Before talking about doing court or church wedding, bride price must be paid first. Agree with your father in law and your family on how you will pay the bride price. That is the only thing that shows both the village and family that their daughter is married.

FalseProphet1:
ASL...

If you've never heard or seen that acronym in your entire life when chatting with someone, kneel down when talking to me.

This I have seen.

Very true, it was more popular on 2go that year

jeromestarks:

Sorry, who are you again?
What are you even saying sef.

Compare the head of this thread to the body.

What made her act like that is that the headline of your essay is not the same as the background.

What is the reason behind you laughing during other people's wedding ceremony? You believe that they are wasting their time in making such vows, or you do not believe in the institution of marriage?

I believe it is possible to get the bride price back. I my place there is something called ikwu ngo which simply means return of bride price. Since the father has agreed to return what was collected as bride price, he is under obligation to pay it.

Michelle70:
I dont understand, he wasnt suppose to have a gf or he wasnt suppose to go on a date with his gf?

why the mom deh para sef

I believe that he must have told his mum he was going somewhere else and alone, not with a girlfriend. That must have been the reason why she acted the way she did.

I believe that she is disappointed that you did such a thing. She expected more from you but got less, so I believe what you should do is go home and wait for her, when she comes greet her as usual and allow her tell you what is on her mind. Make sure you don't talk back at her when she is talking because it might degenerate to violence. Allow her to say everything she has to say and speak only when told to.

Tradepunter2:


Na principle won't let me do that for a girlfriend.... Na only wife level things I can do that..

Just application of wisdom

Good to know.

Tradepunter2:


I mentioned exclusively that's only if caught cheating....

Normal break up she can keep them... As for house she can live out the entire rent but will pay by herself hence forth

That is fair enough if it is a rented apartment, but what if it is a house built from the scratch for her, then what happens?

Tradepunter2:


Why the heck will you collect back undies and hair?

Diamond necklace or wrist watches gold etc, stuff permitted to take back.... Cars and even house,. permitted to take back

Designer bags

But the rest she can keep

All this thi gs you mentioned are all good to give as gifts to the person you love, but have it at the back of your mind that a gift is a gift and not a loan to be repayed later. You gave the gift out of love and voluntarily, you were not forced to give it. It is not an investment that yields returns and withdrawals but giving because you feel that you have more than enough to spare.

Good one Op but include how to escape from been shot at with a gun, and how to survive a gun shot wound.

Wittyglam:
well spoken.

Thanks, the reason why I spoke that way is because I have done such before. I bought her beautiful bras and panties in packs like 3 times throughout our relationship. We agreed that since I wasn't sure of making her my wife we should go our separate ways. I didn't collect pin from her. So a gift is a gift simple and short, whether it works or not, it doesn't change the fact that it is a gift.

My brother as much as I believe what you are saying, I want you to know that what you witnessed is not reincarnation. Check for the meaning of reincarnation and see for yourself. You witnessed a soul going to the great beyond, your oga looking at how close you were with him while he was still alive wanted to show you that he was going to the other side of life. You greeted him but he did not answer because he was no longer in the physical realm but rather in a spiritual realm. I am sure he did not hear you, even if he did he can't talk to you physically anymore because he is dead. The only way he may talk to you may be in the dream, if he is permitted to and for a limited time only. Reincarnation is different from what you hit described.

I stand corrected, I didn't understand the question that morning time I read it as it was the first thing I read this morning. He should discuss and agree with the lady in question if they will like to become one in terms of marriage, when they are in agreement, then he can go to his uncle and his wife to inform them of their decision to get married. I am sure his uncle may decide to seek counsel from fellow elders of the community or town as this is a very delicate issue. They will advice him on how to go about it.

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your beautiful daughter.

So sorry this happened to you but you need to explain your own side of what happened to both the police and your work executives. He is not a good brother for doing such a thing to his blood.

eskorelvis:

Save and send here make I see. Dunno why I can't see profile pics of nairaland members

As seen in her page. Tell me I was wrong with my comment on her natural beauty.

naniawini:
Dont mind the saddist

I am not minding him.

Michelle70:
no be she be that o

Well I can't say, I commented based on what I saw.

Sandazblack:


A finished man and more

How do you mean? A question was asked and I answered it with all sincerity of heart. Everything I said is true looking at the picture she used as her profile picture. I didn't compliment what I didn't see.

naniawini:
Awwwww! Thank you

You are very welcome.

Wittyglam:
thank you, some said it’s so kind of closure.

It is not a kind of closure. Take for instance, a guy gifts his girl wig to make her hair look beautiful and later on the relationship didn't work. If he collects the wig from her what is he going to do with it? Also you a guy out of love buys his girl undies and bras, then later the love dies a natural death, will he naked her just to collect them back? Even if he collects them later what is he going to do with them? So looking at it critically a gift given out of love is a gift simple. No more no less.

Nonexisting1:
Nigga, I thought you are gay?

Lol God forbid I am not gay neither am I bisexual. I love my ladies.

You have natural black beauty with lovely set of teeths accompanied by a sweet smile, a shape to give all for and I can say a pleasant personality. Of course why wouldn't I like your profile picture?

Fadila you need to be calming down, there is nothing wrong with how your toes are. Generally speaking males have longer toes than females. From your picture you sent I can see that you are female. There is nothing to do to them as they are beautiful the way they are. Always know that people have different opinions. You don't have to feel bad about your toes as they are fine.

udofia234:



But guy she should have just told me politely now!!! but no wahala I don hear u I no go near there at all!! thanks baba!! u get level!!!

For your peace of mind avoid that wedding. Good luck.

I understand your anger with what he did that led to this present situation in your home. I have not seen or heard that a married woman bought land for herself alone. Family came in to try to bring peace between the two of you but rather than have peace in your home, there is instead turmoil in your home. From the write up it looks as if you make more money than him and if that is the case, I get your anger. You need to look inwardly to try to look for what makes the both of you happy which I might say is the well-being of your children. You have to use that as an anchor point to pardon him. You said you need a father for your expectant child, but I want you to understand that even the ones you have now still needs their father. You can also for the sake of love which brought you two together as one forgive him. I know that you are really hurt by his actions and inactions, but find a place in your heart to forgive him. I also know that you find it difficult to trust him again, but start first with forgiving him and gradually learn to trust him again. Sorry for your present hurtful feeling.

udofia234:



The sex thing was a mistake and only once and we both agreed and prayed to stop it and we did!! but she's still came up with sex and mouth action issue which we both had a serious misunderstanding.

OK I understand you now, but as I said earlier she has made her choice, so allow her leave by it. You don't need to attend the wedding as it will further break you down.