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pansophist:
You're now in the service industry.

All your effort, character, money, even kinds of friends should directly and indirectly have a positive effect on your spouse.

And as you're serving, better do it with a smile, even if you don't like it, because no one likes a frowning server.

Jman06:
But that is what it is nau.

The man is made to:

*Work his butt off to pay bills and take care of the wife and kids

* After working hard in the daytime to make money, he is also expected to work hard at night to satisfy madam in bed otherwise, madam will not be happy with him and you know when madam is unhappy, the whole house is not at peace

* He's not expected to enjoy himself by going out with friends to the bar to drink one or two bottles of beer like he did when he was single, otherwise, he is termed irresponsible man.

* He's not only carrying the financial burdens of his nuclear family, but also those of in-laws (in most cases). His own side of extended family only benefits to the extent madam allows

* He works and works to train the children in school and make sure they stand on their feet financially, and when the children are financially stable, their mom becomes their priority. She's the one who is placed on monthly allowance, who gets flown abroad for healthcare and vacations. She is the one who goes to omugwo during which she's well taken care of.

*If the man defies death from struggling to cater for family, all he gets are occasional bottles of kaikai or some few clothes if the children want to be generous.

* But what usually happens in most cases is that after all the hustling to take care of his family, just about the time the children are done with education and settle down, their father dies from ill health he must have developed during years of hustling with little rest or healthcare , leaving only the mother to enjoy the children's care.

helinues:
Is Dangote no longer a private business owner?

Why should the government be monitoring the activities on how a business man run his business when he his not doing illegal things.

Shalaye is unnecessary

1Sharon:
But that's exactly what yall sound like.

Exceed15:
Now I know the wife is the problem not the side chick. Useless foolish woman who doesn't value what she has until she's loosing it.

idahme:
Equality woman, I hope u support the wife to bring 50 percent of family expenses? If no then your line of arguments is null and void. Equality without equality in financial responsibility is zero equality.

pansophist:
Even without money, the mere presence of a male figure is security for a woman.

Instinctually, the predators of the earth (aka men lol) routine avoid targeting women who have a strong masculine background behind them. Either in the form of her fathers, husband, or even brothers.

To narrow the contribution of men to mere finances in being intellectually dishonest, or such a person never enjoyed the security coverage a man brings.

For example, in the US (I can't find data about Nigeria), most of the prison populations are from single-mother homes. Also, the girls you see doing only fans, e-prostitutions, and just unfortunate people.

It will be extremely difficult for a woman lady/man who has a proper upbringing in a healthy masculine household to fall into any of these societal vices.

Men bring direction, stability, authority, leadership, protection, moral guardians, and a figure of hope. Even a man who doesn't have enough money can still provide these things proportionally.

Anyone who downgrades, narrows, or vilifies the importance of men to mere cash has never had a good man, is trying to win an argument instead of being right, or is just downright idiotic.

ChybuzzDD:
So, which other major care should a man provide other than these??

If a man manages to provide everything he kids need, he's definitely caring for them.

If he fails to do these, you guys will still crucify him

Kobojunkie:
That has absolutely nothing to do with being a man. There are men out there who are loved and cared for by members of their own family. It all depends on the way you position yourself. If you wish to be treated like one who does not deserve care from others, then you will do everything to get just that. What you mostly put in is what you get in return. This isn't about gender really but about the choices an individual makes. The likely reason your father isn't being cared for by those in his family probably has a lot to do with him playing man of the house as opposed to being member of the family like everyone else.

2. All that macho nonsense only matters in the heads of those who hold such delusions. Go out there and see the number of homes where women bear the bulk of the responsibilities in their homes. They don't do it with zero emotions and no weaknesses. There are men out there who are emotionally intelligent beings --- at home with their emotions, even around their family --- and are equally loved and cared for and respected by those in their homes at that. So what benefit is this zero-emotions and zero-weakness stance you claim makes one a man ? What is it based on? That there seems nothing but a quick ticket to the grave for the foolish!

3. God has nothing to do with these human delusions abeg!

emmaodet:
Na WA oo
Everyday on nairaland with new grammars.
Which one is parallel family again? I know that word is used when oppositions decide to run a parallel government from the sitting government after a biased election.

descarado:
He converses with non binary
This place

3seriez:
This British press really have it for harry and Meghan or they are taking orders from above.
I think they are clearly sending a message, that whoever associates with them would have his dirt dug up for all the world to see.

11doubledee:
Oga you are not sorry at all because you very recently denied every accusation by the lady in question.
That shows you are dishonest person.
You are just pretending to be because of overwhelming video evidence.

Sholaco:
On your way to prison...
Why are these great musicians ending their career in controversies?

bluefilm:
He must have most probably pissed his illuminati bosses and gay lords off by the acclaimed secret recordings he's said to have been doing at his house parties

That's probably why the FBI took away all those videos immediately they stormed his diddyhouse, most probably to protect those illuminati bosses and gay keepers, quoting Andrew Tate

id4sho:
My crush that year

Hezzyluv:
He ain't gat choice.

But, since 2016 why now?

Johnson225:
Pastor said he should go to God and collect his money ...omo see talk

fastseo:
A friend of mine whose marriage was 8 years.. The marriage ended in the UK.

LexngtonSteele:
Yeah. I know a family friend who had 3 official children.

Not knowing that the yeye guy who pretends to be a Saint has sowed wild oats. He had 3 bastards as of last count. We know more will come out when he dies.

Mariangeles:
Yeah. It didn't state clearly that the couple were divorced.

CuriousCart:
Now it's "each gender" but if the genders in the story were reversed it would be an all out attack against men. This is why I avoid conversations with my fellow women.

What she did was evil.
Period.

LexngtonSteele:


These breakfast stories are funny to hear as an outsider.

Devastating if you're the one experiencing it or paternity fraud.

Truth is, men can be wicked but our anger no dey last. We can shout but days or a week, we don move on. But you see women ? She can hate you, but force herself to moan for years when you're screwing... the day she will pack from your house...

She will cook your favourite meal, fvck you your favourite style and you will return to find the house empty, surgically cleaned.

Happened to lots of men.

Double0h7:
Legs wide open and the button on the bike; engine vibration, I could understand why women of virtue would want to sit sideways and die 😂

JeffreyJunior:
Thank you for that question, nne.

Only an irresponsible father will be forgotten at old age by his kids and if he was a terrible husband in his prime days too, his wife will leave him in the village to be drinking kai-kai and join her kids abroad.

They will always tell an incomplete story to suit their selfish narratives. Ndi ara.

If they don't benefit from their marriages, they should leave those that benefit from theirs alone.

Na like this some of them dey drink their useless redpill like Pepsi until they destroy their peaceful homes with their own hands and then resort to killing their wives.

[/b]I've added redpill to the checklist for my daughter's marriage. If you chop redpill, you will not marry my daughter[/b]. I'll rather she be a single mum than be married to an idiot that believes he is an alpha male when he can't even sit on the floor where real men sit on the table to discuss.

descarado:
This place is filled with frustrated hungry chaps.

dominique:
Men don't benefit from marriage yet when they're ill and admitted to the hospitals, it's their wives that nurse them to recovery. If the wives are ill, it's their wives that are ill, it's the wives family members that will be by their sides in the hospital. This is something I've personally witnessed.

Men don't benefit from marriage YET the woman in this thread toils hard under the hot sun, petty trading to cater for herself and her aged husband.

Men don't benefit from marriage but have they ever been pressured to put their lives and careers on standstill take care of the family? Heck some women are expected to care for aged, frail in-laws.

As for children not caring for their old fathers, it's the total opposite from what I'm witnessing in reality. Some deadbeat fathers still get to eat the fruits they never laboured for. There's this widower around me who remarried barely a year after his wife died turning his children literal destitutes living with different relatives. His children who were young adults and teenagers at the time went on to become graduates with successful careers. Recently, they threw an elaborate 60th birthday party for him despite knowing that it was the stress he put their mother through that eventually killed her. There's this other aged widower whose children abroad bring him over every year for medical checkup and change of environment. So what's this nonsense about children not caring for fathers? Maybe it's because I'm surrounded by mostly stable, close-knit families, I don't see all this so called abandonment of fathers you people keep yapping about save for some cases but guess what? Mothers get abandoned by their kids too!

I don't know what you people gain with this campaign of hate and vileness backed with false storiesa nd exaggerations. What do you stand to gain by this constant vilification of a particular sets of people? You're only coming off as toxic and mentally unstable

brain54:
What about the woman directly affected...?