He should not abandon his mother in this critical time as it is now that she needs his assistance and care. No matter what the reason is, his mother is his first wife and it is his responsibility to take care of her especially now that she is aged.

Opeyemiextra:
Things like this are really complicated. If you ask the wife, I'm sure she would also have her reasons whether logical or not. Sometimes, people carry over previous experiences to manage new and emerging situations. We don't know what she has seen or knows so let's not pass judgment just like that.
I cannot live with my grandmother under the same roof because she spells doom not because someone told me but because I have a first-hand experience of that.
The husband should talk to her and know her reasons. There is no smoke without fire.

I see some sense in what you are saying but that does not mean that she will tell her husband to abandon his own mother who single handedly trained him and made him what he is today. How will she feel if any of her own children abandon her when they are grown and she is old?

Iyaebe:
You've not hear the wife's side of the story so don't judge JUNKIE

No matter what the mother must have done to his wife she is very wrong in asking him to abandon her at this time she needs him the most. If it was the man that told her to abandon her own mother who is aged, how will she feel?

Endsars007:



I don't think she knows what anger issues mean... I never once shouted at her nor beat her... All what I did was to care for her.

As I said she was not sincere with the relationship. She was just looking for a way to quit and blamed it on anger issues and bad attitude.

From what I just read, I cannot say that you have any anger issues or bad attitude. She was not sincere with you from the beginning of your relationship with her. She must have been double dating and I am sure she met that other guy before you. The signs were all there to show you that she was not really interested in the relationship. She was just pretending so as to get things from you which I believed she succeeded in getting. How can a lady who claims she loves you and wants to spend time with you as you if you are to end your relationship with her? You do not need to bother yourself much over this as I can comfortably say that she has moved on. You on your own have to also move on with your life, forgetting about her. She was looking for an excuse to end the relationship and she hinged it on bad attitude and anger issues. Does she even know what anger issues mean?

What do you have in mind to do to those innocent babies? When you and him were doing the deed, why did you not think of the outcome of not using protection? Why did you not decide on what will happen if it results in this? The following options are facing you at the moment; it's either you give birth to them and take care of them, which is a good thing to do or you become a murderer by aborting them. If you give birth to them and abandon them then know that you have turned out to be a very wicked mother. The ball is in your court.

If it is confirmed that she is pregnant, then what you have to do next is to go to your family and tell them that you have found the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with an they will escort you to the girl's place for preparation for the wedding or marriage proper.

Debbe:
I dONT KNOW WHY MEN ARE LIke this

If you say Men, you are generalizing. You would have said some men not all men, because your brother is a man, your father is a man, your cousin may also be a man. You cannot condemn the whole men over the action of few. Back to your topic, did you agree with him on no sex in the relationship before going into it with him? If yes and he agreed then he is at fault, but if on the other hand you did not agree with him on that then it is your fault as you did not inform and agree with him on that issue. You that is taking that as a policy in your relationships, how willing are you to maintain it and how far are you willing to go with out compromising?

When you were busy putting her in the family way, you did not think of your future or your future plans. Now you have succeeded in getting her pregnant and you are here complaining to us. Congratulations, better start saving money for marriage and baby stuff. As she is good for you as a girlfriend she must be good to you as a wife. Crying will never solve any problem, just man up and face the result head on.

debbydams:
alot has Happened jawe each time I tat of it I really get depressed I really felt like killing myself some weeks back ..I thank God nd people who stood for me..

Thank God for sending those people to stand by you during your time of difficulty and trial, but I want you to understand that it is improper to kill yourself over any circumstances or problems that surrounds you. Every problem has a solution, it only takes time but it must surely come. Have you asked yourself that what happens if the solution to the problems around you comes but you have already killed yourself? You didn't give yourself life and also have no right to take it. Happy to know that you are OK and didn't join the bandwagon of people who killed themselves over the problems they were facing.

As much as I am against murder, I will be writing on the issue of a married man dating or having a relationship with another girl outside his matrimonial home. Why will a man who is married and blessed with children be involved with extra-martial affair? What are his reasons for doing that? A man who decided to stop being alone and get himself a wife is not satisfied with the one he got for himself and in the end goes to look for another one outside. Not just a man in this instance, even a woman who is legally married to her husband, still looking for young men outside. It is a very bad and risky thing to indulge in as the effect of it will either be a broken home or even death. If you ask most people out there who are involved in such a terrible thing their reason behind it, you will hear different excuses that are laughable. Even Solomon in the Bible who had 300 wives and 700 side chicks, how did he end up. The man or woman that is involved in such a calamity can never allow their children to do such. Ask them the reason why? I believe that it is inexcusable for anyone who is married to be involved with another girl outside his marriage, as it always ends badly.

Clap for her.

This question is a very serious one that needs to be answered carefully. What necessitated this kind of question, are you planning on giving up any time soon, if yes what seems to be the problem that will lead to that? If you just want to know out of curiosity, what intentions do you have for that? When you answer the questions then you will get my response to your question.

The Statement is on windscreen and not glasses. If they insist that it must be on glasses then they will have to stop of ban the importation of vehicles with tinted glasses. Most SUV's and even modern vehicles come with factory fitted tinted glass, how do they want to do it? It will be a really difficult law or command to follow.

My advice to you is sit him down one weekend and explain things to him convincingly, let him know that you are doing those jobs to keep body and soul together since your parents lack the support you need. Any day you will not come back due to lateness, try to give him a call letting him know that you will not come back. I want you not to stop the work for any reason whatsoever even if he decides to end things with you because of it as it is very beneficial to you.

She developed interest in you and wanted you capitalize on that interest but you failed to. The best thing for you to do is continue following her and if possible apologize to her for not capitalizing on the interest. If she truly wants you, she will give you another chance.

I do not know why some old men in the name of Ohaneze ndi Igbo will not keep their mouth quiet and face what is troubling them within their region. What is the relationship between the plane crash of the Nigerian air force which killed the chief of army staff and Buhari with Osibanjo's flight plan? They have more pressing issues to look at than saying what they do not know. Sabotage or not, it does not concern them. The south east is now a danger zone for any one going there and they are here advising the top 2 most important persons in Nigeria on their flight plan.

My advice for you is that since your uncle is willing to sponsor you for the Masters and PhD it will be better if you follow his advice. You can have a little business on the side while he is sponsoring you.

My opinion on this matter is that you should stop calling her as she doesn't love you in return. She only needed what you have which she has gotten. I think it's better for the both of you if you stop calling her and move on with your life, as she has already moved on.

The reason for going into any relationship with an opposite sex is not just for relationship sake or for the sex alone but also taking the next step which is marriage. Since the guy must have discussed with the girl about marriage and went ahead to propose to her, then unfortunately she says NO to him, there is no need to continue the relationship as the next thing which they are supposed to go for is not achieved.

You made it clear in your writing that the reason for her shame after sex is her upbringing which she is betraying each time she has sex. I can also deduce from your write up that you have no intention at all of marrying her. You just want to have sex with her and move on with your life. You do not love her but lust after her for sex only.

My brother sincerely speaking, you are the cause of your problem. How can you say that a good woman who God through His infinite mercy dashed you is an ogbanje? From your narration which made me laugh when reading through it, you usually ask her opinion on certain issues before embarking on them. When she now gives you her own opinion which to you is not favorable to you, you go against it and instead do what is on your mind and in the end waste your resources. There is an igbo adage which says that ndi nwe ike amaghi ado nani, which in English means that people who have buttocks don't know how to sit down. You want to throw away a free gift given to you because of your stubbornness and heartlessness. If you abandon your marriage and run to another country, do you think your problems are solved. If only you followed her advice even for once, you will not be here saying this funnyingly annoying things you are saying. Before taking this disastrous step, why not for once follow her advice.

There is no easy way of doing this. Let me give you two choices and then you desire which one suits you best. Firstly, you give into her desire of getting down with you, have it at the back of your mind that it will not only be that once which you did so but it will be a start to a sexual relationship in which you will look for available places to do the deed. This in turn will turn out to be a sugar mama arrangement, which if continued will lead to a serious fight in her marital home as she will be comparing you in her mind to her husband. It will also lead to a broken home and I can say with all certainty that you will also abandon her to get faith. Not forgetting that it may lead to a deadly risk on your life as you don't know her husband and his capabilities. He may out of anger have both of you killed. Secondly you don't give in to her desire, sighting the marriage as a reason for your unwillingness to do such a thing, it will lead to the end of the said friendship you have with her, also hurting her feelings. You are now to make your choice on what you want to do about it.

Congratulations on the successful break up with her, at least you can now save your self from the said emotional stress.

How can a man leave a lady he is not married to here in Nigeria and travel overseas for 5 years then expect her to still remain waiting for him or even not having sexual relations? Can he also take an oath that for the past 5 years since he left her for overseas that he has not had any sexual relations with any lady over there? Let us call a spade a spade, clear conscience fears no accusation. He has done it over there and is expecting her to swear that she has not done it.

The issue is that many telephone networks have since stopped SIM registration since last year December due to the pandemic. This has affected many of their staffs as they have lost their jobs. It will continue indefinitely until further notice by the networks.

You that went for solution to your problem and you were told what to do, which you are here asking questions concerning what they told you, why did you go in the first place? Why did you not pray and fast to get solution to your problem before going to them? Even if you reconsider to do what they told you, bear in mind that it will not work anymore as you do not have the faith anymore.

As painful as it is currently, they are still legally married and unless your brother wants to have a second wife, the new hard working woman does not have a stake in his home. It is now left to him to decide on who to let go; if I am to say, based on your story, the one that ran away back to her father's house never expected him to walk again, I can categorically say that she may not have even contacted him while undergoing treatment in India. I can also state clearly that she doesn't love him at all and agreed to marry him due to his financial authority. If his friends hadn't been good friends in need helping him back to his feet in his business, do you think she will come back? I can clearly say a very big NO. This shows clearly that she wasn't brought up properly and I am sorry to say, her mother is the cause of her problem. How can a newly married woman who just returned from their wedding at the village run back to her father's house in the name of seeing her mother, leaving the man who paid her bride price and spent heavily to make the wedding a big and successful one, knowing his present predicament? It goes to show and prove my point earlier that she only married him because of his money. Even if the accident didn't happen and along the line his business experiences any form of problems or downfall, she will also run away from her home leaving her husband and children. She will not support him in the time of need. She is expecting to reap where she didn't sow. As I said at the beginning of my write up, it is in his hands to decide on what to do, he should decide quickly so as not to lose the hard working one ready to support him at any time. If I was in his shoe I would have done it even before I return back to the country. She doesn't deserve that home or marriage as she is very wicked.

I believe the best thing for you to do is kill yourself. How can you come here and complain like this, it shows a level of immaturity even as an adult. How can you expect a girl who is a platonic friends to you to stoop so low as to having sex with you. As a man can't you control your libido or urges? If they give into your desire, what type of friendship is that? It doesn't matter if you let them pass the night at your house or a hotel room with you, it doesn't change anything. How will you feel if you find out that the friend of your girlfriend is demanding for sex from her and she eventually gives in to his demand? In this day and time even in time immemorial there are set boundaries to platonic friendships and when crossed leads to problems and confusion. Please next time before you post any issue or problems here ask yourself if the issues or problems I want to share to the world on this platform will bring positive or negative responses or feedback to you. I don't mean to insult you in any way just that I didn't expect such a write up from an adult like yourself which makes me angry.

Deathisfree:



Thanks so much. I’m just so worried ,I have really endured all her illness because of the love and respect I have for my dad.
All she has been intending to see is my downfall but guess what God keep raising me

Always have at the back of your mind that God is always with you in every of your daily endeavors, do not hesitate to go to him for help when in need.