₦airaland Forum

coogar:
that's exactly what i am saying.
if it can be established that he actually took this woman to a reverend father so as to end their messy affair then he's not likely to expect any financial benefit afterwards.....

the police should invite all the persons named in his statement and listen to what they have to say. don't just conclude he's lied about everything. what if the pastor corroborates his story that the deceased woman actually attended the meeting?

If the husband originally followed him and the lady to the priest, why did the gigolo have to expose the woman to the hubby?

This is a classic story for the gods

This guy might not be the killer but he is definitely lying about some stuffs

If he wanted to end it, why not disappear instead of dragging the woman through mud about? He sounded like someone who could settle quickly in a fresh environment and the fact he knows the wife is dangerous?

Someone who wanted to kill her all the while seized the opportunity of The man's foolishness.

The wife na real strong woman; married to a man 18yrs older + drug baron + bisexual + love-vendor + sugar mommy @ 35

So sorry for her kids.

Islie:
You make a lot of sense there...... Its those moral and cultural codes that makes it work and the beliefs also had a hand in it
Whether you are a Christian, Muslim or traditionalist..... The roles of each person are clearly defined and explicitly said..... So, when there is an overlap of these roles and one wanting to take over the other roles, their would be a clash of interest and may brew up some disagreement within the institution of marriage

What is the role of a wife as stated explicitly in the Bible

samtol4:
if they cannot reach common ground then I doubt if the marriage will be enjoyable .Marriage is all about compromise and sacifice .

Bros it depends on What you term enjoyable

True marriage is about compromise and sacrifice

miredia:
There's nothing wrong with gender equality. Women aren't inferior to men. Broken homes are primarily a function of broken attitudes.

Hmmmm

Really nice one

Bluffly:
there will be an overseer now. how do you think interests would be harmonized? The truth is one must sacrifice his/her interest in order for an agreement to come to been. So who bows most times.

I believe We are still talking finance

They both seat down and discuss the needs of the family.

If they cannot reach common ground, then running joint finances is definitely not for them.

Wonderful job Tochi

God bless you

Bluffly:
But someone must preside. And who will that be?

Preside as in?

fem29:
Welcome welcome mutter we are very happy to have you

We feminists are a lovely bunch, not lesbians and men haters as some would say, girl power!

Lols!

Bluffly:
Situations, though can be peculiar,

1. Husband earning 5 digits without other allowances, & wife 6 digits with other allowances.

2. Both earning 5 digits

3. Both earning 6 digits

4. Husband earning, wife not earning

5. Wife earning, husband not earning.

What can be done in this situations assuming they are both God fearing.

IMO,

I believe all resources should be gathered and distributed to meet the needs of the home.

E.g. If a wife earns 200k and a husband earns 200k monthly, the total income monthly is 400k.

They pay tithe of 40k and use the rest to meet their needs and save

There is no my money your money.

Bluffly:
Hmm, some marriages are not ideal. Situations like?

If my husband is wasteful with resources, I would be foolish to operate a joint account with him; If my wife's demands are directly proportional to my income, I would never let her know How much I earn etc.

samtol4:
sharing and openness

I agree

However some marriages are not ideal and each spouse must find What works with their partners.

ibrahym47:
U got me cracking my ribs sir. #sharpestguyevaliveth#

Lol

I am a lady anyways

@OP:

What do you think should be the ideal?

@OP: Nice one

Please If you see any challenging situation... run with or without the ballot boxes.

Also realize you cannot follow all instructions to a T; If you see a situation you cannot control, kindly ignore.

English doesn't solve all problems.

God be with you all

Wow down NYSC memory lane

I visited RCCF family house often...

Stay there? I will be miserable

The fact is that I served God more @ my PPA than I would ever had @ the family house.

I do not thrive in rigid environs

MAYOWAAK:
Some of the strategies described in her book are:

Lure men with sex, using seduction strategies
Use praise to control men by administering it carefully
Use emotional blackmail as a means of controlling men
Use of love and romance as a guise to mask her real intentions and motives

I think This is the art of stooping to conquer

ucheheart:
mere assumption. No population census is 100% accurate esp in africa were figures are manipulated to meet selfish interests. Have you ever wondered if moslems and some african traditional men marry many wives why do we still have many women still single in this country? Even the bible stated it that the time will come when 10 women will run to a man and beg him to marry them just for them to answer his name. And that time is now. So deceive not yourself, population of women is far greater than that of men.

If you use the fact that no population census is 100% accurate to justify women are more than men, don't you think the same reason could be used to justify that men are more than women?

No body has counted the world 's population or have you?

@OP:

Various reasons

A Pope never makes mistakes ke

If a child does a crime with dignity, he gets corrected with dignity

If a child does a crime without dignity, he gets corrected without dignity

Nonso23:
I'm not interested in living my life online nor in witches haunting me thread after thread.
My privacy is extremely important online and offline.

You too have people you post alike.

Only people who offend witches fear them

Nobody asked you to divulge any private info however post What your wife would be proud of reading in future.

I have people I post alike nevertheless I do not always agree with their posts and state my posts and move on.

I take my posts and words very seriously.

Will not say What I will not do, I always aim to be a woman of integrity on and offline.

pickabeau1:
Once again it us not your job to interprete my posts

Make your points

You Also dont support women doing nothing yet go about interpreting posts...

I don't even know wat point u r making

I have made it mine (woman must wack)

I do not support women doing nothing HOWEVER I acknowledge some were strongarmed to stay at home and they deserve to spousal support

No blanket statements on How women are lazy

Nonso23:
Witches mean only one thing,-- witches-- i'm not interested in the unnecessary semantics.

Why should I reveal what i plan to do online when there are a good number of witches waiting to haunt themselves.
I will do what i want and account to nobody especially online. When I need y'all input i will definitely let you all know.

I don't have fans nor do i post for likes.

If you are not interested to live your life according to What you post online, why bother?

Integrity is extremely important on and offline.

You don't have fans but you have people you post alike?

Justfollowit:
Inasmuch I am also totally against using divorce as a means of get rich quick, you have failed to consider how difficult it would be for divorcees who were full-time wives to get back into the job market. If the law could step in, we will have less to worry about.

Thanks

pickabeau1:
Woman

Don't interpret my words for me..picking my words out of context

A woman who stays at home to take care of the home front is making sacrifices for her family since she made the decision jointly with her partner

A woman who sees marriage as an office and is waiting for a payday in the event of a divorce is lazy

Try and see the big picture

Do you understand

I did not pick your words out of context, only helped you intepret them ( I should be making money seriously out of This)

You said a woman who has a brain & two legs should not sit @ home amongst others...

I do not support a woman not working but If a husband demands his wife stops work or he sends her parking, will I blame her If she stays

While condemning the marriage officers(they are quite a number in diverse manners), acknowledge there are some unfortunate ones

It makes the posts fresh to the eyes

ileobatojo:
Buka, all you've said is the very definition of hypocrisy.

She didn't stay with her ex and continue to humble herself more and be more submissive but that's the default advice for everyone who is going through the same situation she went through. Just unbelievable.

I ruled out hypocrisy because she would say What she would do or did in similar situations

Nonso23:
As far as you called them witches we are in agreement

You called them witches, only used your term to refer to same people you are talking to

You are rapping here yet cannot translate it to How you would raise your family when fhemmy asked you to bookmark This page and show them later

Maybe We should actually translate these stuffs to real life scenarios, see how we would react or how we actually react Then post the real deal and not post to gather likes or appeal to our fans.

Pick calls women who stay at home lazy yet will advice a wife to stay at home If her husband demands so

Fhemmmy:
So you agree it is fair for you to punish your own wife and make sure it is worse than killing her? keep tallking, you are on a public forum.

Lol Lol. Lol

Nonso23:
Please stop talking about your family before some witches start documenting it for future sinister purposes.

Witches would document it for future purposes If tomorrow a wife ones a thread on how her hubby doesn't help and instead of him to encourageher husband to change or encourage wifey, he starts ranting on how a real man her husband is....


If you do not want people to 'judge' you which in reality means holding you accountable to your posts, then do not post.

coogar:
but according to this thread, nigerian men are....

criminals
beasts
unruly
monsters
wife murderers
abusers
drug addicts
fraudsters
priggish
obnoxious

leave them alone, try the caucasian males or the highly polygynous carribbean men. that's what the ever-innocent nigerian men deserve.

Who brought up Nigerian girls daddy issues on This thread?

Or doesn't daddy issues = irresponsible dads = irresponsible Nigerian men?

2sExy1:
he had one but the Nigerian whom was a problem. They even had a son. The one he came to Nigeria to marry was his second due to the problem that one caused there was no issue. The 3rd one is in Nigeria. Dude has marked his boundaries and that one is going to remain in naija from look of things. Once bitten twice shy I guess.

Your uncle should Check himself If he keeps attracting same women

coogar:
men don't get pregnant & thus cannot bring bastârds into the house to defraud their wives with.

the difference is glaring

And all the women killed had bastards?

Having bastards is an excuse to kill?

So much for those who say murder was not justified in This thread

babyosisi:

Very good
Infact fantastic
Who is like unto them

Lol

Wonderful husbands!

And yet the average Nigerian girl has daddy issues according to stats

mutter:
My dear if someone did that to my child, please call the police to save him because I am ready to die with the person.

As long as one abuser is out there justice can never be done.

But I know the other darker side too.

You sited an instance of the mother that stood up for her daughter. I can site an instance of the mother putting pepper in the Childs privates and accusing her of asking for it. I can site you examples of mothers giving their daughters into prostitution after such an incident because there was nothing left to save. I can give you instances of girls that where raped being victims of rape over and over again from different groups when they found out.

So just try and understand. The victim has been hurt already and in the course of seeking justice get hurt over over again. The feel like being raped all over again.
I don`t support abuse not physical and also not verbal.

Mutter,

I do not think you are hypocritical anymore...

I think you think different rules apply to you only and another set apply to everyone else (maybe every woman else).

If you think some women are extreme in supporting women, you go the other extreme to support men.

You will deal terribly with anyone who abuses your child yet you advice another woman to hush about hers and send the boy packing; you would not accept a man marrying you for papers/marrying another wife behind you yet you advise the woman to forgive and take the man back. A man cheats on his wife and has two kids with his gf yet you do not see why the wife should not accept polygamy...

You teach your sons men and women are equal yet most of your posts regard women as second class citizens

You had a terrible ex (even while you were good) yet you do not realize that some women might be in your shoes too.

Of course, you would have supporters as long as your posts suit them.

Why you think different rules apply to you is What I do not understand.