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Family › Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Bollinger(m): 1:37am On Apr 10, 2015*

I don't know if this is a MOD story (made up by moderators to get clicks) or real, but, i will add my two cents. I am blessed with a happy 15 year marriage and i think i know a thing or two about the subject. The first thing that comes to mind from your story is you probably did not court for very long, or, you did and you dismissed the warning signs as per her character because the behavior she is exhibiting cannot just spring from nowhere. You are in it already so there is no turning back. The biggest thing you need to master is communication. Constant communication with your spouse is key to building a solid relationship. Try as much as possible to avoid getting in heated arguements and when they are about to begin, just walk away. I have found that the best time to talk about very important things is at night, late at night when both couples are on the bed in their bedroom. My wife usually wakes me up to engage in conversation especially after a fight and we usually sort it out then and >>>"wink, wink". I usually tell people, "imagine yourself as a sergeant who just got a new private and it is your job to teach, mentor and coach that young private into a strong, competent and dependable soldier. Guess what? your spouse is that young Soldier. You saw potential in her which prompted you to want to live the rest of your life with her. At the same time, she is not perfect. You have to mentor and coach her to be the kind of finished product you want. My wife had potential which was evident when i met her as a 22 year old, but she was not perfect. I had to show her the way i liked things done and also how she could better herself as a person. She quickly picked up on the things i was trying to teach her and she hit the ground running. Now, she is probably the most beautiful woman on the planet both inside and out. It took years to get her to where she is now but it was worth it. Most assume that after everyone says "i do", you just kick back and automatically assume everything will be on auto pilot, but that's a big no no. There is a lot of work involved. Remember she/he is not a mind reader. If you don't talk about things, teach each other, and learn from each other, then how do you get better? Then again, you could be the problem and must be willing learn from her. Good luck.

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Travel › Re: Which Country Do You Wanna Immigrate To, And Why? by Bollinger(m): 6:25pm On Apr 09, 2015

SkinnyDude:
enough of this correction, biko nu.

Travel › Re: Which Country Do You Wanna Immigrate To, And Why? by Bollinger(m): 6:25pm On Apr 09, 2015

SkinnyDude:
enough of this correction, biko nu.

At least someone learnt something new.

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Travel › Re: Which Country Do You Wanna Immigrate To, And Why? by Bollinger(m): 6:23pm On Apr 09, 2015

SkinnyDude:
lol. do you know black africans and north africans sell roasted corn, coconut and pear on the streets of paris.
make i upload one photo

Lol....My point exactly. Nice one though.

Family › Re: Ladies Do You Remember This Doll? by Bollinger(m): 5:37pm On Apr 09, 2015

sweettease:
Chai those days

So this doll dey photogenic

You get mouth...lol.

Celebrities › Re: Funke Akindele Rocks Mini Dress In New Photos by Bollinger(m): 5:36pm On Apr 09, 2015

Lynette2cute:
Hot legs

You need glasses or contact lens or both.

Travel › Re: Photos: 4 Nigerian Students Found Dead In An Apartment In Georgia by Bollinger(m): 5:35pm On Apr 09, 2015

Islie:
So, its only their own apartment.......

Why do I have the feeling that this is not the whole truth

It's possible. Not saying there might not be foul play, but each apartment has access to gas which is restricted to the individual. It is so in case the particular apartment's gas might be shut off for non payment of bills.

Travel › Re: Which Country Do You Wanna Immigrate To, And Why? by Bollinger(m): 5:28pm On Apr 09, 2015

Don't go to France; Too rough, and paris is dirty
Don't go to Italy: Too rude.
Don't go London: Too much like Naija, and the houses suck. Too small. In fact, all houses in Europe suck.
Germany is not bad, but i would not like to live there permanently.
Switzerland is absolutely freaking awesome.
But, the best and absolutely best is the UNITED STATES OF AMERICA. There is a reason they call it the bold, brave and free.

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Family › Re: Are Nigerian Women Truely The Most Unfaithful? Vanguard Article by Bollinger(m): 5:01pm On Apr 09, 2015

Come to the U.S and mingle with the whites and Akata's, and you will understand what an "unfaithful woman" is.

Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 2:42pm On Apr 07, 2015

foxxynik:
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Didn't GEJ ask Nigerians to be Honest and people still took bribe and made his administration a corrupt one? Who did we blame? Ofcoz GEJ!
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Lol.... During GEJ's administration.... Everybody waited for GEJ to manage the country by itself.... And feed everyone with his own hands.... Even all the governors of different states expected GEJ to walk around the streets of each states to observe corruption and amend them!....
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That there is a village in Bauchi that both humans and goats feed from one pond... And that GEJ let does ppl suffered without providing them a single bore-hole... Question is.... Don't they have l.g.a chairman? Why always blaming GEJ? When we knew that we would've been conducting civic responsibilities? Why are we thinking of this now? Yet this man talked about CHANGE! What is the different between CHANGE and TRANSFORMATION?
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Abeg.... We'll fold our hands and wait for this old man to go about the cities and stop corruption!
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Change my deeeeeeeeck!

I am sorry, but it is so hard to comprehend your post.

Celebrities › Re: Nollywood Stars React To Kunle Afolayan Tribal Rants On Twitter by Bollinger(m): 3:16am On Apr 07, 2015

Sodiq3:
Lol. I nah fit Laugh. Igbos don suffer o. Afolayan, This isn't fair enough though.

what the heck does that mean?

Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 4:30pm On Apr 06, 2015

BraniacX:
This sermon would have been refreshing sa..........aaa.........aaaaa......................aaaaaaaay 6months ago
But now, though well intentioned, coming from any quarters I smell and seebig fat hypocrisy first before anything else

What are you talking about? please, you can, if you have the time, go through my post to see if i ever gave support for either candidates. I have been a strong critic of both. I hope you are not one of those "i will say whatever, no matter how ludicrous, just to win an arguement" types.

You are arguing on the premise of politics, which i have no interest in. This "gej is better than gmb" is not my cup of tea. How can anyone have a problem with personal accountability? it boggles the mind.

Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 4:23pm On Apr 06, 2015

Osakah24:
did you also remember this during gej's government or does it only apply to gmb?

This is my problem with most Nigerians; they cherry pick what they want to see. I have to repeat this again. I really don't care who leads Nigeria, be it gej or gmb, as far as i am concerned, they are both tools. But, Nigerians have to pick, which they have. So, moving forward, there needs needs to be a psychological reconstruction from the masses and start doing things the right way. You want corruption to stop yet you give bribes. You want cleanliness, yet you litter. You want amenities, yet you evade tax. It takes everyone to make positive things happen.

I really don't care who leads Nigeria, be it gej or gmb, as far as i am concerned, they are both tools. But, Nigerians have to pick, which they have. So, moving forward, there needs needs to be a psychological reconstruction from the masses and start doing things the right way. You want corruption to stop yet you give bribes. You want cleanliness, yet you litter. You want amenities, yet you evade tax. It takes everyone to make positive things happen

I did not vote for JEG OR BUHARI. I support neither. My support was for a peaceful election, which in itself is a miracle.

Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 4:17pm On Apr 06, 2015

BraniacX:
~~Funny~~, okay not so funny I don't remember APC asking such precise ang specific questions from GEJ's government

I have to say this again. I really don't care who leads Nigeria, be it gej or gmb, as far as i am concerned, they are both tools. But, Nigerians have to pick, which they have. So, moving forward, there needs needs to be a psychological reconstruction from the masses and start doing things the right way. You want corruption to stop yet you give bribes. You want cleanliness, yet you litter. You want amenities, yet you evade tax. It takes everyone to make positive things happen.

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Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 4:08pm On Apr 06, 2015

Osakah24:
No one encourages people to break laws by nature, man is rebellious,any law is as good as as useless if not enforced.dont bring JESUS into this because many countries are doing it and they are getting results,if you are caught traficking drugs in china,ur purnishment is death,why do people still do it?,and is china not waiting for people to co-operate?.you are the one that isnt making sense here.

No one said crime doesn't exist in every country, but your arguement was that law breaking should be seen as a source of revenue. You are delibrately side stepping the issue which is, everyone is responsible for the change that Nigerians so desperately needs.

Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 3:10pm On Apr 06, 2015

hamilton62:
Yes, I see you are right, making Nigeria positive is now everyone's responsibility ehhh?
Whose responsibility was it when change was in the air before now with huge crucifix on GEJ?
The yardstick of measurement is Nigeria-wise accepted, so he should be ready for the type of Nigerians and even worst GEJ experienced... Every Nigeria now is wiser and thanks to GEJ for the opportunity of a taste of real democracy and its dividence.

And your point is?

Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 2:37pm On Apr 06, 2015

Osakah24:
Did you really write this?breaking of law is big business for any country that wants to thrive,moreover if you cant enforce your laws and policies why do you have the police?

Are you serious? By your statement you are encouraging law breaking in order to raise revenue. And one id.io.t liked that post. Anyway, the point of my post is for everyone to have their hand on deck to effect change in Nigeria. A policeman is an individual and part of a whole. He needs to refuse giving and taking bribes. If everyone does that, then we might start seeing change. Even if you make Jesus the president of Nigeria, he will not achieve squat if the people he puts in different positions are corrupt. That is my point.

Politics › Re: Lovely Photos Of The Emir Of Kano And His Family by Bollinger(m): 12:49pm On Apr 06, 2015

If there's one thing hausa women have in abundance, it's grace and beauty.

Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 10:57am On Apr 06, 2015

jusRadical:
Ohhh!!! Now you know. I thought that corruption in Nigeria is all about Jonathan. So you knew these when you were shouting kick gej out!!

Shame on you hypocrite!!!!

I never wanted GEJ nor GMB. I think they are both tools. Plus, GMB is not my president. But nigerians have been forced to choose. That being said, the psychological makeup of the average Nigerian is so phucked up it's unbelieveable. Corruption comes naturally. Change comes from everyone. Have you ever swam against a tide?

Politics › Re: Don't Expect Miracles When I Assume Office, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Bollinger(m): 10:24am On Apr 06, 2015

fitzmayowa:
Them never swear the man in, he don dey back track...Believe politicians at your own peril

You do realize that the burden of success is on his shoulders as well as yours. If he implements a good strategy for cleaning up waste in Nigeria and you dump refuse on the streets, how is he to blame. If he asks that Nigerians be honest, and you offer and take bribe, how is he to blame? Making Nigeria is everyones responsibility.

Education › Re: Harold Ekeh - A Nigerian - Accepted By 8 Ivy League Schools (And 5 Others) by Bollinger(m): 9:06am On Apr 06, 2015

BizBayo:
thats the problem we Africans are having with international media. I remember the case of a man that invented goggle technology to detect cancer cells. With the goggle you would be able to see cells infected with cancer. The name of the man is Samuel Achilefu. Believe me my brother, US took the credit. Nigeria was not mentioned at all. I hope our media in Africa will wake up to these things.

Exactly the point. Why would America not take credit. What environment did Nigerian create to nuture the young man. If i adopt a kid from Togo today and he becomes a successful billionaire tomorrow, do you think i will allow Togo to claim him, or do you think he will remember Togo?

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Jokes Etc › Re: Nigeria Jokes Update With Ofego by Bollinger(m): 8:31am On Apr 06, 2015

Two men appeared before a judge on a battery case. Apparently the complainant had been beaten black and blue by the defendant. On seeing the complainant, the judge was amazed by the extent of his injuries. He asked "how is it possible that a person could inflict this much damage on a person without using a hammer? The complainant said the defendant only used his fists and not a hammer. The judge refused to believe it, claiming the complainant was lying. The scenario went back and forth. "it was a hammer he used". "no, it was his fists". The judge promptly dismissed the case because the complainant couldn't produce evidence of a hammer used in the assault.

Education › Re: Harold Ekeh - A Nigerian - Accepted By 8 Ivy League Schools (And 5 Others) by Bollinger(m): 8:15am On Apr 06, 2015

BizBayo:
at all. You're wrong. He's talking about people's interest. Not ethnic or tribal interest. We hate or like it, the world sees us as NIGERIA.

I disagree. Go read the original article on yahoo. There is not one mention of him being a Nigerian. The world see's him as an American.

Education › Re: Harold Ekeh - A Nigerian - Accepted By 8 Ivy League Schools (And 5 Others) by Bollinger(m): 7:59am On Apr 06, 2015

JonaTheClown:
ok,

Great achievement .

He should be the next Minister of Health!

Buhari Take Note!

You'all do realize, if he was to be asked where Nigeria is on a map, he would not know. Stop claiming people Nigeria did not help nuture.

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Romance › Re: Could This Be An Invitation For Sex??? by Bollinger(m): 8:55pm On Apr 05, 2015

redcliff:
Lol. Once a dolapo always an adedolapo

Lol. .. .you can say that again.

Family › Re: Letter To Nigerian Parents by Bollinger(m): 6:36pm On Apr 05, 2015

raayah:
If you also have a car in Nigeria, you pay insurance. That one is everywhere.
Yes, Nigeria has strong family unit. What does it do for us?.
We have so much but do so little.

Take for instance, we probably have the best soil in the world. We expand on this, do mechanized farming and our kids( 16 and above) start working and produce export for the country.

America and china depend so much on exportation. Imagine if we capitalize on our minerals and oil. Send kids to trade school, teach them how to mine, navigate oil fields, drive tractors$ special vehicles. Pay them during training to encourage them. University isnt for everybody.

We will become a world player. How can life begin at 30?. If having a family is your main priority in life, go for it.

I did not say it was perfect. There are some things we take for granted. You need to live on both perspectives to understand my point. Africans live longer, have better health long term, appreciate family, are more matured over all. In the west you'll see a 30 year old acting like a 12 year old, just because he never mature properly nor had the proper guidance.

Family › Re: Letter To Nigerian Parents by Bollinger(m): 5:55pm On Apr 05, 2015

jazzy4naija:
LETTER TO NIGERIAN PARENTS (Please read to the end)

Friends,

"30 is the new 18", which seems to be the new age for testing out the
world in Nigeria now. That seems to be an unspoken but widely accepted
mindset among the last 2 generations of parents in Nigeria .

At age 18 years, a typical young adult in the UK leaves the clutches
of his/her parents for the University, chances are, that's the last
time those parents will ever play "landlord" to their son or daughter
except of course the occasional home visits during the academic year.

At 21 years and above or below, the now fully grown and independent
minded adult graduates from University, searches for employment, gets
a job and shares a flat with other young people on a journey into
becoming fully fledged adults.

You had me until the above began. Like you i have experienced the world, and what i have concluded is children in the west grow up too soon and too early. You have to understand that the main reason they leave home is not really about independence but about economy. America's economy for instance is built on the auto industry, the insurance industry and the military. Almost everyone soon as they are 18 will have a car. What comes next is insurance. You have to buy insurance to drive, least you get into trouble. So, think about it, as an economist, what would you rather have, have people buying cars and insurance at 18 or 30? And for those who don't understand; you pay for insurance for as long as you own a car, which is basically, forever. That's a lot of money for the country. So, the society is engineered in such a way that forces children out as early as possible, not for their own good, but for the good of the economy. There are things we take for granted, e.g family. Family does not mean a lot in the western world, which is one advantage we have over them. Countries like America know this which is why medicare is so important. It exist to take care of old people who have worked their entire lives. Children hardly take care of their folks over here. Another problem moving out so early is that our brains aren't completely matured. You may think so, but it's not. Come and see the dumb stuff 18 year olds do here and you will be amazed. Why do you thing we are having so many single parents now? so much freedom not enough restraint and accountability. I like the fact that 30 is the new 18, because believe it or not you are as old as you think. I am in my early "wink" but people think i am mid/late 20's. Same with my wife. For African's, life does not start until our late 20's and early 30's and i like it that way.

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Celebrities › Re: Tonto Dikeh Entertains Fans With A Flash Of Her B00bs On Instagram by Bollinger(m): 4:52pm On Apr 05, 2015

rokiatu:
And this is a topic?

You practically did same in your profile pic. Seek attention i mean.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Sister Wants To Waste 6months Of My Years In The US by Bollinger(m): 10:21am On Apr 05, 2015

Drabeey:
She said she would help me travel to the States but she would keep me indoors in her house for 6 months pending when my papers allowing me to move around the US would be ready.

I'm already receiving 75,000 naira per month here in Nigeria and still single.

Please is there any advise from the house?

Bro's don't do it. Never ever let your your visa expire while in the U.S. What you've done is close any chance of gaining entry or residency unless you are lucky to marry into it. People who live in the states without papers astound me. You are pretty much a prisoner. But, i don't understand; if she is willing to invite you and she is your sister, then why doesnt' she just file for you. It is so much easier that way. Unless of course she is living there illegally as well. I wish you luck though.

Phones › Re: Do You Still Remember This (picture) by Bollinger(m): 10:08am On Apr 05, 2015

playcharles:
The average age on nairaland is 25yrs, and 2002/2003 was 13yrs ago, minus 13yrs from 25 you get 12. I wonder were some liars above get 50k to buy sim and phone.

And that is exactly why a lot of you don't know. You all were too young to remember or own one.

Phones › Re: Do You Still Remember This (picture) by Bollinger(m): 9:18am On Apr 05, 2015

Akasha:
A sim was never even sold 4 60k, i remember a day after d 9/11 incident my dad came home with a sim and fone 4 my mum, d sim was 35k,and mtn came out in dat 2001,not 1999

Bro's it was. It was not sold directly by MTN, but retailers capitalized on the fact that it was a new thing and we did not know better. It only lasted a while, but it was sold for that price.

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