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Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

If I were in your shoes, I will lure my ex husband and use him just to satisfy my urge. When you are done tell him you need to get up early for work he should excuse you. I am old fashioned, I might not want him and his wahala, but once I have married someone is that person I want to bump uglies with for life.

Justice4Toto:
I want to experience group sex again. During the days of orgynaija I participated in two of there organized group sex and it was fun.
No phone
No camera

15 guys
17 girls

It was mad fun. There is this particular girl everyone bleeped ....the girl ass big and she com fine.
Infact it was mad fun
If u HV been there or experience it
Tellus

Yeah share the herpes. I hope you were all medically certified free of infections. Most of the porn you watch the actors are infection free.

MadeINchenzen2:
Well, in my own opinion I think being single has a lot of benefits than being married.

You feel so because people are now doing stuff that is meant only for marriage in relationships.

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers,I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job,where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place ,so their is another banker guy who has a crv Honda car that usually drop her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with,although dey do call them selves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.however suddenly I realized that my fiancee what's app chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play,but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her ,she was calling the guy ,as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy ,she quickly ends the call. i got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversation if truly she has nothing to do with the guy ,I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence .I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship ,but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat .
I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks .

The guy is a bad guy. He just enjoys the conquest. Funnily enough he might not have anything serious in mind than to sleep with her and dump her.
If I were in your shoes, I would tell the her I am ending the relationship because of my suspicions then see her reaction. But make up your mind that it's over. I sincerely think it has gotten romantic.

Chaos14:
you are very right you deserve one cold guiness

Haba!!!

Chaos14:
You moniker is blunttruth i don't have to say anything else

lmao. No vex o. That's me , I say it as it is.

Chaos14:
NL is a place where people can share their views and opinions but not to be opinionated but you see this particular person is ready to argue blindly on a faceless forum thinking everything she types has enough to sense to change your mentality she can't go to other social media platforms because people are ready to show her how stupid it is
she thinks she is helping the world from her keyboard how is she going to stop female abuse online when social media is a place for people to share their thoughts
i know a lot of so called feminists are going show me pepper on this forum because of this thats why am going offline i'll come back later to check it

You love her and want her attention.you have gotten it.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

Why date who you have no intention of settling down with. Pray it ends at just crying.

Em222:
I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891

Ladies Run o. This one na faworaja, gigolo,one of the house husbands I spoke about.

InfinityFabric:
Guys, you might be stupid to actually believe she's only talking to you or you're the only one.
The younger the girl, the more suitors she has, and you'll be the most stupid person in Africa not to know this.

As long as you're not married to her, you're not almost always never the only one. Even married ones are not safe, let alone free ones.

You might be almost free if she gives you access to her social media (usernames, password etc) not just her phone, if she doesn't then you know the answer already. Even at that she might even have secret accounts etc - Welcome to girls world.

If you've ever listened to a girls' chats between her and her friend(s), you'd get sense pill immediately. They are brutal!

TLDR; If she's to be married, never lose guard.

Lest I forget, guys remember: NOT HYMEN, NO RING

Of cause they will. Dating or marriage isn't a cage. Talking isn't any problem. loyalty and setting boundaries , is what is important. Are you not talking to other girls.

I don mess up. Big time
I have tried my possible best but I just fell off regardless
Where did I go wrong tho?
What do I do

can you throw more light. We cannot answer your questions with such vague information.

SmellySperm:
Studying a woman can't stop her from cheating bruh! She can still cheat without your knowledge so calm down. Better woman na by luck.

studying is not only to kntif she cheats. Courtship is same as studying. You study for compatibility bro. It's not luck per say.

UpLoyo:
He's impacting lives by having sex with multiple married women, choir members, households, under age girls? Are you retarded or just intentionally stupid? Oh he opened a restaurant to give free food from the money he makes from the same poor people? You're done for if you eat that abomination.

This clown is on record with his atrocities, didn't that blogger win the UK court against Suledog last week or so and he's owing £20K in attorney fees?

The problem with you people is you live in a rotten system so you are blind, trying to explain color yellow to someone that's never seen is a waste of time. What stupid grace are you talking about? The day his cup of iniquities get full, he'll either drop dead on that altar or catch a terminal disease. Go and Google Bishop Eddie Long.

Thank you for this. He is a complete pervert. Yet people are celebrating him.

envoymedia:
Senior pastor and general overseer of Omega Fire Ministries International, Apostle Johnson Suleman took to his Instagram handle to celebrate his 51st birthday today, IGBERETV reports.

He shared a collection of his photos with the caption;



https://www.instagram.com/p/CbeZT6FKmUF/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

*Vomit* p.e.r.v.e.r.t

SmellySperm:
No be small inspector general u wan turn person pikin to. U think u can study women and graduate?

Don't you think getting to know the kind of woman you want to get married to is completely worth it?
I have never dated for dating sake. I am old fashioned. I dated only persons I saw a future with.

Tunesco1:
but what if she meet up for the movie date and I tell her about it and she denies, do u feel later on, that guy would definitely get down with her ?

I can't say, if he will . You know your girl better. It depends on how solid your relationship is. A lot of things could have influenced her going on a date with the guy. It could be her friends pressuriiher to give tiguy s chance. It could be that she isn't sure there's a future with you, it could be she just wants to go on a date because you hardly ever take her out. It could be anything, you won't know until you both talk.

Tunesco1:
but what if she meet up for the movie date and I tell her about it and she denies, do u feel later on, that guy would definitely get down with her ?

If you know the exact time of the movie date you can call her then to see if she went. Then you ou can casually ask her if she denies it and you tell her you are aware and you just wanted to see if she will go. Hear what she has to say. If she opens up . Then you two can have the conversation. You can define the relationship ,what you want, and what she wants. if what you both want are different then it's better it dies a natural death.

Tunesco1:
Just trying to transfer a file from her phone when a message came in on whatsapp, I didn't bother at first but the content flashed again in my head, it's about going to see a movie..

She is actually planning to go and see a movie with this guy..

I have been overthinking, cos my instinct kept telling me, if a girl doesn't fancy a guy, she wouldn't accept to go on a movie date with him .. or can this be called insecurity too?

We are cool, no fight or issues of any kind oo, in short she just finished calling me now and our communication has not changed in any way..

I just want opinions concerning this , cos I'm having a feeling of betrayal here

Wait don't ask her. Monitor her and see if she goes. Then you can casually ask her how she spent her day. If she lies about it let her know you are aware. Then tell her how you feel about it.


P.S if you know you do the same don't demand her being exclusive when you are not. Just enjoy each other you are a perfect match

placeofallure:
For the mere fact that that is your lot in life, it doesn't mean it's like that everywhere. Don't stereotype it. Ask Blunttruth. Were you blindfolded when choosing a parasitic woman. Many of us are not leeches, we support our men. Don't bother people here with your badluck abeg!

I tire for all these people whining. Infact where I stay it's very common and it baffles me because I grew up in a completely different environment. Men took care of their wives and kids. Here the opposite is the case. Though it's not all the men.

9182736455O1999:
those men know how much they spend monthly so they will just count money and give to their wives at the begining of each month (or even before the month begin), so they can rest for the rest of the month.

Please read what I wrote properly. The men don't drop anything. The woman takes charge. Most of them are completely NFA and mostly first sons, waiting for property or lastborns with siblings abroad, Hoping on crumbs to fall from abroad.

Oturatetuala:
Where is that? I guess somewhere in Delta state.

Benin and Bayelsa. . Most of them are completely NFA and mostly first sons, waiting for property or lastborns with siblings abroad.

seun66:
Hi nairalanders, I need your opinion please. A lady(in her late 20s) met me some months ago and asked me to be her boyfriend. I stylishly told her to finish with her exams first, then we will talk. After the exams, I didn't say anything about it. We were still close though. I just started my program then so I wanted to wait a bit. Fast track to 6 months later, I asked her for a relationship, she said she is not ready. I do not know if she is attracted to someone else. The following week, when I visited her hostel, I met her sister only. She later called and was angry I did not inform her before coming. She told me on the phone again that she is not interested (despite I didn't say anything about relationship when she called), I told her " but I have not said anything about that after I first asked you out", she said yes, she is just telling me again. Now, some days ago, the lady called me to say she wants to see me and talk about the relationship I proposed. When I got to her place, she told me she has decided and the answer is no. I got a little confused and replied her thus; I asked you to be my girlfriend on so and so date, and you replied no, since then I didn't talk about relationship with you. You called me the second time just to tell me the same thing, you invited me to your house now just to say no again? You gave me ur response the first time, why are you repeating it even after I didn't talk about it with you again?. She didn't reply. Guys I do not understand the scenario. Since I asked her out, I have not been talking to her as frequent as before, why does she keep calling to say no? I was a little bit firm with her on that day. What ur opinion on this please.

She wants you to woo her
. Try a little harder to convince her.

MrBrownJay1:
as much as the above makes a lot of sense, you have to understand that some women out there dont care about what you just posted, and only care about what they can get (money/gifts etc) from a man RIGHT NOW. these women dont give a flying fukc about being the "right/decent" woman and instead solely want to rock the latest bling bling and latest Iphones etc... and they need men's money to do that.
as for the ones that want to fukc as many men as possible, what do you expect?! they learned that from us (men)...

BTW let us not be hypocrites here, and instead turn around and look at ourselves in the mirror to say the exact same above words to men as well!
aka Try to be a man that a woman will always regret losing for the rest of her life. “Be that man that your woman can never afford to lose to another woman. Don't be a parasite and a liability. No woman wants a liability and a parasite. Build your woman to your taste and stop looking for a ready-made wife when you are not a ready-made ”husband"

Men made women like that. They no more love.

Kiliwuwu:
let me go straight to the point

I started teaching some weeks ago in a secondary school close to my house and also doing some tutorials for students preparing for jamb due to low employment rate in the country after i graduated but wetin man go do.......to cut the story short i noticed 80% of my female students do stare at me infact I do lose focus at times when teaching , to my greatest surprise one came to me today asking me that I'm i single or married and some keep telling me that they wish to know my house especially the tutorials girls, I don't know what to do I'm just 22 years with a muscular body and a nice beard ,most of this girls are 17,19,20,21,22 I dont know if I should press the green button or press the red button

There's something called work ethics and being a professional. Please think with your headand not with what is between your legs. Avoid scandal .

Gaggii:
Please house,

What can I do, if I no cum sleep no dey come

Have cum to the extent of having short of blood.

Please what are the things I can do to make fall asleep at nights

Get married if you are not old enough. Get so busy that by the time you are home you just want to hit the sack. You have too much free time.

GoooodHardDick:
A thread was created asking "Do Nigeria girls ever feel broke to be in a relationship". Till now no single girl has given an answer to that question. Another user asked a question saying "What exactly do Nigerian girls have to offer a man in a relationship apart from sex". Instead of answering this question, they avoided it and ended up insulting the guys on nairaland

“Remove sex from a relationship and see that Nigeria girls don’t have anything else to offer their man. Aside sex, what do you have to offer to a man. Can you support him spiritually? Can you support him physically/financially? How about mentally?

All you do is demand money for bags, shoes, phones, clothes, data, and outings. Making him spend unnecessarily. What are you even bringing to the table. Have you ever sat him down and helped him plan about his future. Stop this parasitic manipulations. It is known as entitlement mentality.

I find it hard to understand why people post these stupid questions asking what females have to offer other than sex. Is it that you don't see hardworking females that cater for themselves and sometimes the married ones that cater for their family all by themselves. Do you not have mothers, sisters and cousins etc that are hardworking females and have lots to offer other than sex. Abeg I am tired of seeing this question. God gave you a brain for a reason if you meet a girl that has nothing to offer then move on. Stop coming here to rant.

FaAbokiWithSuit:
There is a thread on front page where male nairalanders are busy SIMPING. There is one clown that posted
that her Heart Is Shattered, Battered And Scattered.
i am like WTF ? Fear women. They will tell a story and appear as a saint in it just to win peoples sympathy, pity and admonition.

She said she 31 and has been dating for 5 years. Omo if you know the nonsense she has done during that time you will spit.
But its funny hundreds or thousands of nairalanders are busy trying to like the post and link up with the ugly toxic girl.

Yall dont know how daft you appear

Someone really hurt you. Why not forgive the person and heal. You have so much bitterness

Luckydabull:
So as a newly active member here, I felt bored and decided to show my face for a while.

So I gat this girl i am really into but she's always talking against my appearance saying I look like someone who's gonna cheat a lot and all I want is just to hit and run.

But sincerely speaking, i have good intentions and I have always been faithful. I guess I'll move on and find someone who'd be more receiving.

Please our almighty backlashers and haters are all welcome to my table

Feel free to dine!!

To be deleted soon

Attention w.h.o.r.e . Nothing sexy in blowing your trumpet

micomatson:
It's over 8 month now, I had sex with my gf since am not around, when I asked her what actually happens she told me that she is abstaining from sex till marriage, although her behavior looks strange and am felt with doubt.... Is it really possible for a woman to abstain from sex for that long?

Yes it is.

JOBgame:
Pls what does that mean
She complained that he had sex with her best friend and when asked he said because
She deined him sex
So he decided to cheat with her best friend.to be sincere I really felt for her, she cried to me it pained her seriously
The guy is just heartless

You can give her consolation sex. If I may ask why did you guys break up.

Samson0303:
ON TOP ONE MAN HEAD:
1. NEPA don bring bill
2. Buy bread when u are coming
3. Buy Egg when u are coming
4. Gas don finish
5. Kerosine don finish
6a. Generator no gree start
6b. Buy fuel for generator when u are coming
7. Car don get flat tyre, e no gree start
8. School fees don show
9. DStv/GOtv etc don stop to dey show
10. Dem come ask for vigilante money
11. Month don end for Lesson teacher
12. Biscuit and Happy Hour nko?
13. Dem go begin report the children to u as u dey enter
14. If u never build, Landlord matter na madding
15. Dem go still shook hand for ur pocket pack d small change join..
16. Tell u d pikin dey run temperature like say u be doctor...
17a. Buy them credit
17b. Buy them data
18. Not excluding Suya, Cat fish etc on some nights
19. Fridge, pressing iron, fan etc. go stop, another headache..
20. Dem still wan go amusement park o on public holidays
21. How much be the salary sef..
I come go hospital for fever, doctor say I get High BP.
How man no go get High BP..
On top all, you must not disappoint in the inner room..
dem go still give you instruction..
*"HONEY HARDER"*
My brothers in the house, let's take it easy......our lives matters.
With or without us, life will continue.
GOD Bless and be with all Men!

Believe it or not I have met men who everything is on top the wife head. Very common around where I stay. Infact I wonder if they were specially selected. They are complete house husbands.

rickpat:
There is that one SPECIAL someone you just can't help but miss... sometimes it's really painful,you realize that the BEST DAYS OF YOUR LIFE WERE THE DAYS YOU SPENT WITH THAT PERSON

The one that got away.