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meobizy:

Only you have control over that.

Jimthebond:
This is my first time posting on Naira land

So my girlfriend lives in Kano and I’m in Edo state so she have been telling me she wants to come over so I told I’m broke at the moment she said she must go shopping before coming this week , bills on me hmm I said I can only try my best because it’s rough right now, so o sent her 50k to come over so she can get any small thing she needs the next thing she was to call me and tell me she used the money for her grandma and I should still send her tp this got me angry and I think I’m done after this because she is always demanding with high taste with nothing to show for it ... is it wrong to break up with her ? Because I expected her to at least discuss this with me now she’s telling me she can’t come this week anymore but I think I’m done because this girl don’t even know how hard it is to get money and she’s acting like she’s right I’m fed up guys

You are being played.

Osama2478:
Thank you for your contribution. I have only tried to shorten the story as much as possible. As of this moment, she is now with me in Europe. As someone also said above, she was never remorseful about the whole thing in fact, she never saw anything wrong in what she did.

Before I saw the fund transfer between them, I have been working on her traveling plans alongside the kids. When their visas were approved, I was still keeping the whole thing under wrap and was hoping to start telling people until they reach here or closer to their departure, I never knew that my wife had already told that my friend. Only for the guy to reach out to me to show him ways on how to travel and pretending as if he didn't know anything about the visas of my family.

From the way he was talking, he gave himself out until I found out that my wife had to him. It is one of the reasons why I ended my friendship with the guy as I don't consider him as a friend anymore. As for the wife too, I can't afford to close my two eyes while with her again. It is very obvious that I am dealing with a dangerous woman.

For this abroad, I am scared of having any significant investment to her knowledge because I am tired and wary of her. A marriage without trust is as good as dead.

You did well bro. Please take care of your kids ,invest in them. As for your wife she can work and you can support her if she wants to furthee her studies. She has to earn your trust. But someone like me , I can give her a second chance but ,I will always be prepared and have it at the back of my mind that she can disappoint me. The second chance will be because of the kids not necessarily that you trust her 100 percent

Desusi:
This is the mistakes most people make in relationship, money is not everything. Keeping your wife in Nigeria and residing in Europe? Your friend is indirect taking care of her aside from money.what a world! His telling you if he cannot take care of your wife who would? There's much to this. Its either you take your wife with you or allow her to look for another man who can service her regularly. The temptation to cheat on you is great. I observed you're a jealousy fellow as is common to all men.Arise and wake up from your slumber.

Exactly,it's very common where I stay. The husbands are in Europe and come home to just impregnate their wives. Most have a European wives over there.

NewSoul:
Please In the name of God or whatever you serve. You people should stop feeding and aggravating the unruly behavior of these girls/women. What am I saying?

A woman will clearly be at fault and look for your fellow man's trouble by being uncouth and insult him and when the man respond to her in the same coin (non physical) then she starts making a scene of how she has been insulted and the next thing is that you are trying to gather other simps like you to beat up the man or the most annoying one "please just apologise to her" .

Let this rubbish stop and stop this worship of women because they have vaginas that you guys crave and worship so much . ✌️

And to those women that have one time or the other caused the harm of an innocent man because you know your myriad of simps will hearken to you first may you never know peace in life. May your sons be set up and brought down by women too all their lives.

And for those SIMPISH men that speedily come to mob a man or cause him harm because of a clear misdemeanour on her part and raising false alarm and allegation. May those same women you came to their rescue bring you to your ruins. If you think you are at the top may you fall to the bottomless pit at the speed of light! ✌️

That's called loyalty. You support your wife in public and then you can caution her in private. Same thing some women do,. You dare not insult their husband whoever you are be it male or female. As for having the guy beaten up , it's wrong if there was no physical assault .

For the unmarried ones ,it's okay to stand up for your girl,but do it with sense , don't get beaten up by a cultist or even killed , cos I have seen it happen. Your girl of course if she loves you will not even want you involved in any fight for something that could lead to other consequences.

Violence is never the answer

Ayanwukoma:
Please my people is it right to do pos business in front of your house?

Of course it isn't you may get robbed.

Home alone, and sesame Street. I have started streaming sesame Street for my kids. When they are older I will get them home alone

Jennygold111:
How do you see it?

You mean a one night stand? No,sex is not something that should be casual.

TheGistDay:
Actress Annie Idibia has been accused of being an enabler by gay rights activist Bisi Alimi.

Bisi Alimi also says that people should stop feeling sorry for her no matter what difficulties she is going through.

https://thegistday.com/2022/08/12/annie-idibia-is-an-enabler-stop-having-pity-for-her-gay-rights-activist-bisi-alimi/

The two of them have an understanding, so it's none of our business. They probably both have their side pieces. So let everyone mind their business.

Osama2478:
Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

You didn't overreact, there is something going on between them, the way you handle it will make her confess. Meanwhile what is your plan for your wife, are you bringing her to join you? Do you intend to leave her here while you will getting your groove on over there and thinking money will keep her body and soul together.

Lovilla:
My boyfriend rapes me almost everyday i visits him saying that i'm his own...

I dont want to quit this relationship but he is forcing me to.
What do i do pls?

Ask yourself if you see a future in this. Remember the women that have been lost, to domestic violence, and men too who have been killed by wives who could not stand their husbands abuse anymore. Then think of your parents and the children you hope to produce from such a toxic relationship, and the and how it'll affect their life.( Your boyfriend is a product of such) stop thinking with your VJ.

MrBen9:
My 6 years relationship just ended

It's tears not "tires " it we understand you are heartbroken. Time heals everything, just learn from your mistakes. Do you mind sharing what happened?

kelspinall:
good morning guys and gals in the house.

this topic or question has been asked maybe twice or More than but today i want to alsi bring it up..

the gal i dated last and broke up with her on january due to her behaviors and I don't care attitude came back 3 months ago on my dm..

we have been cool for sometime but the issue her is she keeps reminding me that she's getting married,like WTF.
last night she brought it up and i asked her"what should I do then" due to countless reminding..
the other day she told me that am invited to her wedding and I told her straight up that she ain't seeing ma ass there..she became angry and that was the end of the conversation...


here is my question to the ladies:

what's so special in inviting a guy you dated(ex)?

and to the guys:

how did you respond to the request?

i need to learn

It's stupid and inappropriate. I never understood that rubbish. Whether you ended in good terms or not it's a no no. if you are still on talking terms you c6tell the person but not invite the person.

ibinaboonline:
I'm ready to pop the question soon. My question is, how do you'all codedly, abi sharply find out your bebe's finger size in order to get her a ring that fits? I'd ask her but I want it to be a surprise. Men and women of experience, help a newbie out

When she is asleep

alabiexperto2:
I By Name Emmanuel, Am 35yrs, Am Frm Auchi In Edo State. I Am Electrical & Electronic Engineer. I Need A Woman I Call My Wife Urgently. Please Must Living In Auchi, Or Another Side Of Edo State. Here Is My Phone Number: 09060729784. dnt call, just message me. thanks.

Marriage isn't a matter of urgency or else you will make a mistake. Pl5taje your time to select . Also give more information about yourself.

TMTR:
He said people will only know he has money when they see his wife, what does that mean

You can be rich and not flamboyant. Eg Mark Zuckerberg. Does he dress rich?

TMTR:
What kind of simping behavior is this, let me get this straight,so you have money but it’s not showing in your body because you are looking haggard, wretched, malnourished and sickly but your wife will be looking all robust and fine to what you end and you wonder why men die first mostly in marriage

So you will be out there slaving, working and hustling for money but that money you go out everyday to make won’t be seen on your body, your parents that brought you to this world or your siblings but only your wife, mehn some men deserve to die by the firing squad . What kind of foolishness is this

It's nice, but does not necessary mean that the man will look haggard. The poster never said anything about him looking haggard.

TheLordofHost:
She has been staying with me since the beginning of ASUU strike, almost 6 months now and we have been having sex without protection. I don’t even pull out.

I don’t think she is on birth control. I love this girl but I think she is infertile.

Is this normal with some women? Because I don’t want to take the relationship serious anymore

I wish she could see this rubbish so that she knows how foolish she is to be giving a man what she is meant to give her husband . Two dumb people living together.

Twinanna:
My fiance is about to move abroad. We've dated for 4 years and I really love him and I'm also very sure he loves me. I really want him to succeed, but a part of me is really scared of him going. He has promised that after a year he'll come back, but I've heard stories where people tend to go abroad and move on with life... I'm really scared and have been crying a lot lately...I'm 23 and I don't socialize much. He's practically my closest friend. I'm really torn and need advice

Let him put a ring on it, before he goes. If he loves you, and his family accept you then he would not want to lose you. You should tell him that. If that is not done my dear 5ake your mind off him. You are 23 and still young, start socializing, join church groups, go for parties. You are single,if you are married to him you can you wait. This happened to someo6close to me, the guy never came back,he went there for masters and ended up marrying a white for papers and the rest was history. She is married now after years of being alone, the guy came back begging after not being able to graduate and had married a white woman and had a child. His excuse then was that if he marries her his family won't sponsor his masters.
The sister learnt from what happened to her senior sister and told the guy she was dating that if he is leaving without getting married to her he should forget about the relationship. The elder brother who was sponsoring the boyfriend said if he marries he won't sponsor his master's anymore, so the boyfriend chose to marry, and the elder brother broke the relationship between himself and his brother. Today they are married and after 7 years the elder brother realised he was being stupid and decided to sponsor his master's abroad. Presently the wife is in Nigeria with the children while he is studying, making plans to bring them over once he is done.

You better speak up, and stop being stupid in love.

Karen2024:
We have been together for four years now.We've been through thin and thick, ups and downs together.

We love each other.We are faithful to each other.Today, my boyfriend oficially proposed to me.


Our dream of settling together and having kids together is materializing.I'm happy.We are happy.

Congratulations, he who finds a wife has found a good thing.

virginprincess:
Nairaland men are the worst set of men in this country,instead of them to congratulate the lady and move on look at what they are busy saying.........Congratulations dear, God bless your union.

Very embarrassing. My dear men ,there are GOOD girls out there.

Truvelisback:
Prenup.

If you are insecure or unsure of your spouse then you do it. Lots of rich celebrity couples do it. I think Kim and Kanye did. Some others too.

Shascky33:
Good morning Nairalanders.
There's this lady who lives in my street, just two houses away. She's about 38 but single, and am just 26.
I've been observing her for the past 8 months, she's beautiful and a working class but i don't intend to make her feel disrespected after approaching her. Please how should i go about it?

If you don't have a serious intentions, don't bother

Truvelisback:
David Beckham and others didn't do the same, right?

Didn't do what?

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. I have heard Several guys here saying that they would rather marry white ladies than to marry Naija ladies. Now, would u risk marrying a white lady if u are wealthy? No matter what, it is safer to marry ur Naija ladies if u are wealthy than to marry the white ladies over there. If not, people like Ned Nwoko wouldn't have been able to have up to 5 to 6 wives. He would been wrecked by now when one of his wives decided to divorce him.

That's what Pre-nups are for. Prevents wrecking.

AncientGuy:
bad as i came ask,?

Ask her instead,at least you will get the right answer

detectivejones:
I was at last Lagos few weeks ago for a conference and was able to spend some time with old friends. As we went through archives of memories I asked one of my friends present about her geng, they referred to themselves as 'soul sisters' back then in school. She told us with a frown that she had cut ties with them, because anytime they spoke or hung out they openly mocked her of her single status. The question is- Why do women do this?

Because women can be very stupid sometime, viewing marriage as one big achievement. Sometimes it's their husbands that tell them to cut ties with their single friends. Sometimes the single ones just respect themselves and give the married one space.
Same applies for women who are married and yet to conceive, their friends who h6had children sometimes behave funny.

AncientGuy:
Was chatting with a girl whose mother always kept her indoor..

Somehow sha, we chatted to a point i told her, I've Also been involved in relationships before... She was surprised cox she sees me as SU.

She now said well, she is not innocent sha.

What could she mean?

She just gained admin into higher institution...ASUU kept her at home.

It's not rocket science oga. It means she is not a virgin, she has been sexually active so you had to come on Nairaland to ask.

Stephen2324:
Deep down your sugar daddy prays not to have a wayward daughter like you.

Prays , you mean wishes. Unfortunately he will have, that's how life is.

Reader530:
Good day my people. I want to marry a girl. She respects me so much. She is very intelligent and hardworking. She is productive. She has many talents. In fact, during rainy season, she will leave city for her village and go to farm that is where she spens her annual leave. She cooks well, she can plait hair all styles and she can plait her hair herself of all styles. She is God fearing, always from work, church, domestic chores and other things at home that earns her money. She is beautiful but has a curved back. My challenge is curved back, how can I overcome this challenge. Matured advice please.

If you are bothered about her Back despite all the qualities listed oga abeg take a walk, before you hurt her or start cheating when married with a straight backed woman.

Trustedapparel:
the lady have support me with 500k when I have money problem

So she is paying you to betray your wife. Of course she is paying you to arry her, she is desperate. YUL 2.0

Gee64:
PLEASE, I DON'T WANT TO BE INSULTED IN YOUR COMMENTS HERE OR YOU WILL EXPERIENCE WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH NOW.

I'm in my late fifties. Slim but healthy. A widower.

I've not been sexually active for a long period since I lost my darling wife. Of recent though, I've been feeling kinky and I think I need to 'relieve' myself for better cardiac function, like doctors often advised.

Please people with 'bad mouth' should not chastise me here oh. It's my feelings.

I need an educated, beautiful 'runz babe' in Benin City to please come and help me out oh. Not overnight show but 2 minutes rump with double condom whenever I need the 'service' in any guesthouse or at my place would do. I shall pay per 'show'. 3K per 2minutes show on regular basis when I'm in the mood(negotiable though).

Chat with me on WhatsApp if interested: zero seven zero eight four seven nine three zero seven eight. No phone calls yet until we conclude the deal.

07084793078. Ladies beware.