fadilaMaikiriki:
But, does he really mean well for me? I just hope he meant well for me. I don't want to start regretting later.

He may or may not, it depends on his reasons for saying such to you.

Both of you are adults and should put heads together and find out how to solder your present predicament as it takes two to tango.

fadilaMaikiriki:
I don't get please.

Its very simple, a man told a lady that if anyone wishes to be involved with her, she should tell him that she is married or taken. What other explaining does she need from there than, he doesn't want to share her with anyone.

fadilaMaikiriki:
And what do you think might be his intention for saying that?

From what he wrote, that's exactly what it meant.

A good and loyal partner (wife).

It means there is no room for sharing you with any other person.

There is definitely nothing wrong if I date or even marry a fair lady that snores. If that is the only thing that she guilty of then why not.

siofra:


Don't worry, STDs, HIV/AIDS and many other diseases are waiting for all you redpillers.

Siofra this your profile picture, is it really you or someone else?

My concern is not the 1million naira in the girl's account, but how did the parent of one of the girls know that she and the others lodge in a hotel and even the name and location of the said hotel? This shows that they are aware of what their children are doing and where they are at every point in time. They failed in their duties as parents and need to face whatever the outcome is.

Righteousness2:
Condolences!!

Probably a case of Evil arrow.
Arrows are flying up and Down..
The devil, his agents and evil men and women are not resting!

The days are evil.
Be Fully Fortified in GOD ALMIGHTY!
Not in mouth but indeed!

I beg to disagree with what you just wrote, how do you mean by evil arrow? Do you know his health status, or even if was hypertensive? Maybe he has been there since early morning and has been doing so lately,thereby affecting his health which led to his death. Not everything is spiritual or caused by evil forces.

The only solution is to die and join him in the under world.

You gave your land lady 10kg of rice as what? You showed them that you are well to do therefore leading to this present predicament. If you don't have simply tell them that you do not have but never promise them that you will give it to them when you have.

20.

There is nothing you can do at this juncture than to go your separate ways as going ahead to marry her will make you regret in years to come, when you begin to take your children who re now with genotype SS from one hospital to another. Love should not push you to do the wrong thing.

To me I don't see anything wrong with it. You cannot afford the full price of the mattress a it is above your budget, so if she is able to bring half the money for it there is nothing wrong. Have it though at the back of your mind that it is not a present as already told you by others.

You are the cause of your own problem; why will you hit her, playfully or not it is not suppose to be so. I get it that you apologised to her countlessly for the action but it is a bad thing to do. Even as you told her to start going home as it was getting late and she felt reluctant of going home, you would have let her pass the night at your place. You have stained your reputation there and I believe that if you truly love her as you say, you will continue the relationship promising not to repeat such again. I believe that with time if they see that you didn't repeat same again, they will regard you again.

My sister what you are going through is really distressing and heart breaking. He is not a man of himself at his old age of 35, and cannot make decisions for himself. He needs to know that right now his mother is approaching menopause since she is above 50 and it will be really difficult for her to conceive again let alone give birth. If she is serious that she wants another child then there is room for adoption, let her adopt as much as she wants and trian them up as hers. He needs to as a matter of necessity take certain decisions on his own as a man as his mother will not remain with him forever. Talking about marrying you, whether his parents are separated or not, as far as his father is still alive or even if he is not, the right of marriage dwells with him as he is still the father of the guy in question. It is his father and his people (elders) that will come for the introduction and also be present when thier son is getting married. His inheritance as a son comes from his father, so the mother's people cannot play any active role as far as marriage is concerned. I will not advise you to leave him, but inform him, of these things I just told you.

I don't seem to understand what you wrote, you hit her for suggesting opening your relationship with her. In what way does she mean, and what right do you have to hit her? You have no right whatsoever to do that. Whether you gave chance to fix it is between the two of you, as you are both adults.

It is best to confess and face the consequence once and for all than for her to find out and put me through worst punishment and pain.

Your uncle's wife said it all, both your father and uncle are bunch of lazy fools (sorry for the insult). How can a man who is supposed to be the breadwinner of the family and also the provider of the home vacate his responsibility as a man lumping it on the woman that is supposed to be the helper of the husband? You didn't do anything wrong confronting the coward of a man who knew how his household is and how he isn't contributing even a penny towards the wellbeing off the family, then went ahead to bring another bofoon of a man not just alone oh but with his entire household. I can bet anything that it is how their parents (your paternal grand parents) trained them, or that it is how their father did to their mother and maybe is still doing the same. You need to take good care if your mum because she is really hanging by a tiny thread, if possible she should go for periodic blood pressure check so that she will not collapse one day in the name of passing through a lot and God forbid dieing. You have to encourage her to do her very best within her capabilities and not doing more than she can. I would have advised you save up money and look for an apartment of your own but doing that might cost your mum's sanity and health.

What happened at the school is an accident and isn't suppose to be lumped on one parent just because the school decided that they can afford it. I suspect maybe they were running then collided into each other, if that is the case then why put the blame on one person making her feel guilty of the accident. Before her parents does what the school is forcing them to do, they should find out exactly how the collision happened, so as to know how to proceed from there. The school management doesn't know how to handle such happenings, they would have either treat the two students involved and informing their parents on what happened and how it happened and also what they did as the school, (because like it or not the school are supposed to ensure the safety and well-being of the students with them within those hours they are within the premises.) or call the parents to school to treat their children following the collision as they (the school) couldn't treat the affected students.

She gave you two options to pick from, you decide which will be easier for you to do. Since you say you love her and run things with her but worried about her age, then it might fall towards making her a single mother as she first asked but ensuring that she is able to take good care of the children as she said. If you feel you can stay with her as a wife and mother of your children then do the necessary things to make that possible. It is you that has the final choice to make.

Ilamina:


I was studying architecture
There was pressure on me

The people who came last, they post your result on the notice board

. . . .
Well, some people are strong
They don't mind killing me

You were studying a very nice course like architecture. The pressure you mentioned came from where? The results posted on the notice board, was your own better than theirs? This strong people you talked about, are they the same people you said are jealous of you? If yes, is it due the fact that you are better than them academically? If No then who are these ones again? You mentioned that they don't mind killing you, did anyone openly threaten or confront you?

Thanks for opening up to me.

Ilamina:


I was doing science in high school
It was too difficult. .but I had to force myself to pass it
So I started losing my hair out of stress


It's a long story, some people are jealous
I don't have a boyfriend and I study abroad

If I don't lose my body part or look disadvantaged
I can get killed

So stress is the main reason behind you loosing your hair. Where exactly are you studying? The people that are jealous, what are they jealous of? The people who are jealous of you are the ones that are behind you talking of losing a body part or looking disadvantaged and also a threat to your life right?

What do they stand to gain for doing such to you?

Ilamina:
I see myself losing another body part

Maybe my leg or hand

I have already lost my hair

What made you lose your hair, is it any rare genetical disease or any other type of ailment? How are you sure that you will lose your leg or hand, is it as a result of the same ailment or maybe you had dn accident?

Miss Illamina, I have asked you before and will ask you again, what body part did you lose and how did you lose it? You don't need to kill yourself over that as it doesn't make any sense.

Any other person who can render help to the poster should not hesitate to do so. Whatever I wrote earlier is now irrelevant.

Your reason for running away is very justified. You have to keep contact with them assuring them of your safety and that of your sister, but do not for any reason whatsoever let them know ow where you are staying as your sister's safety is not guaranteed. Take good care of yourself and your sister.

Every one is entitled to his or her own opinions, to me I think the thing to do is get a girl you like first then work on the friendship till it blossoms to relationship (dating or courtship) where you know little about her while begging God to lead you. If you feel that she is worth making your better half or the mother of your children, then go ahead. You cannot just see a girl on the street which maybe you like her physical appearance and attributes then immediately tell her you want to marry her. She may not take you serious or see you as the one's who use marriage to deceive girls just to get into their panties. As I said earlier, everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

What help do you then need? If what you wrote is real and not African Magic Epic tale, you have a good gut who was looking for something wife that will love him for who he is and not what he is .

How is your life bad? What happened to you that led go such a disheartening statement?