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TV01:
Can a woman refuse a man physical intimacy from the very inception (vow taking) of marriage? Does "bodily autonomy", mean that a husbands access to his wife's body is only if and when she says so? Further, does "bodily autonomy" mean a wife can give her body to anyone she chooses?

The term "conjugal rights" exist for a reason. It isn't actually marriage without them. There should never be a need for violence or coercion. Rather discussion, agreement and mutual understanding.

I don't agree with the term marital rape as it serves to essentially hollow out marriage. And withholding sex is equally contrary, will "marital rape" be twinned with "withholding sex"? If for some reason it descends into real harm or violence, then perhaps assault could be considered. But that should never be in view in a Christian marriage.

....very well said. Pretty much articulates the Christian position. Hope all's well.



TV

cococandy:
1. Are all these long stories a way of saying that if a spouse says no to sex and the other person forces them into the act, that it’s not rape? You guys really can’t be serious.

2. We can talk about how it’s unfair to agree to be married to someone and refuse to have sex with them.

We can talk about how marriage means you’re agreeing to be only sexual partner they have and thus their expectation of having (hopefully blissful) sexual experiences with you is normal.

3. But we can’t gloss over the real fact that sometimes, some things can happen in a relationship that affects a partners mind or body in such a way that they’re not willing in the moment to have sex. Any attempt at that time to force them into sex is rape.

Pls……🙄🙄🙄

Quarterpast:
Oh, you've got Twins? Congratulations my dear sister.

fman:
I don't understand u
U asked for opinion
I gave my humble opinion.
Now u r dragging my family..
Are u ok

fman:
Nagging.
I dislike nagging and attention seeking ladies

essentialone:
Chika Ike Is Allegedly Pregnant For Ned Nwoko

Though Rita Daniels has come out to deny ever making a video to threaten actress Chika Ike to leave Regina Daniels’ husband, there are still developments of the story that seem like there is actually something going on.
According to a video posted on YouTube by Top-Notch Naija Media, billionaire Ned Nwoko and actress Chika Ike are allegedly expecting a child.
If the information shared on Youtube is anything to go by, then the Chika Ike is on the verge of becoming the 7th wife of the Ned Nwoko.
Reports made by a YouTuber, Chika is pregnant for Ned and she is set to give birth in a house in London that was purchased for her by Ned.

Bobodee09:
Is people like you that makes men feels marriage is of no benefit to them...take a look at your last sentence??

A man should treat the woman the same way you want someone to treat your sister if you have one and see how sweet your marriage would be ?? Like men are the issue?? How she treat him in return doesn't matter??

First of all the fact doing that doesn't guarantee anything no even pain me , what pain the most is the fact you don't even care how she treat the man in return or you just assume all women are good and angels??

Learn to balance things when talking about Marriage....both partners needs to treat each other good.

SeeWahala:
Chai! When the money was plenty she chased away his entire family from enjoying with him

Now he is back to hustling again . . . Just for child support fees person wey don already retire before

Born20win:
Good evening everybody I am need of mature advice because I am depressed, it happened that I was married fourteen years ago I gave birth to one daughter who is 12 years old. I couldn't conceived again for so many years we had been to hospital and we were fine no medical issue at all. For seven years of having our daughter my husband was faithful he hadn't cheated on me or anything but on the 8th year he started messing around with different women. Although I wasn't aware because I trusted him a lot and I wasn't paying attention until 2021 a random number messaged me on WhatsApp sending me pic of her and my hubby and scan so she was pregnant for my hubby. As shocked I was I couldn't waited for him to returned home I called him immediately crying bitterly asking him if he had impregnated someone else he answered me with so much pride that he tough my reason for calling was something important but I am calling him to ask him atupid questions adding even if is true that he had impregnated 100 women what is my business. He hanged up the phone , I was very hurt by his response I decided to wait until he got home and his response to me was so bad that he told me he wasn't satisfied with the only child I had with him and he wanted more children and he is free to impregnated women one after another. We had a heated argument which led to him beating me in front of our daughter. Which had led us to stopped talking for 6 months while he was doing his things and I was also doing my things focusing on my shop and child. Meanwhile the baby mother had twins girl for him while we weren't talking and 3 months after having the babies he caught her with another man at the house he was renting for her which led to a big fight and he was arrested. He spent 2 weeks in jail while the baby mama refused to bailed him and I was also minding my business I didn't visit him or anything because I was hurt. Then his family went to beg the baby mama to bail her I don't know much details but he was released after they begged her. The day he was bailed out of sudden he apologise to me begging me for forgiveness well I didn't forgive him immediately I was still hurt but I had forgiven him finally. He become the sweetest man I ever met in the beginning and our marriage was working fine and we were stronger again. Then the baby mama was begging him through his family to take care of the kids because he blocked her everywhere and the only way she could have reached him was through his family. His elder brother called him asking him to take care of the children but he refused. He told me everything his brother were asking him to take care of the twins, hmmm it wasn't easy for me to try to convinced him after all the pain I went through because of their mother but after all the children were innocents they didn't have to suffer because of their mother mistake. I told him to take care of them but before he could do so he have to conduct a dna test because if she was able to sleep with another man 3 months after their birth there's a possibility she had multiply partners and the twin may not be his.the dna test were conducted after 3 months and the twins were his and he started sending upkeep money every month then when they clocked 2 years old she met with a guy living in Malaysia and she dropped the twins with my inlaws. My husband begged me to accept them so that he can bring them home, hmmm it wasn't easy but I had accepted. Where the problem now started their mother will come at my house anyhow without announcing and she will say she come to meet her girls. I wasn't happy for her to be coming to my house to see her girls although I can never stopped her from seeing her girls but coming to my house was a no. I told my hubby anytime she want to meet her kids he should dropped them at his elder brother house so they can meet over there but she still coming to my house to meet her girl and when I had enough I told my hubby to return the girls back to her but she refused. Me and him started having issue because of his baby mama if she come to my house she will enter my parlour sitting relaxing and I had enough the was a time I had to dragged her and ask her to leave , she slapped me and I slapped her back and thrown her and her girls out of the house. That evening when my hubby returned we had a heated argument which led to him beating me again for the second time since we got married. I left the house and I went to stay with my sister for 3 good months i found out I was pregnant but I refused to tell him and I kept as a secret to him, he never bothered to call. I never called him too meanwhile I was away he was back with his baby mama. To cut the long story short last year I was blessed with a bouncing baby boy after 11 years of waiting to conceive again , my hubby and I got back together before I put to bed and I just discovered that her baby mama third child who is actually a girl belong to him so the reason why he was keeping quiet when his baby maman use to walked into my house anytime she feels like it was because he impregnated her hoping that she would give birth to a boy but god confused her she gave birth to another girl and I gave birth to my boy. This secret is very hard for me to swallow I really hate my hubby for impregnated her once again knowing fully well she was messing around with other men when she had the wins. My heart is really shattered and going back to her he had put our lives in risk of catching diseases. He is begging me but I am finding it very hard to forgive him I don't know what to do please help?

gift2xl:
My simple advice, Don't leave your home for any woman, stand your ground.

dawnomike:
Wow! This is really a tough matter...
Please, go back to your home because of your kids but please, just mind your business and your kids for the sake of peace.
Only God can change your type of husband at this point... Just do the right things that'll give you peace.
I pray your husband comes back to his senses sooner than later.

pocohantas:
Bill Gates himself has clearly said he regrets the split from a woman who he has known since the 80s and married in the 90s. A woman who has seen him through a lot. But you with 1kva generator and funny brown shoes - thinks it is all about money.

The men without the money always crying on behalf of the rich men. Must be some coping mechanism or schadenfreude for you lots.

godofuck231:
If he does his duties as a husband shuttle and keep your marriage , but.......... NO WAYYYYY

Tightpussy2024:
The thing pepper me aswear!

Women shouldn't make that mistake. Her mother was a rich woman (worked in mobil). I once knew an acquaintance of his that stated she came to visit him in the studio and brought plantain and rice.

See how the alleged hoes/his baby mamas/women he left/leftovers he dumped are peacefully married with children. One married a pastor that has money,thriving fine. The other in America,married too. Why her?

Whoever society sides with always carries last. I am not praying for anything to happen to chioma or Moses bliss wife oh,but if things go south(God forbid I don't wish it),people that once praised them as role model will turn on them.


Women love yourselves! When a man finds happiness somewhere else,no matter what you have done for him or no matter how long you have been,he will chose his happiness over you,over his children,over his career!

starstaz:
Sharp man, 2 baba go use us cash out on Feb 14


Baba go just drop reconciliation music video on Feb 14, and here we go again

Saccharine:
I pray she survives this cos she is unhealthily obsessed with this man and has her whole personality wrapped up in him.

The drugs, violence , humiliation,so toxic. I hope she takes this opportunity to find herself.

I wish her peace.

Goodlady:
Lovely couple becoming estranged. Marriage is tough

elasticlala:
I prefer to fall into the hands of the agents of darkness where prayers could still work, than fall into the hands of human agents. Anything agents for Naija na evil

Tjra:
House/Land Agents in Nigeria are demons. Those guys reap for a living. It's all about the 3k visitation fees for them if they notice your desperation.

You need to stay rugged, give them specifications and let them know upfront you won't pay a single dime if they take you to any apartment that doesn't meet your predefined preferences.

BTW, why you dey call your fiancée Banny? Sounds disrespectful. Or maybe na me be old school

Boo3nity:
Oga those guys will beat you to stupor and make lick their synthetic kpekus afterwards twice on Saturday.
You think they don't do in-house fighting and have strenght only demons can give?
Come Surulere come hear how one bobrisky looking Mofo beat the living crap out of four straight guys at a club last night then you'll reconsider your stance

thorpido:
The madness is just too much.

MT:
At the bolded, you need to change your circle of your friends in 2025.

You don’t really know what is going on out there.

If you can’t see it, how can you aim for it?

PantShifter:
Look at this guy. How much is 1 million sef?

Just so you know there are people in Nigeria who earn a monthly salary of over 5million a month and these people are not even the Managing Director of the company where they work!

Nazgul:
A Nigerian owned company paying people 1m monthly for Oridinary accounting job that can easily be outsourced for far cheaper rates. Biko sufry de lie.

Buharidgeneral:
Plenty people. Can count 3 within my cycle. Just normal accounting work. Employee and employer relationship. Some even 3 days onsite 2 days remotely

Nazgul:
No company in Nigeria can pay you such amount monthly unless your business is recording a tremendous amount of success or you're earning in USD.

That's the only way you can hit the 1m mark monthly.

AfahaAbia:
That number 5 is the one that bothers me the most. It happened to my mum and dad and I'm scared it shouldn't happen to me. My mother was always travelling to see her children in different locations leaving my father to sort himself out alone.