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Romance / Re: Lady Slaps Boyfriend For Rejecting Marriage Proposal After Six Years Of Dating by Boss13: 9:12pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
Foreverdope: A woman cannot and should not initiate a marriage proposal to a man. 7 Likes |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 9:10pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
Topeonline24: At 23 she had a marriage proposal. What happened? Why was the proposal declined. Now that she is 30 and her eggs are old. Why would a reasonable man avoid younger women to marry an older one. What is so special about her than compensates her youth and the youth of alternative choices for men. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 9:06pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
nkemdi89: What Readiness do you need? You keep thinking and acting like a man. Unfortunately, you are a woman. A woman is ready for marriage immediately she comes of age. What you are actually saying is that you are not woman enough to be a wife. What part don't you understand. What stops you from getting married and then getting a job. Except your plan is to get an average man and by average I mean a man who is not a good earner. If you have the eyes and head to pick a good earner why should you be bother about the financial concerns - that's a man's job. You are going to remain single for a long time because you are yet to understand a woman's role in a marriage. If you truly do - you would be able to spot a potential provider male and get married. You are either looking for an average man to control. I am speaking based on my life long experience on earth and the social dynamics that exist between men and women. I wonder why women are now concerned about the affairs of men. Feminism has truly destroyed women. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Men & Marriage - How To Pick Your Wife! by Boss13: 7:56pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
Tboymessiah: This is quite unfortunate. You have misplaced your priorities and placing so much emphasis on the wrong things. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 7:52pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
nkemdi89: Not demanding money from your boyfriend is the normal thing to do. He is not your husband and should not take up your financial responsibilities. You are still misplacing priorities. That is why you are still single. Your husband's job not boyfriend - is to provide for his family. When you are married, this is the demand you should make. If he is not capable of providing, he should work towards this rather than get married and bring financial difficulties to his wife and children. Your priority should be focusing on the many marriage proposals you claim are coming your way and screen the offers on the premise of financial capability. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Advise Me by Boss13: 7:38pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
Thisisa: Go and get a job before thinking of a relationship. Stop misplacing your priorities. Even if you lose her, she is not the only woman in the world. These are the issues I have with young men. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 7:33pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
nkemdi89: Taking care of a family is a MAN's job. That is why I said you are acting as a man. Your job is to nest what the man has provided. I am not saying getting a job is a bad thing, but I am saying putting off marriage proposals for a job is not the ideal thing a woman should be doing. You are not going to be the leader of the family or is that your intention - to be the leader and breadwinner of your home. If this is the case, then you are not a wife and I will strongly advise men to avoid you. You have prioritise a job above marriage yet wondering why you are single. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 7:29pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
Topeonline24: She is old for marriage. What was she doing in her 20s? 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Men's Relationship Standards For Women Has Declined by Boss13: 7:24pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
helinues: Women have always been interested in the money part. The thing called love in relationship started in the 16th Century. Even dating is a modern thing. Usually, the introduction is made and then courtship proceeds and afterwards, the marriage rituals. There was nothing as dating for 5 years prior to marriage. That is like eating the cow before paying for it. No father at that time would allow this. In fact, pregnancy out of wedlock or pre-marital sex was strongly frowned at. Hence, you have the confirmation of virginity after the wedding. |
Romance / Re: Men's Relationship Standards For Women Has Declined by Boss13: 7:19pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
advanceDNA: Yes - men do the shopping (seeking out women of their choice and approaching women). Men are making the active move and as such the consumer. I agree you do not like the consumer analogy. Regardless, it is a term we can relate to when we want better products. You would not accept an expired product or a product that is already opened would you? I doubt that. However, we have women who have been disvirgined roaming the streets and still considering themselves as rare quality products because the men, the consumers, accept the defected products the way it is. If men begin to wake away from non-virgins or go to markets with the highest virgins, guess what that would translated - the abandoned market will begin to shift towards producing more pious virgins to attract the consumers back. Men MUST and should have standards. PS: To strongly collaborate my consumer theory in marriage. Men pay brideprice, if that consideration given (i.e. dowry) for the act of marriage isn't consumerism, then I don't know what it is. You can either accept the theory or reject it, but it is still there. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Men's Relationship Standards For Women Has Declined by Boss13: 7:15pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
BigBellyBurst: Women cannot decide if a man would be single. This choice is not theirs to make. Hence, the phrase "I'm single by choice" is a fallacy made by women to accommodate their insecurities. Like I have previously said, men marry women i.e. initiate the marriage proposal, and woman accept this proposal or reject the proposal. The standards held by women for men has really not changed. It has been slightly modified as we evolved as a species, but it is still tied to financial capability, which can be translated to either ability to provide or financial security. The other standards such as height, weight, fitness level, and appearance are actually standards held by men for women which have now been replicated as women's standards. Regardless, this is not the top priority for women. Once, the man passes the financial capability test, other standard metrics can be use. Also, the financial capability test strongly compensates for other standards if the man doesn't meet those requirements. A clear example to this, is the vast number of women around wealthy men. These men, typically older, out of shape, average looking or even worse, not even above 6ft, all have one thing in common - MONEY. To answer your question, it is men's standards that has declined. Women's standards have practically remained the same. Men have dropped the ball and they need to get their acts together. |
Romance / Re: Men's Relationship Standards For Women Has Declined by Boss13: 6:01pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
advanceDNA: I would advised you discontinue with assumptions. I am married with kids. What I wrote is based on standpoint comparison between what was expected and what is now the norm. Also, women were not given to men. These men approach the fathers of the women to seek their hands in marriage. In the past, marriage men were properly vetted and if not suitable, the marriage proposal is declined. Please know your history properly. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 5:48pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
nkemdi89: You keep shifting the goal post. Initially, you were turning down proposal to get a good job. You have the job now. What is stopping you if the proposals are still coming? I think you are lying. These proposals are not marriage proposals. If you do want to get married, accept one of the proposals. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Men's Relationship Standards For Women Has Declined by Boss13: 5:44pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
advanceDNA: Apparently, this is what is obtainable at the moment. My analogy is not degrading. Men initiate marriage and women accept. If men don't initiate marriage, there will be no acceptance. In this respect, men are actually the consumers of women. Hence, it is ought to men to decide the kind of women they want. You can put my theory to test. Hold a higher standard for women and watch the quality of women around you go high. At the other hand, approach the dating market with no standard and the low valued women will occupy your space. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 4:35pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
nkemdi89: You don't think so? Where is your husband? I will advise you read to comprehend rather than read to respond. You played yourself means you are not getting your desired outcomes because of certain decisions made. You decided to turned marriage proposal for a high paying job. That was a choice based on your decision and now you are finding it difficult to land a husband. |
Romance / Men's Relationship Standards For Women Has Declined by Boss13: 4:29pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
Men's relationship standards has shown a tremendous decline. According to history, piety and virginity were huge requirements for marriage. A marriage proposal was hinged on these two pre-conditions before the proposal is issued. However, it appears young men are more willingly to marry anything that identifies as a woman and the standards are now basically having defining physical features to confirm being a woman. Some men even go below the standard scale to elope with women who already have kids. In the Dating/Marriage market, the consumers are Men and the products, Women. Logically, if consumer preference and taste declines, it will impact on the product. This same logical is also applicable to higher consumer preference and taste. Hence, it is not surprising to see the decay and rottenness acceptable by men today. What is ironic is men criticising and condemning young women for the complete rejection of valuable standards. In my opinion, the men encourages the indecencies and debauchery. In fact, men promotes these behaviours in women. If men want better women, then they must have and demand better standards and hold these standards without compromise. After all, the consumer determines the actual product quality and if this is not possible, it is expected for the consumer to move to another market. Rather than criticise women for behaviours they, themselves encourage, men should promote and uphold better standards for women to adapt into. 11 Likes 4 Shares |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 3:48pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
fluffybaby: Not having sex in dating is not possible. It's like advising someone to enter hell without getting burnt. I will advise ladies to date with intention. Keep your virginity for your husband. Don't give it away too easy. It is one of the highest honour, including kids, a woman can give a man. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 3:42pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
Dpundict: You're looking for a wife in Lagos and worse still in Ajah/Lekki? What are you smoking and drinking again? 4 Likes |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 3:38pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
Shalommy: He didn't say a perfect woman. He said a wife. A wife is not a perfect woman, but a woman who understands the value of marriage, a woman who has been raised to be a wife by her family and knows the importance of men. A wife is someone who is feminine, willingly to cooperate and respect her man. These women are not perfect, they also come with their flaws but they know and understand what it is to be a wife. @OP, exclude finding a wife in big cities in the South (e.g Lagos, Port Harcourt, Calabar, Ibadan) and Abuja. There are cities girls who are there to experience the city life. Extend your search to include conservative states. Completely avoid the South-East except you are tribe conscious and if you exclusively want an Igbo girl, utilise friends and family network. The South-South (excluding Rivers) tend to have more conservative christian ladies and if you don't mind ethnic group and religion, head straight to the Middle Belt and North, there you will find the most conservative Nigerian ladies in the country who are trained to be wives. Finally, vet thoroughly the ladies you are considering as wives - I wrote a thread on how to pick a wife. Read that up. Don't forget to review her social media pages too. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Romance / Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Boss13: 3:25pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
nkemdi89: You are acting like a man. Guess you played yourself. |
Celebrities / Re: Daddy Freeze On Ikoyi Registry: No Wonder My First Marriage Didn't Work Out by Boss13: 2:33am On Dec 15, 2021 |
urgentsale: Fortunately your friend has the right marriage certificate. I don't think embassies will completely reject couples who registered at Ikoyi because what they want is proof of marriage and such proof exist in wedding photos, church marriage certificate, traditional rites and photos. Showing all these including the Ikoyi Registry, as well as change of name in National dailies shows proof of marriage. |
Celebrities / Re: Daddy Freeze On Ikoyi Registry: No Wonder My First Marriage Didn't Work Out by Boss13: 2:30am On Dec 15, 2021 |
Odidigboigbo: I think customary marriages are recognized so they are fine. |
Celebrities / Re: Daddy Freeze On Ikoyi Registry: No Wonder My First Marriage Didn't Work Out by Boss13: 2:29am On Dec 15, 2021 |
WHITELIGHTER: Yes every federal Registry in Nigeria. They do not have the right to conduct marriages |
Celebrities / Re: Daddy Freeze On Ikoyi Registry: No Wonder My First Marriage Didn't Work Out by Boss13: 2:28am On Dec 15, 2021 |
wirinet: Everything is null and void. The judge referred to the constitution that clearly says the function of Local Governments. Such powers were not conferred to Ikoyi Registry and the Registry has been carrying out an illegal act for a very long time. |
Romance / Re: Are Sex Workers Really Cheaper Than A Girlfriend by Boss13: 12:18am On Dec 14, 2021 |
I really pity some young men playing daddy role instead of having a relationship. A girl who is really into you won't bill you because she doesn't want to lose you. Even the ones in the streets will behave themselves. 1 Like 1 Share |
Phones / Re: Like Facebook, Zoom To Start Charging 7.5% VAT From Nigerian Users by Boss13: 7:33pm On Dec 13, 2021 |
I thought zoom was free 9 Likes |
Family / Re: Men, Would You Consider Being Househusbands? by Boss13: 4:07pm On Dec 12, 2021 |
Opeyemiextra: When you use words you don't understand - "unprecedented". What is the percentage of these house-husbands compared to provider. Don't use words you cannot defend |
Crime / Re: Kemi Okunloyo: Sylvester Omoroni Agreed To Join A Gang, Consented To His Beating by Boss13: 12:26pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Prison didn't change this woman after spreading lies |
Celebrities / Re: Seyi Shay Shows Her Baby Bump In Dance Video by Boss13: 2:41pm On Dec 09, 2021 |
This culture is not good. We are going to see increase rate of bastards and single mothers. The family structure is under threat. This is the same culture killing the black community in America. 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Toke Makinwa Is Showing COVID-19 Symptoms (Pix) by Boss13: 10:35am On Dec 07, 2021 |
If she has covid or serious illness, she will not remember her phone or even think of posting. She posted because she wanted people to read her last statement. "My daddy came to see me". I thought she was her orphan. Probably - her sugar daddy |
Romance / Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Boss13: 10:31am On Dec 07, 2021 |
This thread is part of the numerous mistakes men make in selecting their wives. I have written a thread on how to pick a wife. For those still confused, go and read it. Picking a wife is one of the most important decision a man can ever make. Be guarded. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Is It Bad If A Married Man Cooks? by Boss13: 11:04am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Mercychen: Learn to hear from the other side before arriving at a conclusion. This is one topic one gets limited to express opinions because first, it's hearsay from one source. Second, the full context is not known. 2 Likes |
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