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Mariangeles:
Disciplined indeed!

Even she does not believe herself.

Mrs. Akpabio seems very bored.

Doesn't she have a pet project to run?

While I have never been a fan of their 'marriage', I am wondering what could be rocky in it.

Even if Ned has moved on to a younger wife, it would be foolish of Regina to fume over that.

He has never hidden his values from inception.

BadBradley:
Classless mofo. Seems this burna boy stuff with the olosho is a sef off to upset the PuffDadfy oil stuff.

He's he's trying to do a PR he's not gay, well.....

This is a point!

reiddecuti:
The mystery in this oil sector is yet to be reveal. The cabals running the sector are heel bends to make sure this sector doesn't work and Nigerians are so docile to see that.


Fix the oil sector, fix Nigeria.

It is a real mystery

COOL10:
You foolish women always think you have the upper hand when it comes to emotional manipulation. Now you've seen the one wey pass you. How I wish all men could be like your husband. That's the only way you inconsiderate sluts will have sense.

You know it is not compulsory to marry a woman.

At least in Naija of today, if you choose a good location and maintain your lane, you can get away with marrying a man.

Please spare yourself the torture of marrying a gender you described as 'inconsiderate sluts'.

dammyz101:
U can't have homosexuality without homosexuals. So what are u really saying?

He is saying accept the homosexual ( once he acknowledges that he is a sinner looking for salvation) while condemning the act (homosexuality).

Example:

Your pastor preaches against fornication or lies every Sunday, telling the Church that they are going to hell if they do not repent.

However, if a fornicator or liar comes to your church, your pastor ideally will not send him/her awa; he will instead lead them to Christ for the work of permanent salvation to commence.

immaculatesense:
Sir, I respect the fact that you want to be civil. But it is impossible to please men and look good at the expense of God's irrevocable standard.
My submission:
On homosexuals. Everyone deserves salvation and God's desire is that all men be save. So, if a man who is addicted to sleeping with a man and realizes that his actions are wrong but finds it difficult to help himself no matter how long he tried. If such a person comes to church with the hold of freedom through Christ from that addiction like any other addiction, such a man should not be crucified but assisted by the church to win the war over that sin. John 8:1-11. Pay attention to verse 10 but don't neglect verse 11.
But this is where the word of God should be carefully divided. In case the homosexual comes to church to fellowship with the belief that he is doing nothing wrong claiming that was how he was created or believing that Christ had paid it all and thus he can live anyhow. Such a man should be excommunicated from the church or fellowship. A little yeast leavens the whole lump and that is the standard of scriptures. 1 Corinthians 5:1-7.
You may disagree, I respect your view and I have made mine in a polite way.
God bless you.

This beautifully summarises the stance of the Bible on any sinner.

biggz82:
She looked slim on that banner, so after the wedding she added weight?


Don't fothat marriage is an escape root from poverty for most girls

Marriage is an escape route for women in a country where more than 90% of its citizens (men included) are classified as poor.

GloriousGbola:
So this guy a pretty boy being bullied by a midget?

Is that what this is?

Beauty and the aggressive dwarf?

Ugochukwu a certified bitch ass nigga.

Abeg give me summary.

😆 @ beauty and the aggressive dwarf.

InfoGuru118:
https://news360ng.com/breaking-babangida-finally-admits-mko-abiola-won-june-12-election/

Is he about to die?

deavicky:
introduce him to ur business and monitor him.

You guys are definitely on a mission to ruin her life.

Seunmuham:
For saying," being single is the worst thing that can happen to a lady", I'll say you have a pop corn for a brain and your lecturers failed, you should be locked up in a 4x4 cage for being a danger to society.

ejire042:
I recently came across this post that resonated deeply. I feel compelled to share my perspective, as I've experienced something similar. It seems many women risk losing good men due to their own behavior. They try to control their partners, and if the man isn't financially successful, they perceive him as weak and resort to silent treatment. While it's understandable to have financial security, using money to turn your husband into an errand boy diminishes him. You might even push him to the point where he withdraws, like when he refuses to fight your battles with neighbors, likely because he recognizes you're the source of the conflict.

The real issue isn't your husband; it's you. You need to focus on self-improvement and stop blaming him. He will likely be fine without you, but the same might not be true for you. If you find marriage to him stressful, imagine the alternative: living alone. Would that truly be better?

I can relate to this from the other side. My wife once labeled me lazy and unambitious. I knew my own worth and refused to conform to her expectations just to prove something. I wouldn't take just any job to validate my manhood. I felt like a failure, and she found me less attractive. We were on the verge of collapse when my fortunes changed dramatically. Now, things are completely different. My income far surpasses hers. My tithe alone is far more than her monthly income. Now she appreciates her husband.

Your husband is likely a good man who simply lacks motivation, perhaps because you control the finances and make all the decisions. Don't give up on him. Stay with him, respect him, and pray for him. He's not the root of your problems.

pocohantas:
Yenyenyen, this is what married men go through without complaining.

1. Do married men provide, then come home to cook and clean? Do married men work to provide while carrying pregnancies and giving birth to babies?

2. And who said married men don't complain? For this Nigeria, wetin eyes of most non-earning wives dey see no be here.

Women would always be women indeed.

I don't know why despite being supposedly logical, these guys would always pretend not to know the difference.

It is this kleg argument they use in getting women like the OP into a sham 50:50 arrangment while whining her that she is different. Until e clear her for eye that she is being severely ripped, given the way most Nigerian marriages/homes work.

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By the way, OP is not going to leave.
Manage your husband, Madam.

I quoted his post and just deleted it because there is no need.

1. You will never get an answer. Except he is a househusband as in the male version of a housewife, the husband's absence will benefit her better than his presence.

2. Like! The need to bend themselves into what daddy likes so that feathers are not ruffled unless he is a godly man nor bi here! Have a friend, stayed at home for some years post marriage. It was frustration that pushed her to get a job. And she is a calm, submissive woman.

purples25:
Don't force yourself if you don’t want to do anything.

In so many aspects you forget that men and women are equal. But you are remembering on Valentine’s Day.

@bold:

UyaiIncomparabl:
Tuface is a low-key opportunist. This one is seeking generational wealth. He will soon dump this one. Give it a few years. He truly knows how to spot them, I must give it to him. Except she can endure his third leg exercise from time to time without complaints like Annie did.

Why would a single, never married, beautiful and highflyer woman like Natasha go for a father of many nations from different mothers like this man? A lack of options or just low self esteem? Because this isn't love. Well, what do I know?

@bold:

The major questions....

Three years later,she will start complaining about him abi?

Great move Tems!

budaatum:
The false assumption here is that a behaviour is innate, when behaviours are actually things you learn by repeatedly behaving.

If an introvert decides to stop behaving introvertishly, and instead learns and starts practicing the behaviours of an extrovert, that person will stop being an introvert and become extrovertish.

As for how long, that depends on the individual and how much work you put in to changing your behaviour. And for conflict, a wise person would know when it pays to be an introvert or an extrovert, and will see them more as tools or weapons in their armour to be used when circumstances require.

@bold

100%

Kobojunkie:
Whatever you do, do not concern yourself with the women because they aren't the ones who broke your trust. Your husband is the retard who not only disrespected you but also reduced your marriage agreement to nothing but a sideshow. Since you already endured for over 6 years, why not endure a bit longer so you can save up the money you need to help you continue life outside of this disrespectful union you call a marriage that you have been living with?

Na kobo be this?

immortalcrown:
Don't leave your matrimonial home unless you want to jump from frying pan to fire.

For now, just be speaking to him and to those he listens to. Infidelity is very bad.

What fire is she jumping into?

Madam, learn from Regina Daniels.

She knows how to dress for each occasion.

TuBaba don get another woman?

Toor!

Or was she the catalyst to the divorce?

cococandy:
They can discuss, they can reach a compromise etc etc. I think all of that goes without saying. Especially if they’re interested in making the marriage work. All that compromise, discussion etc is even bare minimum.

But the moment one party said no and the other forces them, then it’s rape. Dressing it up as assault doesn’t give it a different meaning.

My previous comment for the benefit of others. Not you.
I’m not interested in going back and forth with you on this topic. I know your stance on it and our views do not align. You cannot convince me. I cannot convince you. It’s pointless bantering.

The lack of interest in bantering this topic is mutual.

In a Christian marriage, there is no rape because automatic consent is given. It is clear in the Bible and Christians understand that.

And thunder cannot fire him?

thorpido:
Yes but some are choosing to call themselves non-binary and all those crazy titles.


How have you been?

Great, thanks and you?

Toor! They have no problem

Tightpussy2024:
@bukatyne they can see this as role model or virtuous woman everyone should emulate

This just became clear.

But it is the guy we should be using as a role model na since he was the one who did the action

Tightpussy2024:
Nothing o! Obviously he doesn't rank with the other men!

But whenever you see Nigerians (men and their pick-mes) praising a woman and saying she is role model, know it's suffer head. They can never praise or support a woman enjoying soft life. Or a woman a man pampers and takes cares of

Oh ok.

EmperorCaesar:
Attention and getting chased by others


I wonder what it feels like to have up to 5 different people walking up to you everyweek just to ask to be friends


They practically dont have to do anything to get their DM's full with different messages from random people


As a guy, you have to always make the first move, else, you go just dey lonely

Bobriskky rents wigs and boobs

poshestmina:
More respect ,having much responsibilities and keeping it cool .

You mean you beef men that they can have a lot of responsibilities (I am assuming financial) and be cool?

tosinhtml:
I love as you put the last disclaimer, so you wouldn't enter one chance.

1. Marital Rape itself is a symptom of a problem that people are not speaking loudly about, It means either of the partners is not sexually attracted to one another, usually anyone who withholds sex without reason or use it as bargaining chip is because they are not really in love with their spouse and married for different reasons other than love.

2. It is a common thing for women to marry just to add the marriage tag to their name, I dare say based on personal experiences seen that most women aren't even in love with their husbands, they found someone ready and willing to settle down and decided to marry. They hope to grow in love, some do & others don't as it becomes a 50/50 chance.

3. Before people get frustrated with spouse withholding sex, it must have been happening consistently for a long time. I wouldn't want to believe that just one night or couple of nights that your partner is tired from work stress & you're all up in her face that you guys must have sex. It has to be an underlying issue before the actual frustration comes in.

Your post strangely assumes that only women withhold sex or that all men are reasonable not to sexually abuse their wives.

My post was very neutral; men & women commit all the vices above. The Church is littered with stances of both parties in all manner of vices.