong or add to it.

eyinjuege:
There aren't a lot of virgin carriers.
The ones you see are usually infected at birth by their mums and have grown up all their lives with the disease, coming regularly for treatment at the clinics or through blood transfusion.
Sex is the major way it's transmitted in Naija, and not just gay sex but sex between man and woman. Women too do have vaginal secretions, and can deposit. Men also catch other STIs from women like gonorrhea, syphillis, chlamydia and you'd agree with me those are quite common despite the men being the "depositors", and not the "receptors".
I understand the chances of a woman getting it from a sexual encounter is higher than a man's but I honestly don't think the difference is so much to be ignored.
We funny enough do have serodiscordant couples where one is positive and the other is negative despite being married or coupled up for years. Those ones seem to have some form of immunity against the virus.
Anyways, everyone should be responsible for their sexual health, and should always wear a condom. Partners should equally get test ed and stay faithful to one another.

I think, matrimonial style is the one that reduces the risk for the male but if the female is on top, taa no risk reduction, every na same same.

banjolek:
Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 bedroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

Firstly, I am happy for you that you earn pretty well, secondly be prayerful about your marriage. I do not know where you met your wife or how but the fact remains you are married to her. She is your help meet and not your help drain. She is not even thankful to God, that you could spare 20k for her monthly, hmm. What is she doiing with her 75k? I'm sure its frivolities(or maybe she is saving it). If she is not contributing anything of her earnings, then I'm left to wonder why. I am sure that sexually, she will be refusing quite well as well on the basis of tiredness, bla bla bla

You need to be firm and set things straight, which everway be firm. Let her know that she should be thankful to God that your efforts to earn well is been blessed by God, there are many out there with the same efforts as yours that are earning peanuts or probably earning well and managing illness. Draw her to God, make her reason, be firm, be firm.

If you can meet her wants, meet it o but remeber that it's better to put those wants in check as she is insatiable. If you give her 50k, ater some months, she will start craving for more. Your earnings is for the family and her own earning is as well. Assuming she isn't working is a different case.

Above all pray to God before you engage her in any discussion.

Olumaeme:
If she is a feminist and always shouting gender equality give her nothing
But if she is a wonderful woman, give her according to your pocket, for me 30% of your salary is fine...

30% for her to squander or to build the home.

valacious:
Sire, I will tell it to your face, that 20k is too small, too small. Do you know how much tomatoes goes for now? Or meat? I suggest you add like 15k minimum, and you could be smart by telling her she will have to be in charge of buying all food stuffs.. You shouldn't even be handling that, cos it will be very expensive for you at the long run.. so I suggest you propose to her that you want her to run the house, and she should give you an estimate.. You then negotiate this estimate, and give her the bulk sum.. and everyone is happy.. Believe me, she will be adding a lot of her money every month to make up, but won't be bold enough to come ask for a raise, because you guys have reached an agreement... All the best..

Did you read the post well. He said, the 20k is for her pocket money and not for meals

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

For me, she is not behaving like an help meet at all. This guy is in trouble, if he looses his job

Azinganga:
Endure this crazy demand of hers and pray to have children first.When children comes, she will start to see herself then as a stakeholder and must contribute financially even for your domestic needs.Women are supposed to be helpmeets and not extortionists.A helper should really help.

Children or no children, if you have value you have it, if you are reasonable, you are. He needs to be prayerful with his marriage, when a wife makes such demands, means she could be easily tempted to look out for more. every Human being has an insatiable want and if not checked, one gets disatisfied and wants more at every given opportunity.

sinaj:
Nice one frm Mrs Queenkong



Marriage de sweet sha


With the right man tho

And the right woman too

midolian:
Why would a Chieftain seen to be sane suggest a thing this inane?

We all know it is "sharing" and "sharing" that has brought us where we are today

All they know how to do is share the Gala, share the booze. Instead of them to hide their head in shame for failing Nigerians, they are busy thinking of how to share loots recovered from them. SMH

Thank God the Nightmare called PDP is over.

No mind the mumu. He even said bailouts should be given unconditionally.

powerfulsettingz:
is the lady that blast them mentally derailed? Gender equality can't work in a continent like Africa, is she suggesting that women can fight for the post of a king in yoruba land likewise? Or women can begin to propose marriage? Absolute nonsence


I concur with olori

Which one is Africa. How many countries in the world do we have it? A woman has never been a president in America, even woman hasn't been a prime minister in UK, the only thing in those countries is that they follow their laws over traditions. If we follow our laws that we already have here there will be some level of protection. But in marriage which ever way, it's not possible to be equal.

Oche211:
No one to trust again in our government.
Thank God for sahara reporters, if nt, most of these things would have remained dark hidden secrets.
Sahara reporters are the best in investigative journalism.

Investigative journalism requires balls and settlement

DollyParton1:
Nonsense.
Some people just try so hard to be relevant.
Of course a rapist is superior to her na. Shebi we are not equal.

Both sides have idiots and any sex can learn self defence skills

If the FG is serious to have taken a step to liberate the market, they should also learn to be proactive. If FG wants to play smart, they should simply sll at 60 naira, since there is no subsidy and leave the marketers to sell at whatever price they want. When everyone goes to buy only from NNPC, they will be forced to also regulate downwards their pump price.

I knew it was going to go covert. What a disappointing one by the FG. FG and the minister should be transparent to Nigerians which is the only way to earn our trust. Let the names of the states be mentioned. We've not seen any published accounts o or is it that they must sign that in the course they will fulfill the conditions. I tire self

When it comes to my properties, I anticipate such as a sharp man and keep all my valuables right under my leg when giving a lift. I can't experience it because I have anticipated it and took caution.

joblessness

unitysheart:
Ehn, we agree.

But baba, is there no way you can be working at this goal while the economy is still very okay?

Baba, the country isn't smiling o. As I dey so, I never make one kobo since January this year and my savings is depleted almost completely because the economy isn't favorable at all.

All the companies I provide annual services for just dey give excuses based on the failing economy.

We know you wish us wel, but baba, biko do something o.

Do you enjoy before suffering or you Suffer before enjoying or you want to enjoy and suffer at the same time? Choose one and let me know the one that has a long term effect. Reinvent your wheels in the midst of difficulties

iamord:
This type of thinking is one of the problems of the black man. Limiting him within a box.. If God is infinite, then we can only continues to learn and learn.. The sole reason for living is Advancement . Be FRUITFUL & MULTIPLY. You learn what you can and pass on the torch to the next generation

That is why we are created in His likes, but my black guys will not understand, instead they will become religiously overzealous and say that they want to unravel God.

forgiveness:
This is one of the reason we may remain where we are till tomorrow because of brain drain and some people trying to unsettle the country through sponsoring of militancy, terrorism, tribalism etcetera in Nigeria. Because they know once Nigeria overcomes its differences, they will become world power influencing and spurring other African countries to aspire and replicate the same. And we know what that means. Freedom. But unfortunately we are not intelligent enough.....

The only way to stop brain drain is to drastically improve living condition in Nigeria, which includes, very clean environments, Good access roads, Constant electricity, good Hygeine conditions, sensitivity to human plights, good education system, good governance. Nigeria needs to be well arranged physically like or more than where we run to. Many Asian and African country have suffered brain drain to the benefit of the likes of USA, UK, France, and Germany

StepTwo:
patrimonic


was a form of identity in d days of old adopted by (English, Swedish, German, Norwegian, Icelandic ) name tells people who you are and who ur father is.

assuming ur father's name is Ryder. then you are Leest Ryderson
- the son of Ryder.

here, both you and ur father are fully represented.






sorry am not very good with lessons.

That means the son of Ryderson will be Rydersonson abi name Leestson

Armaggedon:
quit foaming from your mouth!
I guess the spill was caused by another thing. But if the pipeline was vandalized then it is irresponsibility on the part of FG cos ND avengers always announce when they attack obviously to avoid spillage.

Are you saying that FG should be there to prevent the oil from Spilling when NDA attacks? Make me understand

If you are able to secure a party's ticket, I am 100% sure no sane and insane Nigeria will vote for you. It's good to dream

sarzy:
If you saw a young guy and a girl in a hotel you wouldnt condemn that. Sin is sin, whether gay or fornication. Mind you, religion is a matter of choice. The murdered guys broke no law in America. Condemn the killings and stop at that!

Please in what I wrote I never said the killing serves them right because they are gay, I only commented on the aspect which says any other body not been a gay could be there too. Process with logic and not emotion. If the topic was about fornication in a hotel, I will still say the same thing. Get it.

bobbykeen:
that shows the kind of person u are... I pray I and family never meet u in life....God save us from Jezebel... amen




I kno will come back for me ooo... BT I will ignore u

I think you are hasty in your response. In communication learn to understand the arbitrariness of a language(statement) before responding. Because the poster said "A man that chases anything in a skirt" does not mean he hates women, he could also be referring to men that love infidelity, sleeping around as they want. The last part of his statement is the truth, they will all want to have a share of his properties.

I think you should learn to seek clarification before responding, where clarification isn't possible and it affects you in no way, then ignore it.

God will surely save you from Jezebel.

chubbyG:
the last time i checked money can't buy dignity nor respect...,a typical Nigerian would say "it's good for them,wetyn Dem dey find for gay club"?,..... it's still d same set of blockheads that'll be screaming " say no to jungle justice" when a petty their is killed......
cause it's a gay club doesn't mean everyone killed were gays besides who are we to judge
double standard mofos
Always respect the dead...

RIP to the dead..

RIP to the dead. But seriously what are you doing in a club that you know is defined for gays. Show me your friends and I tell you who you are is the first line of perception. Also, those you roll with have an impact in you determining your thoughts.

clogogo:
Ojukwu fought before living to fight another. Day ....
The people that allows everything go around whether good or bad are the Yoruba ,else Nigeria would have been better , that always betrayals ..When Biafra was fighting the North they suPported the North .. Please even if you are different you will agree with me that Majority of yorubas are just that way.

Now hear yourself, Biafra was fighting the North or Nigeria and you want to be taken seriously. Did Yoruba supported The North or Nigeria. Na wa o. So as Scotland wants o leave the UK, N.Ireland, Wales should support Scotland abi or If they do not support, Scotland should say the duo of country is supporting England against them. Yes, Yoruba's are the ones making things go round in terms of a unified Nigeria.
Let me tell you if the Yoruba's says they want to go today today, then the igbos will understand understand how to go about things wisely and not stupidly because everything will halt.
The Biafra war that Igbos started was the foundation of their ill-wills.
If you are talking about betrayal, we have that in all tribes and it's relative to what you see and want to believe.

"Ojukwu fought before leaving" I pity your reasoning

clogogo:
"Lol yoruba's has nothing to fight for, MAD there leader was from kwara , they managed to fight for a person that even rejected them.. Yoruba's the most cowardice tribe in Nigeria. ...I Can't never go on a mission and any kind with a yoruba man ..cos when the going becomes tougher They are first to quit....they discourages for the tiny reasons

Can you see your silly reason as if Ojukwu did not run away when it was becoming tougher. All you guys know is to just open up guts and yarn trash. Mr Tough please come up with a plan, go and live in Sambisa area and kill all the Boko boys.

I'm sure you will quit before you start. What an inferior set of individuals.

Hmm, I seem to pity Africans. Everyone so far has been ridiculing this wonderful effort. I said it in one of my post that whites pick assumed useless things and make good out of it. Comments here has just proved we do otherwise here. What this guy has just done is a tourism initiative"The largest shoe in the world, a motorbike shoe, etc whichever way he wants it branded. It could become well package and becomes a shoe ride during an event. Haba, we gat a long way to go with our reasoning o.

This is what our leaders need to be encouraging

400billionman:
Do you think they dont know what they are doing ?

Have they settled backlog of salaries ?

Na today. No government in Nigeria knows what they are doing. Bunch of miscreants

Nonsense. We need a good road network and world class transport system, no some painted vehicles that keep congesting the poorly built roads

Eddygourdo:
I doubt u wanna go down that road. So let me pretend I didn't see that

Hiss

Eddygourdo:
this is not a tribal affair. I stated an obvious which even u admit. So nothing to say further

If not a tribal affair what is it? Also point out my admittance and let me school your ignorance

Eddygourdo:
you have just proved that typical to a yoruba man, you people don't know yet that you are marginalised in nigeria. Because you are too weak to speak out, and rather take the coward stance to bow to the north and feed off crumbs. If reading the 48 laws of power made u a coward, did every other yoruba man and woman do same ? What explains their own cowardice. When bode george was jailed, many yorubas fought for his release. That is a nigerian thing to be fantastically and morally corrupt and should not be used in your arguement. I have told you that the cowardice of the yorubas is a thing about their nature and not necessarily their social or political conduct. Let me ask you, truthfully and answer. If a revolution where to start, which tribe do you think would be the first to chicken out and run away at the sight of olopa ?

There is bravery and there is stupidity. Yoruba's have fought wars within themselves, killed maim, and survived. Maybe they were cowards then. A single Yoruba suggestion crippled the civil war by advising to use hunger(common sense). The difference between the Yoruba and other tribes in Nigeria is that they are more enlightened, they' ve moved distances away from been crude.

https://www.nairaland.com/864525/yoruba-kiriji-wars-1877-1893

Also read this piece and see the stupidity of the yeebos
https://www.dawodu.com/sanusi.htm