iLegendd: I was reading a post online, I think it's Linda Ikeji's blog and in the comment section, someone said and I quote, "Where the Devil can’t get to, he sends a woman to do the work."
Ladies, is it true?
The devil uses whatever is your weakness, alcohol, drugs , gambling , women. Because most men think with their third legs, it seems as if women are affiliated with the devil.
Preshieben: Omoh... I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to
Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks, All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.
I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer
The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry
How do I change this mentality? How do I change my mindset about men abeg?
Don't change it. That's pretty much how guys are, it's safer to assume the worse then be pleasantly surprised. Just keep it at a friendship level until you are convinced that the guy wants something serious. You should be able to differentiate a f.u.q. k boy and a serious minded mind.
Nacoss25: My marriage of 10 months is gradually craching. I and my wife some issues 2 weeks ago and ran away from the house to her parents and now the parents are denying seeing her while from my investigation and information gathered she connived with her family to go into hiding.
You must have beaten her up. You have a problem, learn to control your anger. It's always better to walk away, leave her alone to herself let her not hear from you for like 2 days. Then show up ,take your bath change and go out. That is a worse punishment than beating her up.
Llook for a way to get in contact with your wife. WhatsApp,text message, Facebook ,email, anyway you can . You know your wife better, apologize and tell her you will like to talk about how to make your relationship better and how to handle arguements. Go to a public place with a little privacy ,like a joint and talk things over. Do all it takes to make your marriage work.
HenryDion: I believe the secret is working out, eating right, having enough sleep, surrounding yourself with positivity, and loving yourself.
I see guys claim they don't give a damn about hitting the gym, that all they care about is making money.
F&ck it!
Working out wouldn't stop you from making money. Don't use that as an excuse. If anything, the clarity of mind after a workout will give you the confidence.
I'm a testimony.
Take your health very seriously. Work out, eat right, have enough sleep.
Your future self will thank you.
Health is wealth.
You're free to crush tho
PS: NL males who are easily intimidated or prone to envy, you're free to leave your comment
Yes, your face does look younger than 27 but your body looks your age
posty56: single mother , hmmm, your chances are very slip, your body must be worn out, your Private part loose, my dear just focus on raising your child and explore things that makes you happy
People just type rubbish. Mr "Slip" chances.
Be careful ofthe crap you spill. Let me take it that you are ignorant. Probably in your teens.
goodness8: Good evening all. I am a single mother of one though I lost my husband years back and I find it difficult to be in love again. It's almost 2 years I broke up with the guy I was with because he wasn't reciprocating. I am just 38yrs and I would like to have one more kid, mostly need a companion
Keep your legs closed. Pray about it, look good, and have something doing, don't go after people's husband's. God will send you someone who will love you and marry you.
FalseProphet1: If it's as painful as many women claim, why do girls of 16 years or even younger give birth so easily?
Women (especially married ones) just make the pains up so as to attract compassion, care and support, it's not so painful.
This I have seen.
Really, you are ignorant. It is inexcusable in this era. I would have brought your mum into this but no need to say anything. You can do your own research to know if the pain is made up. I pity the unfortunate lady that ends up with you or has ended up with you, probably out of desperation.
Atimjessy: I just signed up on nairaland today so I can just pour out my mind. I have been coming to this site for almost a year now because this is where I get latest and trending news. I live with my brother who cares about me a lot but he has been too strict with me. I FEEL CAGED! Can you imagine I don't have a Facebook account, I can't use WhatsApp, I don't even have a bank account. If someone wants to send me money, I usually use our neighbor's son account. He monitors my calls and contact list. I only use e-mail because he said I will be using it for future registrations. I envy my friends a lot. I'm in my mid-teens. I am just fed up.
Your brother is being protective. This understandable based on the way young girls these days behave. You are still very young. Stop being rebellious. Earn his trust ,let him know by your actions that you are not irresponsible.
Seems like all the people I usually fall in love with are people I can't get..
It's becoming depressing already, smhhhh !
Imagine me falling for Nadia buhari,Jackie apia,cardi B,buharis grand daughter (can't remember her name again), Nickie minaji and so many of them..
But I seems not to have any feeling for the ones I can easily get...
Go and make money, but if cos their love won't be for you but for your money and then you will cry wolf when she leaves you for a richer dude. Why not go for inner beauty they never fades.
mmadu5: How long ago ? I just logged in After 7 years and it brought back memories but the place looks deserted most of my chat buddies have been offline for more than 5 years. I miss life back then
Prechgold1180: Good evening everyone Came across this exact topic on Facebook What is the biggest red flag you have ever spotted at the begging of a new relationship
Would love to get comments concerning this topic
BRB for my own REDFLAG
Control freak, feels very insecure , thinks one is constantly challenging their intelligence.
Nayeon: Hi guys, I posted a thread earlier on when to finally let go in a relationship. Well, I finally did.
However, I think I'm traumatized by everything. I'm really scared of relationships now. I feel drained. I'm scared of men.
My ex was a narcissist and he made me feel he was some trophy I should be grateful to have. I never dated him for money. He never paid any of my bills neither was he responsible for my feeding (not saying he should), I did everything myself. I liked him, and just wanted to be loved back in return....but life has a way of being mean. Because I feel I didn't deserve the way he treated me.
I gave him a sincere advice and apparently he didn't like it so he ghosted me. I feel so angry--- worse still, he never apologized. He just ghosted me...2 years + relationship and all I deserved was ghosting.
Well, I decided to let go this time around, but Its tougher than I thought. I don't know how to look at guys the same way again. I think they're all out there to hurt me.
I know it's all in my head but it's really tough, and no---i don't wish him well.
You did good.stay strong and if he comes back begging don't take him back. If you think it's tough in relationship level it'll be worse when married. Men like that were brought up feeling insecure. They think women should dumb themselves down. Do you want to be in a marriage where you won't be able to express yourself. He thinks your world revolves around him. My dear block him. He is toying with your feelings ,cut all ties with him. Heal before you get into another relationship. Learn from what you just went through and be very careful before accepting another.
Sammydanny: In what will come across as a really heartwarming development, a young Nigerian lady has stunned many people after paying a surprise visit to her boyfriend at his workplace with food and a helping hand.
In a video making rounds on social media, a lady walked into her boyfriend’s car wash business unannounced to offer him lunch and her attention.
The love birds who couldn’t get enough of themselves wore an infectious smile on both their faces as the lady offered to help her man with his work duties. It was indeed an adorable sight to behold.
Jayzx: This is an update about my previous post. And thanks to those that gave me some advice. Its been three days now after I ended everything with her, no call, message or anything from. It is now I realize you guys are telling me the truth. https://www.nairaland.com/7021014/think-made-best-decision
Good. Told you. She will reach out if it doesn't work out with the other guy or if they are having issues.
Keff40: Good afternoon everyone, trust we are all good today. Please, I want your advice on what I'm about sharing with you. I'm a man of 43 yrs, doing personal business. I have 3 children for 3 different women. This is how it happened, I got the first one immediately after secondary school, she put to bed and we went our different ways. 15 years later, I got married , but the marriage did not last 2 years, we separated. I relocated to another state, 5 years later, a Tiv girl got pregnant for me, I didn't want to push her away, so I brought her iinto my house. Immediately she put to bed, my business started to crumble, my car was involved in an accident, it was God that spared my life, I had to sell it as scrap. Things became worse to the extent that to even buy baby food was difficult cos the TV lady was not working. I sold few of my things just to make sure there was food on the table. A Navy friend promised to get a job for me at the Whorf in Lagos. I called her and told her that I want to go to Lagos to confirm the work my Friend promised me, because me and my Navy friend always communicate in her presence. So I left for Lagos, 2 days after I travelled, she parcked all my remaining things in the house and ran away with my baby, only for her to call me last year September that I should please send some money to her. All these happened in January 2020. Now, I just met a single mum of 1, 40 yrs old and she is cool with my past relationships and financial strength. . It's also important to let you know that I'm taking care of my kids . But I have never enjoyed marriage for a whole year before. Please, advice me. Thanks.
You clearly have a problem. With in yourself before jumping into another relationship. Learn to control your urge and stop being lose.
adaperry25: My name is David( not real name), I've been dating this Bayelsa lady for 7 months. She's in final year.I'm from Anambra and working.
I love her and wants to make her my wife. Long story short, we had a family meeting and they said I'll be out of the country by the year-end for studies and greener pastures.
Hell was let loose when I talked about my fiancee. My family disagreed and said I must marry an igbo woman or they're not part of my marriage. I want a peaceful home and also want my family blessings before tying the knot.
All effort to make them see reasons with me fell on deaf ears.
I am thinking of giving her like 500k or more as compensation and cater for anything she may need as she's been pretty wonderful. It hurts ill have to break up with her for peace to reign. I hate my mom's troubles.
I hope I acted right.
Why are Igbos all about money. Why are you giving her 500k . If I were the girl I would know you don't deserve me. If you think you can use money to buy your conscience. I would set the money ablaze in your presence. Rubbish. It's even good, you are clearly a mama's boy. You are doing her a favour. God will provide her a man worthy of her not your likes.
Hollandaise: Well this is my gf , i am not asking for a friend or anyone.. This is a girl that tells me the password of her phone without stress, gone through her Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp and Snapchat.. na me dey tire sef to check , all I do is drop her phone anytime she is asleep because, I no dey see anything like she going out with someone ..
She currently has an accommodation issue here in Abuja, so she went to stay in her friends house. The parents of her friends are oversea but they have a male cousin who stays in one of the rooms in their duplex because job brought him to Abuja and he has been with them for months now pending the time he gets on his feet and gets his own place..
Me and my gf has a misunderstanding last week Saturday , so we did not talk except in the morning, in the afternoon she apologised for her wrongs , which was not something too serious and it wasn't related to infidelity.. although she called to tell me sorry and also sent 2 texts which I forgot to reply cos I was too stressed from work and fell asleep early when I got home.
I woke up around 1am on Sunday morning and realised I did not respond to her messages where she pleaded sorry, I decided to text her up on whatsapp, immediately my text delivered, not up to 2 mins , she replied and the next thing she said was that her friend cousin just left her room, then I asked what is he looking for , although I know he is used to checking up on her anytime she is back from her own work.. then she told me her friend cousin just came to check on her as usual and that she needed someone to talk to but since i wasn't in a good mood with her , she just wanted to gist with someone.. so I said its OK, and we settled the whole misunderstanding..
Later she told me and said she thinks the guy likes her, that he tried to kiss her while she was laying in bed and he sat beside her.. she said the guy moved his lips closer to her and asked her if she knows what he wants to do, and she replied yes that he should not try it.. then she said the guy apologised for trying to kiss her lips and then he left ..
My guts have been having different feelings since that Sunday because she said , she was on a top and just tied towel around her waist when she was laying down and he was beside her.. I tried teasing her to be honest but she said nothing of such happened and that the guy apologised.. she told me not to tell her friend what the guy tried to do , so it won't affect her stay in the house cause it will cause issues.
This is a girl that I have monitored her WhatsApp instagram, and facebook chats for over 6 months and never see her going out or dating someone else.. even she barely text this guy on whatsapp .
[/b]I'm just having mixed feelings tho , Why don't she want me to tell her friend, and could it be they actually kissed and had little romance and I have been wondering why she actually keeps saying she thinks the guy likes her[b] ..
Self Acclaimed alfa males, U can bash as usual, but I just need to hear different opinions
Monitoring spirit. Does she have access to your own phone? You will just have to take her word or outrightly ask her. If you insist on telling the friend then get ready to rent a place for her. You clearly have trust issues.
Brunosamel: Hello everyone, One of my girlfriend manipulated me into having sex with her while she was ovulating and the funniest part is I didn't cum inside her but she ended up getting pregnant and denied it when ever I ask her if she was pregnant and she denied it, if I told her let's go for a pregnancy test she will refuse not until after 5 months getting to six moths she have finally revealed that she is pregnant. We had sex on October last year before this happened.
She once told me she would love to be the mother of my child, but I laugh it off now this has happened, I have already told her I will be doing a paternity test after she has given birth just to confirm that the baby is mine and also I told her she should remove her mind from marriage cuz I'm not going to marry her.
We have ups and down but she doesn't seems to leave me even after breaking up with her she will end up in coming to my shop, I even showcase other women in front of her, she will cry about it but still yet she is still with me, she said she can't love anyone else except me, she adores me and pleases me all the time, she calls me daddy, hubby she worship me even if I treat her like shit and she hardly disobey me. I love her though but not in that way of spending the rest of my life with her.
I will be going for NYSC this month and I'm not planning on coming back, cuz I want to leave everything behind and start a new life, hearing this seems like a set back from my goal, I don't know if I should just go my way and forget if it even happened in the first place or what if I move on and at the end the baby is mine cuz I have already vouch my child will never grow up without a father and at the same time I feel manipulated cuz this could have been avoided but I guess her mind is already made up Note: I'm the only son of my family and my dad is late.
What's your take on this, I have told her I'm not ready to father a child yet and she says she can handle it that I shouldn't bother myself and she won't bother me either.
I need good advice on this
Typical loser, always looks for whom to blame. If you cannot take responsibility of what comes with sex sheath your sword and stop bothering us for advice. Did you ask for advice when you were tatatatataing
Badboibipo: I almost never “toast” girls but the few times I do they never tell me no. The problem is when they do Give me their number I never call them or I just call like two times and start ignoring them. I mean beautiful girls, I just ghost them once I notice they are showing interest which 99% of them do. The only time girls shakara for me is online, but in real life if I say hello and joke a little they always give me their numbers. Now why I don’t call them is something I can’t figure out. Maybe I’m scared of billing or something, who else is like this?
Only you can tell us. But I think you are a tease. You only toast them to remind yourself you still got it and can get a girl's number. But I believe when you are ready to have someone in your life you will go a step further.
alphaNomega: I am posting here because it is used a lot in this section (including Family section) and I'm tempted to blame the poor quality of education in Nigeria. We have the internet today and the people who use this "abomination" every time have access to the right information?
It is double shame when the moderators move the topics to front-page and still including "cousin sister/brother" in the title. Scroll through front-page history to see what I'm talking about. I won't make any screenshots.
Maybe that's what English teachers are telling these kids in school these days. Who knows?
If I happen to be an examiner and my candidate makes this blunder, I will stop the exam immediately and correct them before the exam resumes.
For the "English is not our mother tongue" army, it is better you write everything you want to say in your mother tongue, than speak foul language and call it English.
It irritates the hell out of me. The only words used to qualify cousin is 'distant, first or second ... . It's really embarrassing.
Just4this: I met this girl about 2months ago, we have gone out once(we are not dating yet), and she said she wants us to date and all that acting like someone that is really in love.. She tells me she wants to come to my house, or maybe prepare food for me and bring, to save my time for work....
I notice anytime I ask for Facetime, she always complain of having bad network(even when the network is so strong).She has done it like 4times now. (That action does not match her attitude when we see face to face even when she sends VN, I hear alot of male voices in the background, contrary to what I should expect based on where she told me she is staying and I have concluded that there is something she is not telling me, and my instincts is that she is into something fishy......(you know what I mean).
My Dear Nairalanders I know the best thing is to discard her as soon as possible. But I need your opinion on this.
I am still wondering why an average Nigeria lady looks for who to deceive.
talk to her directly. What do you want us to tell you. We are not mind readers.
iKON11: I'm 31 and my friend is 34 years. Lately we've been having some issues over the above topic. I don't know why but he takes so much pleasure in sleeping with girls he's far older than. Like 18, 19 years old girls (very tender girls).
Anytime I complain about this, it becomes an issue. He even think I'm jealous of him, in fact he told me today to stop been jealous but frankly I feel very embarrassed anytime he brings such girls to our gathering.
We are new in this area but people have already taken notice of this and its even rubbing off on me now.
The funny thing is he doesn't even feel any shame or remorse about this.
Your friend is insecure. He can't woo an older woman because he is not fit enough too, financially or intellectually. He wants someone he can dominate and tell all sorts of rubbish and the girl will swallow hook line and sinker. He may also not be ready to settle down so he decides to go for girls who marriage is the last thing on their mind.
michaelwestern: I'm asking for advice on behalf of a friend
My friend is in a serious relationship with a lady for about 5 months now. From the beginning of the relationship until recently, they had regular communications with each other in form of WhatsApp chats everyday or phone calls when busy. They always replied each other's messages on WhatsApp without exception.
The problem now is that communications has reduced drastically from her end, for example she has not replied a message he sent to her on WhatsApp for one week now, which has never happened before. Also for like 2 weeks now she has not called him, and has not initiate any conversation with him which is very odd
The question now is, should he be worried or is it just the normal way that relationships slow down after a while? He has questioned her about it before, when it was not even this bad and her response was that she was busy. Thank you.
She is not busy, someone else is taking her attention. Never ignore your gut. I think he should give her some space. You will see the relationship will die a natural death. The relationship is still new u You should be all over eachother now.
Romance › Re: I Saw This And Was Shocked. Is It True? by Blunttruth: 10:50pm On Mar 14, 2022
You can drop yours and I will send you a message.
