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DevilsEqual:
And why would i want to learn to plait women's hair if i do not plan to own a salon?


As for the man, if he actually did that to save some cost, I'm worried he's just become a full-time hair stylist

Yampotatocarrot:
They still do and it's three meals per day, not two... Completely free... You eat at a spot, change location and eat again

Fineman2:
Nollywood Actor Francis Duru has lost his 15-year old son Ifeanyi, the actor posted it on his social media page.



https://www.instagram.com/p/C-ZlDkTt9K0/?igsh=OXE4ZGJoeHR5N2Ji

REALretep:
[color=indigo]The name of the bank to be born from the merger shall be...
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ihedinobi2:
Wikkiiiiiid!

Classic case of 'truth hurts'.

Thanks for this, @Onegai.

I enjoyed listening to the familiar sounds of tuning when my dad looked for BBC's short wave transmission. Then there was VOA. Then there was a head filled with worry.

There are really good people with real potential who just need a break. Poverty is not necessarily an excuse. It is a real phenomenon and can be a real hindrance to a lot of good development for a lot of people. There are globetrotters who are only such in their imaginations. There are voracious readers and knowledge-seekers who only fantasize about the research they'll do.

Sometimes, it is true that opportunities present themselves in the most unlikely circumstances but they don't always. Not many can catch quality TV or even radio. News can be real expensive to get for some people. And so on. It is not impossible to squeeze good stuff out of hard circumstances but it is hard enough to daunt very hardy people.

wunmi590:
My sister, my chose of English shock you ba?


No mind me 😆 🤣 😅 😌 😂

Abee79:
Foe those who don't have the patience to read the long post, here is a summary:

The writer describes a difficult situation in her relationship. Despite financial struggles, she endured abuse from her partner, including a recent violent incident in front of their children. This event was the final straw, leading her to leave him and move in with family. She believes her partner's current attempts at reconciliation are motivated by his own needs rather than genuine remorse.

You're welcome 🤗

wunmi590:
I've never for once encourage domestic violence, because I've sisters, and I wouldn't want any man to mismange my sisters all in the name of love..

You might think, the Nigeria judicial system is not working, until one fine his or herself on their hand..

DonroxyII:
Career Woman Anyday Anytime Anypoint ....

The job of raising family is by both parents not daddy instituting One value & Mummy is Instituting another value cuz Mummy ain't exposed as she has been retired to the kitchen!

Another problem with Full Housewife is once something happened to the husband or Travelled Remotely for some time, that family is Good as Dead ....

Husband is the chairman Meanwhile Wife is a Co-Chairman thus must not wait for the husband to make sound decisions & Actions beneficial to The Family Without having to slave herself ....Hence, You will be used & Abused!

Career Woman always ... we manage the rest of the idiosyncrasies!

Zonefree:
This is 2024. You guys should stop asking useless questions. No man in his right senses would choose a liability over an asset.

StillDtruth:
Muslim the Liar, where did you see them call them gay?

chidiokay:
i wish some mothers are online to read there daughters comment ... so they will sto troubling god
most of yu ladies here can'T even boast of a 1yr solid relationship but will come online forming madea

pocohantas:
Is your nanny an underage? Or your wife that wakes everyday by 4am wasn't birth by a mother?

I am trying to understand this response.

Magicalsineros:
A. As a young single lady, probably you're in love with a poor guy and you know the same guy does not have vision. He's not working on any meaningful thing that have the potential of breaking him out of poverty. Yet, you're planning on getting married. Before you do that, take a look at this.

Marriage comes with a lot of financial responsibilities and most times, most good people change to bad people due to the weight.
Once you're married, these are the things you will experience.
1. Most if not all your loved ones will remove their hands from you. When you call them for help, they will redirect you back to your husband.

2. When you meet men willing to help, most of them will demand your body in return and by so doing, you'll start commiting adultery. You might even ended up having a child or children outside your marriage and later DNA might expose you.

3. The love and affection you initially have for your husband will vanished and you will be left with regrets and bitterness.
So, before you say YES I DO, take note.


B. I keep wondering, why is it so hard for most men to help a woman without demanding for her body?

What's your opinion about this?

Nice2023:
One woman I have never regret marrying.

Just this morning,I was asking myself,how on earth does she have this strength she uses to run the home. She is a banker,a very senior banker with unmatched humility. A loving mother who cherishes family beyond imagination. A girl I met in Abuja on my way to work now my most loving wife.

In my next world,I will marry her again and again...that is one thing I like about her.

She wakes up every 4am and by 6am everybody's food is ready,including my nanny. In fact,she does not wake my nanny to assist her but allows her to sleep and wake up with the children.

She is one of the sweetest women I have ever experienced. My marriage with her has experienced inexplicable growth and joy altogether.

Financially,she has never hid her money from me...not even one day,even when i don't ask her for it. Anytime she get a raise she tells me.

In summary, I don't regret ever marrying her.

All of the above is what I love about her.

LagosPrince:
Tinubu should be made to regret ever killing the northerners especially children with his military

The north will never forget

pocohantas:
Apples and oranges. How did you mention Jarùs and Odanz in this conversation?

1) Jarùs and Odanz are not divorcees.

2) Jarùs was set to marry the 2nd wife.

3) Jarùs is not broke. He is a highly skilled professional.

4) Odanz might be broke, but he has Twitter fame. Something that is an allure to the girl who is on the same platform.

5) Odanz seems to be a young guy. You can get away with a lot as a young guy. As you get older more is expected.

6) Jarùs gave his first wife 5m to placate her into accepting the second wife. OP here called 250k annual rent HIGH.

7) None of the women attached to the above men were expected to come cohabit to cook, clean and wash.

8 ) Given that you are obviously mixing up married men and divorcees. Do know that a lot of these ladies love the thrill if it is to chop from outside. That is because the first wife is inside doing the work. Tell them to come inside and take over pounding akpu and majority will run.


Divorcees could be a catch. But a divorcee who can't do his laundry himself and still cannot afford washing machine or drycleaner to handle it, is definitely not in this spectrum for most ladies. Stop the delulu.

Gerrard59:
She loses in such a scenario. I would abort mission.


Agreed. Only money can freshen the product.

kkins25:
Interesting...

1. The man who has his own place is broke, but the lady who 250k is too much for is rich abi? Rent of 250k is cheap.. Tell that to the lady that now has to squat with OP..

2. The OP is not a spec? To you abi to the lady?

3. The OP is broke? Is he the one that cannot afford 250k rent? Are you suggesting, because they are rubbing genitals, the man should take over her rent?

4. He has bad traits, sure. But, let's not bring that broke-shaming nonsense into a matter. When obviously, the "broke" person here is the lady.

5. Is it that you ladies no dey touch grass every once in a while? Is every bodies financial situation the same? Or are u the "my value is in my beauty" saida---what's her name self... type of woman?

6. I know it sounds enticing to say "second-hand value" but, that's not what the psychology studies say. Married men are hot cake. This i can confirm from my anecdotal experiences having worked at a hotel in the past.

7. Broke or not, the man is of a higher social status than the woman.

Gerrard59:
I saw the rent part but didn't want to question it because situations are different. He could be the richest dude in his environment. The bold is appropriate. He has to bring forth an additional feature to a comparable bachelor.

P.S. He did not mention children. But if he has any, bad deal for the girl. She loses bigly (apologies to Donald Trump).

Afodot0022:
Life will humble you soon so you realize what life is all about

Sapasenator:
1. Honestly the dude might have other qualities that might have endeared him to her.

2. The vice president of the United State married a divorcee with two kids and till now does not have any child of her own.

3. 250k per annum in rent? That, I agree with you is on the low side and dude will certainly be struggling but again, perception is in the eye of the beholder.

4. Now coming to the subject of virginity, as a guy I must be sincere with you, Virginity is not on the top of the list of the qualities I am looking for in a woman even though some ladies think their virginity to be an asset.

5. It may be but I have other overriding qualities that must be present as well before I consider virginity so a lady should not think highly of herself if virginity alone is what she brings to the table.

GboyegaD:
Did they force him to marry her or do you think he is doing her a favor marrying her? He needs thread with caution and as a man learn to lead his home and not just listen to people like you who want to make him feel he is more than he is.

Sapasenator:
She gives her body to him anyway regardless of whether she lives with him or not. In 96% of relationships, the minimum expectation from the man is the " giving of the body".

Afodot0022:
Good day my lovely people, it always good to share life with you people here. Pls I need to ask, what is the advantage and disadvantage of living together with your girlfriend under the same roof. My girlfriend had an accommodations problem, her friend they stay together kick her out for no just reason, she wanted to get an apartment and the money she was ask to bring was quite much 250k, I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are there..
1... I want to get to know her better cos I believe when you live with someone in the same space, that's when you get to know them better, I was once married and have learnt a lot on how ladies pretend in dating but show their true color in marriage, atleast I want to know her well before making another serious commitment of marriage.
2... She works and earn a decent salary which I think will be an added advantage for me by her supporting by we both sharing bills together, it will lessen by burden. Though I haven't discussed this with her yet but hope to soon cos I can't let her depend solely one me while she works.
3.... Ever since I separated from my wife, it's not been easy living alone as a man, the cooking ,washing ,cleaning and loneliness has not been easy, so we living together will atleast help me in these area.
To be candid, the girl is a good girl and I was the one that disvirgin her, she is submissive and respect me, but you know you can really say of a person character until you live with them.

Now my question is to those that have been in this situation of living together with a girlfriend you are yet to marry, how did this affect the relationship afterwards. Pls share your experience be it negative or positive, I really want to learn from others to see if I can proceed on this or just abort mission by not allowing her to stay any longer. Do you think it make sense I share bills with her or I should should all financial responsibility even though am not capable of that now.. pls help me to navigate this scenario

LilMissFavvy:
$ime ladies are so cheap. A virgin lady who has a stable job reduces herself by dating a divorced man with children, she loses her virginity to such a man, she further reduces herself by going to live with him, giving him her body so freely, $pits