₦airaland Forum

Tamarapetty:
Cute!

There is nothing cute about it. This is attention seeking that’s not worth anybody’s time. I don’t know what they are trying to achieve - “A reality show?” Else they should keep their marital life off public platform. When issues start rocking their marriage, the next thing you hear is everybody should face front and respect their privacy.

This Na yeye and yeye dey smell!

thebosstrevor:
Misorgyny is common everywhere and not prone to Africans,what about the indians,pakistans

i hate it when i hear leave your African mentality at home,it is not right.it shows inferiority complex.

there are many good African men here in Africa,taking care of their family.Our women are problematic,i have seen this with friends sisters and every women i encounter,the mentality of entitlement is just alarming.we blame the men for all problems forgetting that our mum train the men,what about the women,are they saint big No,they are the cause of most domentic violence,that is why many Nigerian men will prefer foreigners than Nigerian women

This is a problem also in the African-american community.Many black men prefer marrying the other race than a black women,i think,our women also need to check themselves.

You have spoken well Brother. I met an Asian colleague who told me she is married to an African. She is from Thailand. This lady commutes by train for over an hour, comes back home and still cook for the husband. She complained with a smile,laughed said she is a proper wife. She was complaining about commuting to work and not the husband. She had to be with the husband because he is schooling and that automatically means she is footing the bills at home. Apparently, it seems she enjoys being a wife and that’s the Asian culture. Also, the Indians are known for this. My other Indian colleague said she wants to learn Salsa but the husband is not interested so she cannot proceed unless the husband gives her permission.

Back to our African sisters - very quick to copy bad things. The west have not culture so you can permit them to act wayward. However, when someone ditches their culture and copy people without culture, is that person not mad! This is what our African women are doing now. There is a total break down of family values in America and this is as a result of the State determining what happens in the family. Other communities in America are thriving. The Chinese are thriving, the Indians are thriving, same with the Pakistanis, because they maintain their customs and culture. Nigerians and Africans are busy trying to throw away their identity and seek commendation from the white man.

Pataricatering:
it is not inferiority complex to demand a woman be submissive to You but it is inferiority complex when she says you should leave the African misogyny behind! Na so !

You are very very stupid. Let me give you some history lessons. Right up to 30s, white women were not allowed to work. They were house wives or even trophy wives. The workplace in the West was predominantly men. Later, during the civil right match and in order not to create too many distortions and to water down the black movement, congress signed the equal right bill to allow reduce wage disparity between men and women in the workplace. The next thing white women came up again with domestic violence issues. Now it is sexual harassment. The question is why is the white woman fighting their men - they lack culture or custom. They do not understand their role as women. They are confused.

If you like continue to be influenced by people without culture, identity or custom and lose your own identity. It is not a demand for a woman to respect the husband, it is an African tradition and even found in the Bible, that you people revered so much.

If you look at every successful home or marriage, you would see where both parties understood their role. There was no power struggle. The woman understands her husband, respects the husband and in turn the man shows love to the wife, provides for the family and protect the family. On the other hand, look at broken homes, most of the time, the women are the instigators. They want to be the man in the home. They disrespect their husband. They don’t know their role in their home. Ironically, these women are incapable of acting the same way at the workplace. It’s quite unfortunate that many african women want to be equals with their husband. You cannot have two captains in a ship. You are definitely going to have a shipwreck.

thebosstrevor:
if you want to live long as a man in the west never marry another hustler called Nigerian women.

Nigerian women abroad can never be trusted basically even Nigerian women back home,our value system basically has changed with time

Wives betraying husband once abroad.

After they complain Nigerian men mentality or African men mentality of having a family.anything African is inferior to the so called Nigerian women abroad.

i never see Asians behaving like that,they come with the sense of family,husband and wife,submissive wife and supporting husband,the family life is always intact.

African women are quick to say African men mentality because of STATE WELFARE,forgetting that a child without a father will become burden to the society.

you will hear them say tell our Nigerian men, leave your African men mentality in Africa before coming abroad.very sad in my opinion.it shows inferiority complex.

What about the women,they bring their African mentality to america and cause havoc because they think the law will support them.what a betrayal.

In my opinion,Nigerian women are just for sex not marriage,i have researched why our men die young and are hypertensive and i came to the conclusion our women are the cause.

AVOID NIGERIAN WOMEN WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH

THEY ARE DESTINY DESTROYERS

PLS FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER AFRICAN TO MARRY FROM,THEY KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF US ESPECIALLY THE HARD-WORKING NIGERIAN MEN.

Are you minding them! The inferiority complex is huge. How can a dog behave like a cat. Why should an African man behave like a western man. Same goes for African women. Even western men are running away from western women because feminism has destroyed the family system. This is what our women are copying. They ignore the strong family values we have in Africa and start copying stupidity. The Asians or even the Indians will never succumb to such stupidity it is only black people.

It’s not just Nigerian women. African women in general. I watched on YouTube where a Zimbabwean man did a live YouTube video where he drank poison because his wife destroyed his life. The man died. Later some Zimbabweans were saying he used to beat the wife. A wife he took to London at age 16 accused him of domestic violence and injuries she inflicted on herself. Karma is watching and waiting for all you wicked African women

Stevenson1:
Many Nigerian men can attestify to this. The system is not favourable to men that side. it's unfair man!!! I'm not supporting Domestic violence or Murder but men deserves attention and equal judgement in Western Countries too. like WTF... just read yesterday how court awarded a man 10million dollars for imprisoning him on false rape charges for 25 years as he was later found innocent and released. My question now is, what about the lady who claimed the man raped her, where is she now? wasted 25years out of a man's life. some women are lovely but when you see the wicked ones, please, please and please no hard man on the case just run for your life.

The problem actually is the men. The men refuse to organize and ensure fairness. There is a silent gender war going on in the West. Feminist are slowing suppressing men and they would succeed because Western men are weak.

mistacoco:
Dear Narialanders.

I and my girlfriend had a hitup conversation this afternoon that we even quarrel after then.

This is the issue, she read medlab in school and she is planning to go for her internship by Gods grace soon. I told her that after our wedding I will be giving her five million to setup a LAB and after 8 months she can start contribute for the upkeep of the family and when we start having kids.
My Dear brethren in Christ, do you know her reply? She said NO, she can only provide when the husband exhaust his money on the family. I then asked her whats the point opening a bizness if you cant make a joint contribution with your husband at the end of the month for the upkeep of the family.
She said said her work is a HELPER she can only help her husband when the husbands own finishes. My Dear I was shock.

She Even said I will be giving her money for her hair, cloth e.t.cs, when the bizness is still functioning fine. My reply was that what then will you be using your money to do? She said I don't have business with her money, I should face my responsibilities as the man, she can only assist me when I don't Av cash.. I told her is better you even be a house wife than acting in such manner.

Her Female friend was siding her oo. .
What's you take on this.

.

Dump her fast. You can’t open a business for someone and the person tells you to face front and not show interest in the business regardless of whether such person is your spouse or not. It’s better to give that money to charity

The pastor’s message was boring

The ones who continue to embarrass our country. However, when they make it, they rush to instagram to flaunt riches obtained illegally.

Those are not police officers. They are impostors. Police officers don’t start beating you before interrogation. They did that to intimidate you. Also, they used a Siena Van. That should be a red flag for you. Police don’t use Siena vans.

The same publicity she craved for is actually ruining her.

oyetunder:
Okada...one of the deadly jobs which are traceable to when our economy was crucified by those with limitless greed. Instead of us to work towards eradicating such leprosy in our society, we have built an empire around it. Okada unions are busy producing rich union chairmen...they are tools in the hands of politicians...and another channel for our police officers to make daily money. Even the government now see it as another source of internal revenue.

Well said. It seems Okada is now legit

I wonder what she intend to achieve from this. Many young Nigerians have contemplated suicide. The country is tough. Many young Nigerians are depressed, there is widespread unemployment in the country.

He is going to get sacked plus orderly room

Nofav0rs:
I was there but you didn't see me posting pictures

That’s because you are not insecure. Only insecure, attention freaks do such

papascode:
Bros alot of contract staff will show gratification for any contacts for a federal job. If I have one I will give in all my best to my boss and be punctual. If you have the contact assist and God will bless you. I am not keen on the abroad wahala else I would have left the country after my uni. But you see i got this job 5 days to my passing out of the NYSC because I did subsidized programmes to boost my cv like PMP NIM and was the best teacher and belonged to the MDG programme by planting 500 trees to fight climate change in my state of service back then, all these with certificates fascinated my employer. And now i have a PGD and masters respectively from the same Fed university. I meet my targets in my place of work but lately we have received warning letters to meet up a new target as the months ends your target increases. See I feel so bad about my country. I love naija because of the happy people you find around but hey we have uncreative leaders. I traveled from benin republic to Ghana for business outlook I almost cried as there was no pothhole from.Benin to Ghana. I repeat no pothhole. So if you have a federal job for me I no mind.

From your little write up, I can see that you are a focus and disciplined person. Chief, you are a 35 years old man and no longer a child. If you truly want a Federal Job, walk up to the ministry and seek an appointment. It may sound ridiculous, but that’s what you want. You need to know how to get what you want. You are qualified than the civil servants occupying the spaces in Abuja. I will give you an example - you see independent contractors loitering transcorp hotel in Abuja targeting politicians for contracts. You can do that.

Also, you might consider joining a political party and demonstrate your skills. If your party wins, you can land a job. You may also consider volunteering for a Federal Job position so you know people and see how to get in.

If you truly want a Federal Job - go for it. Don’t wish for it. It won’t come. You have to go get it. You are an adult and not a child.

papascode:
Believe me if I have a federal job I won't look at any foreign country. I would rather visit for business to bring to Nigeria and that will be china or japan i have applied on every platform I have also been dubed by fake job agents .

Ok like I have said in my previous comment - Job satisfaction is your main concern. Why don’t you work towards getting a Federal Job. It’s possible if that’s what you want rather than wishing it happen. If a Federal Job would make you happy than going abroad - go and get a Federal Job.

The OP needs to evaluate his life decisions. In my own opinion, I think he is dissatisfied with the nature of his employment, that is being a contract staff and would prefer a clear career pathway where he can grow. If this is the way he feels. All he needs is to get another job. He has the skills, experience and also the academic qualification. He is now a Master Degree Holder.

I know a lot of people in Nigeria always believe that living outside the shores of Nigeria is a quick pathway to riches. That’s a fallacy. The first question any individual should ask themselves is what does success mean to them? Success is relative for all individuals.

The OP’s savings of N9M is approximately $CAD31,000 and not sufficient for tuition fees in a top 10 school in Canada for a Master’s degree that I feel is irrelevant for him. He has not taken into consideration, Visa processing fee, flight ticket, accommodation fees per month, feeding and commuting fees. Even if he works, the number of hours is restricted and the amount he gets to make only cover accommodation plus living expense. A better option is the PR route if he is interested in Canada. However, if he has the notion of “Money Dey Abroad” or “Once I land, I don arrive” - then he is making a ridiculous mistake, because he will start his life afresh from the beginning. He would find out that his N9M is small money in Canada. He would have to adapt to Change and the nitty-gritty of living in a western world.

If the OP is considering the business route. He must be prepared for the challenges of doing business in Nigeria. I think the mistake we make is to look at the final outcome of people and not the process of them getting to that outcome. We see our friends who are now successful in a particular business, we jump straight into it and get trapped and caught up. Starting a business is not having money in the Bank and then using that funds to start any business. In fact, you do not need money to start a business. If you are an entrepreneur, all you need is your passion, drive and never give up attitude to implement your idea and not money. I hope the OP notes this, else he would be down by N9M and no job to fall back on especially in Nigeria where the conditions are already designed to make you fail in Business quick.

The OP must assess his Entrepreneurial skills and where he has none, he must work on attaining such skills because not everybody can successfully run a business in Nigeria or even in any part of the world. In other words, not everybody should be a Businessman. I know it’s a term used loosely in Nigeria. We all want to own our own business and hammer. You can also live a decent life as an employee in Nigeria. However this is also dependent on your decision and definition of the word “Success”.

If you are considering Canada, think properly again. Nobody in Canada will tell you the actual truth. Even Refugees in Canada living in camps and surviving on Government stipends will tell you their condition is better. Also Nigerian-Canadian who are PRs will not actually own up to you with the truth. However, what I know about Canada is that you cannot escape BILLS and TAXES. The moment you step your feet on Canadian soil, the bills starts running even before you earn a dime. I know Bankers who are working in Walmarts and Best Buy in Canada, but if you speak to them, they would tell you that their present life is better than that in Nigeria. Please be informed that I am not saying they are doing badly, but to bring out points on facing life decisions. However, because we have this “Bandwagon Effect” or “Herding” where we always follow what is trending without thinking, there is now a huge influx of professionals going to Canada. There is nothing wrong with that if there is a concrete plan. Nothwithstanding, it is your decision to make, nobody would live your life for you, regardless of location or status.

In any of the decision the OP makes, he must consider the downside and be prepared for them else he would remain unhappy.

chrischukszy01:
Oga there is no way u can save up to #9 million as a contract staff even if you have been in the bank for the past 11 yes, now as a contract staff FBN pays 80k plus, Access bank, pays about 60k plus,UBA 70 k plus and the host of others, so how did you manage to come with such an amount as a contract staff, do want to tell me you don't do other expenditure as a human even if na only garri u dey soak. So 9 mill I didnt buy that. U for say like 900k,except you are into fruad perid !

Well this should not be any of your concern or business. The man claims he has N9M in savings. Do you have any other plans rather than offer him some advice?

soledayo:
Hi guy...i rrlocated to Canada recently. My advise come to Canada and after few months u will be settled. You reap d rewards of ur efforts easily. Output will justify input....but it may take few months here o. Won't say anything about my Naija

Are you sure? Don’t say thing you cannot validate.

Seems the Super Eagles is getting so much support worldwide. It has to be maximize and I hope they do well at the tournament.

@OP I think you made the first mistake to come here seeking advice. I have read all the comments and I’m not surprise with the comments here. I would drop some things here, but I don’t know if it would help you.

- Your N9m is relatively not much. However, if you are resilient you can convert that money to an empire.

- You already have a Masters, why go for another Masters again in Canada. If you are looking at education as a means to immigrate, please note there are other ways to immigrate to Canada apart from Education. What many people don’t tell you is the pains they go through during schooling. You don’t need to go through that stress to immigrate since you have a masters and why would an Employer employ an individual with 2 Masters. He seems confused academically or too expensive as a staff. The average highest degree in Canada is Bachelors and Canada is big on experience rather than academics. Canada is also big on soft skills than technical skills. If you want to immigrate, please note that you have to be prepared. You cannot escape Bills as it’s being done in Nigeria. Also, you cannot get rich quick or get rich at all, but you may afford the basic things of life which is treasured as Gold in Nigeria. You cannot oppress anyone abroad materially because the average Jones on the street is just like you and basically has everything you have. The only people you can impress is Nigerians in Nigeria or illegal immigrants. Nobody send you for abroad. So that Nigerian mentality of getting rich is useless.

- On the other hand, the business environs in Nigeria is tough and comes with challenges. I cannot tell you to go and do business because only you would face the challenge.

First, You need to sit down and evaluate your life. You seem dissatisfied. It’s normal. Do you want to switch job. If you get a job as a permanent staff, would you be more happy? If that’s the case, then start looking for a job. If you claim you don’t have time, then you don’t want another job.

Also, another question you should be asking yourself - why do you want to start a business? Do you have the entrepreneurial skills? Do you have the ability to be resilient when there are challenges? Are you a good sales man? Do you have people skills and can you manage people and motive them positively? Do you hate working for others? If these are your question, then start your business. If you cannot answer these questions, your N9m will go down the drain and put you under pressure.

Finally if you are considering the immigration route - why do you want to immigrate? Do you want to switch career or environment? Are you a flexible person that can adapt? Are you willingly to change your opinion? Can you integrate properly? There is no money to pick on the streets in the western world? You actually work thoroughly for every hour and on the hour? The Canada you want to run to still operates the Contract worker stuff. In fact it’s a normal practice, but as a contractor, you may earn more or less depending on your skill set, experience and the need for your skill. So you maybe running away from being a contract staff only to end up being another contract staff. It’s just a Nigerian perception crap and poor labour law that makes contract staff look like stench.

I have written more than I initially prepare to.

greggng:
Thank you for coming to seek advice here. You would 've made the greatest mistake of your life if you had started that pure water business. My former landlord lived all his life abroad. Due to pressure from family, he decided to come home to stay and invest infact he ran away after spending so much on diesel for powering his pure water business. He eventually sold that portion and escape back to Europe. There is no conducive business environment here. Going to Canada is the best option. But you 've to first get to USA. And find a way to cross over to Canada from new York. My friend did that and I 've details on how he made it. However you 've to declare yourself to the authorities at the Canadian border . There after necessary documentation will be made, lawyer assigned to you and temporary stay of two years pending when your PR will be ready. During this period you will be taking care of by gov't You will 've a job and you will be doing 100 percent better than a rich man here. . That way 70percent percent of your 9million will be in a savings account just for you. The only difficult part of this trip is getting to USA from naija. I mean getting visa

If you try this be rest assured you would regret your entire life even in your death, you would still be regretting

Jerrosky1986:
sell that boring club Chelsea

Just sell the club. That’s what they want him to do. I don’t understand the hostility. The man went to Israel to obtain the citizenship to circumvent the UK-Russian diplomatic war, but it still seems they are not convinced.

Sell and move on

limeta:
Who do not remember this
I do

It was a well debated case at that time. Anyone who pretends to forget either is biased or just pretentious.

janellemonae:
It's not hard

1) go to the website, open an online application. You can google or get the link through VFS.
2) if it's a family application, indicate that, so all the family files are opened under your application.
3) fill the forms and upload.

4) scan all the supporting documents and upload. There are different tabs showing where to submit what .eg. In passport, scan every used page of your old and new passports. In proof of financial info, put all ur financial documents. Anything dt has no tab category, put in client info.

5) Be as detailed as possible with your documents and have a strong tie to Nigeria. If u don't have good employment/business, dont bother applying for a visit visa.

6) Don't implicate urself by lying. Big lies like past visa denials or even little lies, like if u have N20 in ur account (or as emoluments) don't say ur spending N20 for a holiday. Doesn't make sense. Ur either lying or running away wt all ur money. Embassies hate liars.

7) There's a Canada visit visa page on nairaland. I went through most of the pages. Invaluable information, especially with arrangement and summary pages. Presentation matters.

8 )Don't lie.

Apparently, you may have relatives in Canada plus strong ties to Nigeria. Even if you don’t have strong ties to Nigeria, but have relatives in Canada, your visa application will be approved. If you don’t have family in Canada, there is a huge possibility they won’t grant you visa.

As a permanent resident in Canada, the visa consulate is oblige to give concrete reason to deny anyone they are sponsoring or inviting. There is also the possibility that the PR can sue them for visa denial.

So when giving your advice, I guess you have to be clear about it. Canadian visit visa just got even harder at the moment due to the incessant behavior of Nigerians.

That New York route has been in existence for so many years. A lot of Nigerians have used that route to enter Canada and integrate quietly. Canada needs people. They need refugees, but they want it controlled because there is a quota system for all programs and it helps them with planning decisions. Canada also want aliens for odd jobs because not everyone would do such jobs. However, when you have people rushing at your borders non-stop each day, you have to respond and that’s what they just did. Per day it is estimated that over 90 Nigerians enter Canada via the New York route and there have been reported cases of fighting in Refugee camps caused by Nigerians. Also the refugees stories and applications of Nigerians seem very similar and such indicates a “Human Trafficking Ring” that exist in Canada and has ties to Nigeria.

So a few bad Nigerians as usual have messed it up for the rest.

Magu is it that you don’t read the report from FIU, a unit within your Organisation? Banks has been reporting on corrupt persons since the implementation of FAFT 40 recommendations.

How can an EFCC Chairman make this kind of statement!

Their demands are ridiculous. If you want to earn like doctors, go to medical school and be a doctor. In fact, their jobs may become non existence in the future. Their jobs can be conducted effectively by Robots/Artificial intelligence.

You can imagine a health worker who went to school to study pharmacy. Rather than look for industries to make drugs, he/she dispenses drugs in a hospital and now wants to earn like a doctor. Na wa oh. Robots can dispense drugs!

Man you are old. You should be receiving pension and not running a country

Corruption is not the main problem of Nigeria. Archaic leaders, tribalism and nepotism are the main problems of Nigeria.

Unfortunately, he is right