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NybenSBF101:
Why 13y/o? Too bad. He married a feminist

What has feminism got to do with this?

victorazyvictor:
So you marry to be an investigator.
Madam na you put asunder o!

Put asunder what?

luminouz:
Lol...this one just destroyed her marriage when she realized he had nothing to offer. Can she do same to Dangote?


N.B: Not condoning pedophile behaviour but we all know women will tolerate more shiits than this as long as the money is good. For her to record him multiple times showed she has a vendetta.

You are condoning it.

Just say it with your full chest.

TONYE001:
So, this DJ should stand by her husband in this case?

This what you're implying?

That is exactly what he is implying.

Afterall, what has the man done?

TONYE001:
This is just too shameful to read.

As a man, I feel embarrassed. As a married man, I feel even more embarrassed.

God forbid!

I'm proud of this DJ for her boldness to speak out in this case. This is EXACTLY how every woman should act.

I know society would always find a way to turn the narrative against the woman (may soon happen on this thread)... despite this, please, speak out. Stop shielding your abusive spouses. Marriages should be enjoyed....not endured. Dear women, don't allow society to make you enduring beings....you deserve every ounce of happiness there is in your marriages....

Hopefully, this man will go to jail.... and he should stay there for the longest possible time.

I feel for the minor. This innocent minor now needs support. Psychological, physical and spiritual supports. May this DJ and other adults involved in this matter ensure she gets all these supports. She should be taken to a doctor for a total review.

100% likes.

joseph1832:
the wife obviously made those videos just to get evidence against him. She knows exactly what she was doing, it's evident because she hid the face of the 13 year old girl...

Child molesters will always say they love little girls because, they are tighter, firmer and fresher. The man is a goner, when he's detain by the police, he is going to have one hell of a time, because child molesters, rapists, armed robbers, kidnappers are among the set of people police hate with passion. That man is going to endure enjoy a magnificent dose of verbal abuse from those female police officers. I have not one ounce of pity for him.

Was.she supposed to expose the face of the victim?

A child at that?

Funny comments on this thread!

Interesting how the love for marriage and keeping the home no longer matters .

dominique:
He even put up an unflattering photo of her

For him to have thrown a whole party to celebrate his divorce, he mush have seen premium shege in the marriage. I can't blame or judge anybody for escaping a marriage with a toxic spouse. May we not marry enemies disguised as spouses

Amen

As in, shege promax!

Bros said this affliction must not follow him into 2025

In extremely poor taste.

People, women especially need to learn self-control around celebrities.

If you know you can't control yourself, then avoid the pictures, coming onstage to dance with him/her etc.

The woman might have been over-excited that she is taking pictures with her best musician.

It is well.

Delightsome2023:
divorced feminist who is an expert in dishing ill advice to break Marital homes.
Your evil plans Will failed in Jesus' name. Amen

You need to work on your comprehension.

Is there any marriage in the OP?

Do you wish a man praises your daughter with such nonsense?

Mom007:
Just imagine.
Na so one ask me that year, right in the middle of trying to breakup our long distance relationship, (I was in ekp, he was in Benin o, same state.), "can you share?" Can you just beat that? For a full how many minutes I couldn't even understand what he ment due to the ridiculousness of it. He was now trying to explain and midway stopped because he probably realised how stupid he sounded.

Ladies, please respect yourselves really. If it smells bad, love yourself enough to walk away, take time to heal and wait. A better person will still come. Stop letting these silly boymen insult your generation on the name of relationship. You will hate yourself last last.

But you have not answered if you can share na

Just let them talk long enough for the stupidity to shine through.

@OP:

I don't get the 'love' here.

I I thought the goal of such relationships was marriage. I was waiting to read they finally got married and this ends with side chicism?

The woman's brain has been exchanged with sawdust.

Even the wife sef doesn't respect herself.

poshestmina:
The Anniversary is for you and her,not including her brothers.
It’s wrong and your anger is justifiable.

Well said.

A lot of posts has told him how to address it so it doesn't escalate and the wife learns that it sends the wrong message.

Goodluck to him and madam.

And congratulations to the OP on his sixth anniversary.

tobby20:
I've read everybody opinion
Guy organise a family and friends end of year party . Buy same aso ebi with some chains and rings (exactly the same ). Gift your wife one b4 , and gift 2 girls in her presence also (like your sisters, female friends etc ) then watch her reaction .
Start from there

You like vawulence!

2025willbegreat:
And the day my hubby will found out that she is using our shower he will not find it funny he will be very angry with me. I don't want to loose my marriage because if this issue

While you are right that your husband will be angry that your niece is using your bathroom without his consent, don't you think there are underlying issues if you are 'afraid of losing your marriage' because of this?

Dilijingsly:
I've got a niece and I want to change her name to Muslim before she write WAEC but her first school certificate has Christian names. How do I do that??

Why do you want to change the names her parents gave her?

Factcheck0001:
Avoid long talk, if it happens to u walk away n let's see who will lose.

Even if u see ordinary text on your husband phone walk away, the street will b willing to take u back

Many of u are still kids, I won't b surprised u ain't married

Get married first n have first hand experience n see life from different angle

A man can marry a million times n he will b fine but a woman herself will b tired when she has to marry the third husband

Strangely, the opposite is what obtains in real life.

Men wail with thousands of podcasts dedicated to the lonely old man and how men are loved for what they have and not who they are bla bla bla.

Perhaps those podcasts get something right: there is nothing absolutely loveable about the Character most of you have displayed on this thread. The only thing to love is your 'money' for those lucky enough to have it.

I understand your views have been coloured by the women of old and I don't fault you: they let the men of old get away with all sorts of nonsense and delayed their punishment till their kids were grown.

Women of today have the ability of walk away from situations that doesn't work for them anymore. And it is not out of malice; it is knowing their worth and deciding not to be a part of the shenanigans.

If they want other partners, cool; if they don't, they are buoyant to care for themselves and their kids.

Nice one! 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏

Oluromantic:
Buka, focus on how to be a Godly wife to someone and prepare for the challenges inherent. All this glory outside marriage is not what you're made for. Simple!

As my maker, noted sir.

Factcheck0001:
Are u married?

What has ny marital status got to do with it?

Factcheck0001:
I guess Solomon, David, Abraham n co are Muslims?

Though I don't support infidelity but I believe some situations are best manage with maturity

The way a man reason is quite different from d way a woman reasons

What if d op father decide to marry a second wife, what will op n his mother do?

The worst is to pack out of d house n d man will b free to do whatever he wants, in d long run its a win win case for d father n a lose lose case for op n his mother

Solomon had 1,000 women, David committed adultery with Bathesheba and killed her husband; Abraham slept with his maid and we see the result.

Rahab was a prostitute; Tamar slept with her father-in-law; Rebecca connived with Jacob to steal Esau's birthright etc.

I am sure you now understand that the actions of Bible characters (even those called 'good') are nott prescriptions of how Christians should live their lives today.

The only example is Christ.

The 'I don't support infidelity' flying around on this thread is a cop out: you inherently see nothing wrong in infidelity else you won't work so hard to prove that 'male adultery is different from female adultery'.

You see nothing wrong with an adulterous man; he is just exhibiting his African tendencies.... own it.

@ the wife walking out of the marriage: it is not a 'punishment' to the man; it is removing herself from an unpleasant situation because she deserves better.

It is like resigning from a toxic job; 'you don't aim to 'punish' your employers; you want to move on from an environment killing your spirit.

Oluromantic:
Lol. Why do you feel so hurt with what's not your business in the first place pepperbody

Do I sound hurt to you or is this the new deflection tactics?

Take your own advise and don't speculate the source of a woman's livelihood when there is no reason to do so.

Factcheck0001:
if only u understand we are in Africa n your forefathers even married more than one wives n heaven did not fall

Your forefathers also trekked, farmed, worshipped idols and lived in huts. If you are from Calabar, they probably killed twins also.

In addition, they did not have smart phones so waited months to communicate what you do in seconds.

Which of their other lifestyles are you adopting?

So that I know you are a proper African man.

Factcheck0001:
the wife should sleep around now

The earlier the better u understand that men are different from women

A man can marry 50 wives n have 100 concubines n still live a good life

A woman can't even marry 2 husband's n she would even b afraid if she's caught sleeping around even if she's a widow she has to b coded with it or remarry

Many of u don't know anything

You that knows something, tell us.

I speak from a Christian point of view and there is nothing like a man & woman is different when it comes to expectations of fidelity and faithfulness in marriage.

There is no separate hell for men & women.

The moment a man/woman steps of out their marriage, something happens.

purples25:
Honestly many of them think they are the only human beings.

Women taught them so.

I remember a facilitator who said his wife will take almost any nonsense than infidelity.

And he did not intend to lose her/ break his family because she was a woman of value & substance and carried herself according.

While I am indecisive about anyone in the OP's shoes telling or not, what irks me is that they see nothing wrong in the father's alleged adultery.

There is no iota of kindness or thoughtfulness towards the wife. It is all about defending an African man's right to adultery.

Sucre6:
He's living his life, who am I to stop him ?

If he's as rich as Ned Nwoko and decide to marry younger girls, the society won't see anything wrong with it right? My mom is too busy keeping her home, she knows my dad better than we all do, so she handle things her own way and I never have them quarrel or argue about anything before

My dad was alive to his responsibilities and he made sure we lacked nothing and my mom too, so what ever rocks his boat is really cool by me, no be me devil go use spoil my family

Wait, your mother was busy 'keeping her home' while your dad was busy committing adultery?

It is well.

nedekid:
Yes naa, report him to your mum.
Hope your mum is financially comfortable to take care of herself and your siblings when baba decides to chase you guys from he house. Lol
It happened to my friend back in the day. His loaded dad had a solid country home in their village somewhere in Ogun state, apparently close to his sons school. His sons will take their friends to party there during weekends since it had a pool, cook etc. Basically a village mansion.
Na so my guy land with his friends one weekend only to Jamb popsi with his friends all parting with bus loads of campus small small girls. Lol.
Baba called his 2 kids, told them if they dare, make them tell their mamas, that he will pursue the two wives along with all the children then marry 2 new smallies! He put hand for pocket give the wad of cash and told them to go back to campus.
Omo those guys kept their mouth shut. Lol

Chai!

Money must be made.

wany:
Men are selfish and self centered.

It is usually the audacity for me

Nnamdipapa:
Most of the time, they put a lot into the marriage and get little in return. Cut men a little bit of slack will ya?

A lot like what to warrant infidelity as a reward?

coleon:
To think that it's a man that posted this is so nauseating.What happened to the bro code? I remembered the famous saying my dad always quote before his demise when my mum turned all her sons against him because he had side chicks, he will always say " e nu eh le wa ye" in Yoruba. Today I'm a man with kids and family and I realised my dad did nothing wrong but just being a man. Why is cos I'm doing much worse than what my dad did, it's just African in men to have side gigs and not anything new. It's unfortunate we have men these days that don't even have anything going but being effeminate.

Your definition of a man is someone who lacks self control to keep his stuff in his pants?

If you want to sleep around, why don't you abstain from marriage? Why take vows to be faithful when you have determined you will break it?

Anyways, I don't blame you; It is the modelled behaviour you saw.

G0Oodharddick:
You're a very fuuulish man

Oga, men do not the cheat. It is the nature of a man to have as many women as he wants and sleep with them all , and heaven will not fail. David, Solomon, Abraham, etc all had numerous women in their lives and heaven didn't fall.

What you call cheating in a man is completely different from women's cheating. Once a woman cheats, the family is completely destroy

Kindly explain what destroys the family if the wife decides to join in the sleeping around.

purples25:
See what men are saying about a cheating man, unlike what they want for a cheating woman in the other thread.

Somebody even said men's cheating does not destroy the family unlike women's 😂

Same people wey attack me die because I said the man in the other thread should handle the female cheat calmly.

Hilarious thread

The cheating husband isn't the family destroyer; it is the son who wants to report him + the mother (if she decides to act on it) that are the family destroyers.

It tells you how they think and that they do not mean any good for women.

Oluromantic:
Fellow single mother. Single mother glory. Sorry my word hit you.

No single mothers in my family

I guess you are too slow to understand that your post did not hit on single mothers but on the income source of women.

I hear you that there is no single mother in your family. There is however none of them making good money for themselves else you will.not attack the source of income of a woman you know nothing about.

A financially handicapped married woman is not a flex except if your family believes a woman is nothing without a man.