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olas24u:
Well empirically your relationship will last longer if there is respect.I am speaking for myself am an African lady and intouch with my traditions.

mutter:
If you can do it- then I can talk about it!

Bad enough that she did it. I mean we can give her the grace of saying she fell short of grace, got carried away, got weak whatever.

But the tone in her voice when talking to her husband!

It is arrogant, it is disrespectful, it is stupid

If she can spread her legs for another man , then why blame the husband for bringing it out public.

If she had done a noble thing and he had brought out a video, all women will praise him.
What do you want the man to do- a pat on the back and carry on girl!

donpeey22:
Do women even know what love is? Never loved him but went ahead and married him!
At least this is not a case of "he cheated on me first" Or " he doesn't take care of me"

Still beats my thinking faculty what women of nowadays really want!

cococandy:
How did this one case vindicate you?

If some women come forth with their own videos too, nairaland will be hot today

olas24u:
When you live in the western world you cannot come near lay your hands on me ;DYou know ,so he can only cry this way,on a serious not ,too much freedom is not so good for us as ladies,we need to respect men

Islie:
Ephesians 5 vrs 22 and 23


How many women do that...... All they agitate for his role reversal and liberation
When you want to play the head...... That's what you get

Nonso23:
Biological yes. From the design of the sexual organs to their functions and workings. Men are designed a lot more flexible than women.

Faith and biology disagree about creation.
Nature in biological terms.

The point is the old testament saw nothing wrong with it. The new testament is a different story altogether.

jaybee08:
. That is if he is alive for a next time, he may be killed and all we will hear is that the murder suspect resisted arrest and was shot and killed in d process. Case closed.

okotv:
yes o. being busy


Same as you.

Nonso23:
I'm speaking from a biological point of view.
My faith is against promiscuity and the old testament clearly had stories of men with many wives and concubines who were favored by God. New testament .....

dre11:
I gave you a passage to correlate what the other person was saying
And if you can't juxtaposed it with what its on today.. Then you wait for the person you ask to answer you.

Then you will need to ask the person that brought up the argument.....


Because there is a difference, also with the guys too

Nonso23:
Nature

okotv:
this one is strong. A married woman with four different guys ?

My suspects are the lesbian group, the clearance agent. I wouldn't call the husband guilty because his secret is out and with this guy.

the story sha

Nonso23:
A new and solid perspective there. Records even support your assertions. When you tell women that they weren't designed to be promiscuous unlike men they start yarning one nonsense or the other. Now that she is 6 feet under whose loss?
The police should really start investigating her lesbian partners and leave the silly gigolo alone i'm sure he has learnt his lesson.

cococandy:
dont mind the tale bearer. the man really followed her to the priest's after the confessions of this lover-boy? That's a tall tale.

@bold, she don die na. Ha bukky wetin remain? Make she no rest in peace again

dre11:
Maybe the book of Proverb 31 vrs 10 to the end
That will give you some better understanding

ruggedtimi:
For a prostitute will bring you to poverty,
but sleeping with another man's wife will
cost you your life. Proverb 6:26

Nonso23:
They do not qualify.
Sugar daddies are most times married, advanced in age and not into risky business if they are it is hidden.
Yahoo boys and cultists on the other hand are impulse driven testosterone pumping youths. Very different.

For the man to want to marry her their relationship must have transcended the aristo level.

coogar:
so you expect him to have had the foresight that the woman would be murdered? you are asking a lot from him.

Nonso23:
Many variables are at play here. Could be the husband or the bitter clearing agent or her business partners or amorous flings ... I seriously doubt the dude's involvement.

Meringe:
I have seen case like this sorted out by the different villages involved. If you are igbo, u should understand well. Village send delegates to the police and sort it out or even finance the investigation if the suspect that the want to intimidate their kin cos of wealth n connection.

Nonso23:
Many abound for either sides and I've never heard about sugar daddies tugging over aristos before. It is always the other way round.

Cultists and yahoo guys are not sugar daddies.

The man obviously wanted marriage from the get go , the girl thought it was business as usual. He thought otherwise. Different from aristo relationships which is just for sexual gratification.

Nonso23:
I doubt the man is not well to do. The dude specifically said she introduced her marital status as "married to a big man" . Most definitely he was well to do. Possibly the source of the openings to her dirty connections. He might have chosen to ignore the guy's confession because he already knows or benefits from the bisexual treats and orgies his wife's lifestyle provided him or just wanted to save his big man pride. If ever he was the one that ordered the hit. It would be for vengeance.

Even if she wasn't this is also a perfect opening to order the hit and get away with it. Motive being vengeance.




It is even more common with those that are married than single sugar mamas. The single ones still hope cupid can smile on them most times and the have little to lose unlike the married one who is aware of the danger to her spotless life should the deal go south.

Meringe:
No ooooo, no be juju I mean.
He's an igbo man, he should be in his village meeting in Lagos, they should take up the matter. That's the most important reason of belonging to your kin meeting where you reside.

coogar:
leave lagos because of a clingy married woman? how feasible is that?

Nonso23:
Not generalizations but the most exhibited behavior of both parties. Exceptions may abound but as usual they are on the minority.

It depends on the nature of the blackmail. A smart blackmailer will insure his life in cases like this.

The case you mentioned is not aristo like. more like girlfriend/potential wife ish.

coogar:
so whenever we see a very young woman and a much older man, it is all about the money? so you don't think sade okoya genuinely loves her husband?



that's what pisses me off the most - when these women try to pass the responsibility to someone else. you catch a married woman red handed with infidelity and she would say it wasn't her fault that the man came to her, not the other way.




i am a fair human being.
innocent until proven guilty principle applies.



the hubby was with them but the gigolo couldn't have told all the info while there. he would have only mentioned what was relevant to the questions posed to him by the priest.

after the meeting, the hubby contacted him to ask his own questions so he could learn other things not mentioned to the priest. it's very plausible that was what happened.




relocation isn't that easy.
i know how long it takes to look for a new place in lagos. besides, who would have known the lady would be murdered?

Meringe:
I think he mentioned the parish and the police went to the churches where he said he went for confessions and collaborated his story but warned him to stay clear cos he was on a death list. The truth is that this gigolo guy knows a lot for him to be a hit list as he intimated by a police officer who listened to his story side to the landlord/landlady.
Money is talking in this case but my sincere advice to this guy is to allow his village to handle his case. This is a village to village case, he can't withstand the money of other parties involved.

Nonso23:
I don't get the first two lines

Men don't have gigolos unless they are gay and if they are then they aren't men - my opinion
If you meant aristo then you are very wrong. Beer parlor and nkwobi joints will house men who consider all other woman apart from their wives as fair game. Some even pass their aristos around their circle of friends.
No fighting at all.

coogar:
duh!
because the hubby wanted to learn more than was told to the priest.



i don't believe he killed her. he wouldn't be trying to say his side of the story - he would keep running & not looking back.



disappear to where?
he was a neighbour to the woman. they were staying in the same area.



this bit seems highly likely!



in everything you do, respect the dead!
she's not here to defend herself. all these stories might be pack of lies against her for all you know.

i hope she rests in peace....don't curse her.

Nonso23:
The woman is a mother of 4, married to a notable man in the society probably doing her best to keep her dirty relationships out of the home. This is the profile of a person that is very susceptible to blackmail.
If the gigolo wanted money, she would have coughed out her life savings to keep up the outward show of innocence. Killing her is of no benefit to him, she dies and then what?
Her fellow pimps, admirers, and sexual partners are more likely to be the culprits here.

Besides those of you saying there is no way a Sugar shriveling mama would want to continue the relationship should visit universities and see things for themselves. These women fight very hard and dirty to keep their gigolos.