₦airaland Forum

HerexG:
I'm trying to make us understand that it is not only when we do the Europeanize wedding ( White wedding) we termed marriage, we should learn to appreciate our traditional wedding more.

ileobatojo:
Completely agree.

LordReed:
What a stewpid thought! We need more workplace accidents to teach people how to be safe at work? We need more traffic accidents to teach people how to drive well? We need more thefts so people can learn to be more security conscious?

Whatever happened to plain ol' instruction and leadership by example? The call for more failure in other to highlight successful patterns is the most stewpid I have ever heard.

cococandy:
crazy folks everywhere

searching4love:
when did u start fvcking many of u hoes form online. only God knows how many kilograms of Alum u use to tighten your wide puccy monthly. mtcheew

Phema:
You wish! God pass you na.

We are doing well dear.

oshaosha2014:
I would also say the man was foolish, in a way. I pity him though. It would have been a different case entirely if he had not married a woman like sophyrocks and bukatyne.

olas24u:
You have to respect him by hiding it from afar ,instead of what the do ,they call the police and try to mess the guy up.its normally leads to death.

Phema:
I guess the issues were not resolved afterall.

How are you these days?

olas24u:
I meant respect ,some of the women abroad dont hide what they do

oshaosha2014:
I don't need to cage her. Naturally, I would worship her, cos I know and confident that if I ever go on a long journey she would not invite a younger guy to come and sleep with her. She knows her limit. But ur type, shai!!!!!

Sophyrocks:
Sex dolls ke? You have forgotten these cheating men are into bestiality. They cheat with goats, cows, fowl, pigs, name it, so that women will remain flawless and not cheat. How else will women not cheat? Lets give these men animals to cheat with since the pen1s has a mind of its own.

mutter:
Certainly our tradition has always protected women and held them in high esteem.

However a man was allowed to marry several wife`s and also to discipline his wife, even hit her.
The definition of mal- treating here is the key word here.

Not denying the role of women in Africa, were strong, confident and proud Even went to war.

mutter:
As I said I stood to be corrected but now we arre back to Nigeria and perhaps you can let us know how it was in Nigeria then.

Stillfire:
Let me go dig up that my thread on how Igbo women dealt with erring men circa 1960 before Nigeria 'fake traditions' started.

[url]http://www.artsrn.ualberta.ca/amcdouga/Hist247/winter%202010/additional%20rdgs/sitting_on_man.pdf[/url]

"Sitting on a man" or a woman, boycotts and strikes were the women's
main weapons. To "sit on" or "make war on" a man involved gathering at his
compound, sometimes late at night, dancing, singing scurrilous songs which
detailed the women's grievances against him and often called his manhood into
question, banging on his hut with the pestles women used for pounding yams,
and perhaps demolishing his hut or plastering it with mud and roughing him up
a bit. A man might be sanctioned in this way for mistreating his wife, for
violating the women's market rules, or for letting his cows eat the women's crops.
The women would stay at his hut throughout the day, and late into the night,
if necessary, until he repented and promised to mend his ways.24 Although this
could hardly have been a pleasant experience for the offending man, it was
considered legitimate and no man would consider intervening.

In tackling men as a group, women used boycotts and strikes. Harris
describes a case in which, after repeated requests by the women for the paths to
the market to be cleared (a male responsibility), all the women refused to cook
for their husbands until the request was carried out.25 For this boycott to be
effective, all women had to cooperate so that men could not go and eat with their
brothers. Another time the men of a village decided that the women should stop
trading at the more distant markets from which they did not return until late at
night because the men feared that the women were having sexual relations with
men in those towns. The women, however, refused to comply since opportunity
to buy in one market and sell in another was basic to profit-making. Threats of
collective retaliation were enough to make the men capitulate.

A woman could also bring complaints about her husband to the mikiri.
If most of the women agreed that the husband was at fault, they would
collectively support her. They might send spokeswomen to tell the husband to
apologize and to give her a present, and, if he was recalcitrant they might "sit on"
him. They might also act to protect a right of wives. Harris describes a case of
women's solidarity to maintain sexual freedom:
The men... were very angry because their wives were openly having
relations with their lovers. The men... met and passed a law to the effect
that every woman... should renounce her lover and present a goat to her
husband as a token of repentance... The women held... secret meetings
and, a few mornings later, they went to a neighboring [village], leaving
all but suckling children behind them... [The men] endured it for a day
and a half and then they went to the women and begged their return...
[T]he men gave [the women] one goat and apologized informally and
formally.27
Thus through mikiri women acted to force a resolution of their individual and
collective grievances.

Rotflmao!

I pity the man though. He doesn't deserve this.

Sophyrocks:
Dnt mind these men that justify cheating. They have forgotten that if they want to cheat they need women. As men dey cheat women dey cheat. 50/50. Gbam! Let them keep deceiving themselves and sounding like broken records.

oshaosha2014:
The pple wey born u really train you gan, and u sef train yourself well well. By their words you shall know them.

Too much freedom is turning women to something else. I agree with you 1000%

mutter:
A man was stoned to death if he laid with another mans wife.
That was an offence against the other man and thus he erred.
He was not stoned to death for cheating on his wife.

I stand to be corrected

donpeey22:
Always on the defence even when they have no points.
Even when men marry without love, they don't deny the lady sex. When they cheat on their wives, it is not because they don't "love" her.

As far as I am concerned, the man has only exposed a marital infidel and warned other men to stay away from her and her ilks. Nothing like washing his dirty linen in public.

mutter:
When it came to women, men never erred.
They were always right.

ileobatojo:

mutter:
Some years back a lady was admitted in hospital the man had given her a good beating and she called the police. When the police came she acted up like she was collapsing and the called the ambulance.
I really fet bad for her when I saw her and then I deceided to go visit the man and talk to him.
He was sitting there really upset. You could see a man at the end of his rope .
The woman had poured the soup put all over him. Worse still the whole house was in an unhygenic and messy state, really aweful. The woman had also been buying on credit , owing everywhere, cheating on him, all over the place for money. It was such a disaster.
What could I say?
He was bleeding too just that the scars were inside.
Not without reason that provocations an excuse in Law and you can even get away with man slaughter if you are provoked enough.
The wife going public is in no way anything compared to the woman's adultery.
Did she not mess up the lives of the kid`s by what she did.
I hope you are not supporting her because you identify with what she did
In the olden days she would have been stripped naked and chased away, or made to take a cleansing bath in public. This even still happens in some places today.
According to African tradition the punishment for adultery is public disgrace and humiliation.
This is exactly what she got here.

The ancestors will certainly be happy with him

ileobatojo:
Abeg explain fully jare. What should the sistas learn?

ileobatojo:
As to when she confessed, I won't be surprised to hear she confessed a decade ago and the guy decided to hit record and bring up the old issue again so that he can have something to use against her because she took him to court.

ileobatojo:
Nope, it was a one off affair as far as we were told.

ileobatojo:
The affair happened 11 yrs ago. We don't know exactly when the wife confessed.

Islie:
Am sure the dictionary will explain better





And...... Since you believe I don't know the meaning, can you define it for me in your own terms

ileobatojo:
Okay, I just watched the second video. The affair happened 11yrs ago and she regretted, ended it and confessed it herself? Yet that's the main thrust of this guy's lengthy YouTube rant? This guy is completely ridiculous and was just out to whip up some drama to paint his damaged image in a good light. Why have you omitted the majority of what's been happening since that time and why you are embroiled in a court case with a restraining order? And please, look for some other infant to sell the story about your voice recorder being 'inadvertently' on. Bullshit.

Phema:
My guess is; you really do not want a divorce. If you did, I'm sure you know just how to hire a Lawyer to take you through the process.

And what is it with Nairalanders offering expired marital advice when someone has clearly stated she wants a divorce? Nairalanders; crying more than the bereaved since 1600BC

mutter:
Then what was the act of the wife- wise!
Did she think about her children when she got naked and let another man climb her?
Did she think about her children when she was blowing her silly mouth of to the husband?

That woman broke her marriage vows and opened up for another man.
Thus she descecrated the marriage.
A marriage is holy bound in heaven as well as on earth.

When you descecrate a holy ground it looses it`s holiness and vultures can come and feast there.
Dogs can come and defecate there.

Since she wanted to take what was meant for the marriage and expose it outside.
The man is only helping her to expose it the more.

By exposing her he has cleansed himself of his hurt and pain.
The woman was not repentant so she deserved no mercy.