₦airaland Forum

tensazangetsu20:
Honestly if not for religion, suicide will be the leading cause of death in human beings. What play do you want a low IQ, ugly, and broke man to play. Probably dropout at primary school and become a gate man till death. It makes no sense. Someone somewhere dictated that and others should all play whether they like it or not.

tensazangetsu20:
There's nothing to enjoy. Life is just an endless void of needless suffering.

Raalsalghul:
Ascribing order to the randomness is just a way for humans to be able to cope and make it at least tolerable or a tad bit meaningful.

Every person is unique and that is true for their life circumstances. Without trying to make it tolerable or meaningful: life [i]is ordered randomness[/i].

Deep down, we know the truth. If not, why do we have different results under the same condition. Isn't order supposed to be "you do this, you get that?" Why is it that not always the case? Or what do you mean by order?

We don't have different results under the same conditions. [i]Nobody has the exact same conditions. No two people can even think the exact same way. This is not an equation with defined variables and outputs. The order to life is that you will live your life with whatever randomness you have from birth. Not trying to make life an equation that should give certain results.[/i]

Meanwhile, granted people have different reasons for procreating, why would you say 'they don't think it through'? This isn't only about the created only, but the person doing the creating too.

The two people engaging in it know that there will be a birth after their meeting. They have thought it through and know the possible outcome, but simply cannot accept the consequences. Anything birthed will still exercise its nature for order —and no matter what you plan for, once it involves another life, it will result in chaos. Expecting to plan for procreation is a waste of time. Who knows what they will be?

If a broke Raalsalghul decides to give birth, I would suffer too, not only the child.

You would not suffer, you only think you would because you are trying to control the life of another person (the child) to decide for them how to live from birth. But that is the child's own randomness that they must order for themselves in life.

And no, no one is talking about perfection here because it doesn't exist, but at least an easy ride all through which unfortunately most won't get.

That 'easy ride' desire is the craving for perfection. It is perfection that breeds malcontentedness, pessimism and hatred of life.

Raalsalghul:
Tensaza_ngetsu20, the faster you accept life is random, the better. Don't even start to over think it.

Or isn't that why we advocate that people should think thrice before pro creating?

I've made my peace with it. You too should.

tensazangetsu20:
Religious people say humans have free will to do anything and the things we do as a result of our free will be atoned for one day. I agree that humans have free will alright but why is it the most important things that can make life much more bearable for you as a human being are completely out of your control leaving you with just mundane things.

The first thing is to be born. Honestly, if you gave every human on earth a choice today to not exist or continue living, I can assure you that at least 70 percent of the human race will choose not to exist. A lot of people are going through so much suffering and pain that we can't even understand. I am a strong anti-natalist at heart and I believe that the greatest salvation a human being can have is to not be born but how fair is it that two people can just have sex and gbam a baby is born. No one asks for that child's permission whether he wants to live or not and whether he loves it or not he's born and that's it. It makes absolutely no sense at all. I believe this is the most important decision humans should be able to make with our free will and somehow we cant make it.

The second is the type of country we would love to be born in. If this was even a possible choice, I wonder if there would be any human beings in Africa. Your nationality pretty much predicts the kind of life you are going to have on earth but even a bad nationality can be mitigated by some characteristics which we also do not get to choose

1. A high intellect: Honestly even though things are bad in Nigeria and generally the African continent, suffering can be mitigated somehow with a very high intellect especially if one goes to school. Straight As in Wassce, First class in the university. High Gre scores. Scholarships to the west of which of course they would welcome such a person with open arms. People say geniuses arent born but made but believe me, that's bullcrap. There's what you call God-given intellect. Everything with regards to academia is just easy for the person. When I was in the university, I had classmates who would study and study and study and they still had a third-class whereas the best student in my department didnt even used to attend lectures. He was so gifted and only used to study a few hours to exams. I am sure a lot of people can attest to meeting such kind of people in their academic lives. This high intellect also translates to helping them get the best-paying jobs. With a high intellect, they would easily scale the most difficult test interviews of companies while those with low intellect will never have a job to do. No one chose to be born with a low IQ and some people struggle all their lives to increase it but it stays one place. This is also something humans could choose before they were born but yet with free will you cant choose this.

2. Good looks: This is pretty much self-explanatory. Good looks will take you anywhere but a lot of people are born ugly. No one chose to be ugly but it was bestowed on them. Another thing we could choose but we couldn't.

3. Wealth: The last one is being born into a wealthy family. Nigeria, alongside the rest of the African continent, is a shitty place to exist but being born into wealth alleviates some of that suffering. Another thing we could choose and with our free will we cant choose.


But then even if you were born into a developed country with a low IQ you can still have a decent life. Drive a good car, live in a nice house. You can be an artisan and artisans in the west earn a lot of money. Being an artisan in a third world shithole is a sure way to die in poverty


I feel that life is just a game where someone higher than us is just using humans as pawns for his own enjoyment. I mean why should someone be born in Canada, Switzerland and someone is born in Nigeria, Liberia, Ghana etc. Why should some people struggle through school even with hard work and some people just breeze through. They tell you as a child you can be whatever you want but there are certain professions you cant touch if your IQ is less than 140. How many people have such high IQs. Why should a man be constantly rejected for being short and ugly while another gets the attention of ladies because hes handsome. None of us chose these things but we came and met them all here and we are told we have free will. The things that will make life enjoyable for us we couldnt choose and now we must work hard not to anger our creator.


I feel someone somewhere is just using us for his own excitement.

dodoatirice:
My Aunt’s hubby sent me the pictures this morning and said they had killed the devil and that they held a prayer session last night under the said tree in Their compound as they recieved people from church and held the meeting in the open, under the said tree.

This morning lol, they woke up and the bird hung dead from the tree. Probably passed the night there and died. Now in my Aunts home, they are holding more prayer sessions currently casting out the devil hahahhahahahaahahahah

cococandy:
You know their god only looks out for men.

Let a woman do something mildly similar to why they’ve been doing for centuries and suddenly Jesus is coming back soon

cococandy:
You don’t feel this confused when you see a man with multiple women. Y’all only remember God when it seems men aren’t being favored in a situation. Clowns

Prettygirl200:
Oga go and check urself abeg if u keep acting this way I don't think u will even get married, are u looking for a perfect being? Remember u are not perfect too

Magnoliaa:
Sighs. SMH.

Mcxtraglitz:
You ended it and you came to tell us and we learnt nothing...
One thing I've noticed regardless is that ladies don't come here to discuss their issues... Na so one come the other day about his pregnant girlfriend and advices dey go here and there until the babe told here side of the story...

NoToPile:
Too much teenage/unwanted pregnancy stories nowadays.

What happened to 'not having sex'

A lot of issues will be avoided.

jesusjnr2020:
You're welcomed dear.

The welfare of our Master's sheep is very important to us, that's why we do our best to guide them, and pray for them everyday so they'd remain on course and not go astray, and you're His sheep, aren't you?

So it's no big deal... I'm just doing my job.

However you have to also do yours and try and stay on track, so that our job would be made easier.

God bless u too sis.

jesusjnr2020:
Lol! They think they know when they don't.

I'm good oh thanks. I hope you're fine too.

Nice to have you back.

jesusjnr2020:
Does it really matter as per the topic?

He believed in the existence of a "God", whoever it was, so he was a believer yet he was more intelligent than those who don't!

So he wasn't that foolish.

Aflix:
Read the topic again madam/oga. It’s “my mother” not my female mother or females. The OP is complaining about his mother same way any other person can complain about his/her father. No be gender issue, na parenting issue. And if you took time to read the topic, you would see that the main issue is not the mom refusing him money.

Aflix:
You must find way to bring gender inside every issue

Odewaleadesoye:
Congratulations brother! More wins Sir.

Kriss216:
The only job an average Nigerian girl can do to make money is prostitution that's why it's easy to lure them with prostitution.

The rate our girls are using their kpekus to generate funds should be discussed at the National Assembly cos it has become a national issue.

Lawly:
90% of Nigerian women have that same problem - entitlement mentality. This makes them very selfish, wicked and soul-less to even their loved ones. That's why it's always common seeing mothers-inlaw and daughters-inlaw fighting over a man but you hardly if not impossible seeing a father-in-law from either side fighting the man or his wife. Nigerian women believe that everything must be about them and them alone and everyother persons can go to hell and die they don't care. Very very very rare to see a Nigerian woman that is not dangerously selfish.

Hathor5:

Farfalla:

Farfalla:
I assume "yanga" means "shakara". I don't know your history with the lady, but I notice (at least on Nairaland) that a girl's age will always be mentioned whenever a man can't have her way with her. ALWAYS. Why did you have to mention that she's 27? Like it should have an effect on her decision or what?

If not that, it's the empty threats of Shiloh and menopause. It a very defeatist attitude if you ask me.

But hey, what do I know?

jmoore:
Give an example on how UK is more corrupt than Nigeria.