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VOsimhen144:
My elder brother owns a boutique here in forestry Benin city, I manage the boutique business for him because he has other businesses to take care of.

Jaunary 15 this year, a guy came with a lady to my store to buy some clothes and shoe, they love what they saw, they spent over 70k that day at my store.

They even bought a Jean for someone who was at home, so I told them to feel free to return the Jean if it wasn't the person's size and I also promised to look for the person's size, I even gave them my number.

The lady called me that evening to informed me the Jean was okay, it was the person's actual size, she even said her both brothers love the clothes they bought. I politely told her to tell her brothers to also refer their friends to my shop. Infact that was when I knew they were siblings.

Ever since then, this lady has been calling to check up on me, she chat me up on Whatsapp everyday, I got to know she's from Akwa-ibom, she 37 yrs old (10 years way older than me), she's not married, she's a chef, she work in a culinary school where she teaches people how to cook intercontinental dishes. Those her brothers are based in Akwa-ibom.

Sometimes, she comes to my store whenever she close from work, she comes along with her intercontinental dishes she prepared, sometimes I find it difficult to eat it, I will jokely tell her that I'm used to Akpu.. We'll just laugh it off..

So yesterday night, When I came back from the shop I was tired, so she called me and I told her I was on bed, I had an hectic day I want to rest, then she was like who's the girl with me that I don't want to talk to her. She said a lot of things, she said I don't really care about her bla bla bla, she almost started crying.

I was just confused, I don't even know the right words to use to tell her to stop crying or acting up, whether I should use baby girl or my dear or aunty or babe stop crying.. I was just confused

Please how do I tell I'm not interested in the relationship without hurting her feelings? please note, she is a pretty lady, she speak fluently but she is way older than I am. And I'm also not in a relationship currently.

She wants to have a baby. That's what she is after fertility clock is ticking. If you really are not interested then ignore her calls, keep dodging her till she gets the message.

Pareyz:
Yes our level of reasoning and comprehension can't be the same.. That's why you only saw the part that's about being chivalrous..

What the other part about bike, makes no sense either. Does sitting in-between make your balls smaller? You have a small mind young man and a long way to go. Realising this I will stop here cause I don't engage with people with tiny minds.

Pareyz:
You make no sense bro, always writing out of context.. Read again and see the reason why he became chivalrous..

Of course I don't to you, because our level of reasoning imand comprehension is different.

yungzed360:
Sincerely I don't even know what to say. I'm heartbroken. Although I called it off... I'm an emotional person and it's the good state
of my emotionss before anything. I won't have a girl who challenges me at every opportunity given. I'm not a woman beater and I won't ever do such. I have lots of sisters but sincerely some girls Sha... This is a relationship I'm in where I'll have to send money when I can, make the calls. And after all she tells me I'm not doing her a favour.. I've not even seen her bra to begin with. Where's then the favour she is doing me? So unfortunate...

We don't care. When you she shows you her pant and more will you come to tell us you have taken her back.

Pareyz:
There are ways a simp would behave towards a woman that i find very senseless, such as, being extremely chivalrous to a woman that doesn't deserve it because you're broke and you perceive she might leave if you don't do that, and demeaning yourself by keeping a cheating and disrespectful woman because she got a body like Rihanna's and a waist like Nicki Minaj's..

The one i hate most which i call the highest level of simping is to allow a woman to sit at your back on a motorcycle/ okada.. I can never do that.

. Being chivalrous or having courtesy towards a woman does not make you stupid or a fool. You feel so because you expect certain things in return because you were not brought up in an environment where women are cherished if you were you would realise it's nothing special. But you will do it if you hook up with a white woman because you want financial gains or paper, how are you different from the so called simp you described.

SmartyPants:
Don't argue with me young man.

Research using positron emission tomography (PET) scans has previously proven this – and it’s known that when we are relaxed and have released stress, it’s easier to fall to sleep.

But when looking at why men seem to fall asleep faster, it’s actually due to a cocktail of chemicals released when they ejacul

These include norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide (NO), and the hormone prolactin.

It’s the release of prolactin that makes a particular difference as this is linked to the feeling of sexual satisfaction, experts say.

https://nypost.com/2022/02/11/the-scientific-reason-why-so-many-men-fall-asleep-after-sex/

Whatever Einstein. You can clearly see oxytocin among them. Oxytocin is the major hormone that causes relaxation and sleep.

SmartyPants:
It's the release of prolactin.

No . It's oxytocin and endorphins

odinson1:
What are the wifely duties?

Google it

DatoDatuk:
Name a bill that you hate paying, but you must pay it because you cannot do without it!

Internet service

Ekehbenjamin:
Pls I want to ask hw those of you who a married nd v kids.. Hw dou usually v s*x in just 1 room

wait till the kids are asleep. I mean it's basically like that if you even live in a flat and have a child less than 4. Most times they sleep with you on the bed, when you want to get down you do it when the child is asleep. It's basically the same logic.

Ekehbenjamin:
My gf don't usually tag me on her Facebook post yet she will tag her so called ex bf.. I want to if she really cares of love me genuinely

Does she still tag the boyfriend currently or you are talking about the past. If she presently still does it then I don't need to tell you that you are the assistant bf. If it's the past you are referring to then it probably means, she wants to keep her relationship with you off social media.

2muchDrag:
Where's the most absurd place or moment you've had sex

At the abandoned kitchen of my other Half's hostel, because roommate couldn't take a hint. We had been apart for over a year.

GooodHardDick:
Dear men,

If your girlfriend asks you to treat her like the queen she is, gently explain to her that the Queen of England pays her own bills.

If she wants to be treated like a queen, let her start by paying her bills. You don’t need a parasite. You need a partner. You will never grow if you are in a relationship with a bill giver. Don’t pay bills for ANY woman except your wife, mother, or sister.”

well any girl who thinks you are to pay her bills when you are not married to her isn't a queen.
Also men,don't expect wifely duties from her, if you expect that then start paying.

ibinaboonline:
You see am? To you, submissive equals to dumb. And you think you are smart. How sad? A woman, or man for that matter, with so-called great IQ but lacks humility is not wise. Keep your intelligence and give me wisdom. I’d choose wisdom over intelligence any day, any time, twice on Tuesday. To me, this question is a no-brained: a good mannered, submissive woman is wise and I’d choose her over an intelligent, well-informed woman that lacks the wisdom that reveals itself in good character and submission to your husband. Let me not get carried away.

Go and read what the op wrote oga. A woman who depends on the man to make all the plans and has no contribution is dumb to me. I am entitled to my opinion.

sty1es:
I'm in my late 20s and I decided to try out sex for the first time yesterday with my girlfriend of 6 month. Prior to it, I had this imagination that my first time will be great! I thought that like porn, I'll last for 10mins during penetration, changing styles during those minutes, little did I know I was headed for doom!

Armed with knowledge because I read a lot about these things, I felt I will have a blast. People say sex is the sweetest thing to happen but yesterday was wack. I was in and out within 10 oscillations. I felt defeated. I felt like, 'what if she think I have ED'? 'what if she compares me to her ex?'. So many what ifs clouded my mind.

I doubt I'll ever have sex again. While she complained of pain because she's not had sex for over 2 years, I felt a burning sensation all over my dick. It was all stress and no pleasure. Remind me never to think of sex as a pleasurable act. Pffft! Maybe because it's my first time or maybe sex is over hyped.

Sex shouldn't even be on the table. It's nothing. Like really nothing. Why do people bring it to the table when there's nothing in it.

You don't think too much , don't put yourself into stress and stop trying to impress. Just let it flow. Sex is great. You made it this far, try it next when you are married.

Kobojunkie:
Not all intelligent people can critically reason issues.

Consider the case of intelligence and Nigerians to help you understand this issue. Nigerians are considered to be some of the highest educated folks in the world - even right there in Nigeria, we have so many book intelligent beings out there- yet IQ wise, Nigerians continue to rank amongst the lowest in the world.

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derecho:
Yes, so many things happen and people easily conclude erroneously.
Submission is a deep topic I struggle with.I must confess,it's not easy.
Do you know sometimes, the man may not be serious with his demand but when the woman starts showing how stupid the man is and standing up to him, the devil in the man would surface. Do you think any man loves a woman without her own mind? The way you go about it is what makes the man appreciate you.
Even Jesus at Gethsemane said "not my will but Your will be done". Submission to man is how he understands Love/Value/Trust.Telling a man I love you is skindeep.

True Submission attracts power...

It's not just for women but spiritually too.

How does she show how stupid the man is? Sometimes it's the men's insecurities that makes him imagine things and read meaning to the most harmless statements. Even when it's matters that are just general topics once the woman's opinion differs ,it's a problem. Submission doesn't mean a woman should not air her opinion on matters. You air your opinion with politely, if the man does not accept it then you go along with him, but it will be on record that you objected. Next time he will ask you or such your opinion of he is wise.

Kobojunkie:
I am afraid the statement in bold is not true at all. An intelligent person can indeed have low IQ level.

https://www.quora.com/Can-someone-still-be-intelligent-and-have-a-low-IQ

It is called intelligence QUOTIENT- a measure of a person's ability to critically reason as opposed to a person's intelligence.

There are always exceptions. So intelligent people don't reason? Or does everything not have to do with reasoning. You are entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine.

Kobojunkie:
IQ has more to do with ability to reason, not intelligence or smartness.

Being intelligent or being a nerd does not necessarily mean one has high IQ.

What's with the face. Let's agree to differ. Everyone knows that an intelligent person can't have a low IQ. Why is it call intelligence quotient if it has nothing to do with intelligence.

Watch movies and see how they depict them.

dtruth50:
The Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) said:
Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I am heartened by your great numbers before the nations (of other Prophets)

Nairaland Family, I am inviting you to my Wedding Ceremony which is coming up on 25th of March, 2022

Wow congratulations, wishing you guys a life time of happiness. Always remember these happy times during the storm because they will always come. Congratulations once more

Kobojunkie:
IQ is not necessarily intelligence or smartness but ability to critically reason things out, and yes, there are those low on the pole. But when one considers those with great IQ, as suggested by the OP, then to those such concepts as submission make absolutely no sense of any kind.

IQ means Intelligence quotient right? So it has to do with intelligence. I have met people who have high IQs and are not nerds, the way high IQ people are depicted.

Kobojunkie:
He is actually wrong! A person with great IQ is one whose ability to critically reason issues surpasses others, and such persons find it a conflict to also cede control over their very existence to others.

There are variations to this IQ thing. Personalities too have a role to play. Personalities shaped by environment, and family.

derecho:
Being submissive doesn't mean being dumb. It's a product of discipline and prudence.

Intelligence or high I.Q isn't the same as Wisdom.

It takes wisdom and effort to be submissive..
Wise employers would ALWAYS go for loyal and teachable employees over intelligent and mannerless ones.
The later would ultimately become better and more productive over time.

Marriage is not something you can easily change like a job.
If your aim is long-term and peace, A submissive spouse is definitely the way to go.

Ebele Obiano might have high I.Q but her show of shame shows she's corky and disrespectful.

You are right,but to the bolded part, i have seen such happen several times. Some men can't stand women who have a voice,who can think who can question wrong decisions. They see it as not being submissive and that the woman is challenging their authority.

TheMan3:
there are women with great iq, and very submissive. I think this op's discription of a submissive woman is wrong. A submissive woman dosnt mean a dumb one. Those are two very different things

Yes you are right

Flahyuq:
Men always fall asleep after having sex to prevent questions like what??

Me-Baby what about the money you promise to give me??



Oya give us the question you intentionally dodge after having sex with a woman

There's some science behind it..women too fall asleep right after sex if they orgasmed. Sometimes to help her sleep give her an orgasm. When she doesn't fall asleep after sex , know you didn't do it right and probably faked it to get your deadweight offer and massage your ego.

Kelvin3476:
Submissiveness doesn't mean dumbness , because it takes a lady with great IQ to be submissive. Soo take ur educative jibrish to sambissa forrest

You obviously don't fall within the class. You are one of the insecure ones with inferiority complex. A lot of girls that have average IQ have made you feel so stupid you can't imagine going for one with a high one. Go back and try to comprehend what op posted. Also work on your inferiority complex, it's not my fault you have it. Get the fucq off my mention. I engage with people of like minds not yourself. Dumb.a.s.s

Night calls from my other half.
Other people evening calls, between 5pm and 8pm.

zed7:
Come out straight and beg for money instead of all this. This tactics is stale, opening multiple accounts to defend your begging. Mumu.
TBH, getting a job is much easier than all this things you're doing, not to talk of more dignifying.

You are a dimwit. I don't engage with dimwits.

zed7:
You're a fool, not the OP. What stress? A man thinks he is sick and he comes online to ask for price of a drug, not the price of visiting a consultant?
You're very foolish indeed. You people will never change.

U are the foolish one. Go back read and comprehend. Olodo

DaBogu:
y?

Bunch of babies, faceless forum.

Ayobiggie59:
I just feel like I'm dying slowly....

I've been having this persistent chest pain for two months now and I've been to the hospital but im not okay with their diagnosis, it's just as if I was scammed.

Chest pain at d left part of my chest with my left arm affected with d pain also.

When I read about it online, I saw it was Angina that has these symptoms I'm feeling currently and it's getting so unbearable for me.

All d money with me has been used for d previous test I carried out, d doctor dont really have time to attend to me well, imagine only one doctor attending to 100 patients.

Right now im broke and can't really go for another check-up, it just seems im dying slowly. Can't tell my mum cos d news can make her health worsen.

Someone told me to get a drug called Nitroglycerin that it will help, still trying to look for money to get it. Pls, how much does it cost pls if u know d price?

I'm just 30yrs.

Dear poster, I understand you perfectly, you have run out of money. Is there a way you can go with your test results to a doctor, either here on nairaland or if you can go to a reputable pharmacist with your result, let them prescribe something then you can come back with pictorial evidence, people will help
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