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How are they sure these are internet fraudsters? I'm now worried staying in Nigerian hotels. This is bad news for the Nigerian hospitality industry

ONE WORD - FAMILY

If a man gets to do this he would be labeled as useless and insane. I think we give women enough room to exhibit madness and even give them a pass.

Laughs, no

pepperdemzombie:
Hian! Mrs Kponkpongirigiri!
Everything about her connotes shame. She has taken a lot of wrong steps just to spite Churchill, but she's always on the receiving end.
Fake award, fake boyfriend, fake smiles!
See how the idiot quickly took a month old boyfriend to her son's school but denying Churchill access to the boy! I just pity boy about the kind of life he is being exposed to, how many DADDIES will he know?
She's only day dreaming to think that guy will leave single Warri women to marry her!
NO MAN in his correct senses can settle down with Tonto and Toke Makinwa.

She may mess that boy's life. She needs therapy.

chatinent:
Reason with am na.


By the way, Nigerian ladies na minus for me.

I remember when these ladies came na when we begin dey hear frictions for the twins.

After the whole years of marriage...no report of adultery or anything, she'll still leave you when Wizkid shows interest.


Great respect to the better girls out there!


A Nigerian lady will love you and still marry who is ready.


A Nigerian lady will love you and go meet sb who impresses her.

A Nigerian lady will love you and cheat on you and still play the victim card: “you see what you made me do.”


Drops pen.

I'd be honest. In marriage, Nigerian women ain't that bad. Trust me on this. You're only saying this because you live in Nigeria.

Feminism and no fault divorce is the reason for high divorce rates in marriages. I don't know what their issues were but I can solemn confirm that the wife won't find be alone in the US easy especially with 3 kids.

Nigerian women are not feminists. They are misandrists. Please note the difference

Lastmankc:
Southerners are so foolish.Look at the north defending their own.

It is not the North. It is Kyari's friends masquerading as a Northern group.

You failed to set boundaries. You should have predetermined the number of days he would stay.

2 years. Fake story

Kondomatic:
This shouldn't be a problem if not for the fact that some police work for the highest bidder.


The right thing to do is to carry out an investigation. Invite the people that received the alert and trace the source through their banks.

It's a simple something.

This is the same thing Hushpuppi did. Influential zealots using the police as a weapon to oppress the less privileged.

What I have noticed from Suleiman and I know himself or his cronies will read this. He is such an insecure man. Always guarding his already tarnished reputation. He wants to continue to control his gullible followers. However, he should note that he has no monopoly to power and should be open to criticism when he makes audacious miracles.

Aparthied:
Forgive those who trespasses against us... Evil genius! The man that truncated Nigeria democracy. He has mouth to talk... Chai! If Abacha has opportunity too he will talk.....

God punish all the past and present leaders of this country. In fact thunder will fire all of you.

On the other hand, I think he had a point. There was Sani Abacha, an experience coup plotter, who has participated in almost all the coup in Nigeria. Would there have been a coup? Probably, but IBB should have dissociated himself from the process. It was not his cross to carry. Afterwards, there was an actual coup after he truncated the election. Hence, his excuses made no sense regardless of the picture he intends to paint.

PSG can have him. Messi is leaving Barcelona

juniorstar:
Something doesnt add up. There is no smoke without fire...how would hush all the way from the US suddenly mention a highly decorated supercop in a scam deal gone wrong if he isn't actually guilty there are hundreds of other top police officers but he choose to mention this particular one.

Hushpuppi did not mention Abba Kyari. The FBI's investigation showed both individuals conspired and acted together to further perpetrate the fraudulent crime.

As per the court documents, Kyari assisted Hushpuppi when it appeared the fraud was about to go bust. Telephone conversations, whatsapp messages and financial transactions showed Kyari and Hushpuppi were in cohort together.

Clearly, it shows Abba Kyari isn't an intelligent man or he thinks Nigerians are not intelligent people. The way he retracts his narratives and change them rapidly indicates his culpability and further prove he has a case to answer.

Mr. Kyari initially informed the world he acted as a middle man to facilitate and distribute native clothing to Abbas a.k.a Hushpuppi. He also told the world he acted as an enforcer and mediator in arresting Hushpuppi's criminal associate. Presently, Abba Kyari is now a debt collector acting on behalf of Hushpuppi.

Regardless of how Mr. Kyari, a Deputy Commissioner of Police, revised, edit and represent his stories, there is an underlying connection that exists between himself and Hushpuppi. Apparently, it appears he cannot deny not have any financial relationship with the confessed fraudster. In fact, Mr. Kyari, in his latest public confession, admitted acting as an enforcer in arresting a co-conspirator of Hushpuppi because of fraud money. Hence, he is not denying the main context, associating with perceived or alleged criminals.

The irony of this drama series is Abba Kyari trying to convince Nigerians he acted right by being an enforcer, mediator, facilitator, and debt collector to a confessed criminal. It is also worrisome that Mr. Kyari is a senior police officer and is blindsided or unaware that as a policeman he should not associate with criminals. Whatever side of the fence you sit, Mr. Abba Kyari still has a case to answer and as he unleashes and rehearsed his editorial publication and tales, he must first remember his duty and core function is to apprehend or assist to catch criminals and not associate, assist or befriend them.

Someone from the EFCC reached out to him. Find out who it was and sanction the individual.

Our public offices including law enforcement don't understand ethics and code of behavior.

Another thread to demonize men as usual

Lollittaa:
[color=cyan]I guess you didn't read what he wrote. If you did, you'd realise he's a very toxic person himself. It takes 2 people to make a relationship work. OK, your wife is misbehaving but he himself has a PhD in keeping malice, in "do me I do you". I have a sibling like this man, and God knows, I pity his future wife everytime I realise he's going to get married.[/color]

A woman who doesn't submit to the authority of her husband is not a wife.

OP - don't allow anybody shame you or your decision. A woman must be submissive especially to a man who provides. If she isn't, then she is not a wife.

Klass99:
So, after 25 pages of this thread I am mostly curious about two things;

1. What constitutes disrespect to or for you men? You can share with real life examples of times you have felt disrespected by your woman.

2. Apart from your kids, what would make you remain in a marriage with your wife? It seems a lot of couples (both male & female) opt to remain in marriages for the sake of the kids.

If you don't mind sharing as a man please share, I want to read and learn. Even though I have a reasonably good idea about question one in particular, a male perspective won't hurt.

CC:

IT Bomb
Djon7
Revensckar
Richy4
Gerrard59
Sanchez01

It's considered disrespectful to shout at your husband. It is disrespectful to talk back at your husband or challenge the authority of your husband. Of course you should know it is disrespectful to insult your husband.

If you are aggrieved by your husband's actions or decisions, speak to a man he respects and express yourself or approach your husband in humility and calmness and express yourself or tell him why you are unhappy.

Hope this is enough for you

Jman06:
I used to be an advocate of girl child education and empowerment, but with what I'm reading here, I am beginning to align with those that believe that it is useless to educate a female nor offer them employment.

I think they should just sit at home, birth children and take care of the homes while the men take all the jobs in order to enable them provide. That would be fair enough.

Becareful these feminists/misandrists will eat you raw.

The big question is are you a fraudster - Yes or No?

Such a disgrace for a police man labeled super cop

iLegendd:
You already know what to do. Problem solved. You caused everything.

1. You don't have principles to checkmate your relationship (a woman that doesn't allow you have access to her phone should only be a f*ck buddy and NEVER make her look like your girlfriend, but friends with benefits)
2. You've cheated on her, but you didn't mention it (true or false? The answer is true)
3. You beat her (yes, beating do reset some women's brain, but I would prefer you reset her brain with principles, but you don't have them)
4. You don't pity humans for too long — those you pity for too long will hurt you for too long
5. Marry a woman that loves you, not a woman you love (the ones that love you will open up to everything and they'll be your partner in crime — they'll tell you about all the guys disturbing them and show you their chats)
6. Don't let a woman emotionally blackmail you
7. When ending a relationship, don't be the one to end it — make her end it; e get why
8. Also, not all relationships end with conversation and closure — some end by being absent and incommunicado for a long time (ghost them)
9. Be emotionally unavailable for all these silly relationship stuff, else you'll drain yourself — don't derive Joy from relationship, but your progress in other aspects of life
10. The less you care while possessing the qualities they need, the more they care and become open to make sure they don't lose you

Any girl who doesn't want to lose you and at the same time doesn't want to open up is a mini Devil in disguise — flee.

Look at how pretty and innocent Chidinma Ojukwu looks and how handsome the man she killed is. She couldn't spare him — she had lots of secrets she was hiding from him and the end is death.

Same thing for women. When a man hides too much, run.

I concur with this

Opexzy:
Never hit a woman you call your wife or wife to be, for what? That's a shameful thing today. You even said it as if she's your junior sister or something, no remorse, no shame. You are an irresponsible man. Please stop that act immediately.

Back to the main matter. If your engaged babe locks her phone and she refuses to unlock it for you for any reason known to her, its a bad sign... Do the needful and dump her immediately.

I don't like nonsense.

Oh shut it. These are modern men now, weak at heart and weak in the brain. I can understand it is wrong to beat a human because it is a criminal offense. However, do not inject womanese and feminists talking points.

Imagine your statement - it is wrong to beat a woman, but it's fine for a woman to hit a man, or beat a child. It is equally right for a woman to emotionally and verbally abuse a man as well as a child.

These kind of men should be hanged and castrated. These are the men who push feminists agenda and erode the rights of men. These are the push over men who think curdling to women will make them more attractive. These are the pretenders in male body, but think like women.

Men - if you have these kind of people as friends, cut them off completely.

PS: I am for equal rights and justice for all human kind. A woman has not right to hit me or another other human whether a child or maid, just like I have no similar right to hit anybody, whether woman, man, child or servant.

Ilamina:
What of latina, indian

My apologies, I completely missed out the Latinas, which is right after the Asians. Asians I mean Chinese, Philippines, Thailand etc.

Indians can also be categorized as Asians but Indians are closed knit groups, extra conservatives and largely stick to themselves.

Why do people with limited life experiences and exposure opine on topics they have no clue about?

Majority of people on planet earth prefer their kind e.g White people prefer white people, black people prefer black people, same as Asians. Please ignore what the media or Hollywood is trying to push.

To answer your question. Majority of white men prefer white women. The number of white men who marry outside their race are in their minorities and as someone who live in the west, after white women, these men prefer Asian women, next Middle East and then Black women.

JOSH54:
In marriage, there are qualities someone must look out before saying I do
1) Maturity in all aspect of life, physically, materially, spiritually, emotionally they are the weapons to sustain marriage.
2) love is the motivating factor of marriage
Age gap may depends on individuals but on my case, the gap between my wife and I is 7yrs

What you highlighted above are factors you consider prior to even considering a lady as a girlfriend and not a wife.

Factors to consider prior to selecting a wife spans beyond your pre-girlfriend selection criteria.

JOSH54:
No 2 - Never marry a single mother. What ever you do, never ever marry a single mother. Don’t start your family with another man’s family. Start your family brand new. I would love to explain this fully, but it would make this post longer.

I have seen
single mothers who become excellent wives but that does not mean there are no bad ones. lets not generalise them into one category

Your reference is anecdotal. On a large scale, single mothers are not prime spousal choices. I truly don't get it why people prefer to look for exceptions rather than take precautionary measures.

While I agree there are exceptions in life, the probability of occurrence is usually infinitesimal. Hence, single mother still stand to be a risky group for young men to consider.

You attract what you are

BinamRex:
In all honesty, your post was absolute trash. You made harsh pronouncements about single parents and ladies from single homes. You don't judge people like that, bro. Your written English is top-notch, but you strike me as someone who is too judgemental.

I bet you that 95% of criminals terrorizing this country are raised by both of their parents.

As an educated fellow you should know that labelling a particular group of people as bad isn't nice. People should be judged by the content of their character and not because they are/were raised by a single parent.

If I had half your writing skills, I'd be a best-seller.

I can understand your sensitivity especially on the narrative concerning single mothers, but I am not wrong. Statistics has shown single mothers do not make good parenting decisions. It doesn't say all, but most single mothers and by most, it means 75% - 90%. That's a large number.

Again, why should a young man who is discerning, ambitious, and want the good things of life, enter into a relationship or marriage with another man's child? Except the single mother will remarkably increase his network and value, such young man is lost in the head.

Are you aware that, on average, it cost roughly $100,000 - $300,000 to comfortably raise a child. You can do the conversion in naira. That amount gives a child the fighting chance to compete in the world. Why would a discerning young man pick up the bill of another man's child when he could get single ladies and raise his own kids.

Unfortunately, you cannot give what you don't have or know. Ladies from broken homes do not know what it takes to be with a man. They have never seen it. They have never seen their mothers submit and be under the submission and leadership of a man. Even though their biological nature yearns to be cared for and to raise kids, they will be in friction with the men in their lives. Some of these ladies are fast learners and would make the necessary adjustments. Others will fight the men in their lives for leadership control. However, why take the risk and put your stability in jeopardy.

My writeup is to assist young men identify potential spouses and to avoid pitfalls. I have seen and read multitudes of young men marry for love or the wrong reasons and end up regretting their decisions. My writeup is a no nonsense, pragmatic approach to picking your wife.

Honest Opinion

Marriage is the proper way to start and raise a family. As men one of our important legacies on Earth is to raise a family. Marriage is the social construct or contract that is the proper and acceptable way of doing this.

Marriage, like all phases of life, comes with its bliss and challenges. The most important ingredient to a happy Marriage is money. Once financial independence is secured, your marriage will last a long time. One of the major reasons for divorce is financial uncertainty or the loss of income especially on the part of the men. Many women would mind a husband keeping multiple partners as long as he continues to provide for the home.

Another challenge with Marriage is external influence. When an external party seem to control the affairs of a marital home, it breeds disharmony in the home.

Long distance seems to be an ice-breaker in marriages. I will advise couples, especially in their young age, to avoid long distance marriages. Except they are older and already have adult children. In this case, if the marriage breaks down, it doesn't affect the kids.

For some individuals, the lack of sexual intimacy and infidelity is an ice breaker. I find both reasons frivolous, my personal opinion because if other aspect of the marriage are perfect, this should not be the reason for a breakup. I probably may create a thread on this in the future.

Overall, marriage is a good thing. Anybody who says otherwise is not responsible enough.