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Tzar:
You clearly assumed a lot of things on my behalf. Where did I write that 18year old males are not affected by the same yardsticks?. Which scripture or ethics are you using to justify your position?
The Bible & Quran clearly states that a child can be married off as soon as they enter puberty. Although medically for females, that may not be appropriate, because the cervix is still too narrow at 11-14yrs, but by 18yrs most can carry a baby probably better than 30yr olds.
I tell you again a lot of so called adults have the emotional maturity of a 5yr old, while you find some 18-21yr olds handling relationships with the metal dexterity of a genius.

Basicend:
If they work or their character and remove all these materialistic and fiary tale ideas from their heads. . Husband will show.

Nigerian girls are too fake.

Righteousness2:
Do not let all these things on Earth Confuse you .
Do not worry over them or make anxiety and fears overwhelm you because of them.

Nobody makes Eternal life in Heaven because he/she is married.
Nobody makes Heaven because he/she has children.

All these things are gifts from GOD. You don't need to struggle, worry or kill yourself for a Gift. It is Given.

Pursue what is relevant and what really Matters. What really Matters is the Genuie Salvation of your soul. This alone is what matters. This alone is what you should Do all you can to have. It is only possible through JESUS Christ.

Tzar:
You are partially wrong.
1. Generally, all women are physically & physiologically ready for marriage at 16yrs.
2. They are legally ready at 18yrs.
3. Finally, mentally they are ready at different ages between 18yrs and infinity
You could be 40yrs and be mentally immature for marriage and be 18yrs and mentally ready for marriage.

The difference in age counts for nothing. There are many 18+ who married and had a lifelong of a great marriage and 40yrs + whose marriage did not last 48hrs.

Walkee:
boys of 12 would gladly get married if they could find a wife. Which woman would marry a 12 years old boy?
You online people like to pretend as if women don't only marry a man who can slave his life away to an early grave in order to provide for them. If this 44 years old man didn't have money and probably a good car and respectable house and financial stability you think the 17 years old would be dying to marry him?
What ethics are you even talking about?
What's the difference between a 17 years old girl and an 18 years old girl? Most 16 years old girls already know everything about sex, abortion etc. A 16 years old girl is the equivalent of a 26 years old boy when it comes to sex. If she gets pregnant for the man, is the omniscient elder brother going to rip the foetus out of her womb?

Carot:
what baffles me is when they say they are in luv. What does a minor know about luv

Walkee:
that's a lie. Some states in Nigeria accept 16 years old as adults. All the northerners publicly marrying 12 years olds what has anyone done about it? Majority of married women married below 17 years of age. Girls below 17 gets pregnant everyday and give birth there's nothing anyone can do about it. You think I'm emotional like you? I don't even like children to begin with, if she gets pregnant at 16 am I going to kill her?

Tzar:
Mr man, there is nothing wrong if they are truly both in love and have no selfish or ulterior motive behind their decision to marry.
Your 17 year old sister is too young tho. You guys can ask him to wait for 2-3 years for her to fully mature.

Maconstruct:
In Europe and Asian churches ppl don't speak in tongs n fall under anointing only Nigerian churches.
Anyway, anything to alleviate unemployment is a welcome development

Carot:
be sincere, will you allow your 17 yr old daughter marry an old man? Am asking cos I know you to be responsible

Hathor5:
Bratislava invited you to the party. My own 'unfollow-me' because of Erica from Big Brother hasn't even been noticed by others.

Just because I didn't get a cool nickname like Medusa?

Klass99:
Thanks babe.

By the way I like how you kept it cool, klassy and mature in your own way.

You feeling me?

Klass99:
At the first bolded, you are absolutely right!

Second bolded, just means I am taking risks worth taking and no longer playing it safe when it comes to my career, health and relationships etc.

Klass99:


At the bolded, yeah there's comedy here but it's nice and fun, when it's coming from a place of friendly banter and not malice, perceived slights, paranoia or personal vendettas.

As I grow older each day, I don't have the stomach for toxic people and environments. Which is why I am minimizing my use of NL, there's just too much of it here.

I'll rather catch good comedy through TV shows like my wife & kids, cartoons, witty people etc. My year is going well so far, I'm being cautiously reckless this year with my dreams and hoping for the best.

It's always a pleasure engaging with you

Klass99:
You had me laughing out loud .

Truth is, when I saw the exchange last night these were my thoughts and what I wanted to say to Cococandy.........

Coco on the beats (I get rhymes sha ) I am besides myself with laughter right now and enjoying your drama.

The thing na turn by turn, e be like sey, e don reach your turn now. So, enjoy this season's drama

I got distracted by my favourite crime documentary "Deadly Affairs" but I was impressed with her mature handling of the situation.

You can stay away from NL for a week or month, not even visiting the site as a visitor. The moment you return, you are right back to the same toxicity and drama. Nothing changes!

I hope you are good though and 2022 is going well?

cococandy:
1) sure I’ll unfollow you. Didn’t even realize you unfollowed me.

2) I’m referring to the OP’s husband. He’s disrespecting her and acting like he’s the victim by moving out.

3) WTF??
Do you automatically assume that people are talking about you? Like are you the one disrespecting your spouse on this thread and moving out? How’s this about you?


I want to ask if that’s what your last comment is about but that would seem wild to me. Like if you really makes such assumptions and run with it na wa

ModelLook:
I have been seeing this posts on Facebook since yesterday and there are things I would like to say.

First, we know its his choice and I respect that. He is also entitled to do anything with his body but I think decisions like this needs to be thought through very well.

The only thing constant in life is CHANGE. Meaning we all change with time. At certain points in our lives we tend to want things we initially said we didnt want in the past.

Like me for example, after getting my B.Sc in 2015, I remember saying I will never go to school again becos getting that B.Sc was so stressful for me. I even had to come back the following year to clear my SIWES and Project Defence before I could collect my B.Sc Degree by hand. I came out with a 2.2 grade and I'm proud of it but I almost swore with sand that I will never study again and I kept on saying it years after that I will never go back to school again. I was done with School for life.

But fast forward 2022, I am already planning on going back to school to start a fresh degree. Some days ago, I was buying some study materials and one spirit said "Remember what you said years ago" and that memory flashed right before my very eyes and I just started laughing.

Bottom line is....
WE AS HUMAN BEINGS CHANGE WITH TIME. NEVER MAKE IRREVERSIBLE DECISIONS.

This man might say he never wants kids now so he goes to get a Vasectomy but what if he decides to change his mind tomorrow but unfortunately he has done a vesectomy which is totally IRREVERSIBLE.

In this life, Never say never!!!

IRREVERSIBLE decisions like this has rendered alot of people sad for the rest of their lives.

Same thing happen to Popular Wrestler John Cena. He did a Vasectomy years ago but when he engaged his fiancée Nikky Brie of the Bella Twins who was also a wrestler too, she got frustrated in the relationship because she wanted children but unfortunately John Cena couldnt give her kids. She later broke up with him and now has a kid with popular dancer Artem. They are even engaged now. John Cena was heart broken becos she was the love of his life. He has started regretting doing a vasectomy.

My point is, before you take a drastic decision that can make or mar your life, think about your future. Remember that you might change your mind tomorrow and start craving for things you never wanted.

Women also carry out what they call a TUBECTOMY where they cut out part of the Fallopian tube. Similar to Vasectomy for males where they cut out part of the vas defrens.

At least women carry out insurance policy by freezing their eggs before doing such so incase they want children in future, they use their frozen eggs, get a sperm donor and get a Surrogate to carry their child for them. Simple.

At least men should also be smart to by carrying out an insurance policy by freezing their sperm (if there is anything like that) before a vasectomy so in case they change their mind tomorrow to have kids, they would have something to fall back on.

This is my two cents.

Golan007:
I will.

Don't know about others.

Hope I have been absorbed of my crime ?

Golan007:
Absolved could hardly be a typo.

linearity:
Who told you he is employed by Dangote?

Building a refinery is a highly complex and complicated endeavor and what happens is, Dangote will hire a consulting firm to over see the whole process.

The consulting firm breakdown the whole project into sub specialized unit and sub contract each of those sub units to other contractors or consultants.

These sub contractors or sub consultants can further breakdown their units into smaller parts and sub contract each part to other highly specialized companies….it is these highly specialized companies that then hire laborers and specialists and also pay them to work.

Dangote like many will read about this for this first time on the pages of Twitter, that is if someone forwards it to him.

Golan007:
Haha.

Definitely a typo.

Golan007:
You have to cope with the grammar you cone across on Nairaland.

Viltron:
Something doesn't add up. If you're able to sponsor your 3rd degree, in hell like Nigeria, you're not an average Joe

TooMuchStuff:
Dangote is a goat. As in full blown mehhh meehhh

If he was Usman Kabir Laden from the North as a fellow Muslim would Dangote let him be labourer ?

How many Southern University Engineering graduates has Dangote absolved like he did for BUK n ATBU Las year??

Like Buhari like Dangote. Fulanis are all same

IceColdVeins:
delusion of grandeur ?
This thread is an eye opener for overthinkers

Tomek09:
Sorry, are you writing the contributory factors off??

LordIsaac:
Check the meaning of the word "justification" and then compare with "causative factors" and you will see that you are just arguing needlessly.

LordIsaac:
You didn't read my submission before talking, that's the problem.

There's no justification for rape. However, it has so many causative factors (a basic undergraduate course in the social sciences will teach you that social problems have myriad causative factors). One of the factors of rape, as researched by scholars (including Menachem Amir in his Victim precipitation theory) posits that, indecent dressing can result to rape. It is a well documented study in Criminology, irrespective of your inclinations or biases.

LordIsaac:
I will not.....you should be decent enough to open your mind to knowledge. Dress decently!

socialmediaman:
Some people naturally worry over things they can't control, over other people's problems. It's a type of personality